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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/4/2009 11:01:57 PM | | When I was in Denver last summer I noticed a site called 'Meetup.com', which I thought could be cool if I lived there. It's about groups of people with like interests, whether it's dogs, witches, breast feeding, skiing or cultural connections.... there must have been over a hundred different interest groups in the Denver area alone! Has anyone tried this? Seems like such a good idea. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/4/2009 11:53:42 PM | Things to do in Denver when you are dead....... 
I always look for witches wherever I go...... ....or is that breast feeding???.....
OT........For those over 50, may I suggest the warmth and light......no matter where it might be?
I will be quiet now and leave.......
Just my opinion.......   | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/5/2009 12:00:49 AM | Go to a Bookstore, coffee shop, volunteer....mostly just do things you enjoy and that way you meet someone that you have something in common with.
Have fun
Pat | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/6/2009 7:04:29 AM | Hey C Deacon..... you guys in the Denver area supplied the groups  ...... I just mentioned some of the myriad possibilities available ... also included was yoga, quilting, free climbing and Akita lovers..... and an Italian group too. Not my fault you have an average population of 36 yr olds with lactating boozooms.
Always seeking the warmth and light.... but maybe others aren't ..... hopefully they're white witches  . | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/6/2009 9:02:14 AM | | Just get out and enjoy some different activities you may not have tried before. Golf comes to mind and I am sure if you showed up at a driving range there would be all kinds of guys that would be offering advise. Have some fun trying different activities and let the rest happen if it is meant to be, you will meet someone. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/6/2009 7:43:28 PM | | I checked out Meetup.com and they have it all over the country !! Nothing much in my area unfortunately !! Good idea for some though if its better in your area !! Thanks for the idea !! | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/6/2009 9:15:22 PM | If there's a library in the town where you reside, there are often adult discussion groups , or most towns have some type of community center where there may be arts and crafts classes or dance instruction for adults. My research always starts with the library in a town. Often they have announcements of local happenings near the entrance. I found this to be true on a visit to the New Orleans area. The visitors centers will have lots of information but if you want to know about free activities, check with the library and community center in a town. Following my divorce I got on numerous mailing lists that keep me informed of free events where I've had the pleasure of meeting people to chat with. Even if you aren't interested in cars, if a car show comes to town, go to it if you want a sampling of the men in the town.
The longer my companion quest takes the more I've considered starting a support group for women my age, in my area, so we can vent about our experiences. There are plenty of men my age in my area but they flit from flower to flower.
Any women my age in the Little Rock area that would like to get together for coffee, feel free to contact me. I've been to the POF gatherings and not enough guys show up, possibly because they're seeing too many of us at once so what would they do? | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/7/2009 9:00:41 AM | | When I first moved to Lexington KY I knew absolutely no one. It was super hard but the first thing I did was knock on the doors of my neighbors and introduce myself. Plus two neighbors welcomed me by dropping by with sweet treats, of course my house was still in the "I've just moved in and boxes every look" but I invited them in and shared my soda and their cookies. Now we have a that good old fashioned type neighborhood where we all know each other. My drawback is I can't seem to make myself go to events alone that are at night. Cause it means walking to my car in the dark. Bummer | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/7/2009 9:51:11 AM | Lookin4smiles;
Love that you introduced yourself to your neighbors! Isn't it amazing that we frequently fail to do this really simple little thing?
Suggestion re: going to events alone that are at night. As a friend, daughter, etc. to drop you off, then arrange to have a cab pick you up for the trip home. Wait inside, with a group of people (even if you have just met, there is safety in numbers) and ask the cab driver to call your cell upon their arrival. This allows you to avoid walking alone a distance to where car is parked, prevents you standing out on the sidewalk waiting for the cab to arrive, and you don't miss your evening event. One note of caution, it is always a good idea to be able to phone a friend or family member in the event that your cab ride doesn't show up. I remind my kids that there were many, many times I ferried them back and forth from school dances, football games, and movies - now it's their turn! | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/8/2009 3:03:42 PM | When the weather is warmer - or not - I seek water, i.e., lake, ocean, etc. It's peaceful and it calms me. Right now, my life has so many restrictions on me lately, I have nowhere to go except my truck where I sometimes have some pretty deep and dog-disturbing cries. Could use some of that water today ... it's been a real DOWNER! Rusty | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/12/2009 5:55:59 PM | | It seems lately I find it more enjoyable to swing by a friends house right after work, drop in for few minutes, say hi, and if they aren't busy and show they appreciate the company then I'll visit a bit longer. I never wear out my welcome and have a natural sense of when it's time to go my way. Then I go home. I find going home more and more inviting lately. I have also been a member of meetup.com for about 2-years now and we meet once a month at a different coffee shop and talk talk talk. But I think the best thing I ever did was meet my neighbors (see my earlier post). We just kind of visit back and forth just about anytime. I really love my little neighborhood. | |
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| Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/12/2009 6:58:58 PM | when i lived in northwest jersey, i ran my own singles groups. it was between marriages and i was in my early 40's. people came from ny, nj and pa, about 75 per party. a lot of single dads also brought their babies, because it was a homey atmosphere and no drinking,but lots of food and music! i had a big, strong biker housemate, so he made me feel safe about doing it. he also checked out all ID! if i could find someone to do the meetup part ,i would do it here. i would not put it on craigs list, too many crazies nowadays. i have one male friend in his 40's here who might be interested-- so, we'd just make it 40 and up! i do potluck with a cleanup crew and everyone feels like they belong, doing something. with my lymes i refuse to do it all by myself. my martyr days are over and i too "wanna have fun"! i have hosted other meetups as well.
i also was involved in al anon and made many friends there as well. my home meeting had about 100 people attending with many interesting people. i also went into nyc to my jazz haunts. it was anywheres from 60 minutes to an hour and three quarter ride, depending upon traffic, but it was worth it.
allentown pa, in the other direction, had singles dances at the airport, as did other nj areas. back then, most of them were meat markets. but again, i was just "learning". i believe these things are all pretty much still going on in one from or another. they also have single dances here. occasionally i met men from my work, but i was a very visible person and had dealings throughout the state, so i was very cautious. looking back, it was rather strange as my two worlds rarely came together. but, i covered a lot of geographic territory, so easier to get lost in the singles crowds. i finally met my second husband via a newspaper ad!
now in ca, i make friends with neighbors, have my local coffee haunts, beach walks, belong to jazz and indie film groups, plus several others. there are also a few good gyms. you can check out meet up dot com in your area to see if any groups started and if not, start one. we also have great bookstore gatherings and many music venues that range from crazy to laid back.
here, there are non traditional liberal churches to join that are not into "excluding" and many meditation type options. i also made some friends from pof and other single sites. not the "one"-- but friends are good! i was flirted "aggressively" with in the supermarket the other nite,by a really cute guy, but the cat caught my tongue! never was good at stuff like that with a total stranger and he kind of scared me, going straight for my "looks". but, i'm only shy until i get to know people! i am glad i am not living in an isolated area, based upon what i hear from pof e-buddies. | |
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