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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/10/2007 5:59:25 PM | personally, I have a few young guys interested in taking me out. I dont go because at this time in my life I am looking for more than just a drink, and I realize that a man this young still has to go out and experience things in life before he settles down. A few are pretty foxy, but I want more security and I dont want their mothers knocking on my door. Not to mention that they are my kids friends. Hope this helped.
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/11/2007 11:57:04 AM | I think it's your particular age that's the problem! My daughter is 19, and I've actually had a couple of her buds tell me that "if things were different," they'd go for it. Very flattering, but...we know we're all kidding. It's really difficult, for a mom at least, to have a serious "date" with a man so young. I don't want to feel maternal...I want to feel we're at least close to equal in experience and emotional depth.
So...while I have found a few "mannish boys" out there...for the most part, the only emotion I can muster for the others is motherly at best. And...a hint? If you want a mature woman...please stop writing in "Net speak." Definite turn off! | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/11/2007 12:08:59 PM | | although some older women enjoy going out with younger guys i'm not one of them. my 2nd ex husband is 5 years younger than i am....he tried to lie and tell me he was only 2 yrs younger and the state made a mistake on his driver's license. wrong! the state would not make a mistake like that, and if they did, they would catch it before issuing the driver's license. some guys have to lie to say that they're around the woman's age and who wants to be around a lier. i made the mistake by marrying one, i thought i would give him a chance and boy was i ever wrong. there's also the fact that i'm not interested in dating my son or a big brother to my boys so why would i wanna date someone old enough to be just that. sorry, no can do! | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:34:42 AM | We ARE into younger guys - some of us. I've always been attracted to Robert Redford, Richard Gere and younger guys. Its not the chronological age - its the "head space" - (ggg)...(thank you Demi!!!)
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 11:16:21 AM | I see this discussion is still going on so I'll contribute. I believe the asker of this question is only 19. At that age, no-one man or woman should be dating much out of their age range. You're just discovering yourself as an adult and you're not likely to be very interesting to someone who's farther along in that process.
It also seems everyone is assuming you mean "much older" not just "older". I think either person could be older, and since women statistically live longer then men, for longterm relationships, it makes sense for the woman to be older. Personally, I prefer men right around my age or slightly younger. But if you get outside of 10 years difference (for me, even 5 years!), you stop having those things in common that make for bonding and lifelong relationships so it's short-sided regardless of which sex is looking for that kind of relationship. I think women are smarter about this and more interested in developing something that will last (versus trophy hookups). They use those kinds of things to judge men more than men do to judge women. If a woman is not so smart or interesting, doesn't really have much in common with him, but she's 15-20 years younger and good-looking, lots of men will still keep her around (maybe even marry her!) but it's not likely to last. Woman want more substance, so they're not likely to keep a man like that around long. I'm not trying to generalize beyond what is fair because there are alot of men who are smarter than that about relationships (and there are a lot of women who are stupid), but if you look at only the relationships with big age differences, you have to admit that there are much more older man/younger woman mismatches than the reverse. Hmm? maybe that means women get smarter as they age and men get dumber! LOL! joke... got no statistics on that so maybe I'll at least get a laugh out of someone!
There are rare cases where these relationships happen for the right reasons and they last a lifetime, but they are very rare! Stick around your own age range for now and as you get more sure of who you are and what you want, then stay true to those things and you will find yourself surrounded by other like-minded people who are most likely to be the best matches for you. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 11:22:28 AM | I'll probably get a lot of men arguing that they want substance too (and I already admitted that some definitely are using more meaningful criteria). Here's what the others look like;
"Male, Age 46, divorced...
tired of games and drama. looking for maturity, intelligence, good conversation...etc..etc.
Only females between the age of 24 and 39 may write!"
If you don't get why that's funny, maybe you'll understand after your next divorce! | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 11:37:48 AM |
In my experience, younger men are less tainted in their feelings toward women. Maybe it is because they have had less hurts or whatever, but I find them more open and willing in communication than older men. I also find them to be much more optimistic about the potential of a relationship. Older men seem to be more bitter. Now, these are broad generalizations, but they have been overall my experience.
Exactly Michele. That's been my experience as well. The best post divorce relationship I had was with someone 10 years younger. And that sort of colored my thinking in a good way towards men in their mid 30s. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 11:47:45 AM | yes i hate the banana - and i love younger guys!
have had some great times with them - love their energy and enthusiasm and total lack of inhibitions!
more please!!! | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 11:50:33 AM | | There are a lot of older women out there that like younger guys, but I'm not one of them. To each their own, as long as it's legal. But, personally I prefer a guy around my age or abit older to date or have a relationship with. I tend to have more in common with guys close to my age, and can communicate better. Plus, I'd really feel uncomfortable dating a guy anywhere near my kids ages. That's just not for me. I wouldn't date a guy younger than 40. But then, that's just my personal preference. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 11:55:54 AM | ^^^I wouldn't go for anyone near my kids ages either. And I have 24 year old daughters. I actually thought about it for awhile. There are so many of those 20 somethings on here that are doing their best to get an older woman to pay attention to them.....but I just felt like a perv even thinking about it.  But men in their mid 30s who already have kids and don't want more, or who dont' want kids, aren't at such a different place in their life than I am, and like the other poster said, they honestly seem happier in general, less jaded, than men my age. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 12:02:52 PM | I use to date younger guys - not anymore!!!!LOL!!
Not against it - just doesnt suit me anymore - and what are you -
like 19 - how much older are we talking here???
I also dont have any children and I think that was a BIG factor - if I had
kids - I think my attitude would have been different.
Before I could relate better to younger guys because they were more like me-
no kids - no prior stuff going on like an ex-wife or husband - I have neither.
And I never had anything like mentally they were not there - they were - some of
them were more mature than me!!! LOL!! It really is a preference. And how you present
yourself to the women. And you say why are they not into younger guys - ALOT of women are - you just need to look if that is what you really want. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/12/2007 12:07:04 PM | Bomber, how much older are you asking for?
Most women in their 20s like 30s men.
And women in their 30s like 20s men.
It's not about immature, there are lots of 20 years olds with more cooth and sense than some 40 year olds. It's more about what the women are looking for. In your 20's you're still growing and learning and a 30's man offers experience to learn from. Whereas a 30's woman now has the experience, and her own money, and maybe kids, so they're looking for someone fresh and fun and free. Well, that's me anyhow, can't speak for everyone. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/16/2007 4:01:39 AM | It's been my experience that a lot of older women have insecurity issues about thier age, physical appearance, and possibly what thier friends and family would think. Quite possibly, some older women have gotten out of relationships/divorces or whatever and have been told that they will never meet anyone as young or attractive as they could have when they were younger. I've been with a few older women and constantly had to remind them how beautiful and smart they were - that, and they would never introduce me to their friends, let alone thier family or children who's age I was damn well near myself.
There's also the idea that most older women have already had kids and dont want to have to play mother to someone that they are romantically involved with.
So, there are a lot of things to look at here. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/16/2007 4:50:37 AM | I have never dated anyone much younger than me, but having said that and read all the above; there are some young men out there who do know what they want. I know 19yr olds who are quite mature and don't want you for a mother figure etc but I also know 40 yr olds who act like they think they are 18! Age realistically is just a number. You can be mature at any age and vice versa.
As for the comment about older women having issues...AlLL women have issues mate. I know women of my age (40) who are diet mad in an attempt to stay thin and attractive the same as I know 19yr olds who do the same thing. Being attractive to the opposite sex is really in your own head, if you are self confident and believe in yourself you attract others.Just like if you always feel not good enough you push them away.
Purely from a 40yr old woman with three kids point of view I can understand older (yuck hate that word!) women having insecurities. Stretch marks, gravity and laughter lines do make you wonder what a young man sees in you. But to be honest I have more fun now than I ever did when I was 19. I was obssessed with the "perfect body image" and now eventhough I have a little more of me to love, I love my body and all the good things it can get me. If a man (any age) is attracted to you, there is a reason so you should just have fun for however long it lasts. Life's too short. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/16/2007 7:11:45 AM | It makes me wonder why women my age consider themselves too "young" to be with someone their own age... and at the same time men also thinking they appear so much younger so they lie about their ages...
Maybe it is a matter of not wanting to accept where you are in life. Not wanting to compete with others that have the same life experiences.
So much easier to impress a young one.
For me, I would prefer to find someone that is close to my age -- that has an appreciation for maturity -- and mutual respect that comes from common experiences. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/16/2007 9:25:37 AM | | its a vanity thing hunny christ you dont want a bloke who looks like your son us females like to be looked at not our blokes looked at just what i think | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/16/2007 9:28:31 AM | what you have to understand is there is a BIG difference in social maturity between men and women. Most women, (not all) by the time they are 19 they can function as adults, i.e. they can hold down a job, pay bills, they will wash the dishs in their home, they clean their bathrooms, if they get invited to be a guest at a someone's beachhouse for the weekend they write a thankyou note, they can even raise babies and they won't let a baby crawl around in poopy pants for 4 hours.
Now the same age for men to be able to do all those same things and become socially mature adults is about 33-35.(average, some get there alittle earlier and some a little later) Up until the age of 33 all they think about is seducing women. At 35 they start to become humans..
So a 21 year old woman should try to find a boyfriend about 35 years old, because a man her same age is still lighting his farts on fire and sending more on PS2 games than he will ever spend on her. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/16/2007 10:43:00 AM | As a medical professional, I feel it incumbent upon me to diffuse the myth of "sexual peak".
The only thing that sexual peak signifies is the frequency and duration of the male or female orgasm.
It has nothing,(and let me emphasise NOTHING) to do with physiological/physical concerns...
So for all of you caught in the whole myth that you are past your sexual peak, per se... relax.
The orgasms I have now at 40, are far more prolonged and intense then the ones I had at 18, and a lot more satisfying for my partner as well.
18 may mean stamina and "testicular fortitude", but those qualities are seldom paired with practical experience.
cheers!
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/16/2007 10:53:17 AM | Interesting topic. For myself, the age limit would be five years younger.
Occasionally, I'm approached by some of these younger men (19-30 is the age range what I consider to be young!) Although it can be flattering, I cannot & will not allow myself to get involved into a romantic relationship with them.
I think of it like this:
"This young man belongs to a Mother & he's her Son, a precious little boy.
If I was a Mom (even though I'm not a Mom), How would I feel about my Son getting involved with a much older woman? I would NOT be very Happy about it!"
Turn the tables and see how a Father would feel about his daughter dating a much older man.
In any case, I would think a Parent would be very protective & furious to even think about their children getting involved with someone who is much older.
That's how I look at it. (Even though I don't have any children.) | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/16/2007 2:24:46 PM | | I am very young for my age...38 and I have a daughter 20....I get along best with younger people both as friends and as dates.....my daughter and I have a rule though....she doesn't date guys closer to my age than hers and I don't date guys closer to her age than mine...the cut off would be 29....it works for us | |
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It's so frickin' true. It's like when I turned 35, a switch flicked a message on in my head which said, "play time is over, boys." Of course, that was right about the time I hit the trailing edge of my sexual peak. Rats!
But the novelty of that wears thin real quick.
