| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 2/27/2007 3:07:15 PM | I work nightclubs sometimes, so I don't think there would be much of a choice either way, but yes, of course I would still go. Whether or not an SO would join me would be his choice and/or would depend on whether or not we were going out for a girls/guys night or not.
To me being involved or not has nothing to do with going out. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 2/27/2007 3:26:20 PM | Yeah - I would still go, as I've always gone to a club to enjoy the atmosphere rather than to pull. If I was with a trusted partner, I would be happy for him to go.
I used to have a problem with my ex-husband years ago. He would never go to a club with me, as he 'didn't like clubs', but always wanted to go if his mates were going. So I was never happy about that. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 2/27/2007 3:39:45 PM | | Of course! Since when did my interests all of a sudden change just bc I have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? If a guy or a woman falls in love with you the way you are, then there is no need to change interests. Clubs can be fun. I admit that I don't go to them as much as I did when I was in the 19 - 23 age range....but once in a while, it can be fun! And yes, I prefer not to go with him or her... | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 9/2/2007 3:10:07 PM | Ummm if my partner were into nightclubs I would probably find myself going more often.
The OP seems to assume that
1) All single people go to nightclubs
2) Only single people go nightclubs
3) The only reason that anyone goes to nightclubs is to meet prospective partners | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:49:41 PM | It really doesn't surprise me why people are divorcing left and right these days with such weird mentalities. Some of you are even in your 40's and should know better. Do you people even know what goes on at clubs? Speaking from experience, I talk to many guys and not to generalize my own gender but most of them (90%?) say they go to hook up with women. Now would I go to a club without the girlfriend? I don't think so, I wouldn't like it if she went without me and please do not hurl the "insecure" word around.
I am insecure, big deal, we live in an age where people cheat left right and center and I am supposed to be secure? Give me a break and get a reality check people. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:55:51 PM | I don't go to night clubs except when friends badger me into it, and I am single. So...No, I wouldn't go except to dance with her. There are better places to dance. So, very unlikely.
Would I go to a tavern or pub still? Probably. I like bar food. I like cider on tap. I like sitting with friends without distractions. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/12/2008 4:28:05 PM | i still go out clubbing even though im with someone, i like to go out with my friends, i dont go out as often, cos im with him at weekends, but i still think its fine, and i wouldnt mind if he did, i trust :) as long as hes not going out clubbing all the time then its fine.. anyway if i didnt like it id tell him! im such a simple person.. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/12/2008 8:24:07 PM | I don't get anything out of night clubs. Not my scene. But I do like to go watch live bands play a lot. I have been in relationships where my partner enjoyed clubbing, but not the bands. So she went to clubs with her friends occasionally, and I went to shows with mine.
I know people go to dance and listen to the music etc. To me they just feel like a meat-market when I am in them though. Just not an environment I like. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/12/2008 9:40:13 PM | Old thread.. but, I don't "frequent" clubs anyways.
I work from home, as does the rest of my department, and we all get together for a few days maybe once a year... if we all were in the office for a few days, and one night wanted to go out after work and hang out for a few hours, have dinner, maybe hit a local club for a few drinks... she'd be welcome to show up (if she wanted to) - but if it was a major "issue" then I wouldn't (although, if me hanging with the guys from work for a few hours *one* night when we all happen to be together was that big of an issue, it might indicate a serious lack of trust too).
Would depend on the circumstances I suppose - but other than like catered after work 'award functions' (especially when I worked at a place that did DOD contracts, she might not have been allowed in the building - purely for security reasons), she would always be welcome to come join us, and I would hope I with her - and a decision on either of our parts not to would not exclude the other person from going.
Then again, I would question why you would have an issue with it. Either you trust the person, or you don't - if you don't you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with them. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/12/2008 10:40:11 PM | When I used to drink to excess, (fourteen years sober now), I went to clubs a lot and as one who has been to clubs, no, I wouldn't care for my significant other to be hanging around in a bar. There's a lot of flirting, partying, dancing, and drinking going on at clubs. If we attended together, that's different, but to be with someone who is a regular at a club/bar? No, thanks. That's for the single party life, in my opinion.
What would someone in a committed relationship find enjoyable about a single's bar? They are spoken for and have made their commitment. They aren't supposed to be out attempting to score. And why would they be dancing with some other person who isn't their partner? It sounds like a good way to make one's partner feel jealous and insecure and unless both sincerely were okay with a very occasional girls night or guys night out, I don't think it's a real wise idea.
Furthermore, I don't drink so most likely wouldn't be with anyone who drank much at all. And the people I know who are truly social drinkers don't usually frequent bars or clubs because they aren't into doing a lot of drinking. A social drinker is someone who has one drink that usually lasts the party or maybe he or she sips on a second. I haven't met many people who only drink "socially" that hang out at bars or clubs. Now I have met a lot of people that call themselves social drinkers and they should rename themselves because their drinking is for the effect- and it is definitely not about the social occasion. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/13/2008 1:40:59 PM | The sooner you people realize that relationships are really "devotions" to the person you are with, the sooner you can cut this "single life but in a relationship" crap out.
It's called settling down for a reason and I'm not surprised that most of you on here are still single with such selfish attitudes towards your partners. Whatever happend to self sacrafice for the greater good? As in... not engaging in suspicious behaviour to make sure your relationship stays out of danger? I mean I know what people will say how it's about trust and bla bla how it can happen anywhere like a grocery store, but it's unlikely a sober man will try hitting on you in a grocery store, a club is a different scene entirely.
Also trust and respect go hand and hand you can't have one without the other. If your partner does not respect your feelings then they are not the one for you. It's just as simple as that. To any man or woman dealing with this, do not let them manipulate you into thinking that you are "controlling them" , that's a complete load of bull, it's called love and common courtesy, not wanting to lose them, they just use all the politically correct cards in the book to get away with it.
I just tell any man or woman out there ,if you are not comfortable with this kind of behaviour from your partner, you don't have to make a big deal about it, just leave. Compatible views are extremely important. I find it hilarious how people get so scared from news reports about terrorists and whatever but when people hear about cheating and infidelity non stop, all it does is re enforce their views about how it's okay to engage in unfaithful behaviour, what the heck is wrong with you people? | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/13/2008 2:18:02 PM | As for me, I am beyond the night club scene. It bores the hell out of me. I would hope to find a woman who is also beyond this stuff as well.
When I went back in my wild 20's I went to get drunk and get laid. I have gone to nightclubs with friends recently because I wanted to experience it down here in So Cal and 3 times it was a mistake each and every time. I felt like Neo in the Matrix after he was unplugged! 
I have found that there are 1000's of places that are actually fun to go to down here aside from the ever popular nightclub scene. As I say to people when they ask why I don't go, I just say, well I actually have a creative mind and can find much more entertaining things to do with my time. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/13/2008 3:44:15 PM | Women go to clubs to have fun.
Men go to clubs with carnal intentions
Everyone whos been in the club scene knows this is how clubs stay in business. Womens night free entrance fees drinks etc.. The guys follow and pay full price for everything.
Knowing that its a meat marketplace I do not understand why you would want your significant other to go there on a regular basis. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/13/2008 6:45:35 PM | I would go out clubbing if I knew there would a group of people / trusted friends / with someone who knows and respects my wishes (i.e not looking to hook up).
Being in a relationship doesn't mean giving up your independence or social life!!
As long as the trust and faithfulness to each other is solid there should be no problem.
If I brought my partner with me, who didn't know any of my friends - even better.. making new friends never hurt.
I'd feel honored if I was invited out by my partner to meet his friends.
Frequency?
Every few weeks...once a month?...Depends on your own preference. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/13/2008 8:18:07 PM | Being in a relationship doesn't mean giving up your independence or social life!!
As long as the trust and faithfulness to each other is solid there should be no problem.
What do you think when they mean settling down? It means backing away from the single life style and all the hangouts with your friends often and concentrating on your relationship (Okay sounds like marriage but relationships are supposed to be a preperation for marriage). The reason why people can't stay in relationships these days is because they cannot grasp this simple concept, then when things get complicated they start complaining and blaming the S/O for the relationship problems. Whatever happend to actually being devoted in a serious relationship? Is there so much mis-trust between the sexes now that people are too afraid to be 100% devoted? | |
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