| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/15/2007 4:49:30 PM | | I don't get this tactic at all! I hate it! I have low self esteem as it is, so if I leave messages for a guy and he ignores me, I'm done. I like it somewhere in the middle: not being ignored, not being mauled. I like being treated normally! If I leave a message, call me back! If you leave one, I'll call you! Period. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/15/2007 4:57:05 PM | THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SHOWING INTEREST AND BEEING TOO PUSHY ,BUT IT'S JUST A STEP TO GO IN THE SECOND CONDITION. I THINK WOMAN DO NOT LIKE TO BE IGNORED BUT THEY LIKE SMTH.INTERESTING AND A BIT OF MISTERY.YOU HAVE TO FIND THE BALANCE -ALL ABOUT YIN AND YANG .
MEN LIKES THE SAME THING ,I NOTICED THAT : A CONQUEST IS NOT REAL IF YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FIGHT -all abaut humane nature... | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/15/2007 5:10:27 PM | I can't answer for all women but for me I can. If you ignored me then I forget you. Reason being it's like he is trying to play a mind game and I don't have time for game.  | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/16/2007 6:11:57 AM | Well, there you have it - According to the Majority of Women respondents -NO we don't appreciate being ignored. It's a Game. Does not make a person feel "good" and I figure if you "Like" a person, then you want them to feel good.
Ignoring me tells me you are not interested. Period. It doesn't inspire me to "chase" or throw myself at 'him' - no frikkin way! I deserve a Man who is capable of being upfront, honest and genuine with his feelings. A Man who has the kahoona's to say "hi", maybe even go out on a limb and say "Hi, would you like to grab a coffee?" A little eye contact doesnt hurt either.
Honesty is my # 1 prerequisite. Ignoring me to "get my attention" is a game - it is dishonest, so even if 'he' realized the error and tried another "tactic" .. nope too late - "he's" shown me that he isn't mature enough or comfortable enough to express your truth, the excuses for that behaviour don't matter.
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/16/2007 6:29:48 AM | | The only 'girls' (not women - GIRLS!) this works on, are the ones that love to go clubbing, and dancing and drinking, and out to eat, and yada yada yada yada. Get the picture? It's reverse psychology on their sorry little brains. That's why it works. It doesn't work on real women that have real value. Big difference. It just depends on what you're after. If a man ignored me, I'd write him off as not interested and I'd be looking for the next one. I want a man that wants me and isn't afraid to be a man and let me know it! | |
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Posted: 2/16/2007 6:37:14 AM | There is a difference between being ignored and being mysterious (at least, there is to me).
I'd like for him to show interest, but at the same time, I tend to lose interest if he gives everything away (and doesn't leave any mystery at all). | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/16/2007 8:36:08 AM | | It just seems the more drama you make for a woman the more she will love you.....Sad | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/16/2007 9:43:04 AM | The only 'girls' (not women - GIRLS!) this works on, are the ones that love to go clubbing, and dancing and drinking, and out to eat, and yada yada yada yada. Get the picture? It's reverse psychology on their sorry little brains. That's why it works. It doesn't work on real women that have real value. Big difference. It just depends on what you're after. If a man ignored me, I'd write him off as not interested and I'd be looking for the next one. I want a man that wants me and isn't afraid to be a man and let me know it!"
Hit the nail on the head...
This kind of tactic is designed to work on insecure, validation-centric girls. You know the type... the cute ones that love the power of turning down men whilst pretending to be annoyed about it. And it's not so much ignoring them (which can suggest you're shy, don't have much to say for yourself, etc) but active disinterest - implying you are a social, busy, cool guy with your act together who doesn't put her high on his list of priorities... by chatting up her friends instead of her, etc.
Like attracts like. If you use tactics/games to attract attention, you'll get it from the type who also play those games back. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/16/2007 9:56:41 AM | LOL, pretty funny OP. That might be true with someone who is insecure, or still in the pre-teen/teen stage of "Oh, does he like me? He looked at me. Do you think he wants to talk to me? Ask him for me."
If someone is ignoring me, or I even sense they're not interested, I'm done. I don't recommend trying out the "ignore" theory if you're serious about finding someone interested in a long-term commitment. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/16/2007 9:58:02 AM | | If a man I liked, decided to ignore me, due to liking me, I would just move on. If being ignored is his way of liking you, I don't have the interest to wait around to figure out what's going on. Be direct and tell the person you like to know them better. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/16/2007 11:01:28 AM | NO ONE likes to be ignored!!
That said, a busy person who has thier own life and is not at your beck and call can be very attractive. A person who is not clingy, who does not rush into the emotional aspect of the relationship is also very attractive. It says to the other person that you have your sh** together.
What your friends are doing is creating an illusion that this is the case, but if it's not genuine, and not done in a respectful manner, it will come back to bite them. They might keep a girl panting for a week or a month, but when the girl figures out it's all a game, they will walk, and view him poorly, and tell thier friends. Now, not only has he lost his chance with her, but he's lost his chance with her 20 gal-pals as well.
If, on the other hand, you are genuinely busy with your own work, hobbies, and social life, and therefore cannot answer the phone every time it rings, or spend every moment with your girl, or get too involved too quick, you will be more likely to maintain a girl's interest.
Be it, don't manufacture it. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2007 8:07:07 AM | Thanks to everybody who replied this thread
I am not in mind games myself .
You have all provided some useful insights: glow:
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Posted: 2/18/2007 9:20:39 AM | | Well personally I don't like to be ignored. It brings up insecurities that don't need to be there. If your into me let me know. Be up front and honest about it. I personally haven't met anyone who did like to be ignored. Just be yourself hun. Ms. right will come along. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2007 9:36:02 AM | | I dont think thay want to be ignored babe but if a guy say he'll ring at 12 and doesnt phone till half past i want him more. Its a case of wanting them more hense ur mates havin more fun xxx but dont change who u r for it xx | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:57:07 AM | | O.P: Im no "Love Doctor" but I believe that some women, (including myself) feel like a man who is really a great catch will not be falling over himself to woo us. He is confident. He knows many woman "dig" him and he's in no hurry to pronounce his undying love to one particular lady. I dont think it has anything to do with women enjoying being ignored...who likes that? | |
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Posted: 2/18/2007 11:02:56 AM | | If I wanted mystery or suspense in my life I'll read a book. If you want to play games I'll gladly mapquest you directions to the local arcade. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:28:48 AM |
NO ONE likes to be ignored!!
That said, a busy person who has thier own life and is not at your beck and call can be very attractive. A person who is not clingy, who does not rush into the emotional aspect of the relationship is also very attractive. It says to the other person that you have your sh** together.
What your friends are doing is creating an illusion that this is the case, but if it's not genuine, and not done in a respectful manner, it will come back to bite them. They might keep a girl panting for a week or a month, but when the girl figures out it's all a game, they will walk, and view him poorly, and tell thier friends. Now, not only has he lost his chance with her, but he's lost his chance with her 20 gal-pals as well.
If, on the other hand, you are genuinely busy with your own work, hobbies, and social life, and therefore cannot answer the phone every time it rings, or spend every moment with your girl, or get too involved too quick, you will be more likely to maintain a girl's interest.
Be it, don't manufacture it.
VERY good post! And so true....I totally agree! | |
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Posted: 4/7/2007 1:09:56 PM | Being ignored means someone is playing games with you. Therefore, this person will be a waste of time and energy. Let your feelings towards this person be known. Be honest with them. I advise people who do this to grow up and finally stop playing head games.  | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 4/7/2007 1:42:58 PM | The answer is no. I see this as rude, hurtful, and a good way to lose a friend..........
I don't like drama. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2007 1:50:13 PM | Two things wind me up a lot, one is people putting the phone down on me if we're arguing.
The other is being ignored, especially by a guy.
I don't want a guy who will declare his love for me straight away. But c'mon if you like someone then just get on with it, go with the flow and be happy.
If he wants to play any silly games, including ignoring me, then i will get bored and move on pretty swiftly. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 4/7/2007 3:31:49 PM | | Sure, a woman wants to chase after a guy that doesn't want her around....Oh, wait - I mean a psycho chick....So, if you are looking for a major drama queen to make scenes and all that - keep on this theme. It will definitely get the normal girls to drop away | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 4/7/2007 3:43:22 PM | If someone were to ignore me in hopes that I would chase them, then they would be sadly mistaken. I just won't do it. If a guy doesn't like me enough to let me know he wants to spend time with me and put some effort and planning into it, well then, I'll just drop my line in the water again, cause the next one certainly will.
No one wants to feel bad and off-balance, and if you find a woman that likes this kind of behavior, then you can expect your entire relationship to be one of headgames. When does it end? When can you ever relax and let her know you want to be with her without the fear of her losing interest? Yuck. | |
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