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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:28:51 AM | | I don't do the bar thing anymore and girls night out consist of us girls getting together at someone house and cooking a great meal, getting tipsy, and having a excellent time, what more do you need than to be in the company of great friends in a safe environment. Who needs the bar scene when you are in a relationship. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/22/2008 9:14:59 AM | | Interesting thread, wide spectrum of views. Some way to conservative others to liberal. Nothing wrong with dancing or drinking or clubs. Problem isn't even SO or relationship. It is respect for both of you. If you say "he/she doesn't like clubs/dancing, and you do, why are you with them if it's so important to your life? Go to lunch with friends, or bowling or dinner or comedy club. You don't say how many of these friends are single/divorced? What if after 3 drinks out of 5 friends, 2 leave and other 2 are single? No one will approach you right? There are places other than clubs that play music, in NY we had restaurants that had live bands, you could dance if you want, but not alot of trolling going on there. You SHOULD maintain your friendships outside of your relationship, they were there for you before and will be again if you need them or they need you. BUT if your saying that your friends ARE more important or just as important as your relationship, then you don't belong in one. Sorry folks, you can't have your cake and eat it too. If you want to be with somebody it doesn't mean your locked away in a dungeon but it certainly means you consider your partners feelings first, that's right, first. Most of you have hangovers from controling relationships or were with someone and it got stale and boring. It's up to you to not let that happen to you again, but do you think going out once a week with the girls/guys is the answer? I wouldn't do it, is my simple answer. My 2 cents in.Bob | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/22/2008 4:54:41 PM | | I personally would not want to go without my s/o but it wouldn't be a hard and fast rule. There are several occasions where she got together with her friends and I either didn't go out or went out with mine. Personally as long as you are both ok with it and one is not left with nothing to do, what is the harm in hanging with your friends. The other side to it, is this a girls or guys night out or are you talking a mixed group and you are simply uninvited to go. That would for sure be an issue for me. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/22/2008 6:55:10 PM | OP,
I would absolutely go out even while in a relationship! Everyone needs something to do outside of their relationship. It's healthy. Going out with my girls for a club night does not mean I'm going to go cheat while in a relationship. I would demand that my significant other go out with his boys as well. Hell I couldn't care less if my man went to a strip club as long as he didn't touch the strippers...and he came home to ME! He can get all worked up....and take that work up out on me! :) But he has to also know that I then am allowed to see the Chip n Dale's men.
Relationships that work, are relationships where both parties have couple time and alone time. And clubbing with your guys or girls...is part of that alone time. It's healthy and natural. That's just my opinion though.
P.S.- If you don't feel comfy with your partner going to these clubs...then you have trust issues and therefore shouldn't be in a relationship. Again my opinion. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:15:57 PM | | This guy has the best answer. I can totally see how a partner would be uncomfortable with the idea. I allowed this type of behavior with my ex, and later found emails between he and women he had met at the clubs. Flirting, dancing, then slow dancing, then exchaning contact info, meeting up again, and before you know it they're having sex. Liquor has a way of reducing one's ability to adhere to one's sense of right and wrong, and inhibits self control. If you have a girls or boys night out, let it be at a restaurant or friends house - not at a pick up joint! | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/23/2008 5:03:48 AM |
I have to disagree with you somewhat, alcohol had nothing to do with it, he already had the preconceived notion of finding another woman.
Umm...Yup...sorry...it wasnt a matter of "oh sorry honey...I was p!ssed and I fell over and my d!ck just slipped in"
That behavior is actively pursuing other relationships. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/23/2008 5:13:16 AM | | I'm not someone inclined to go to bars or nightclubs, so I would only go on a social occasion, probably with a group of people. I would be happy to go with a g/f or a good friend if they invited me there to celebrate some occasion, but I'd prefer to have a good date with my g/f if it was to celebrate some event, at a place with some class but also some quiet so we could focus on each other, rather than being drowned out by talking or music. I think it would be far easier to express love and affection over some good wine and a nice meal out at a decent restaurant, than at a noisy bar or club. But, each to their own. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/23/2008 6:02:55 AM | Just a general question for you all..
If you are dating someone would you still go out to nightclubs when asked by a friend with or without your partner?
Would you see it as simply a girls or boys night out ....or would you say "hey if my partner is not going neither am I"
And how often would you be happy if your partner did go??
Cheers from Down Under....
I'd probably go since we only do that every so often. I wouldn't be doing it all the time, girlfriend or not. I'd be fine if the girlfriend wanted to tag along with my friends. I'd prefer going to a normal bar for a few drinks and some food over a club, though. | |
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| Would you still go to nightclubs if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 3/23/2008 11:08:41 AM | And how often would you be happy if your partner did go??
I'd really try to determine if our relationship had any issues. Never been with a women while exclusive that she wanted to go out to a club with her friends. If I did would be fine with me. Although I'd want us to go to the club together sometime. | |
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