| Hi.... ... im verdie
Posted: 5/24/2007 2:29:03 PM | | just started i had a guy dump me also but girl hang in there you get bigger and better things in life do me a favor take that sad picture off and put up another one with a smile on it. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2007 2:41:20 PM | | mike dont reaaly know what you are trying to say but im over him. you cant live in the past i feel that its his lost. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2007 10:37:01 AM | Hi there vjchoclate ... =)
Thanks for your messages and about my photo ...
Umm - there is another photo in my profile with a "happy face" ...
This is just my "basic look" - so I guess I just happen to look kinda "sad" LOL
I hope you'll have a good week =)
Take care!
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Posted: 5/27/2007 8:35:40 PM | whats up world,how you doing tpot hope things are better for you. remember you are loved always ,jesus so no matter what happen in life he's there for all of us just let it go and move on in life. hope you and everyone else have a wonderful holiday | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 1:49:00 PM | Thanks vjchoclate ...
Yes, things are better and moving on ...
And ... with all due respect - yes, there is "something great" up there - I believe it, but not just quite sure what it is and if I am loved by it ... Just my opinion ...
Hope you all have a great weekend!
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Posted: 6/1/2007 9:09:45 PM | Research shows that women sometimes leave a person 17 times before they leave for good. They were talking about abusive relationships, but it really applies to any majorly dysfunctional relationship. Sometimes the leaving is just in the head,....RRRR that guy makes me so mad, i will never speak to him again and then somehow u get sucked back in.
Men (or women) who pull you close and push you away all the time have really low self-esteen. Hang on there and you will find a man befitting of your love.
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| Hi.... ... poem for Policy of truth
Posted: 6/1/2007 9:15:22 PM | Here is one poem that I love to read and it has been meaningful to me.
After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and channeling a soul
and you learn that love doesnt mean learning
and company doesnt mean security
and you begin to learn that kisses arent contracts
and presents arent promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child
you learn to build all your roads on today
because tomorrows ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down in mid flight
after a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much
so you plant your soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
and you learn that you really can endure
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth
and you learn and you learn-
With every good-bye you learn.....
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Posted: 6/2/2007 11:46:26 PM | Hi canadienhoney ...
Your poem really hit home - it's so powerful and so true!
Thank you so very much for sharing it with me/us and also thank you for your kind words!
It gave me even more strength to carry on - on my own path which has been at times so very difficult, but I can already see light in the end of the tunnel =)
Take care =)
(((HUGS)))
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Posted: 6/3/2007 9:45:29 PM | well i have to say that you aren't the only one who has let a man do this kind of thing to them...I met the worst of the worst off of here...not only did I find out that he was seeing and sleeping with another girl while he was with me but that he also had a pregnant fiancee ...
he lead me astray saying all i wanted to hear...he was an exceptional liar and I fell for it...yep smart girls make stupid decisions because we don't want to believe that all men are mean and could lie to our faces...
I know the men on this site are gonna jump on this and say "women are worse" ... I'm sure there are women out there who do the same thing...but I am not one of those girls...I want monogamy...I want the whole thing...so when I a man can lie and manipulate just so he can say that he did it is nothing short of sick...
I can only hope that karma exists...
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Posted: 6/28/2007 9:49:16 PM | I know it sucks big time. let me tell you my story. I believe men like this don't deserve a good woman. They need a taste of their own medicine. I dated a guy for ten years ,and was pregnant with his fourth child. I told him that he needed to sort his shit out and decide what was important to him his family or his drunken lifestyle. Anyway one new years eve nite he said" Honey I'm gonna have a few drinks with the boys , I'll see yalater babe" Ok I said see you tonite". So he left, I waited all nite for him to come home. My stomach turned all nite, I knew something was wrong my conscious told me so. All I could think about was him. what was he doing, who was he with. I finally fell asleep about 2am and woke at 7am he still not home. I got dressed and visited my friend Sally, I knew she was having a pa rty with a few friends. Being nine months pregnant I didnhing special. 't go. Guess who I found asleep on her coush, butt naked. You guessed It my so called boyfriend. The worst part was he was naked, god dam butt naked on her couuch. Thay ob viously were dead to th e world she was asleep half naked also on the god dam floor. I could have slapped her and him. I left and made out nothing happened. I came back at 10am ready to expode. They were up both dressed house was tidy. I asked how there nite was they said great, well D***** has come to help me clean up. How was your nite. I said good and yours Just a few friends over, nothing special.Thats when I let rip. So you f*ck my boyfriend in your house on your couch. How long did you think you could keep thst from me. Oh no what are you talking about. so I told them . I caught you both naked, you were on the floor exposing yourself, you can't tell nothing happened. So she apologised, said she was sorry. I told her to go to hell and never spoke to her again. I asked how shw could live with herself, shae stated He raped who "whatebveer, it was definately a two way decision to me. She seemed very comfortable. Well her lies her blaming him, I blame both of them. Her because she was my best friend, and him for being an arsehole. Well I left him that day all the tears and pleading for my forgiveness, never came to an end. to this day I'm still not with him. But I will never forget the pain he caused me. so mate I know exactly how you feel , when men lie and cheat.   | |
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Posted: 7/4/2007 12:20:31 PM | hottiehare -
First of all - I am so very sorry to hear what happened to you ... IT REALLY S**KS s you were pregnant too with his child ... What a ... I can't even type the word(s) ...
Men - go figure them out ... I can't ...
They have everything going good and then they just "mess up" and that's it.
I don't understand it and never will ...
AGAIN - not ALL men are the same and as I said in one thread today already - we have to kiss many frogs before we'll find our princes.
It will happen - I believe in it, but in the "finding process" - getting hurt is so bad, but then again - if you don't play you can't win.
It's been now 5 months from my break up and about 4,5 months when I started this thread. I've come so long way already - I could say I am almost over it / him AND life after few s**tty months is fairly good again.
Keep the faith everyone =)
We'll be the real winners in the end as ... "what comes around goes around" and those who hurt us will pay ... in a way or another ...
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Posted: 7/4/2007 12:27:30 PM | AW  what a way to be treated.....not just once but twice....... I felt really sad reading all that, you had the faith in your feelings and his to give it another go and he failed you AGAIN...... You really deserve better for yourself... but I think you know that as you come across as a very together young lady.... | |
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Posted: 7/4/2007 12:50:41 PM | I am very glad that there are these forums to be able to write in,... otherwise I would be feeling pretty alone today...even though I know I am not the only one this has happened to...same story...just a different *player*...these compulsive/patholgical liars can really fool you...you find out too late...the TRUTH...and they cause alot of destruction to the people in their lives that love them....suddenly you find out the dream you were living was an illusion built on their lies...how low class is that?...
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Posted: 7/4/2007 1:06:40 PM | bravo1965 -
Thank you so much for your messages ...
Yes - it was a desaster for me, but I've come out of it ... 99% 
After understanding it really wasn't me ... or my fault ... nothing I did ... I have healed.
AND yes, I am pretty much "together" =D although it's been ONLY about 5 months.
It's amazing, but true =)
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Posted: 7/4/2007 1:19:47 PM | AgathaChristie -
I agree with you 110% - POF's members by sending replies to this post of mine have helped so much ...
I can't thank you gals & guys enough ... Wise words and advices!
It's been true theraphy as that is the best way to start healing - by talking about your feelings, problems ...
I am so sorry you met a similar player than mine was and you are so right - they trick you into anything, believing them as they are so convincing. It is REALLY low class ...
I don't think my ex has ANY idea what kind of pain he caused me - he is still with his "mo ho" I've heard ... BUT one day ... karma will have a pay back time with him and then - I JUST HOPE - he'll have to take his own bitter medicine.
They are losers ... we'll be the winners as we are free of their lies.
Good things happen to good people, so ... let's just wait and see ... =)
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Posted: 7/4/2007 4:07:17 PM | I just ran across all this...I just want quickly to share a wild/heartbreak story....
For the past 8 years I have loved a man that has battled alcohol most of these 8 years...we've lived together 4 times...I had to give up on that until he really got sober!! He had a gentle loving heart...but, just could not get away from alcohol, and it was killing him. He would start drinking, stop eating...drink for days...sometimes weeks...go to the hosptial w/seizures etc... (bi-polare and alcoholic)
He loved me, I beleived...he treated in all respects as tho he did. For the last year and 1/2...I had some very bad things happen in my life...mother diagnosed w/cancer, father died, a violent act at work caused me to be diagnosed w/PTSD...and then shoulder surgery. All w/in the last year and one half...so, I had somewhat disconnected in the romance dept. BUT, we still went to and from work together everyday...we met at a park and ride...he would walk me to my job once in Seattle...kiss me tell me he loved me w/out fail...unless he was on a drunk. I believed whole heartly that he would be there for me until I got over all I was hurting from. (in the past I had always cared for him through these drunks)......we sat on the bus together daily...shared food....held hands...napped together...we clearly loved each other....then he went on a drunk...and a lesbian couple that he was friends with cared for him a couple of days....April 6th I saw him at the bus, we rode in together, home together...all the I love u's and kisses...he even made my lunch that day....come Monday he wasn't at the park and ride...May 5th I read in the paper he married the lesbian partner of his work mate. (they had been together for 10 years)...he had been sober for 2 months...and she (his now wife) introduced him to Prozac. I later learned she actually moved in with him on the 3rd of April...and they applied for their marriage liscense April 20th...I went into shoulder surgery April 25th...it must have been a "God Send" for him....he moved from his apartment then..to parts unknown with her....he told people he had been in love with her for 2 years...and that I was crazy...and just hanging with him for his uncles money???!! How sad...how broken I was...I was absolutely crushed!! I lost my best friend/soul mate...and I didn't even know why....He was in financially problems...so was she...she owned a home with her partner....now it is being sold???? A plan you think???? How long do you think the marriage will last??? I was told his new wife has only been with a man once...for 6 months and then ran off...So...honesty seems a lost thing....repect, honor "love"....lost as well? How can I ever trust a soul again??? BUT you know, I bet I will....here it is going on 4 months now...the longest time in 8 years I've not seen him, heard his voice....I can all ready tell forgiveness is in my heart....I feel to sorry for him to hate him....he is mentally ill...and doesn't even know YET, what a treasure in life he threw away....But one day he will...and I will NEVER be there for him again. | |
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| Lies, cheat and empty promises ...I feel you girl..!
Posted: 7/4/2007 4:25:13 PM | I read your story, just by chance really. However, I have and I am so sure most of us on here have had a devasting experience at least once. Girlfriend now you know and I am truly sorry this happened to you. The old saying, and God I hate them as well, but my father always said to me; "A tiger never changes his /her stripes". You know what I hated hearing that so but none the less the old dear man is right and I really hated acknowledging this. I am sure I have completley frigging bored you and everyone else, remember at least you have the courage to be straight up and learn from this hopefully. You seem like a very nice gal, really and I don't even know you. So try out different waters their lass and it may feel strange but it will not feel as empty. Us fish have been there. You Go Girl!
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Posted: 7/4/2007 4:44:29 PM | Yes, it happened to me.
I met the most wonderful woman and I had never felt the way I felt until I met her. The first moment I gazed at her at a New Year's Eve party 2004 I had never fallen in love before. It started with a deep passionate kiss. Wow!!! Was I head over heals.
I talked to her on the phone the next day for about an hour and a half. Then didn't talk to her again for another three months. Then after that time had elapsed I called her and she agreed to meet me and we had a meal together. We hugged and she said, "...you'll be alright," a line I found out later on that she used all of the time that didn't mean a damn thing.
We met again a few days later and went to an art appreciation tour that also included wine tasting, we had a very good time.
Our encounters became more frequent along with the passion and the kisses. I had never felt so good about any person in my entire life.
Then one day she said, "I'm trying to get my life together and I want to sleep with other men to see if they are as good as you." This really hurt, after all she told me I was the greatest passion she had ever known and that my kisses were the most fantastic she had ever encountered. It was difficult but I hung in there.
Finally we were together for two and a half years and then one day she said, "...I want out of this relationship." I ask her what I had done and she said, "...It's the hardest decision I have ever had to make but I don't ever want to see or hear from you ever again." I ask why. She said, "...you were always kind and very nice to me and always so very thoughtful but I want something else out of my life and it's not you." After being told that I was the only one, that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me, that she loved me, that she needed me and that I was the only man that ever did to her what I did to her she turned around and said, "...you do nothing for me and I don't really love you I just said that to make you happy and now I have to move on."
My only conclusion is that she is the most shallow person I had ever known and I allowed her to take my heart and stomp all over it. My only hope is that this lady of 54 years ends up on the trash heap of love the same as she had done for me.
She indeed turned out to be the most shallow person I had ever known who always claimed to understand all there is about romance and love. Bull!! The only thing she really proved is that if you're stupid enough to tell her that you love her then she is going to trash you.
It was a bitter lesson to learn. I turned away some very nice ladies in favor of one who really didn't give a damn about anyone except herself. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 12:11:04 AM | Swabbas -
I'm in total loss of words ... You've been through so much!!!
I hope you'll find a nice man soon who deserves a special person like you!
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Posted: 7/7/2007 7:48:32 AM | gobyguy -
I'm so sorry you had to go through all the things you wrote ...
I will NEVER learn to understand how people can be so cruel ...
Quite similar to my experience, but in "another way around" ... It just proves - as we all know - players come in any shape, form and gender ... unfortunately.
I hope you are doing atleast a bit better already although I know it takes time and more time to get over such a tragedy.
One day we both will be truly happy again with someone special who genuinly and truly cares about us.
Take care and all the best to you.
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Posted: 7/7/2007 7:52:58 AM | harleygene -
Your message is something I don't understand ...
Maybe it is the language barrier as my native is Finnish not English, but the way I took it and SORRY if I am wrong ... is that people can just have fun without any serious commitments ...
OK, that's fine if both parties agree, but if the "just fun" mode isn't clear to both people involved then that sucks and it's wrong. | |
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