| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:32:15 AM |
Oh oh....so now women are creatures to you?
She was a server at this bar I used to frequent so I ran into her a lot. She knew what was up.
I hate myself sometimes for being that insecure nice guy. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:43:22 AM |
CanadianBeef you are in a mood today... really trying to stir the pot?
I like to cause trouble, sure.
It's what I do. I love seeing the various reactions of people. It sucks when someone takes me to seriously and starts crying or gets offensive. Most people can tell I'm joking. I hold back online, only because you'all can't see me smiling or hear the inflections in my voice, when I say things. 
I hate myself sometimes for being that insecure nice guy.
I hate insecure nice guys too. 
Kidding of course. Most of my friends are insecure nice guys. We make a good team. I'm loud, probably overly aggressive, and I'm only nice at intentional level, not at the interface. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:54:16 AM |
They claim that women are attracted to mystery and suspense and if they meet a guy who makes his feelings known that they lose interest since they offer no mystery or suspense.
Nope. If I gotta wonder whether or not he even likes me at all... I won't waste my time.
As for being a bit of a mystery, that is fine... I don't have to know every detail about him right away, but if he keeps his feelings for me quiet... I'm history. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:44:19 AM | | If its for a short time, then ok, but if a long time then i`ll walk away, i see ignore as no respect and though how much i like that person i still go. Sometimes being ignore can make curious but so much will lead the way apart. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:05:18 AM | | i ignore them all. i can do without them and the games they play. i dont even talk to them. | |
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 131 | |
| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:07:18 PM |
For some women that are chased constantly, it might work. They might ask themselves why one person isn't showing interest in them while dozens of other men openly do and could lead to attraction. Or it could backfire as she might think he isn't interested in her
This may work for young girls Jim...I dunno...but not for me.
And yeah, I've played this game before and it didn't work. Once you let her in, your true nice guy self becomes apparent and she moves on. She'll think it's cute and that's about it
Its honestly got nothing to do with being a Nice Guy.
Having been on the receiving end of this kinda bullshit...I'll tell you what it is...
When a woman lets you in...and actually does have feelings for you and you ignore or give the impression you're ignoring her...
...what you are infact doing is hurting her, being unreliable in your signals and undermining her faith in you as a man.
I had a guy do this kinda crap once...he was inlove with me but not particularly mature obviously...Im fairly perceptive and basically called him on it and footed him up the ass (not literally)...the guy turned up on my doorstep 18mths later...I shut the door in his face
^^^I knew that would hurt him deeply too but that wasnt the reason I did it, I did it because Id simply had enough and even standing there looking at me in the doorway 18mths later...he still couldnt say anything or step up and be a man and own what he'd done. ie. he'd fcuked everything up himself.
We women keep telling you men we want stability and security...you KNOW but you dont listen.
People dont wanna be around someone that havent got it together enough to be stable in their pursuit of someone...that they "hurt" them...then come back as if nothing has effectively happened.
IF a man ignores me (deliberately or otherwise) it doesnt make me excited to see him the next time.
It makes me wanna smack up upside the head for being an idiot.
Here's a great gem of wisdom for everyone...
Men pursue women...they pursue them up to the point that they finally have her...
...once they "have" her...only then do they think about whether or not they wanna be in a relationship that woman.
^^^Thats just stupidity...you dont actually pursue someone you arent interested in, you're supposed to figure that out before you do it.
So...you "catch" the woman...then you retreat cos you didnt think about what you were doing before you actually did it...you hurt her...and while you're "gone" and trying to figure out your feelings and whether or not you wanna be with this woman you spent so much time pursuing...she gets over you, moves on and associates you with being nothing but a Pain Factor.
The guy then comes back expecting a hero's welcome for finally figuring out what he should have figured out before he even walked the path and the woman has already "left".
*shakes head*
DONT get involved with or pursue a women unless you actually wanna be with her.
Its not rocket science.
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:19:02 PM |
When a woman lets you in...and actually does have feelings for you and you ignore or give the impression you're ignoring her...
...what you are in fact doing is hurting her, being unreliable in your signals and undermining her faith in you as a man.
You GO, girl!
And OP, for the record, in case you haven't been listening to all the girls who've posted, here's yet another answer to your question:
NOPE! | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:37:12 PM | i think this thread is worded all wrong. Rather than saying do they like it, when of course they don't really enjoy being manipulated if they catch on to what you are doing, you should ask does it work..
yes in some situations it absolutely works. Especially when it's a very hot girl, or a girl out of your league who isn't used to being taken for granted because she's at the peak attractiveness of her life. Not a good idea if you want a long term thing with her though, she might not like the real you. But if you want to seduce girls that you couldn't normally get, this is a way to do it. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:48:25 PM | Ignoring anyone for the purposes of making oneself more "attractive" to the one you are attempting to attract is a game.
I'm feeling like a smart @$$ today... Oh, lovely. Then you will really be at your "prime" this evening. Won't 'cha? Stay tuned. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:52:24 PM | oh also, you should be careful when brushing off women who are nice but you're geniunely just not interested in because they aren't your type physically, socially or whatnot as they may chase after you even more. Plus people in general will put up with more bs from those they view as a bit out of their league. Shouldn't abuse this strategy on people who really like you for who you are.
That is why turning the table on a girl out of your own league can work with such evil precision if she doesn't realize it's an act, you just made her the ugly girl in her own mind, or at least the girl whose so repugnant personally an average joe doesn't care about her looks. | |
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 136 | |
| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:58:16 PM |
Rather than saying do they like it, when of course they don't really enjoy being manipulated if they catch on to what you are doing, you should ask does it work..
Here's a little heads up...
...unless a woman is a complete moron...our Spot the D!ckhead radar is pretty well in tune.
Here's another one...attractive women get hit on by alot of men...so you using the Ignoring Factor to seduce her...is as commonplace as the next play.
If by chances its working for you now...great...but finally you're gonna get to the point where you dunno how to interact with women in any other way except as Game.
Then no-one will ever take you seriously. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 1:22:01 PM | hey don't get upset females, i'm just pointing out why it works to the guy who is clearly a bit bewildere, and i think that is what he really wanted to know. I'm not suggesting you use this strategy to start a serious relationship.
And you shouldn't belittle the women who have fallen for this kind of thing as stupid. That's insulting and ignorant. Most of the girls I've seduced with this are academically quite smart, college graduates, some in grad school, one is a couple years away from being a therapist and we actually became friends once it was clear there was no real connection between us. It's not about how smart they are, it's about playing with their emotions and insecurities to create a response that makes them want you. And some women actually do see it as a game and enjoy this particular one, they like the chasing and the reward of getting what they couldn't have. | |
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 138 | |
| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 1:53:25 PM | hey don't get upset females,
Sweetheart...
And you shouldn't belittle the women who have fallen for this kind of thing as stupid. That's insulting and ignorant.
No its not
Whats insulting and ignorant...is this...VVV
I've seduced with this are academically quite smart, college graduates, some in grad school, one is a couple years away from being a therapist and we actually became friends once it was clear there was no real connection between us. It's not about how smart they are, it's about playing with their emotions and insecurities to create a response that makes them want you. And some women actually do see it as a game and enjoy this particular one, they like the chasing and the reward of getting what they couldn't have.
Intelligence isnt synonymous with being "street wise" son.
Ever seen the movie Dirty Rotten Scoundrels?
Be very very careful...cos when you think you're f*ckin them, they're f*ckin you. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 1:53:54 PM | And you shouldn't belittle the women who have fallen for this kind of thing as stupid. That's insulting and ignorant. Most of the girls I've seduced with this are academically quite smart, college graduates, some in grad school, one is a couple years away from being a therapist and we actually became friends once it was clear there was no real connection between us. It's not about how smart they are, it's about playing with their emotions and insecurities to create a response that makes them want you. And some women actually do see it as a game and enjoy this particular one, they like the chasing and the reward of getting what they couldn't have.
He's right and I totally agree.
Kyn, you said yourself that men are more complicated than any female you know.
Well, it's one way men use to date out of their league especially when they don't know any better. It's not meant to work on you because you're older and much wiser but a young 20 year old who doesn't know any better is a different story. Especially one that is being chased by every swinging dick she comes across.
Listen, I'm not sitting here advocating it but that's how some men approach these situations.
And like he wrote, it usually never works itself into a full relationship. Once the initial attraction wears off, there's nothing there to build anything on. | |
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 140 | |
| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:15:32 PM | Kyn, you said yourself that men are more complicated than any female you know.
They are...as to how complex they feel...but rarely in their actions. And more often than not...everything is about them
Well, it's one way men use to date out of their league especially when they don't know any better.
When they dont know any better is absolutely right.
As far as Leagues go...there really is no rule as to what a woman wants/finds attractive in a man.
All you have to be...
AND ...Ive said this before
...is attractive to ONE woman...and if you think she's a 10...she very likely thinks YOU are too...even if you dont wanna believe it.
And like he wrote, it usually never works itself into a full relationship. Once the initial attraction wears off, there's nothing there to build anything on.
Then there is absolutely no point...in playing around with people's emotions for nothing now...is there?
If you arent interested in a woman...leave them alone, including not trying to bed them for the sake of your ego.
That means....step up and be a man and say No before you even get there. You are all more than capable of behaving like adults and with integrity.
Dont be flippant in your relations with women.
Surely SOME of you must have a conscience and accept responsibilities for your actions because...you sure as hell dont like the consequences of it.
(incidentally ...some women are just as guilty of this)
Think before you do things...and have some concern for other people and not just yourself. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:19:46 PM | In my early 20's, I'd would have been one happy camper to bed as many women as I could. Other young men are the same and that's natural. It has nothing to do with emotions but straight up sexual attraction. By both the male and the female.
The women that are the target of this type of game are probably the hottest one's around and know it. They don't care because they know they can get any man to do whatever they want them to because they have the looks.
You're taking this way out of context. | |
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 142 | |
| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:22:29 PM | In my early 20's, I'd would have been one happy camper to bed as many women as I could. Other young men are the same. It has nothing to do with emotions but straight up sexual attraction. By both the male and the female.
I completely agree...in your early 20's...its a fair excuse till your brain catches up with your hormones.
Once you get to late 20's...you should be thinking about it...once you hit 30ish...
...you should have gotten over it.
After 30...IMO for a man...there's absolutely no excuse whatsoever and I wont waste my time on him.
So on the odd chance some man thinks Im worth it and I think he's worth it too...he's got one shot at it. Best to not fcuk it up. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 2:26:36 PM | I don't do it now but back then I did.
Honestly, would this type of approach work on you? I'm betting no because hopefully you outgrew that stage in your life where you knew looks could get you whatever you wanted from a man. But at 22 or 25, did you still feel the same way? No. And what if one man in particular didn't pay you attention when the others did because of your looks, how would that make you feel? More than likely, it would have driven you nuts just because that guy isn't all over you (in reality, he's just as attracted to you as the others if not more).
You're still attractive as hell but now it goes a little deeper, right? Sure you can still get a man by using your looks, but would it be a man that you really wanted to keep around? No. And as we get older, looks don't play as important a role as say stability and emotional health but when we're younger, it's the most important thing. Especially for a woman.
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 144 | |
| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:34:58 PM | Honestly, would this type of approach work on you? I'm betting no because hopefully you outgrew that stage in your life where you knew looks could you whatever you wanted from a man.
Here's the thing...its only recently that it ever occured to me that I might be attractive...I know I look younger (and I only just realised that too) and all of this is only cos female friends told me since Ive been on here. My male friends tell me Im intimidating and I have nfi why.
It honestly just never occured to me cos Im not validated by men, only care about my close female friends opinions cos I know they'll be honest and dont find unsolicited attention flattering.
I never consider what a man says regarding being attractive or not because alot of you will fcuk everyone...so that doesnt give me an indication of who/what *I* am.
And I certainly dont use or have ever used my "looks" to get what I want.
I work damn hard and am a good mother and a nice person.
I only ever wanna be attractive to ONE man...thats the man I Love...I dont care about anyone else.
I can turn on the charm and dress up and all those other things to get male attention if I want it...so can every other woman, its not a gift...but I dont like it...Im a very private person.
Apologies to OP...this has kinda digressed. So I wanted to reiterate this...
IF the man I Love "ignores" me...it doesnt make me doubt myself...it makes me doubt HIM.
Whether its warranted or not
Edit:
You're fine as hell woman. Don't ever think any less of yourself.
I dont think less of myself...I just dont think about it at all. Life isnt all about ME.
And ya got a good sense of humor too. That's just as sexy as your looks.
Thanks Jim :-) | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 2:38:54 PM | You're fine as hell woman. Don't ever think any less of yourself.
And ya got a good sense of humor too. That's just as sexy as your looks.
You should think about it. You're attractive, got a great personality and ya got nothing holding you back. Take it from me, any man would be happy waking up next to you.
OK, pep talk is over. I really have to go mow the lawn. Be back in a few hours.
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Posted: 5/17/2008 3:39:03 PM |
Sweetheart...
Darling....
No its not
Whats insulting and ignorant...is this...VVV
"VVV" - que?
Intelligence isnt synonymous with being "street wise" son.
Perhaps, but that hardly makes them as you put it, "complete morons." See what I mean... your emotions are getting the better of your judgment. Does that make you a complete moron as well?
Ever seen the movie Dirty Rotten Scoundrels?
I enjoyed that movie.
Be very very careful...cos when you think you're f*ckin them, they're f*ckin you
****ing each other is basically what I have in mind. | |
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 147 | |
| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:45:53 PM |
****ing each other is basically what I have in mind.
Being only 27...you still have 3 yrs as an excuse for idiocy.
Guess its only a matter of how much collateral damage and emotional pain you're gonna cause other people for absolutely no other reason than your libido, ego and self gratification.
Should be interesting to see the threads to be posted in another 10yrs time whining about why women wont give you a chance and how its all their fault.
Hehe...foresight is another gift of maturity.
Do women like being ignored?
No ...
...and neither do men/boys
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Posted: 5/17/2008 4:11:05 PM |
Being only 27...you still have 3 yrs as an excuse for idiocy.
I think I can stretch that out into 5 or 6.
Guess its only a matter of how much collateral damage and emotional pain you're gonna cause other people for absolutely no other reason than your libido, ego and self gratification
You make me sound so infamous 
Should be interesting to see the threads to be posted in another 10yrs time whining about why women wont give you a chance and how its all their fault.
isn't that going to be difficult..
No ...
...and neither do men/boys
*BLOCK*
Ostriches do the same thing. | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:24:59 AM | The trouble with the ignoring ploy is that there's no way to be sure the other person won't lose interest once you begin to let your feelings show.
Do you really want someone who has to be tricked? | |
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| Do women like being ignored?
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:07:46 PM | Hahaha...I have that quote from "Fatal Attraction" stuck in my head where the female character tells the married man, "I won't be ignored!" LOL
But seriously, show how you feel guys...don't ignore us...that is just plain ridiculous. | |
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