| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/9/2005 9:34:17 PM | | I am 31 and I have to say the youngest I will date is 21. I can't ever see myself with someone I can't even go to bars with. I have always dated younger men with the exception of highschool, then I dated older guys. There are women out there who will date a younger guy. You just have to find them. Good Luck :D | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/9/2005 9:41:46 PM | | Ok you all have very good points....But..the man is correct. I am only 25 and granted thats only like five years older but i am definitly down for dating an older woman. Im charming, romantic, and extremely polite. I work in a hospital where i work with mostly girls. Ninety percent of which are 35 or older. I have absolutely no problem with this. In fact ive even dated two or three of these smart older more experianced women. I wont necessarily date someone over 40 unless given special circumstances. I was forced to grow up early in life. My parents left me at home by myself when i was eight and i never got to do the immature, party all night, get arrested thing. I learned to cook, clean and generally live life on my own. I have spent my entire life growing up around beautiful women older than me and in fact find it easier to approach an older women than some little girl who has no clue what shes doing. So ladies .....please, please, before you pass up a guy whos younger at least say hi and give him a chance. Some of us are not all snot nosed brats who just crawled out of the diaper. We are younger mature men who know what we are doing. Im 25 and dont date often. Im looking for a girl to settle down with myself. I actually kinda want a kid. They are cute and aside from the smells and body fluids they arent too bad. So like i said ...at least say hi and give a guy a chance. Have a nice day. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/9/2005 10:05:01 PM | | There is no way in hell I'm dating someone who isn't out of their teens. lol I even cringe at a 4 year difference. I just don't find younger men appealing. I mean sexually, mentally, emotionally, life experience, goals, dreams, we're just on different pages in our lives. I'm 29 going on 40 and even when I was 20 I felt I was mature but I laugh at myself back then. Ooooo if only we knew then what we know now. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/9/2005 10:26:25 PM | | i'm not an expert cuz i've only gotten involved with 2 younger MEN. I used to avoid guys that were not at least 5 years older. I never gave younger ones a chance at all. But hey, those two were special. They could hold a conversation and each had great sense of humour. They were also totally different in personality. I genuinely enjoyed spending time with them and it seemed very natural to take it to another level. I think that if you approach ladies that interest you in an open honest way, you'll get the attention that you want. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/9/2005 11:18:17 PM | | I prefer younger men. My ex is 30, not a good idea. However, depending on the level of intellegence and maturity I guess 34 is fine but I prefer 38 - 44. I have more in common with that age category. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/10/2005 12:38:07 AM | | Thank you Brazen! What an exceptional compliment. I appreciate that greatly! The secret is that I think young and work out alot..that's about it, but you will never have a problem with being pretty at any age because you already are. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/10/2005 4:06:50 AM | "I don't think this is the case. In fact I think that men have changed as much as women have.
In our parents generation what did men look for in a wife?
1) Able to have children and raise them
2) Able to maintain the household
Now what do men look for in a wife?
1) Someone that will look good on their arm
Why this shift in values all of a sudden?
Because our generation is much more narcissistic than the previous.
This is part of the reason for the skyrocketing divorce rate.
How/Why did this happen? "
These days it takes two people to work to afford a house in the first place - people have always wanted "someone that will look good on their arm". As for raising the children - well I always thought that was a joint effort and not just left to the women. Dating is afterall the "work experience" everyone needs to identify what they do and don't want in a long term partner. Some people are physically matched but on a different wave length mentally and age difference is not always the determining factor when a relationship falters, i.e the sex might be good but long term the guy will want children and the older woman has done all that and is not game for anymore dirty nappies. I am approached often by much younger men (early 2o's) and whilst I enjoy their company I know that realistically nothing would come of it unless they are very mature, financially independent and preferably sterile. Finding someone nearer my own age (46) who I find attractive is my biggest problem and thats why I am here. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/10/2005 4:22:30 AM | Dear Bomber,
The reason older women are not into younger men is because they don't want someone to ask them if they are with their "son". Women are vain in case you hadn't noticed. I am anyway. I want to be the cute one in the relationship. I also don't want some young guy leaving me someday because I'm too old for him. Younger guys are pretty to look at but not a good choice for those reasons and because younger men have so much to learn. Truly. Not that you're not a good guy! I don't know you. I would suggest you date your own age for a while.
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/10/2005 4:25:57 AM | Dear Bomber,
The reason older women are not into younger men is because they don't want someone to ask them if they are with their "son". Women are vain in case you hadn't noticed. I am anyway. I want to be the cute one in the relationship. I also don't want some young guy leaving me someday because I'm too old for him. Younger guys are pretty to look at but not a good choice for those reasons and because younger men have so much to learn. Truly. Not that you're not a good guy! I don't know you. I would suggest you date your own age for a while. Oooops forgot to say it matters "how much" younger, my x was 10 years my junior!
Mispriss | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/10/2005 8:16:24 AM | I dont know if i agree with that comment, Im finding that more and more "older" women are dating younger men, it works for some women, and its becoming more and more mainstream everyday since the beautiful people in Hollywood are making it fashionable.
Maybe Im wrong and correct if i am, but Ive seen some men when reaching the midlife crisis leave their spouse for the Young ones, which doesnt leave a whole lot of options for the ladies who reach 49 plus and youre seeing a lot of older women in many cases looking a lot better physically and emotionally for example without embarrasing anyone look at Beautifulwoman for you and yourself Misspriss, and i have other examples of friends that are online but they would kill me if embarrass them lol.
I bet you ladies have more young guys all over you guys in a good way i mean like a fat kid on a smartie. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/10/2005 8:35:01 AM | I am 48 and single.....I consider myself to be reasonably attractive...and I work out faithfully so I am in great shape......I am frequently approached by younger men.....from late 20's up....and I ask them the reason for wanting to be with an older woman.....the answers range from the usual that we all hear...i.e. older women are more mature and know what they want..(***Yawn***)...to....I date older women because there is less drama involved......so I think that even though Hollywood has made it a more fashionable thing to do ...9as pointed out in a post above me)....it is the change in times .....a lot of men in their 30's are finished with their partying ways and want to settle down more....while a lot of women their age and slightly younger arent......there are many different reasons and it varies from person to person.....I have dated younger men.....and had good times.....I dont exclude someone from being my friend because of age....that is a form of prejudice....... And that is just MHO.......have a good day all.............Jaxx | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/10/2005 6:26:42 PM | Bomber
i would not worry about it to much those older women are missing out on some great guys. I can just see them when they are 40 years old and b#tching why they are still single. I know a few older women that go out with younger men | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/13/2005 11:01:03 PM | | okay you guys are making some very valid points, but who the hell wants to be called a cougar? Besides i can't imagine the looks on some of the mothers faces when they meet these women, damn i am starting to think like a mom not a date, when did that happen? | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/15/2005 11:44:23 PM | you may not be doing any thing wrong bomber but most of us older women don't date younger men because we have childern your age you might remind them of thier son,
and others like myself have this age gap thing even throe age is just a number it just doesn't feel right to date some one at 19 or 22 now if you were 32 and up then that is differnt.
but don't take my word for it this is just why i don't date guys your age . | |
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Joined: 9/10/2005
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/15/2005 11:56:39 PM | Has it occured to you ladies, that some of us in our thirties just don't need the drama? May not want the woman to just walk on over for sex, but to be able to sit across the table from someone else established and not wonder if she's after my stuff is a good thing.
As a mid 30, talking to a mid 30, right after you get to know them, your life is mapped out. Dating a mid 40 or so....upper limit not written in stone...enjoying the company of someone for that is merely just that.. Yes the blah, blah blah's come in, but also a certain level of comfortability...We're there for each others' company. The rest well it's kept behind closed doors. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/16/2005 3:21:08 AM | I get asked out by a lot of younger men....mid to late 20's. As a rule, I don't date men who are that young but a couple weeks ago I did meet a great young guy for coffee and a stroll on the boardwalk. I think he wanted to meet because of things I post on the forums....he liked that I am not a drama queen and that I let things drop and that I am not in "need" of having a man around all the time.
I will admit that I was a bit self-conscious and kept wondering if the people that were looking at us were thinking how sweet it was that mother and son were out together.
He was pretty fine though.... | |
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