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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:20:14 PM | I believe you do need to bring a cell phone on a date as a security measure. I have heard some horror stories about what some guys do to girls on dates ex. he takes her to a hotel and when she says she doens't want to get a room he kicks her out of the car and leaves her stranded. Just have it on vibrate or silent.
I will not answer the phone but I might check it when I go to the washroom to see if it was important or not. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:28:32 PM | | a women should keep a fone on her, as she might feel vunerble,,, have it on silent yes,, women will take her fone with her regardles,,you wont ever stop them,from taking it | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:51:31 PM | I have a child, who is just now old enough to stay home alone, so yes I bring my cell with me on dates. If she calls, I will answer it. And sorry but not staying home alone till she is 21 ROFL
She rarely calls when I am out but it does happen on occasion and if someone can't understand that she might call, then they are the one that missed out not me.
Although I do emphasize that I make it clear she is only to call if she absolutely must and I keep it short | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:56:04 PM | I wonder how I ever protected my vulnerable self, on blind dates all those years and years before there were ever cell phones...only Maxwell Smart talked into his shoe-phone, once a week. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 7:25:19 PM | "Mommmmmmmyyyyyy!!!!! Where's the ketchup?"
3 minutes later:
"Mommmmmmmyyyyyy!!!!! Where's the mustard?"
2 minutes later:
"Mommmmmmmyyyyyy!!!!! Where's the bread?"
30 seconds later:
"But I loooooooooooooooooooked there alreadyyyyyyy!!!!!!"
Poor little angel can't find the mustard...... | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 7:39:28 PM | @ verbalicious
Your what, 55? Protecting yourself 30 year's ago when you were dating was a hell of alot easier than. I doubt they had date rape drugs back than that losers liked to slip into girls drinks to get laid. I doubt there were as many violent crimes as there are now and even if there was violence it was nothing compared to how violent things can get now.
Back than most guys had class and treated woman right. Now only a minority of guys are good most are just in it for the chase now.
Wake up, things are ALOT different to when you first started dating, as sad as it is. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 7:59:47 PM | Considering that most "first dates" tend to be over coffee and rather brief, I see no valid reason to be taking calls then - it's just rude. People that have a problem with that due to kids, have another problem if they can't arrange to get an hour to themselves long enough for coffee or a beer. Surpisingly, I've seen women do this when their kids are grown, as if their 25 year old grown kid wanting to borrow some dishes was as important as a call from the pope.
For those occasions when a date lasts longer, there's nothing wrong with a brief call to check on kids or to tell folks you call them when you're free. One 3 minute call should suffice for that purpose.
Very recently, I had a major blow out with a lady friend over this very issue. She was clueless as to why I was pizzed, justifying it by saying she had a 12 year old at home alone. We had gone out to dinner, but after the 4th call from friends and kids within the first hour, I suggested a raincheck on the whole evening so she could attend to whatever. We aren't speaking now, which may be just as well.
Personally, I turn my ringer off and let everything roll to voice mail. There's something wrong with living in this age of instant communication if you don't know how to manage it. I'm probably the biggest technogeek around, so it has nothing to do with being a technophobe.
Here's a novel approach for all those people with kids that can't cut the umbilical:
Teach them to leave you a voicemail with the understanding that you'll get to it within an hour or so. Tell them to call back immediately if its a dire emergency like a dead body that needs hauling away, but aside from something like that, they are to NEVER call more than once. I've used that with a friend that used to make several calls within an hour. After chewing their butt real good, they got with the program.
Those women that use the friend calling with an emergency trick, get confronted with it and not asked out again. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 8:10:16 PM | oh for godsake.
here's an example for those of you who are having a problem grasping the concept:
the other day (while i was home) kid 1 bumped the computer chair into the bookshelf & a very heavy brass hourglass tumbled from the top shelf & cranked him in the head. ever seen a headwound bleed? yeah, there was a puddle of blood & it hit him hard enough to cause a mild concussion.
now. would i have wanted kid 2 to call me & tell me about it had i been out for ten minutes or away at work or out walking the dog? uh, yes, yes i would have.
shit happens, people. and YES it can even happen while you're on that one hour coffee date. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 8:48:14 PM | I operate my own business, if I do not answer calls I may very well lose clients or contracts. I often receive business calls right up until 11pm. That said, I'm not in the dating scene any longer, so it is a moot point, but should I start to date again then my phone would be there. Business before pleasure. Bad first impression - well frankly I don't care. Until someone has proven that they deserve precedence in my life, my business will come first. And once they have that precedence THEN I'll risk shutting my phone for a quiet romantic evening.
It takes more than a couple of conversations and dates for me to feel I ought to put someone else ahead of my livelihood. | |
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rbeef
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Joined: 12/14/2006
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/21/2007 10:05:27 PM | | I carry my cell phone on dates because it's a significant amount of money in my pocket. If I get called the rate goes up 6 x the standby rate and there is a minimum 3 hour charge. That's incentive enough to carry the stupid thing, it helps pay down the mortgage. Usually there are no calls except for the odd automated text message. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/22/2007 7:46:48 PM | East Side Eddie...your too funny!  But sooo right...Excuses,excuses,excuses....that is all I have seen, another excuse to keep their "little friends" on them at all times. I can see why alot of them are still on the dating sights trying to meet men. And the hypothetical situations...good one,"head wound"...jeez,could have come up with something a little less horrific,but O.K.,Rollergrrl...your excused,carry your frikken phone,but pass me up when your trying to find your next date. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/22/2007 8:24:32 PM | I agree with both of you. I leave my cell in my truck, turned off, on a date.If someone answers the phone while on a date it shows that you don't really have your mind, totally on that, date.I wouldn't have blamed you a bit. Good for you, it was his lose. And if we lived closer, lady, I would have asked you out, without a cell!HAHA!I have seen people on here (POF) that actually have there picture taken and put on a profile here with a cell phone to there ear.Now, common, this is really someone I want to date,NOT!!!I actually saw one profile today with the lady having the cell to her ear and it was a glamour shot,You are kidding me, right!!!
One other subject, that could big here. What about the Lady with the last boyfriend,husband or SO hugged all around her.Or the arm still around her. Common ladies, have another pic made. Is he still in the picture or have you really gooten rid or/and over him.I don't know if you guys do this, but the ladies would have to comment here on this one, because, I don't look at guys pics. Any comments, ladies?Thanks for reading.
The other subjsct that could be talked about is answering the phone, or door, while you are being, intimate. That is taboo, in my book. I won't do it but, it has been done to me. And of course they are History!!!Life is Too Short, to thing a phone call or knock on the door, is more important.Thanks for reading.
Doc
PS the cell is going off, the home phone is ringing and someone is at the door.Which do I answer?HA!HA!HA! | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/22/2007 8:29:28 PM | | I *always* take my cell phone with me everywhere I go and I make sure it's fully charged. And not just for emergency phone calls made to me, but also for my own safety! You just can't be too cautious these days anymore. Although when I'm out on a date, I'll put my phone on vibrate and will check it throughout the date, but I don't make it obvious. The other person doesn't even notice that I do it. I don't have any children, but if my family has any type of serious emergency, then I need to be there for them. And if I'm put in a situation where I don't feel comfortable with the person I'm out on a date with, then I would like that option of contacting someone if I need help with anything. But I never answer phone calls or text messages during the date though. I'll excuse myself so that I can check any messages that I received to make sure no one needs me. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/22/2007 10:43:38 PM |
Until someone has proven that they deserve precedence in my life, my business will come first. And once they have that precedence THEN I'll risk shutting my phone for a quiet romantic evening.
I think this is exactly right. I wouldn't jeopardize my safety by leaving my cell phone at home, nor neglect my children, for someone that I'm meeting for the first time, or even on a second date with. Under those circumstances, no one is more important, and my safety and children will be my priority. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/23/2007 5:51:50 PM | I didn't read this entire thread, so I may repeat the opinion of others ...
I know women/or men will make excuses like,"my kids have this and this and they might need to get in contact with me"...sorry,not good enough...you should have taken care business before the date.
Excuse me?
Emergencies cannot be predicted.
My cell phone will be with me if I go on a date, and it will be on in case the babysitter needs to reach me. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/23/2007 6:02:58 PM | | havern't youever heard of emergencies, if something happens to one of my family I want to know about it, and I don't care what the person with me says about it | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/23/2007 6:23:09 PM | | i always have my cell phone with me, although on silent, but ive never seen anything wrong with answering texts while the person im with is at the bar or in the restrooms and im waiting for them to come back. or if they do the same to me. its something to fill in the time while waiting, ive never thought it was rude? i wouldnt go as far as to answer while we were talking... | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/23/2007 6:42:04 PM |
Well, kid 1 for me is 30 years old, so if he knocks a vase onto his head it's his damned problem.
well then i see why you wouldn't take your cell on a date. unlike you, who can't seem to get why someone else would. | |
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wynd1
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/23/2007 7:07:47 PM | | Well like most I carry a cell phone at all times. Not to take emergency phone calls from my kids but the one from the hospital where my child was taken. I taught my kids to call 911 first because they will arrive faster than me.I also taught my kids that an emergency involves blood and/or broken bones. I turn my phone to vibrate and check the numbers when I go to the restroom. I will not return the call until the date is over. It's just a matter of common courtesy to pay attention to the date. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/23/2007 8:13:56 PM |
Well, kid 1 for me is 30 years old, so if he knocks a vase onto his head it's his damned problem.
So, your child is so old that you've lost your ability to feel compassion? Consideration? Anything but your own narrow point of view? | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/23/2007 8:16:50 PM | "I'll put my phone on vibrate and will check it throughout the date, but I don't make it obvious."....I guess if you do it behind your date's back,then it is O.K. "i always have my cell phone with me, although on silent, but i've never seen anything wrong with answering texts while the person im with is at the bar or in the restrooms and im waiting for them to come back."....Yeah,I had a friends gf kissing on me while my friend went to the bathroom...It's again O.K. as long as your date doesn't know... "I turn my phone to vibrate and check the numbers when I go to the restroom. I will not return the call until the date is over."...So,I guess depending on how good the call is will determine when the date will be over...
Jeez,what is wrong with these people...what happened to the old fashioned dates that actually want to spend time with you and not your phone? I am so glad to have done this thread to find out how shallow women have become. I do really know why so many women are single today and probably WANT to be. Once again,cell phones aren't a necessity on a first time meeting in a PUBLIC place (which is where a first time meeting should occur anyway). The best inputs so far have been to discuss before the date when and why you would need to answer your phone..no if,ands,or buts. If they didn't respect your company and follow those simple and basic rules,then let them find their own ride home(if you drove them there) or use their cell phone to phone a taxi. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/23/2007 8:19:27 PM | Have EVERY ONE OF YOU WOMEN lost your minds? Are you even vaguely familiar with the concept of HUMOR?????
Jeeezus!!!!!
Lighten the f*ck up!!!!
This is like THE stupidest conversation ever. Bring your phone. Keep it where the sun don't shine. Whatever. Good lord..... | |
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