| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/5/2007 10:34:05 AM | | You meet people the same way you did at any other time in life--by getting involved. Either at church, at a local school where you can volunteer, or with a volunteer organization. I volunteer with the Sheriff's Office and meet people there. Not that I've ever had a date with anybody I've met at any of these places, but I'm the eternal optimist. AND, despite not having any dates, I have made lots of great friends. Maybe one day one of these folks will introduce me to Mr. Right. Get out there and get busy; that's my advice. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/5/2007 10:36:24 AM | I know this may sound corny but I meet a lot of gentlemen in the park when I walk my dog. Something about animals that draws people together, besides I have met some of the nicest people even if just for friends while walking my dog. If that doesn't work I always draw attetion when I take one of my large birds with me  
Bonnie | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/6/2007 10:36:37 PM | Some people that answer questions with nastiness similar to nappyJ come accross as hostile, and mean spirited, he may think he is clever and above it all, however most men like that kick the dog, punch the woman, drinks to excess and somehow and feels superior.
That spirit defines coward, I am not attacking him, just the nasty responses, just not needed here.
I believe negative advice has no place here, those with just such negative attitudes are lonely and miserable and appear to want to vent at people. It is very sad, hoping he will just keep it to himself.
Do what every makes you happy, negative breeds negative, positive attracts positive...
Take a course in oil painting, or what ever gets your interests going.
Best of luck, ignore the jerks.... take the good stuff... just like life...
Though misery loves company. Who knows? You may find someone yet. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/7/2007 9:52:24 AM | Obviously I can only speak by my own experience. I am pretty much a loner but have learned by pushing myself to "get out in the community" - even to go to new thought types of churches just as a social venue- hey- it's not that bad and many of this type- have social events and groups- so even if you have no set of beliefs, you could at minimum meet some potentially good friends, learn some new things about yourself and what helps support the spiritual aspect of you (not to be confused with conventional religion by the way).
I am 53 as of January, and age means very little- I appreciate folks of whatever background. Just get out and who knows- it's always fun talking with folks you do not know. Have fun and keep us posted on your story.
William in NM | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/8/2007 12:32:50 PM | Get a dog ... you'll be sursrised at howmany other dog owners you'll meet on your walks.
join some team sports activities that you like.
just get out of your house ... for a start ... and walk around town.
smile and say hi to people ... small towns are like that. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/8/2007 5:42:41 PM | | some papers have groups to join like divorce support, meet new friends, etc. Book clubs, nature groups, sport bars, city festivals.. they all have fun people who want to meet someone too! | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/13/2007 6:14:46 AM | | Small town life has lots of intersting places, including bars. I work at a hotel and go to the bar there often. Ages a cross the board, music etc. Any place, library, laundry, stores.......just smile alot and say hi | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:48:25 AM | ...I have noticed through sites such as this one, more and more "get-togethers" are being arranged and are becoming very popular. You can participate in a variety of activities from pub nights to cruising, if your budget allows it. I like the idea of singles getting together in a relaxed manner to shoot pool or maybe play a game of darts, its a
good way of meeting people without feeling pressure.
...maeflowers | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/14/2007 9:37:20 AM | | Try a singles travel club or get involved in an Art club. Do you like to dance?---do something along those lines. I just joined a singles travel club and we are going to Greece--hiking in Santorini, village beach town of mykonos. If I feel lonely or down-knowing that I'm taking a trip gets me excited. You always need something to look forward to. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/19/2007 4:54:12 PM | | The supermarket or Wal-Mart are great places to interact with people. I "read" mens' shopping carts and if it looks like they're single (not buying feminine protection or sugary cereals is a good tip-off), then I can start a conversation. I tend to freeze up at dances and other meat-market-y events, but when I'm in my natural habitat, I'm relaxed and comfortable in my own skin, even if I'm wearing my grungiest sweats. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/19/2007 5:07:06 PM | | Get a dog, and take it walking...great conversation starter. Make friends with a female ...then you will have a movie friend..and a go out to eat friend. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/23/2007 11:07:53 PM | | take a course, volunteer, join a group of like minded folks, go dancing..yes by yourself, check out the local museums/art galleries, invite someone for dinner or a coffee, go camping alone, decide it's ok to be alone, face your fears, get over it. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/24/2007 11:41:30 AM | | When I'm lonely I hop on my motorcycle and ride. If I want to meet people, I go to where the people are, wherever that may be. I am 55, and finding someone upright, in good health, single, and with as little baggage as possible is proving to be quite an interesting and frustrating adventure. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/28/2007 8:33:55 PM | I think this is a great thread with lots of ideas! I like one in particular which I quote, "For the " oh , what will people think " , you would be surprised at how much people don't think " Lots of research will back this statement up.
At this stage in life, who really cares what people think? Be yourself, happy content and have fun regardless of what you decide to do. As long as you're not stepping on some one's toes, you should be fine and just as invisible as you want to be.
I like a variety of things that I would suggest. Reading a good book gets me lost in another world and for me is the best movie ever made because the video is better than "they" could ever invent. If you like books, the library is great, so are used and new book stores. Easy to get lost in these places.
Meeting people by joining different activities is great also. Political involvement at any level is fun and there is always something to "gab" about at meetings. Go to a few city counsel meetings. It still amazes me how few votes it takes for a councilman/woman or even a Mayor to get elected! And get this! No experience is required to run for office! So start knocking on doors and perhaps your political freshness will be welcomed. You would be surprised at how many people you would meet, just be careful, you might get elected!
Night school is always fun! I'm thinking of taking a beginning level college class just to raise the curve and make people wonder why an old man like me would be interested in college math 101. It used to make me mad when I was a kid in college, well...Payback time!!
Oh well, just writing down some ideas to share with all you nice people is fun and if anyone wants to say hello for the heck of it I will be glad to hear from you. thanks. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/29/2007 4:22:28 PM | OMG skyhawka4.... I never looked at adult classes that way before. I hated it in university when the old geezers ( I'm one of them now) took a class and did indeed screw up the curve. I so believe in karma. The math thing is a good idea. Somebody needs to tell the kids that yes... you do use this crap in real life.. Somethign to think about for next semester. God luv ya  | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/29/2007 5:50:11 PM | I'm never lonely...I have a dog
When the weather cooperates, public parks are great. We have off-leash dog parks here which are fun for me and the dog.
My recollection of small town life is that there is always some group running events for charity, spaghetti dinners, that sort of thing. You gotta eat...
I find that the "Meetup" groups and other special interest get togethers that you can find on the web are good too, although they may not work too well in small towns.
Every town no matter how small has a "working mans" diner...good bottomless coffee and good people watching...and less pretentious than Starbucks.. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/30/2007 9:44:47 AM | I'm not really an ugly guy. But I have NEVER had a woman give me so much as a second glance in the supermarket or walmart...or home depot..etc??? Who says this is a good place to meet? NOT! ha.
I am seriously thinking of starting up a Hiking club. this happens to be one of my absolute favorite activities. Its a win-win situation. Even if I don't meet somebody, I will get lots of hiking in with (hopefully) interesting companions. How's that for a good idea. ?? My only fear is that I would end up babysitting a bunch of 'greenbelt' strollers. ha ha. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/30/2007 11:40:55 AM | I’m a bit of a loner and loneliness doesn’t usually get to be a problem for me, but when it does I have my cure-all method that works almost every time. I try to put myself in a good mood, which is not usually too difficult to do, and go for a walk. And if I’m lonely, I go to where other people walk, as well. Even in a small town like yours, OP, people go out and enjoy nice weather – walking their dogs, taking in some type of scenic attractions – and if you take the time to talk to strangers (yes Virginia, talking to strangers is still acceptable), you’ll meet people – a lot of them – and loneliness tends to disappear. I realize that shyness is a problem here, but I’m actually very shy myself. I freeze up in crowds of people I don’t know (a very bad quality to have in my business (lol)), but with a little practice, talking to other people becomes quite easy after a while. The trick is, to be smiling, and to be alone, and to walk where people are likely to be found. People by themselves, smiling, in the company of strangers, willing to initialize conversation, don’t usually stay alone very long.
I once had a long and pleasant relationship with a woman that started with a chance meeting walking along the pathway that leads along the lake I live beside. She was walking her dog. I was just walking, smiling, feeling pretty d*mn good about the day. As she approached, I lifted my arm towards the lake and said, simply: “Nice, isn’t it?” She stopped, replied something of general agreement and smiled back. I continued with something about it being one of my favourite places in town to go for a walk. We ended up having a coffee soon after, then a date, then a live-in relationship for a number of years (with a bit of time passing between each phase (lol)).
It’s easy. Wanna meet people ?? Go for a walk by yourself where there are people to meet. Smile. And talk to them.
cdn guy | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/30/2007 4:04:54 PM | Wait. If I remember right, I think Ricky Nelson said... theres a place called. "lonesome town... where the broken hearts go"..... Maybe we could all meet there?
Ok........ here I go again.... making , this long enough to post.
How come the rest of you can post one sentence post ??????????????????????? | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 4/1/2007 8:05:04 AM | I am 55 and I met a man that was 20 years younger than me at ShugaMama.com 6 mos ago and I must say that I was a bit skeptical about this whole idea of dating a younger man. Now 6 mos later, I am the happiest that I have ever been in a very long time. I say go for it ladies !! | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 4/8/2007 6:44:34 PM | | I just also moved to a small town in PA and don't know anybody around. I too am in the same dilemma. What is one to do to meet other people. I'm 47 and don't do the bar scene and don't like to go out solo. I'm trying this online thing again hoping that I have better results than the previous two times. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 4/9/2007 12:57:35 PM |
volunteer somewhere… I teach internet classes to the seniors. They enjoy it.
This is great advice. Loneliness is the result of self centeredness. Mother Teresa was quoted once as "never being lonely."
Why? She gave and gave and gave.
Look for a senior citizen home or a facility for the handicapped. Or a community hospital or a shelter for battered women or the homeless. All of these organizations will be grateful for your help and you will meet some other incredible folks along the way.
You will be amazed how popular you become in a short time... and hey you will be helping make this a better world. How can you be lonely in a better world?  | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 4/11/2007 1:01:30 AM | Well, I guess I am lucky and unlucky. Lucky in that there is a limited public transportation system where I live, but unlucky because sometimes there are events I would like to go to-including POF events-that I just can not get to because I have no access to a car and the bus does not go there ,or if it does, it does not run at night late enough. But I have found a local deli and hope to find some new places this year, too.
I have been alone too much for too many years, and I know that really needs to change before it gets too late for me...Next step I think will be looking into some adult ed. or similar courses....Hope you find some *my places*, too. | |
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