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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 11:31:44 AM | Blondie: You and I are on the same page here; please calm down. You are bringing other issues into play which are over and above this issue. Rape is a different thing entirely. This thread has nothing to do with rape,..at all.
Accept the poor gusy sanity is being raped; I suppose.
k?
Youa nd I share the same answers to his question..k?
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 11:34:09 AM |
Are you telling me that you find it difficult to be around your female family members, if they're not covered up from head to toe?
YES
They have traditionally been covered and are not uised to NA culture!! HELLLO!!
Frrosty - lovin' the debate, darlin'... but... pay attention... That comment was directed at Human Ills, not the Author of the thread.
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 11:35:52 AM | *scratches head*
otay.
P.S. I tried to send you my last message personally. I was hopin to keep my involvement here to actually helpin the poor guy with his very real potential problem. | |
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 11:39:42 AM | Okay, relax guys! I'm not going off topic, nor losing my grip... I just said that, by the same token as my comment about her 'showing skin', women USED to be found at fault, here in NA, for showing skin... just making a correlation to how things USED to be, nothing more.
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 11:42:48 AM | Directed at me? The only female family member I have is my mom. No problem not thinking of her in a sexual way. If I had sisters, I wouldn't want to bone them either. An in-law is not family in the same way.
And I think I did answer your question a few posts back. | |
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 11:43:47 AM | | sorry, frrost... maybe my restrictions prevented you? Anyway... honestly... I think everyone has pretty much covered ALL the bases in trying to, first, figure out WHAT his problem is, if in fact he has one at all, and make suggestions on how to handle it. | |
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 11:51:02 AM | Human, ya you did... I'm not the one brought it up again. lol
I disagree with your view point on in-laws, however... they ARE family when the vows are spoken. I have several nephews-in-law... great-lookin' sexy guys, every one of them... but never has a thought like that crossed my mind. Can't even bring myself to think about it hypothetically.
Not trying to force my view point on you, however... I CAN understand, to a point, where you're coming from.. lets agree to disagree, and leave it at that, shall we?
Friends? *holds out an olive branch*
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 11:59:24 AM | No, it's not the same thing he said at all... I'm not saying I have an issue with it, he is... I'm not saying that seeing them without their shirts on does anything to me, he's complaining about her showing skin. I don't care if they show skin or not, because I don't look at them as sex objects... they're my family. Even though I am aware of the fact that they are sexy guys, I don't 'see' them that way... understand the difference there?
And stop trying to get me 'riled up'. lol | |
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 12:07:07 PM | No, it's not the same thing he said at all... I'm not saying I have an issue with it, he is... I'm not saying that seeing them without their shirts on does anything to me, he's complaining about her showing skin. I don't care if they show skin or not, because I don't look at them as sex objects... they're my family. Even though I am aware of the fact that they are sexy guys, I don't 'see' them that way... understand the difference there?
And stop trying to get me 'riled up'. lol
1) He may have just voiced it differently; He, also, never mentioned being turned on. (language differences..countries etc)
[quote]One main thing is my wife's sister has a sexy body and she always dressing very sexually[/quote]
He is giving her her due as a pretty lady (AN ADVANCE IN SOME MINDS GIVEN EASTERN CULTURE..NO?) He COULD have thrown stones at her and tried to have her IMPRISONED!! sheesh. I think he is a good man. (my assessment and heart feeling here)
and..uh..well...
2) I wanna get ya riled up.
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 12:48:36 PM | The point I'm trying to make is... he IS voicing it... for some yet-to-be determined reason... my ONLY reason for voicing what I said about my family is to make the point that whatever they wear/don't wear, or do/don't do... it's NOT an issue for me.... because I just don't see them in that light. That's the difference.
2) No comment.
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 1:16:00 PM | Yes, when they're members of my family. They are compartmentalized in a totally seperate area in my brain... Men who are part of my family in one spot, men who are not in another. Be a totally different story if I was sittin' next to you  and you didn't have yer shirt on. *gulp*
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 5:24:15 PM | As I said early in the post:
He's just sitting back. He has not replied and I think if this were a true concern, he would have said something to his wife to begin with - not with fish!
That is why I believe that he is considering adultery - assuming this is an upfront thread.
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Something funny to consider sunder:
The football coach noticed that his star tackle, Bob had so many women
hanging around that he couldn't possibly handle all of them. So one day
he asked Bob, "Just what the hell is your secret?"
So Bob replies, "Well Coach, whenever I'm about to have sex, I always
whip it out and bang it on the dresser like a hammer. That numbs it and
I can screw 'em forever!"
The coach went home early one day, and went to the bedroom. He heard
his wife in the shower. Seeing a window of opportunity, he tore off his
clothes and started banging it on the dresser.
His wife stuck her head out of the shower and said, "That you Bob?" | |
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| How to approach wife's sister who staying with us
Posted: 4/15/2005 6:03:02 PM | Rencen you are an engineer's engineer!
Couldn't have equated that better with a TI-50.
LOL
On the other hand, Frrosty has a major point. Suggest get them both plastered and play strip poker for a few nights...... | |
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