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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/15/2007 10:46:32 AM | Wow. Kind of shocked at how hard on this girl some people are. She's single, she had sex. Not a crime. She used protection. None of this matters now anyways, what matters is her pregnancy. If you're sure it's the new guys child, I would certainly contact him. He is also responsible for this child. Just because he isn't carrying it doesn't make him any less a parent. I think you owe it to the child. I wish you luck whatever you decide.  | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/15/2007 1:15:36 PM | 3 Options:
1. Get an abortion.
2. Give birth. Raise him/her by yourself.
3. Give him/her up for adoption.
What else is there? You reap what you sow and sow what you reap.
Should have been more careful. But then on second thoughts, accidents do happen. So all I have to say is quit worrying about this and focus on what you want to do next. Goodluck!
To all the people who are judging the OP, remember that most of you are fat, old, graying, bald, bad looking, average looking, divorced, single parents and yada yada yada. All of you have one or the other disadvantage that hinders your dating experience. She asked for advice, not for backlash. Instead of providing solutions, you guys are just sitting on your high horses and acting holier than thou. Gives you no right to judge a person. And to think most of you are above 40.
Anyway, even practicing safe sex is not safe. There's always a risk no matter how minimal. She just happened to be unlucky. Remember that it could have been you, your daughter, your son's one night stand, your husband's mistress instead of her. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/15/2007 1:42:28 PM | OP: IF You met a guy that you KNEW was going to his country
in a week's time, WHY did you have sex with him then?
It's not about just yourself NOW, first try telling him
if you are able to contact him as he is 1/2 liable for this.
Next THINK about the child you already have, if you abort this one
then you are denying them a sibling and why would you punish an
unborn baby to abort it when you chose to take the pregnancy risk?
IF you can't afford to raise it then adoption lets others have that chance.
I have dealt with a condom breaking, another came off and was "stuck"
and I did NOT end up pregnant those times.
(I now have a 19 year old so it is not a fertility issue)
BOTH parties should use prevention if abstinence is not chosen
and pregnancy is not wanted.
It is NOW a matter of how will you be responsible regarding this baby
that is developing daily within you? | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/15/2007 2:47:22 PM | Hi,
The same thing happened with my cousin. She didn't even know his name, and she's not a "wild" girl. She drank one night and had sex with him....and pregnant.
You hang in there...this happened 10 years ago and her little girl is the love of her life! my uncle kept trying to get her to abort...she's so happy that she didn't.
Take Care of yourself!!
Denise | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/15/2007 4:18:43 PM | Not going to comment on the how or whys, you are old ehough to make up your own mind.
You could tell him and see what happens from there, if he does not want to know the sad to say time to get on with live. I know its not easy, but you are not alone I for one will lend you an ear, and offer what help I can. I was a mr mum so yes know what I am on about.
If you holler can you put in the subject box "friend needs help" that way I will know that its you, this pc is used by my borrowed daughter as well.
Hope you find this a help.. Stephen | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/15/2007 4:34:19 PM | Wow!!!!!!!
Your in bad position......First off, I'd think long and hard about what your going to do about the pregnancy...keep the baby or end the pregnancy....if you choose to keep it then I'd be calling him (so long as your sure it's his)....and the two of you can talk about it.....but he's gone and moved away....so what are the chances that he's coming back....and what is his view point about having a child with a girl he's only known for a week....
Good Luck..... | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/16/2007 9:12:13 AM | | A bit harsh Valencia~ but I do agree with you that ppl shouldnt judge this girl. Its easy forppl who arent in her position to judge. Important thing for his is to deal with her situation and make sure not to repeat it. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/16/2007 12:52:28 PM | I agree with Denise.
The same thing happened to my ex-girlfriend, but she got an abortion. She always felt guilty about that.
Take care of yourself.
Let us know what happens.
Dean | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/16/2007 1:16:16 PM | Don't let all the uncaring and judgmental people get you down.
Focus on the positive.
It's not what happens to you that matters, as much as, how you handle it.
You have one child that you love with all your heart. Now, they will have someone to share all that love that you have been giving them.
And don't worry that having two children from two different men will make it harder for someone else to love. I know that's not true. I was the child of such circumstances and my mother met a man who she knew loved her, because he loved her children, which were not his by blood. But we all called him, Dad. We knew, in a way, he loved us even more, because we weren't his blood and he treated us all equally. He reaped what he sowed, love.
Because of my fathers choices, my brother married a woman with a small child, who now calls him Dad. No one ever even mentions the blood relation, only the love. My nephew always says how much he loves his mom and his dad.
Hope this cheered you up.
A friend in need,
Dean | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/16/2007 1:17:11 PM | | I am appaulled at the insensitivity of many of the replies. Honey, take care of yourself and the baby nutritionally. Things happen for a reason. I am glad that you have the support of those that are important to you in your life and always include your other child in the pregnancy and child rearing. It will make the three of you stronger. This is no time for pointing the finger at someone. Of course we are all educated about birth control. This was meant to be. Get the professional help that you need, from that you may be able to gain some financial and emotional support as well. Good luck with your little miracle! | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 12/22/2008 4:33:58 AM | Whatever happend, it don't matter now, that baby is all that matters
but
either way, i hope you told him, at least he has a choice then, and if he is a real man he will make the right one!
~Serenity | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 12/22/2008 4:46:19 AM | Just when I think I have heard it all..............
As one previous poster said: There is tons of info on birth control out there. Choose one and use it. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2008 6:18:18 AM | Your god is your belly and your glory is in your shame.....
Classic example.
Use your head next time and not your instinct...
I agree with another poster... they have no room to judge they do it too... most of them are too blind to see it. Hypocrites. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 5/1/2009 4:51:56 PM | | Getting pregnant after knowing a man for one week wont keep him. You will have to raise this child on your own. Happened to me after a one nighter where she tricked my by using different dates and saying she was on the pill. You cant trap a man by getting pregnant. If it turns out to be a boy and with no father will mean trouble for him. Good luck with your decision. You'll have pletnty of attention though! | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:52:12 AM | Good luck in raising your kid. And if your gonna go on welfare, please don't abuse the system.. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 10/25/2009 12:52:20 PM | are you even sure that this visitor is the father? Could it be possible that you were pregnant when you broke up with the guy that you were with for 8 1/2 years? Depending your cycle that would be pretty convenient timing........
Just a though.... | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 10/25/2009 1:55:29 PM |
To all the people who are judging the OP, remember that most of you are fat, old, graying, bald, bad looking, average looking, divorced, single parents and yada yada yada. All of you have one or the other disadvantage that hinders your dating experience. She asked for advice, not for backlash. Instead of providing solutions, you guys are just sitting on your high horses and acting holier than thou. Gives you no right to judge a person. And to think most of you are above 40.
If we were playing Mortal Kombat, this would be the part where Sub-Zero rips the other guy's spine out and the game shouts, 'Flawless Victory'.
You, sir or miss, have won. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:09:11 PM |
Umm and in no way are you obligated or forced to post something in a two yr. old thread. If it bothers you that much.....then kindly exit this way------->
but before you do, you must fill out complaint form number 4597-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:14:04 AM | | I swear the dumbest people live in this pond....This is almost 3 years ago!!! The OP is no longer on this site. The child in questions will be celebrating its 2nd birthday next month.....and Forest Gump said stupid is as stupid does. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:38:02 AM | You dirty little trollop! You should have kept your legs crossed on the first night!
(Oh come on! She's not here anymore - she'll never know I insulted her  ) | |
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