| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/9/2008 2:26:28 PM | | I have been single since 2004, my sons have only met one man I dated and he happened to be at the house when one son came home. I normally don't say anymore than --I have a date tonight or I am going out with girlfriends tonight. I don't give them details. If anyone appears to be a long term, then I will at least introduce him if he is to be included in any family activities............. | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:28:28 AM | | I tell my kids everything, well I dont go into graphic detail about my sex life, unless its realy funny, lol. I find that the more open I am the less they are going to think they have to hold back from me. I believe in being open and honest | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:37:20 AM | I tell my kids everything they'd feel comfortable telling me..and that means..no details pertaining to sex. Somethings need to be all your own..IMO. | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:42:19 AM | I would like to add..I do leave ALL info on my pc..for my children (all adults)..about any date I may have..who..when..and where. I leave any..what..to the imagination. This way..should I come up missing or what-have-you..they or the police..have a start on how to find me. Happy and safe  to all! | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/10/2008 4:59:06 AM | | luck i quess got 2 lads one 18 the other 23 tell each other every thing ive been open with them all there lifes ,whats the point telling them you can come talk come about any problem if you dont talk openly about every thing in life | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:51:13 AM | My son and I can talk about anything. I would never get graphic about sex but the subject has come up in the past.
He has his tongue pierced and we were talking about it one day. During this talk he asked me "Have you ever been with a woman that has her tongue pierced". After I told him no he said "You should try it!!!!!!!" 
Over the Christmas holidays he and his fiance were up here from Georgia and the three of us were talking about relationships. They both think I should find someone much younger than myself ( a 20 something woman). I thought to myself "What are you thinking? I don't have life insurance!!"
He is my son, my friend and my buddy. He is no longer a child. I think part of the reason some parents can't or won't talk to their sons and daughters about everything is because they still see them as kids. | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/10/2008 3:47:59 PM | I never told my adult son (the 30-year-old) anything about my relationships except whether I was in one or not. At one point in time he was overly curious about what I was doing online and I felt it was none of his business.
When I was in contact with someone who, if anything, could only be called a friend from the past and he decided to make an issue of it I reminded him that "gee, I remember him works both ways".
I shouldn't have upped the ante because it was stooping to his level and as previous posters have noted, I'm the parent not the child. I tell my youngest child nothing nor do I intend to. Lesson learned. | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/18/2008 8:30:56 PM | My youngest (at 17) doesn't know all but my two 20-summins seem to know everything I do and me them. Sometimes it seems WAY too open but I love that we are secure enough to do that. And, yes we all support and also make fun of one another  | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:54:36 PM | I also have adult daughters, but i guess its a bit easier for me cos i am a woman
Your kids will only want to know whatever they're comfortable with
My daughters know i date, they know i use the internet dating sites. and if i feel the need to introduce them to somebody, i do
But they are 25 & 27 with their own lives so we dont obsess over each others choices etc...
And their is a definite 'line in the sand' re what we talk about and what we each keep private....
Occasionally they'll ask 'What happened to -------, that bloke you were seeing?' and i'll tell them if there is anything to tell...
I suppose what i am trying to say is it all depends on the kind of relationship you have established with them over the years, how open you are to each other and how possessive they are of their dad.
Good Luck
Maggie (In Australia) | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/24/2008 1:35:49 PM | You don't have to talk to your kids about anything that you find uncomfortable about telling them. I can talk to my son about anything without any reservations due to the subject. The problem is he lives in GA and I live in Mi so its hard to get talk to him at times. This is why I use email to send him video clips of my "adventures" but I do miss seeing the shock on his face when he sees me doing certain things with a woman!!!
J/K I don't send him clips of my adventures, that would just be tacky. I wait until he comes here to show him, there is no way I'm going to miss the look on his face!!!!!!!!
I know some people are going think I'm serious, sick, perverted and/or just plain crazy now.  | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/24/2008 3:43:37 PM | ^^^^ I don't think you are, because I love your sense of humor
If you ever come to GA to visit your son, let me know and we can have a coffee meet. | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/25/2008 12:32:34 PM | | How much do your kids tell you,if your kids are grown and out the house then its time for you to have a private life.I help raise five and I only tell them what I want them to know.If they ask me a question that I think is personal I don't answer and they know what that mean.By the time they are grown your kids should know what they can and can not do ,ask and can not ask you. | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 1/25/2008 3:50:17 PM | You'd Better Sit Down Kids
You'd better sit down kids I'll tell you why kids
You might not understand kids just give it a try kids
Now how should I put this I've got something to say
Your mama is staying but I'm going away
No we're not mad kids and it's hard to say why
Your mother and I kids don't see eye to eye
Say your prayers before you go to bed make sure you get yourself to school on time
I know you'll do the things your mother ask
She's gonna need you most to stay in line
Keep in mind your mother's gonna need your help
A whole lot more than she ever did before
No more fights over little things cause I won't be there to stop them anymore
I know you don't want this but neither do we
But sometimes things happen that we can't forsee
So try to be calm kids and don't look so sad
Just cause I am leaving I'll still be your dad
But just remember I love you and though I'm not here
Just call if you need me and I'll always be near
Say your prayers before you go to bed...
Well I have to go now so kiss me goodbye my eyes are just red kids I'm too big to cry | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 8/3/2008 7:57:47 PM | I only tell my kids what they need to know. Once they are grown and on their own, there isn't much I feel they need to hear from me. If it involves me, they don't need to know anything (no matter what age they are.) Now if they are messing up their life - I WILL tell them exactly what they need to hear. I don't bite my tongue where my children are concerned. I feel I have the right to live my life in privacy and they can ask whatever they want, if (and only IF) I want to tell them, then I will. Other than that, I inform them what I do is my business.  | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 8/3/2008 9:27:19 PM | | Children are very perceptive at any age and you are fooling yourself if you think they don't know what you are up to. Be truthful if asked | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 8/3/2008 10:37:22 PM | I dated this man last fall and at Thanksgiving he closed his account, then he told me he didnt want to listen to his daughter when she was home from college giving him *Sh1t about online dating. He said she used his email account when she was home. This poor guy also thinks his 21 year old cheerleader daughter has never had a boyfriend.
I think being honest is always the best policy, if they ask tell them the truth. You might be surprised about how supportative they are. I know my kids liked the fact that I was going on dates. Kids want their parents to be happy. | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 8/4/2008 10:32:54 AM | My kids are 25 and 26 both married into their own lives and careers. I have been single for 16 year. They are offended at the mere thought of me ever having a SO in any form.
I really think that they are more interested in my role as their supportive mother and not really concerned about the quality of my life. They learned to feel this way from the role model of their father. I am on this earth to serve them and their need. What I
feel or need really doesn`t count.
But I am getting real fed up. I tell them nothing. If I do end up with a partner, they probably will never meet him. Why would I ? So I`ll compartmentalize my life and just not be around them very much, and if I do have someone, it will be separate. It`s been their choice to act this way. They are adults. | |
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 8/4/2008 1:25:34 PM | I don't tell my 21 yr old anything! He knows I have male friends, but that's it. Until I fall for a guy, it doesn't matter who I am seeing, he's just a friend and I don't talk about all of my girl or guy friends to my family. If I EVER get serious about a man, then I will include him in all of my discussions, but I don't know if that's in the cards for me. Plus I want my son to understand I don't have a revolving door. Too many women go thru men like tissues and that's not a great example for the next generation. And I seriously doubt my son cares where I am or with whom - he knows and respects me too much to ask. And I do the same for him - I trust him and know he'll come to me when he has something important to share.
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| How much do you tell your adult children?
Posted: 8/4/2008 4:32:42 PM | | The only thing my sons know is that someone special is in my life. One son has talked to him on the phone and that was an intro to him being in my life and interacting with my sons on a permanant basis. Sons are 28 and 22 | |
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