| | indian womenPage 4 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | People like you a real issue dacainaru. You feel the need to justify and clarify your position as if you know you're guilty... but you need to defend yourself.
If you don't find yourself attracted to some shade of skin.. that's your thing. Fine. No one should deride you or pass judgement. But if you're vocal about it in every thread to which you've posted, along with your limited experience with a bangladesh'ie' gentleman or the middle eastern man who screwed you over, then at least have the audacity to state it in your profile. Have the courage to put it out in the open.
If you read my post a few entries back, I defend the rights of like-minded people to 1. solicit and 2. congregate with each other. That's going far and far beyond what the government allows and I don't consider it racist.
Very few women who wouldn't date men of any given race have the balls to say it even when it's convenient like it is on some obscure internet page (your profile).
Aside from any of this, sometimes you're mistaken about a person's ethnic identity. What if you go on 2 dates with a guy you think is mexican or sicilian, but he turns out to be indian or something worse lol? Will you start throwing fits and disappear?
Generally I think that physical fitness, a consistent skintone, and facial features are more of a factor than someone's culture or race. But have a look at some guys in their 70s of any race and they all start to look similar to me in many ways. Bushy eyebrows, elongated nose, white hair and wrinkles. So enjoy that handsomeness for 40 years and put your preference on your profile, if you have the courage. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2007 4:39:43 PM | | I think you're referring to south asian women. I disagree. I've dated a number of Indian women. Probably the group of women I find the most attractive. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2007 6:56:31 AM | Well Northern.lights..
due to the fact that if you notice my profile states "not single/not looking" why do I have to post my likes and dislikes on the page???
Trust me in the past I have posted clearly my likes and dislike including age, religion, and preference in cultural background.. I seriously don't have a problem with that..
I have stated clearly in the past.. no one under 30.. and my preference is for a christian latino man.. and the fact that I am a chaste woman.. that is just my preference..
Unfortunately.. in the past.. men contact me and don't read my profile..so I end up having to tell them.. I'm not defending myself honestly I can care less what others think.. but the young indian woman above is being called a racist because she won't date indian men.. thats her preference..
as to dating someone and not knowing their race..well I ask before I meet people.. because uh yes I want to know.. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2007 8:37:43 PM |
but the young indian woman above is being called a racist because
she won't date indian men.. thats her preference..
Her preference? Funny you put it like that. I wonder how preference is built first of all. I just wanna try to ask some questions about that. And I am not attacking you personally. "Singlemaltgirl" has used openly bigoted statements (beliefs she has the right to carry) to discredit indian men as misogynistic, racist, backward, and chauvinistic.
But let me just go back to preference for a minute. Am I being too presumptuous when I ask that preference means, "A or B or C but not D" because D is not good enough for me? Is that a fair assessment? May be you'll say "No D is perfectly fine but it just doesn't fit me". OK but SMG says she won't date indian men because of what she has experienced. Yet she's not a typical South Asian woman because she was raised "right". If not, she had a transformation and elevated herself above the riff-raff available to unenlightened indian women. Why then, can't indian men evolve to a point where they don't conform to her expected norms?
Nonetheless,
SMG:
even though my preference is based on cultural behaviour and norms that i know of and have experienced firsthand and am not interested in being a part of.
SMG:
many indian families expect that their daughters will marry indian men - muslims, black, chinese, white are all frowned upon. so even though we may live in the west, many families still cling to old traditions - even so far as continuing to practice arranged marriages and trips to india to bring back appropriate brides/grooms.
Gee I wonder why some indian men go back to india to find brides. Generally, almost no women go and marry back home. They think all indian men are controlling pigs. That reminds me of someone.
SMG:
indian guys just tend to keep their white gfs as mistresses and marry according to family custom. or they simply marry who they want but feel family pressure about brides who are not indian.
Is this a joke? I've yet to find any man who had a mistress on the side like this. I don't know who I'll ever marry but it won't bring me any pride or joy to have a "white" mistress whom I'll fancy. Besides, in any decent family with 2 cents' worth of dignity, a boy's choice for a bride will be highly welcomed. And, if he loves her, it wouldn't matter who she was. If I loved a black woman or a white/mexican/asian girl, I wouldn't give two sh!ts about a woman I love now (my mother) if she disapproved of her. Clearly the aforementioned mistresses aren't very smart
I am not addressing SMG here. she's entitled to her opinions about south asian men. Too bad she's had those experiences but if she's going to say things like those, I don't know what monickers she expects.
Now let me go over indian people and black people. It can easily be reduced down to colourism. I attack indians as hard as I can when they're wrong. They (we I guess) have a fetish with colourism. In fact, it isn't just black folk, some indians won't date other dark indians. Accentuating that point, I've seen families where blood related siblings are a dozen shades apart. And, indeed, they get different treatment.
Having said that, I love black women no less than any other. A good number are blessed with goddess figures. But I am afraid to approach any because they aren't open to Indian men either, thanks to all of the stereotypes associated with us. And, some senior black citizens, I found, aren't exactly fond of indians either. The other thing I've also observed is if an Indian guy does date a black girl, she gets hell from the "brothas". Apparently you can have several degrees of "blackness". Unless this is addressed first... I honestly don't know how to defend any brothers. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2007 10:27:20 PM | | I am in South Florida, and I have seen quite a lot of Indian women with white guys. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2007 1:10:40 AM | Okay guys please stop, no need to argue and hate on each other really for having differing views. I wish you all the best of luck in finding a mate of whatever skin tone.
If you're interestd in indian women I'm sure one of our fine ladies will take you in. There's a certain character in all racial colors that'll suit your fancy.
but please no more arguing! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 6:18:54 PM | Diamond Hunter:
Indian women , apart from good sex, also value love, romance, family values, commitment and passion in a relationship. Thats why they stick to Indian men. No matter how notorious we are in your western world for whatever reason, we still love our women more than you can ever know or your media will ever project. And they like us more than they will ever tell you.
I am not sure what you are attracted to: Is it the Indian values or the Indian skin tone? If its the former, then I agree getting an Indian girl to date will be difficult. But if its just the skin tone, then try your luck on girls of Indian origin settled in America (and not the ones who came here after their education). This will help because:
1) They are pretty easy.
2) Any good looking and successful Indian guy (as in from India who came here after his education) will never show a preference to marry such girls. We are all obsessed with the image of a typical Indian women. Harsh, but true.
Namaste! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 10:36:35 PM | I dated an Indian-American girl in college. Her parents were from India, but she was raised here, so she was quite Americanized. About the Indian girl not going for white guys thing, it's a cultural thing. Indian society tends to be more about close relationships with friends and family than our own society. 5 years ago I got suckered into an Quixtar/Amway meeting at a hotel by an Indian couple I met. I think I was the only American in that conference room. If an American gets into Amway and tries to bring his friends and family into the "business", they'll shun him. On the other hand, Indians seem to have no problems getting family members and Indian friends to join. A good movie dealing with Indian culture would be "Bend It Like Beckham", which is about a Punjabi girl living near London who has to sneak behind her parents' back to play soccer.
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Posted: 9/18/2007 7:33:49 PM | I ain't never dated anything but white men..I've yet to meet a real injun myself. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 1:55:09 AM | | wow.... I can honestly say I always had a attraction for indian women... but for the most part from what I experienced, they don't date brothas... I've seen a few exceptions tho... like this chick I know who's from new york. She's indian, but she acts black... | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 2:53:07 AM | | I just really love potatoes. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 6:52:37 PM | | Its against their religion ! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 6:32:30 PM | hi
how are you tonight | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:47:12 AM | ...according to my porn collection....
/laughs/ kidding. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 8:50:54 AM | | what i never heared such a thing were do you live in new york thats not the case. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 9:03:25 AM | well im a asian woman and some asian men dont no how to treat any women at all!! i go for men who treat me well......not for there skin colour!! i have had soooo many asian men contact me who are just after sex and are married.... and u no who u are lol..im starting to wonder if white men dont bother with asian women cuz of all the hassle!! | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 9:21:03 AM | | I don't think you should use the word Asian when talking about Indian people and say South Asian, because there are so many major differences between say Indians and Chinese people. Europeans are more generally the same than Asians. Asia is the largest continent on Earth and more diverse than Europe. I think many Indian women are under pressure to marry guys from their own culture, but so many Indian men complain that many of the girls in Canada or the US are dating non-Indians and not them. One of my very good friends is married to an Indian woman. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 9:30:09 AM | | The way I look at it is if you are attracted to someone of the opposite sex regardless of their race that should be the only criteria. I can understand if maybe someone has dated several of one race and they all didn't treat them good or what have you but other than that it should be irrelevant. I have never dated anyone not white but not by choice, I just haven't met anyone of a different race. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:32:18 AM | If you want to meet Indian women, go to India, take a class in a community college or do some voluntary work, you’ll have no problems meeting Indian women.
In the US, the Indian women I met through family and friends or at Indian cultural events, they were extra high maintenance and an attitude.. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:18:58 AM | | A lot of it's a cultural thing. I've dated a few, but generally their families frowned upon them not dating/marrying an Indian guy who shared their religion and background, and it was inevitably a problem. It happens, but still fun while it lasted! | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 7:43:05 PM | | I dated a white guy for 5 years :). My family is ultra liberal, so I they don't care at all. My sister married a African American, and I have cousins who married outside the race. My family could seriously be the United Nations. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 8:26:49 PM | i never understood the fascination with one type of culture or another... there's alot of great cultures out there... it's wonderful that people would like to learn and experience the different cultures... but you don't have to date the person from that culture to really experience it.
as an asian girl, i've always hated guys that will go after girls just because their nationality... if you happened to fall for someone who is indian, that's fine... but going out there to meet an indian girl sounds like a guy with a weird fetish... if guys like girls based on the sterotype... trust me, most of the time the sterotype refers to the older generation who had to grow up in a male dominating society... but come on... now it's women's rights... equal opportunity... we're not dependent, submissive, slipper fetching type of girls now... like a person for who they are.... not seek out someone for their sterotype...
as for white guys being able to date various type of girls... their culture isn't too strong where it will clash with another culture... you mix an indian guy and an asian girl... bad bad mix.... most of the time the white guy who wants to date mexican, asian, indian, or black girl wants to be a big part of the culture that he's more willing to indulge in learning and experiencing the different culture. that's why white guys can date any nationaility. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 6:00:42 AM |
A lot of it's a cultural thing. I've dated a few, but generally their families frowned upon them not dating/marrying an Indian guy who shared their religion and background, and it was inevitably a problem
^^ I've found this to be true when I've dated women of different cultures and ethnicities - we get along great but it's the community or family members that apply negative pressure on us.
This isn't a negative jab, as I can understand (albeit not agree with) traditions that self-segregate.
Finding Nemo76:
as for white guys being able to date various type of girls... their culture isn't too strong where it will clash with another culture... you mix an indian guy and an asian girl... bad bad mix.... most of the time the white guy who wants to date mexican, asian, indian, or black girl wants to be a big part of the culture that he's more willing to indulge in learning and experiencing the different culture. that's why white guys can date any nationaility.
^^ Great explanation. Holds true for me.
I've been invited in to different cultures before (with a friendly, unspoken rule that I don't date their daughters) - can be an incredible thing. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 9:12:24 AM | I have 2 very beautiful Indian friends and they are very much into keeping their girls with Indian guys. They also party and have clubs here totally for the Indian culture.
Some do date white guys but many keep it within their culture. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2008 9:03:52 AM | | YUp that is the kinda indian women i been meeting.. so I guess you can call me racist too .never had a chance to date one!! Dont know if I will date /marry one.. | |
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