| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:54:58 AM | | heck yeh u need a celphone on a 1st date. jus b4 u meet sumbuddy u call a frend and ask him 2 call u back in about a 15 to 20 minits. if the dates going good u can ignore the call, but if bad u can pretend theres an emergency and bail. had it done 2 me quite a few times..done it myself too! works great. | |
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LRef
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Joined: 11/30/2007
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 1/5/2008 2:28:58 PM | Having your phone and continually answering calls or texts on a date are two different things.
When my mother passed away I didn't have my cell and it took about two hours for my family to find me. The only reason I don't have it with me now is if I forget it which is rare. I know that's an extreme example , but I also have enough manners for it not to be a problem anywhere. If I go on a date, my phone will be coming with me.
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| Cell Phones On a Date, Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 1/5/2008 2:29:45 PM | | My God,what did all of you people do without cell phones?I guess before cell phones people didnt go out on dates,leave their kids with sitters and tell them where they would be,their friends and family didnt talk too them on their land lines or maybe not talk too them when they were out.It is rude,immature and shows a total lack of respect for the other person too answer a cell phone when on a date let alone a first date.And stop making excuses why you bring yours along because thats all they are is excuses..those of you that DO make excuses..cut your imbilibal cord from your cell and try enjoying life. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date, Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 1/5/2008 2:48:48 PM | [And stop making excuses why you bring yours along because thats all they are is excuses..those of you that DO make excuses..cut your imbilibal cord from your cell and try enjoying life.]
No man is worth leaving my cell behind for or ignoring it. Its my land line thats not an excuse. I even respond to it in movies. I don't care about others thought on it. Thats there issue not mine. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:46:56 PM | I do agree, busying oneself with one's cell phone while on a date with is rude. I do take my phone when I go out. I don't talk on the cell while on a date . I don't have a reason to do so. I will say though, that if I'm meeting someone that accepts a call from a child or other call that they consider important, I have no problem with it.
I'm not talking about having conversations of no import, with random others while ignoring me.
I think that if I needed to take a call, said so and said, "please excuse me, this is important".l and the person I was meeting was distressed/dismayed/irritated by me doing so to the extent that he felt we wouldn't be suited because of said call; I think that would be best.
I tend to associate with easy-going, good natured people. I'm into polite but not real interested in formality and strictness. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/27/2008 11:36:57 PM | I have noticed that there is a cell phone craze.
I just got a new cell phone and think it's quite cute but that does not mean that I will abuse it by going on a call frenzy while on a date.
While on a date the cell phone should be used for the following reasons:
1)If it's an emergency,
A) work related call
B) family emergency
C) or other unforseen emergency
A date is not an excuse to go on a cell rampage. It's a time to enjoy the company you are with and hear what he or she has to say, not what someone on the other line of your cell phone has to say.
Some people use their cell to get attention, if this is the case you need to build some self esteem. A date is a date, so be kind while on a date or else stay home and talk your life away. | |
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ngat73
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Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 608 | |
| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/28/2008 12:41:50 AM | OP-I did not read anyone's emails besides your first posting because I felt obligated to answer you and all the response were quite overwhelming at 3:32AM. Don't worry I have already planned to sleep in and give myself a break until maybe noonish. Anyhow, I just wanted to address your concern >>>>> YOU R TOO UPTIGHT!
OK. I feel better now. A little background from that response: I had a boyfriend that always turned his phone off. His Mom was never married and it was just the two of them. I come from a very large family and I am always connected. My phone is always on. Of course, unless the battery was out because I was out on the town or something. But, it is important for me to be contacted if anything IMPORTANT were to occur. NO, the FIRST meeting is not that serious where I SHOULD NOT bring my phone. That is just retarded. If I go to a play, the opera, or some kind of presentation I put the phone on vibrate but not on a date. Most often if I was enjoying myself I wouldn't hear the phone ring anyway because it would be in my purse. And, if we were to leave the resturant I would be able to see my miss calls.
No offense, but I can see why you were divorced. And, I am not going to get into this either but I can see why you use the church to help you with all the answers because it does not seem like you would be able to come up with them on your own. I bet, if you were not leading life under the GOOD WORD, than you might just end up being on the news killing people. You might want to get a therapist because I would not be surprised if you were a little psychopathic. Are you restraining ill thoughts...maybe? No? A little? I just sense something off about the way you process information through you communication via the post and your profile. Am I close? Do you get into tense arguments or battles of wits with people and end up not understanding why? Feel bad about certain encounters? You need >>>>>> And, honest to God I am saying this with deep sincerity without taking anything personally even though I never go anywhere without be CONNECTED... | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/28/2008 8:58:14 AM | | I even turn my home phone off most of the time . I have caller I.D. and voice mail. Just think if someone were to die, the dead body is not going anywhere on it's own!! Seriously speaking ,I can understand cases of children or perhaps an ill loved one ,however, how many real emergencies can there be? I think that most times people have inflated egos.."I am so important to others that I must be in contact at all times" . Who are you ? The President of the United States of America? | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/28/2008 9:03:54 AM | I also have to have my cell phone with me all the time because of business and i have child in the airfirce and i would take her call while i was in church if she wrang me. If a date couldnt understand that , well then.......... | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/28/2008 2:48:05 PM | | On a date, it's unconscionably rude to take a call from friends or family at say, the theatre, a restaurant, or what have you. That guaranties that the date will end very soon and there will not be another. What, I should invite a couple a friends to come along with us on the date? It amounts to the same thing. Leave the 'Faux Self Esteem' machine turned off. What ever is waiting on the other end with still be there. Women with small children are the exception. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/28/2008 5:33:31 PM |
I just personally find it offensive to keep answering phones,and telling callers that "you can call me back" during a "first meeting" is totally out of place. What do other single people think about this issue? I personally think that you have the right to your own personal opinion about the matter, but that quiet frankly....you should NOT date anyone who has either children...OR Parents.
One gentleman that I've met 4 times just laughs that my MOTHER calls me daily...and during 2 of our 4 lunches together. I politely told her that I was out with a friend and that I'd call her when I got home. I'm 55, my mother is 75 and in a wheelchair. ANYONE who would make an issue of me being accessible to my aged parents at any time for any reason is NOT the sort of person that I'd care to date; nor I suspect would anyone else. I don't know how to "text"...I don't "text".....and I agree that the unnecessary calls are rude. As are long social calls when you have company in your home.
I have always considered telephones an "invasion of privacy"....you have absolutely no control over when they're going to ring or who will be on the other end; therefore, I give my number ONLY to family and friends who respect the fact that I don't like talking on the phone but it's a necessary tool. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/28/2008 11:15:55 PM | | I don't think it's rude to have a cell phone..for many reasons. However- when your on a date and someone calls you or you call them just to "chat" then yes I would consider that part rude. My cell phone stays with me for several reasons....several of my reasons are; just in case my Mother-in-law falls or gets sick and needs me she can reach me, and just in case I need to call the police ..you just never know who your going to meet!! | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/29/2008 3:45:23 PM | | I could careless if they have a cell phone I would suggest people bring one who knows who you might meet and if you might have to call f0r help etc. But if a girl brought her phone or guy to a date and kept getting call after call after call and you didn't get to talk really at all because of that then that would be a major turn off. I understand work and etc does come before alot of things and I for one can have work call me anytime just like a firefighter can but there is a difference to me between a need or have to and a over kill with the phone time. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/29/2008 8:18:44 PM | | i have my phone on me at all times, habit. but on dates i at least turn it off (silent if im not enjoying the date and i need to be rescued) once dated a chic who kept texting!!! at the end of the date she said i want to see u again and i just said sorry i didnt feel a connection | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 3/9/2008 1:46:38 PM | | Too many responses to read, But I agree with OP I had one date when I got there he took his cell out and left it on the table beside him, It rang a few times while we were eating and he checked it each time (No kids and his job wouldn't entail anyone calling him) I found it extremely distracting and rude! I'm glade to know I'm not alone in this. | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 618 | |
| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 3/14/2008 8:17:23 AM | How bout this:
"Date" how you want..........and if they bring a cell phone and you don't like that they are talking throughout the entire date.............then you know they aren't for YOU!!
If you love to bring your cell phone everywhere and have emergencies coming out the YINGYANG..........then you might want to put out some fires in your world before you try and add another person too it.........OR MAYBE you'll just find someone who LOVES the DRAMA!
If you are a person who brings a cell phone, like myself and keeps it on VIBRATE (what a novel concept, does EVERYONE need to know you have a call?) and answer it only IN emergencies............(and let the chips fall where they may)
The joke is: Diva is never without her phone.....however, I have learned that my man absolutely deserves my undivided attention and therefore I make it a point to work at giving it to him...........if the company can't survive without me for a few hours then I have NOT trained my staff well AT ALL.............this relationship has taught me how to delegate far more effectively!
All these so called "emergencies" people say come up amaze me and I run two companies and have 4 children(all adults) so tell me where are all of these emergencies COMING FROM??? Come on people, plan better!
One thing is for certain.........(and this is my new thought)
...........you can RELAX.............THE WORLD ALREADY HAS A SAVIOR!
How can you learn who someone is if you are constantly on the phone with someone else? What is QUALITY TIME anyway?
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 3/14/2008 12:37:48 PM | well i hope i didn't post on this one before but here it goes...
i take my cell with me everywhere i go...if i'm actually meeting someone usually i ignore my phone if its someone just calling to chat...i do have friends who call long distance and in those cases i would answer just to say "call me tomorrow about this time" and hang up...texting i will respond to depending on who it is...
i use my phone for everything...its my memory and schedule...i have appointments in it, important dates, reminders, to keep track of time its even my camera and video camera, keeping track of bills or what i'll need to get later on in the month...i often check it just to make sure i'm not forgetting anything important since i have a bad habit of planning multiple things on the same day at the same time with all different ppl
i be lost without my phone | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 3/14/2008 11:03:04 PM | | Only if you want to look important but look like a complete ass. Unless it's an emergency I don't think that it's worth my time to take that person for a 2nd date. Just my opinion. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:01:35 AM | | well i think that the phone is vital but should be on silent, and not looked at or answered during the date, very bad manners indeed, besides, some of them only give you an hour to prove yourself, and then spend 50 minutes of it on the phone, and usually its someone else from here, it happened to me recently, i sat there while she arranged a date with someone else for the next night, whats that all about...she said afterwards it was just her sister who wanted to come around to hers the next night, but sometimes you can hear the other persons voice, and if it was her sister, she had a very deep voice, probably an adams apple, and maybe a bigger pair of balls than me..lol.. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 3/22/2008 10:47:56 PM | | I have been in restaurants and see couples both yakking away on their cell phones...so sad isn't thepoint is to spend time with each other? I have seen the same with couples in cars both have the phones glued to their ears. What has become of face-to-face conversations? If you do get an emercency call, think about how would your emotional state be? Would you be in a condition to drive home, to a hospital? | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:41:31 PM | I have had this experience many times. When I go out on a first date, my phone is turned off and in my purse as soon as I meet my date. I believe I owe the person my full attention for the hour we will spend together.
Most of the guys I have met have gotten or made calls while we were having coffee. I found it extremely rude that they can't turn off that d*** cell phone for an hour. I have been on a few all day dates with guys whom did make calls a some point but that is ok if we are spending the day together, especially one man who always calls his elderly parents in the evening to check on them (they lived out of state) or the man who called his children to make sure they were doing their homework. BUT it isn't necessary to talk business or chat with friends while on a date. If you can't make one hour available to get to know your date, why make it, just stay home and talk on your cell phone. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:52:25 PM | My company offers 24-hour paging and that's why I have a cell phone; primarily to receive text messages. I really wouldn't care what my date thought of me having my cell phone on me because if a man can't respect the demands of my career then he isn't the man for me!!
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