| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:16:34 AM | No
Ignore me and I'm gone
smother me and I'm gone
there has to be a happy medium based on genuine interest and balancing one's life
no games, no guilt trips, none of that crap.. I'm far too old to waste my time on someone who has to second guess how they are treating me and the 'reaction' that will get from me. If you are thinking about 'trying' to get a certain reaction (or not get a reaction).. that's an emotional game (read: attempt at manipulation).. and either way it will wreck anything you might have with someone pretty darn quick. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:50:39 AM | well being ignored tells me hes not interested and i just move on and stop contacting him....if he shows too much emotions then i get scared and run....
i like a guy to show interest by spending time just chilling with me and my friends or chilling with his friends without the emotional crap...
seeing i'm not emotional i do not want a guy to be emotional either....he only needs to show hes interested in getting to know me but i don't need to hear the emotional crap | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:57:06 AM |
No
Ignore me and I'm gone
smother me and I'm gone
there has to be a happy medium based on genuine interest and balancing one's life
Exactly, Ravenstar66. Balance - why don't people get that?
Can I have a show of hands of how many here think these threads could be cut AT LEAST in half if more people understood the concept of "balance" and actively applied it? | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:04:29 AM | | It depends on my own level of interest...if I really like a guy he can give me all the attention in the world and I'll love it. But if I'm unsure and he pours a lot of attention on me I'm likely to feel turned off and smothered. Now if I like him a lot and he acts distant he is bound to lose major points. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:59:26 PM |
Not getting this one. Treat a person with disrespect and its hot? wow
My theory is it's due to their own egos and insecurities, and not you. For a lot of women if they think you should be into them and you're not that impressed, it cuts them down a notch, makes them want your approval. It's emotionally arousing to feel rejected on this level, and to then prove to themselves they can get you. Also you can make yourself stand out if she is used to guys all kissing her ass, or it can seem like you have a lot going in your life if say you don't bother to return her phone call, or brush her off for friday and suggest some other nebulous time, and she may feel the competitive urge to be the one you want to spend friday with. There's any number of reasons why they fall for it, including that she was always really into you and is just putting up with your bullshit because they think you're hot and interesting.
I know it seems like madness on their part, but it does tend to work. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:08:04 PM | Short answer: I can't speak for all women obviously, but for me the answer is no.
Expanded answer: If a guy ignores me for any reason I just move on. Period. I don't dislike or like it, I simply don't care.
If they come back with a mixed message like now they are interested, which has happened pretty often, I proceed to line them up on the launch pad. and right before I hit the "fire" switch, I'm sure to let them know that I don't have the time or inclination to play games. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:24:54 AM | Maybe if you are still in High School... back when you played the chase games with the opposite sex.
To me..... being ignored, means lack of interest. Why bother with someone who is rude and ignoring you? | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 2:09:33 AM | Lecture time 
This thread...is kinda interesting.
Its a fairly resounding No that women dont like to feel ignored.
Accidentally...or not.
You know...this is how I qualify Love for people I care about.
It wouldnt occur to me...to deliberately (or otherwise) shut say...my child outta my life as any kinda punishment, as an attempt to change the dynamics of our relationship or simply because I was having a bad day/month or year with no explaination.
It would hurt them too deeply...and I wouldnt be living up to my own conscious input into my role as a parent; as someone they rely on being their safe place to fall when/if things arent as we'd like them to be.
Here's the thing...male/female relationships arent any different in that department.
Relationships...take two people...BOTH of those people have input.
Most times...if you effectively communicate what you want or need at a particular time...AND if your partner lives up to their end of input into the relationship...
...then you've got a fair chance to work things out and life lives happily ever after.
When either of the partners retreat without saying "I need a little time"...it breeds resentment, fosters insecurity, shows apathy and ultimately undermines any solid foundation of the relationship itself.
Whatever ideas people have that pushing someone away...somehow brings you "closer" to another human being...Im thinking...seriously...not only have you got it wrong but you pretty much reap exactly what you sow.
If you want to be in a relationship alone...then you will be.
And if you choose to ignore someone deliberately...you deserve to be. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:24:13 AM | ~Kyn~ put it very well...
You never ignore people you love. Love is not a weapon.
I am getting better at this... if you ignore me I am out of there! No second chances anymore. If someone is really in to you they show it or they had better.
~Charmed~ | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:34:19 AM | In the defense of the OP...
He is probably trying to suggest that, although we as humans HATE being ignored...
Absence makes the heart grow fonder...when you ignore someone, accidently or intentionally, it does get people thinking and sometimes works to your advantage.
I agree with the above post about balance and ying and yang and stuff.
Life is like a teeter-totter...the name of the game is to strive for a parallelism with the ground (ie: feeling grounded). Any other angle of attack will eventually result in a collision and a big bad disaster awaits.
I relate everything in life to computers and flying...you know...in a way...a woman is like a keyboard...push the right buttons and you get what you want...press Ctrl+Alt+Delete and she might just ignore you back. 
** Drinks chocolate milk while listening to Kid Rock and Sheryl Crow **
I like that song.  | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:44:46 AM | The OP is asking should he ignore a woman that he's interested in instead of chasing her in order to be more mysterious and attractive. This has nothing to do while in a relationship but it does in trying to get a date.
For some women that are chased constantly, it might work. They might ask themselves why one person isn't showing interest in them while dozens of other men openly do and could lead to attraction. Or it could backfire as she might think he isn't interested in her.
All this thread has to do with is the OP is scared to go up and talk to a woman and tell her that he's interested. He's playing the ignore game in the hopes that she will come up to him.
And yeah, I've played this game before and it didn't work. Once you let her in, your true nice guy self becomes apparent and she moves on. She'll think it's cute and that's about it.
My advice is to grow a set and be a man. Rejection is a part of the dating game and happens all the time. Women want a man to chase them a little, it's all part of the game. Having the balls to go up to one and tell her you're interested is more attractive rather than playing the mystery man.
So all you hags out there are getting mad at nothing.  | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:54:27 AM | Let me see...
That still does not work. Been stood up many times (not through here but through out my life), had men forget they were meeting me for coffee or that they were supposed to call or contact me. Then try to contact me again.
I don't play second fiddle well at all.... you never ignore someone you are interested in.
~Charmed~ | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:56:40 AM | I don't play second fiddle well at all.... you never ignore someone you are interested in.
Some women are constantly hit on by men. Some guys, especially those with low self-esteem try another approach and that's to pretend they aren't interested in them so the woman will come up to them instead.
Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:59:53 AM |
I don't play second fiddle
How about lead guitar?
I'm feeling like a smart @$$ today...I should get wicked quote tattoo'ed on my bum. Something really smart and witty. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:01:11 AM | LOL... sorry did not mean to sound pissy or negative!
I love men... over the 47 years of being single things happen... I have just learned that being ignored does not work for me.
~Charmed~ | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:07:50 AM |
Personally, I don't think that would work too well. But I haven't tried it, nor will I. If a girl isn't interested in me without the games, then she isn't the one for me anyway.
You are a god.. and wise!! | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:08:44 AM | I love men... over the 47 years of being single things happen... I have just learned that being ignored does not work for me.
Right. Most women are the same. But for some of the one's that are chased constantly, it might be interesting to them because they're not used to it.
Once she gets through the so called barrier and knows for certain that the guy is really interested, she'll usually move on. It's her ego that piques her curiousity and that's all. Once she breaks him down, she moves on to someone she's really attracted to. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:15:08 AM | Ok... but now you are talking about real head games... I ignore you, you ignore me... that tit for tat stuff. Jim, we both know that is just immature. Games for the unwise. Is she really worth all that effort? Who knows...
~Charmed~ | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:16:33 AM | This is geared more towards younger people with that kind of mindset. Us old farts grew out of the head games a long time ago.
I did the same thing in my early 20's with a woman who I thought was the most beautiful creature I ever saw. It didn't work because even though she knew I had a crush on her, I still played the mystery man and kept my mouth shut like a dumbass. And when she did start to come up to me, my nice guy self came out and she lost interest.
If I could go back in time, I'd kick myself in the ass for being so shy. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:26:08 AM | I am an old fart.
I regret lots of things and one of the big ones is that I wish I was who I am now back then. If I just had the confidence in myself like I do now, I would have gotten her and more than likely married her. She was this absolutely gorgeous hot Italian that made my heart flutter everytime I saw her. Just thinking about her............. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:29:06 AM |
who I thought was the most beautiful creature I ever saw
Oh oh....so now women are creatures to you?
I think they prefer specimens. | |
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