| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/15/2009 1:43:40 AM | NONE OF US ARE MEANT TO BE ALONE EVER!!!
I WILL NEVER GIVE UP HOPE ON FINDING A WOMAN
SO PITY TO ALL WHO HAVE GIVEN UP
BUT ME NEVER! | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/15/2009 11:37:24 AM | I don't want to be alone either but it sure seems to be that way for me. I have come to realize that I needed to do some work on myself because I had built these huge walls that were causing me alot of problems in life. I have brought those walls down and turned everything over to a higher source. I feel now I am ready to find that special someone to share the rest of my life with. Hopefully he is still out there.
I've learned to be more patient today because my mother told me that good things come to those who wait. I keep holding on to that. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/15/2009 7:16:51 PM | well at this point in time we are all alone . sad to say some of us may always be alone.we need to love oursleves no matter what and never settle for any thing less than what you need and truely makes you happy .you might as well as be alone than miserable . :  | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/16/2009 2:04:30 AM | I am totally good just the way it is "however" yes,,,there is a cold spot in the bed next to me, Ive learned that isn't everything. There again, I can layout in my bed anyway I want to. I don't have to share the remote, I use less water, toilet paper etc...lol ok..just kidding . Some people are meant to be alone and its all in how you look at it. Like attracts like and I feel the same about thoughts, they attract like thoughts. If you come to terms with it and just skate through life accepting it..you probably will be. I won't accept it but I won't force myself to jump into anything just to be WITH someone either. I don't want to be alone but until I am literally swept off my feet, I shall remain so.. 
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:03:48 AM | | I don't have a lid and have only had one for a small portion over the last 15 years. I don't date alot cause I am kinda picky I want someone to match me and finding that is hard. I am surrounded by lots of good freinds who care about me. (and in some ways keep me coming on here by urging me to date and keep looking when I want to stop) I don't hold alot hope for finding someone and have planed my life financially keeping that in mind so that even if I don't I'll still be able to have a enjoyable life. Though having someone to go to movies, dinners, and things would be nice. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/16/2009 7:53:18 PM | Here's a concept to explore...
......Perhaps people who are alone have not encountered the person they trust to surrender themselves to...
....Perhaps they even believe they are healed and happy...
..but until you're able to share your joy...your passions...your love...with one special person...Are you really happy?
No...alone is not a natural state for people...but some have been damaged so badly that alone is the only way they really know and they're just too scared about other people's perceptions to make life changes.
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/18/2009 7:41:05 AM |
but until you're able to share your joy...your passions...your love...with one special person...Are you really happy?
Sometimes life throws people a curve and things happen which make it impossible to share joy, passions, and love with one special person. What about medical problems which disqualify a person to participate in dating or even consummating a relationship? Could not even bad love experiences be so bad as to have caused something on the level of a "medical" condition of the soul and keep someone in the "alone" circumstance?
Most importantly, does this mean these people cannot be happy?
I believe that sometimes we have to say, "I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, to be content."
From personal experience, I know that it is possible to be so used, so deceived, and so hurt that it is impossible to share anything but friendship. Yet I can say that in my being, I am so happy. I have learned that I am inherently happy within myself apart from anything else. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:07:54 PM |
I believe that sometimes we have to say, "I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, to be content."
From personal experience, I know that it is possible to be so used, so deceived, and so hurt that it is impossible to share anything but friendship. Yet I can say that in my being, I am so happy. I have learned that I am inherently happy within myself apart from anything else.
I disagree. I think once you have experienced the joy of loving someone and having it fully returned, even in a relationship that ends due to deception...your heart has still experienced that joy. And it knows what is possible, despite the way things ended.
So, is being "content" the same thing as being "happy"? Are you saying it's OK to be happy with being content?
I know in my case, I have to be able to give love and sense that it is being well received...as well as receiving love and sensing that it is genuine...for me to be happy. WHY? Simple...I feel I've got way too much to offer to ever be satisfied in not being able to share it with someone. While I'm perfectly fine being by myself, I can't say I'm really happy with it...and I seriously can't believe anybody actually "wants" to be alone...and is happy with it.
What I do think is people who are fine with being alone have something else they are wrestling with...a past deception, a lost love, a lack of energy to run the game one more time, something else not right in their life. To me, when everything is in balance, you just can't help but want to be with someone...it's a yearning in your heart.
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:00:28 AM | Sometimes I think it might be better than going thourgh the loss again - then I think that everyone needs someone - even me. I just have to allow someone in my life. It is really hard to let someone that close again. We are a social animal and we always seek to find others that we can be with - sometimes we just put up barriers that we are not aware of.... that we don't but others do. We need to be open for the communication and reception of new relationships in our lives. I feel a lot of us don't even realize that we are NOT receptive and open. I don't feel anyone is meant to be alone - it is a choice we make weather we are aware of it or not. It is something I am working on. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:35:29 AM | I am always open to whatever new and special people come my way....i find it impossible to be any other way...if i get hurt along the way, I "dust myself off" and get back in the game....life is too short!
People are meant to give "gifts" to each other...relationships may come and go...but there is always something to gain from each one.
As for being "alone"....i have too many good friends POF and otherwise and a wonderful family!
I'll find the RIGHT one someday, he's somewhere out there...I need just the RIGHT bait and a little patience.... | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:09:28 PM | I believe my Profile mentions something about how I'm SINGLE AND HATING IT???
Yeah you can be loney AND miserable
Me NO WAY! | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone?
Posted: 10/20/2009 4:08:15 AM | j!dub, with all due respect:
I disagree. I think once you have experienced the joy of loving someone and having it fully returned, even in a relationship that ends due to deception...your heart has still experienced that joy. And it knows what is possible, despite the way things ended. So, is being "content" the same thing as being "happy"? Are you saying it's OK to be happy with being content?
Just beacause we have experienced the joy of loving someone and having it returned does not mean that we weren't meant to be alone. I for one HAVE experienced that true, make your stomach flip flop, laughter, giddiness,heart thumping,jelly legs, weak knees,can't wait to see them again type of love for almsot 18 yrs. Then it ended..I AM saying...it IS OKAY to be happy with content.. I am much happier with content at the moment..Do I want more..of course..does it mean I will have it..NO WAY!!!! So the op asks.."Are some people meant to be alone" ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!! Does it mean they want to be..once again, of course not, but being alone does NOT make someone less than desireable it only means that they can pick up the peices, go on living, enjoy life and not lose their mind over being alone. Not only is that healthy that they can in fact go on, its admirable because being alone is in fact a very hard thing to do.
I know in my case, I have to be able to give love and sense that it is being well received...as well as receiving love and sensing that it is genuine...for me to be happy. WHY? Simple...I feel I've got way too much to offer to ever be satisfied in not being able to share it with someone. While I'm perfectly fine being by myself, I can't say I'm really happy with it...and I seriously can't believe anybody actually "wants" to be alone...and is happy with it.
What is your opinion is just that..your opinion. It surely doesn't make your opinion more valuable than others. What you believe and what others believe are two different things, just like someone enjoying being alone... its a PERSONAL preference..
<div class='quote'> What I do think is people who are fine with being alone have something else they are wrestling with...a past deception, a lost love, a lack of energy to run the game one more time, something else not right in their life. To me, when everything is in balance, you just can't help but want to be with someone...it's a yearning in your heart
I used to do that running around hoping "mr right" would just hop out of thin air and looked at every person I ever saw or dated as such.. what a waste of time. I personally am NOT wrestling with anything from my past or present..I am wrestling with my future but thats only because of our world the way it is today.. and of course I have a yearning in my heart..that does NOT mean I am going to get it.. I just may be that one person that is "meant to be alone" and until something happens to change that.. I am perfectly happy with the situation at hand..
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