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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 7/16/2007 9:01:50 PM | | I don't mind dating someone thati s a little younger than me but if it's over 10 years than hey sorry you're tooooooo young and there is nothing in common as far as I'm concerned . There's got to be some kind of common base here---otherwise it's like you 're too far removed in experiences and happenings age group wise to relate to each other and I think that's important. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 7/17/2007 10:45:38 AM | Prettyinpinkxo,
Who says you have to teach a younger guy "EVERYTHING?"
Everything what? Have you had to teach a younger guy anything? (and if so how much younger? 5 yrs doesn't count!) | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 7/17/2007 1:10:58 PM | | well, I have been out with people from 23 onwards, but as friends thats all. I wouldnt inlict my dodgy old body on an innocent! lol may put them off for life, and I cant afford the therapy...... lol | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 7/17/2007 9:52:15 PM | Well now Bomber is 21! Sorry, still too young for me.
I prefer younger guys! The youngest I've dated was 8 years younger and that was fine. I prefer a guy a few years younger. I've really, really tried to go out with older guys, even just 3-5 years older but there's been no chemistry. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 12:17:14 AM | Women really should wake up!! When will they ever learn?? I mean really, do a woman that is between 40-50 really think they are going to find guys their age to go out with, and possibly date? hehe
Usually, guys that age are either divorced, or widowed! Either way, they are looking for the 20-25 year old editions...However, don't get me wrong, there are some who are looking for the women that are in their age group. Yet, for the most part, they want the "younger" girls...
So what's wrong with s a 45-50 year old women being with a younger guy? Nothing!! All that means is that your parents had sex before his did...If he is mature enough, go for it...Otherwise, you're in for a long wait for guys that look for women their own age! | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 4:17:54 AM | Being "older" and being a mom..I think I'd have a hard time putting down that role with a guy who was WAY younger than I am. If I said..hey..the best concert I ever saw was Styx and Kansas...and he says "who?" I'd feel pretty old. If I was talking politics and referred to oh, I don't know, Ollie North, and he didn't really know what I was talking about...see here is the problem if there are too many years between people, at least for me, the whole reference system is out of whack. Can a young man of say 23 really understand what it was like to grow up in the 80's PRE-AIDS? Or to have had older friends when I was a teenager who actually were at Woodstock? (the original one LOL) What about the fact that I grew up during the Cold War...and it was a real fear that the Russians might nuke us. or vice versa.
How about the fact that I was his age when I saw the very first MTV broadcast (The buggles if I recall) or that "Star Wars" was the most incredible special effects movie I had ever seen as a kid? There were no home computers, remote controls, or even Walkmans (pre-cd players, and ipods) when I grew up. Can I laugh with him about trying to play a warped record because it was my favourite but I left it in the sun too long? Or taping a penny to the needle arm so it wouldn't skip?
On the other hand am I going to be able to appreciate that his idea of high art is rap or emo music? What happens when I'm in the mood for ABBA? Or that he can stay up all night and still feel okay...where it would wipe me out for two or three days? Would I be able to appreciate his struggle to mature? Or would I get frustrated and try to play mommy? You know, give him the benefit of my experience...and therefore disrespect his right to learn his own way and in his own time?
Now...I am a very young 41... people say young at heart, but it's mostly immaturity (LOL) I like hard rock and industrial music, I'm pretty much up with the times, I'm bit of a rebel and it's important to me that I retain the values that I thought were important when I was 20..you know, some of the idealism, but that has been tempered by realism too..I'm active and healthy..I don't dress like an old biddy and frequently am mistaken for someone younger than my years. I don't look down on youth and cluck my disapproval, but to be honest I view very young people (under 27) as kids still...and I see them making some of the choices and mistakes I did at that age...and I see the thinking behind it. I've been there, done that.
Now some young men are very attractive..I can't say I've never thought about sleeping with one... but it would almost be paedophilic, and that's a turnoff for me. Also I would always feel I had more experience and authority because of that experience..and that doesn't bode well for a relationship. For the reasons above (and others) I can't see myself being able to have a LTR with someone much younger than myself. I would miss the companionship of someone who had some of the same life experiences I have had...and ultimately would feel alone. Plus.. I also have to think about what I would have to offer a young man. I can't have more children, and if I could I really don't want to start over now. I would be retiring at the time his career was in mid-stride... there are so many issues for me.
But it's not that I don't think it's possible...just not for me. To the young guys here I would suggest if you like "older" women...try someone no more than 10 years your senior..see how it goes... see if you can really connect on more than a physical level. Good Luck! | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 5:12:53 AM | | I know a lot of women that date and even marry younger guys!! I think, that it mainly depends on the Maturity Level of the Younger Man. I prefer younger Men, because I have found that most Men my age and older are set in their ways. I still love to go dancing, and many activities that they just are not into. I try not to date anyone that is more than 10 years Younger than me. I married my Husband who was younger than me, and the marriage lasted 31 years. I have found that some Younger Men will lie about their age and say that they are older than they are. Why do you men do this? | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 6:20:32 AM | my question why does it sound like you are desperate to date an older woman?
live life man go with the flow, let things come natual weather it be an older woman or younger woman. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 9:04:03 AM | | You can't generalize all or most older women. Some older women would never date a younger man. Some older women might prefer men around their age, but might make some exceptions to date a younger man if he matched most of the other things that she is looking for. Some older women don't care about a man's age up to a certain point. Some older women prefer or exclusively date younger men. It often depends on a woman's interests and lifestyle, the maturity level of the man, and the man's financial status. I think it is safe to say that most women wouldn't want to have a long term, serious relationship with a man that is young enough to be her son. In a short term, casual relationship age often doesn't matter. For example I had a short term relationship with a 48 yr old woman when I was 29. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 9:11:36 AM | ^^was that you Darling?
Not sure when it happened but I grew out of dating younger men! Sure they were hard and tight and made me purr but what did we have to talk about??? I have hung up my cougar claws. Watch out Gramps it is now GILF's all the way | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 9:18:08 AM | | I just had a whirlwind romance with someone about 10 years younger than me. It was absolutely the best relationship I have had. I am a silly, playful 38 year old and it was awesome to have someone who was equally as playful and silly as me. The relationship ended due to circumstances out of anyone's control, but I wouldnt hesitate to date someone younger again. It just felt right. How much younger, however, will always be up for debate. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 9:27:15 AM |
Women really should wake up!! When will they ever learn?? I mean really, do a woman that is between 40-50 really think they are going to find guys their age to go out with, and possibly date? hehe
nice generaization there.. and that could explain why some older women are not interested in some younger men. Not all men over 40 are seeking child brides..just as not all men at 35 think they can speak for everybody.
Personally, I feel that men more than 15 years younger than I am, generally, have nothing in common with a woman my age other than that we might remind them of their mothers. I certainly am not interested in anyone who is so close in age to my own children.
Common life experience can be a huge attraction in a relationship. Age does play an integral part in that. That is not to say that some relationships in which there is a large age difference will not work out, just that it isn't for me. Younger men often decide that they want children and a woman my age is certainly not apt to be providing that.
Questions like the Op has posted and responses like doths2 has offerred are unfair and broad based generaizations that serve very little purpose.IMO | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 12:21:19 PM | It depends on the differential . . !
I've noticed a lot of women over 40 are looking for 30-yr-olds . .
~Siiiiiiiiiigh~
I'd like to find one that is looking . . just for . . Me . . !! . .  | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/11/2007 12:41:23 PM | It depends on the amount of the age difference. Age isn't always a factor in overall compatability ( common interests, life experiences, lifestyle etc ) unless the age difference is really large such as 20 yrs. I'm 29. There are plenty of 30 yr old women who I wouldn't be compatible with. On the other hand there are probably some 40 yr old women that I could be compatible with. I would date a woman in her 30s or early 40s. I doubt I would have a serious relationship with a 45-50 yr old woman. A woman in that age range could be attractive and have a great personality, but most likely we would have different long term goals. I'm sure most women in that age range would feel the same way about dating someone around my age. If I was only looking for a casual sexual relationship, then the age of a woman is often not important unless she is underage. I wouldn't care if she is 21, 30, 40, or 50.
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/13/2007 5:05:44 AM | The OP's topic is a generalized statement and for that reason, unfair. As the above poster pointed out, it is somewhat dependent on the age difference, but there are plenty of women in their 30's, 40's and beyond who would, and do, date and even marry younger men. Look at Elizabeth Taylor!
Ha ha, kidding, but, celebrities aside, two of my uncles married women 10 years older than them, and they are still happily married 20+ years later.
I personally have always been attracted to and involved with slightly younger guys. Not a huge age gap, mind you, but I'd rather date someone 10 years younger than myself then 10 years older.
For years, men have been doing it, and for the most part, it's rich, successful men looking for perfect, perky, "trophy" girlfriends or wives. Their excuse is that as women age, we become less attractive.
Well, eff that! IMO, MEN are the ones who become less attractive with age, and that is partially because while women are expected to stay toned, tanned, wrinkle-free, stylish ALL while running the world , society doesn't frown on a man who gains a belly, goes grey or bald, and ceases his grooming habits. Personally, I feel what's good for the gander is good for the goose! I want someone who is attractive and in shape, too! I feel young at heart, and I want my partner to match my energy level in ALL areas.
I've only dated a man older than me once ( and even that was only a couple of years older) and it will never happen again. | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/13/2007 8:15:55 AM | | i have never dated a younger guy most of the time they just look too young and lack maturity. i know i look really young as well but it works in my favor i guess since most guys like to date younger | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/14/2007 12:39:09 PM | Its natures way: The female looks for a mate with the most experience and many women (whether they want to admit it or not) are looking for a father figure. And of course, being as young as you are there is the issue life skills/experience which comes with age. It also depends on how you carry yourself. I have been involved with several older women and it always boiled down to how I carried myself. Don't have the attitude that you are doing something wrong, just be patient and mature. Women are women, be happy with the one that's happy with you and enjoy yourself.
Also, there's persistence. If you are turned down ask again - but when you are turned down initially make sure she sees how well/maturely you handled it.... | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/14/2007 12:46:03 PM | | It's not $ or a father figure thing....it is a prefference to me. I like to feel the man and I have more in commen than if I'm with a man that does not remember when "The Herman Hermits" were the thing , like "I'm Henery the 8th". Not that I'm into that song or band, bt it can bring a giggle.....Or a commercial of OVALTINE, or when " TANG" was a space age drink, or remembers man walking on the moon.... | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/14/2007 2:36:17 PM | | Im a 41 yr old woman and I have dated older and younger men. Age isnt a factor when 2 people are attracted to each other (legal age of couse). Experience is important in all aspects but a younger man with an older woman is no different than an older man with younger women. Let fate decide whats best. But no matter what, any children involved come first and besides, isnt it what the person is all about that counts, not the number(age)....... best of luck with your search.... | |
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| Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:03:33 PM |
younger men tend to want to just please themselves,as for us older men we take the time to explore our partners and find parts of the body that turn them on EI: the elbows,hip bones and fingers to name a few, it's just not the main three and us older guys know that,young guys just jump on and off,then go wash there cars or whatever they do as for us older guys we lay there and hold our partner Since when??? My last ex was 42...heck every man I've ever known did this...and he was the please himself, jump on jump off guy....I'm still wondering, since WHEN does a guy wanna explore their partner, or even CARE that they are in the room once they get what they came after?Must be a new breed than the ones I grew up knowin about. | |
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