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Posted: 3/8/2007 6:51:36 PM | I think he may be telling you about his feelings for this other woman to prepare you for what is in store in the future. Almost like what he said is only a fraction of what is reality. Something has probably already happened between them (something physical or maybe a chat about their feelings...but I am willing to bet the something is happening).
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Posted: 3/8/2007 7:52:18 PM | | A woman or man can feel they love two people at the same time. However, that is not what you want. I have no idea what he is telling the other girl or what she wants. He could be playing both of you. This guy is not responding to you the way you want. I would gradually distance myself from him. You were his rock, his universe, and now you are just someone he is hanging on to. How disconcerting that is. He isn't a man of his word or worth his salt. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 2:36:15 PM | first of all, there are two types of men.
1. the type that when they say they love you, they mean it.
2. the type of man who figures that saying this will give him the chance to get inside you.
Type one comes into two groups too. Both sincere, but one is like a fast flame, he feels his heart burn annd all that goes with it, but soon after it fades. It is like a short emotional attention span. Always needing that feeling, but he is not a player or a hunter of panties. I cannot explain that group. Perhaps they feel that like poetry, that love is a burning fire. At times reality in a relationship is for both too work hard. that part is i think unknown to him.
the other loving type is the real deal, but i reckon you haven't met him yet.
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Posted: 3/9/2007 6:32:41 PM | off topic I know BUT^^^^^MOON FISH
I felt compeled to say something.Why is it that a girl is easy,and not worth anything in your mind if she gives it up to soon? When you yourself are "giving" it up? Are women not to want sex until after a certain period of time before they are deemed "worthy"? Might be why some women wait and wait and then the guy gets put off by that.This double standard crap is total BS to me.Maybe because men have always been able to freely express themselves sexualy its acceptable for them to "put" out at any given time without being judged.I personely could care less about an acceptable time frame.Or if people have something to say.Im human.Maybe when I was younger id think I might be a slut if I "put out" to soon.....now I just think I act like a man.And in this day and age....get over it already.Or judge yourself by the same standard.Im gonna test drive before I decide to start a relationship.Yes It matters to me,been there done that with ex.....and women DO have needs...honestly..... | |
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Posted: 3/11/2007 11:37:34 AM | 3 reasons:
1. Because people don't know what love is....an infatuation disguises itself as love but will eventually dissipate like the morning due.
2. Because people are players and will say what you want to hear to get what they want
3. Because people fail to work at relationships....they do not understand commitment which means to work through bad times, learn to sacrifice and stop taking the relationship for granted. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2007 12:02:29 PM | "It's because he isn't in love and doesn't know what real love is. He is in LUST and thinking with his penis!"
While being totally ridiculous, this actually makes a fairly strong point. I'm not sure when we all started thinking that loving someone means our body turns off feelings for other people, but that's just not true. We cannot always choose who we have feelings for. We may even have stronger feelings for someone who is outside our relationship.
It is at this point we need to make choices, and they don't always have to be based on feelings. Which is something I think girls don't often identify with. Being with someone, having your body develop strong feelings (lust, infatuation, any of the sort) then CHOOSING to stay with the person because you love them and the relationship is a beautiful thing... that is part of loving someone fully, I think.
Strong feelings do not define who you should be in a relationship with. I have fallen HARD for plenty of girls that didn't give me any respect and were bad matches for me.
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Posted: 3/12/2007 7:53:01 AM | | i guess some need constant excitement and change in the relationship. some don't mind re-runs, some can't wait for the next season. | |
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Posted: 3/23/2007 1:16:05 PM | | from a guy whom i used to date quoted that god put men on earth to be with more then one women but only put women her to be only with one man. I disagreeded completely n that is probably why we r no longer together after 6 yrs .He still tells me he loves me, n these woman that he is still sleeping with means nothing to him. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 9:30:52 AM | | I think you answered it yourself. "If you love someone as much as you say you do...how would u fall for another person?" Obviously, he doesn't love someone as much as he says. I believe that actions speak louder than words and his actions are that he isn't in love, just saying he is. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 9:42:39 AM | Someone posted that there are different levels/types of love. This is very true.......and confusing at the same time. In my World I love my cat, my mum, my brothers and sisters, my friends and my bed...but I love my mum more than my cat as my cat is just an animal and we don't converse or swap recipes. I love my friends but I love the fact that they are my friends as opposed to actually loving them as individuals. Sure, I like them a lot but love to me is a word I only use sparingly. I can tell my cat I love her a million times a day but she's a pet and can't answer back and we don't argue about housework or staying out late with men...so it's easy to say "I love you, Guinness".
I have a male friend who tells me he loves me 10 times a day but I'm not as forthcoming as that as I don't believe the word should be used as lightly as that but as there are no romantic ties he can say it to me without consequence. This friend of your BF's.....if he has feelings for her then get out now. Even if he does "love" her in his own way there is certainly no need to be vocal about it to you as it's an unneccesary kick in the teeth and an ego bruiser. I feel that, as one poster put it, he is preparing you for something in the future. I could be wrong. Just a hunch. Free love was a fad in the sixties and has long since been put to bed. What's wrong with just liking someone a lot and saving love for a special occasion...or person??? | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 10:31:31 AM | Sorry, but "get out now" because he has feelings for someone else is just ridiculous. Every relationship is going to be tested in this way at some point, and to deny that is to deny being human. It's like a catholic priest who chooses to love God and only God - he's still going to have feelings for women, but he chooses to stay and love God.
No need to be vocal?? Of course there's a need for him to be vocal about it!! There's a few things in relationships called straighforwardness and honesty, and a lot of people value them. If you can't take his honest feelings and truth, then THAT is when you should get out...of any relationship, really. Learn to deal with reality or relationships will always find a way to kick you in the butt. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 10:37:57 AM | Ok maybe that was a little harshly written. All I'm saying is that in relationships sometimes it's more subtle to be a little discreet about certain things. I mean....you may have had to visit the clap clinic at some point in life but if it's not something that's going to affect the curent relationship then no need to talk about it. Bit like exes. Personally I like to get the whole ex chat out of the way as exes are what makes make us who we are today but some men absolutely forbid the ex chat to take place. I respect their wishes.
What I meant was, if he has feelings for her then why talk about them? I don't go on to boyfriends about how much I love my mum...that's taken for granted and doesn't need to be said. So if his feelings were innocent then why feel the need to mention them....is all I'm saying  | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 2:59:49 PM | | Your not telling us how often his contact with her occures. If he talks to her once or twice a week. I'd say it's nothing but friendship. If he talks to her often it's not cool at all, and something is going on. It's common sense that you would be hurt or upset by it. He wouldn't like it if you were talking to some other guy more than is acceptible.. But you are just as responsible. You've gotta' speak up. kenny :~) | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 3:44:40 PM | Sounds like you didn't believe him in the first place.
What's wrong with being friends with someone?
I know most players love all of their partners equally. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 4:33:35 PM | | I love... desk.... I love.... monitor.... I love...... wall. right now these things are benefitting me. Maybe you aren't benfitting him anymore. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 4:35:01 PM |
It's because he isn't in love and doesn't know what real love is. He is in LUST and thinking with his penis!
so I assume when a woman says she is in love she is only thinking about the possessions he can buy her? | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 4:42:40 PM |
He wants to be with me but continue to be friends with her and doesnt understand why im hurt?
What's wrong with him being friends with another woman as long as you are the one he wants to "be with"? It's very easy to see why you are hurt by him being friends with another woman and that is because you obviously have a low self esteem that causes you to feel threatened by the presence of another woman. This is not a very attractive feature in any woman and he is probably repelled by your lack of understanding that even though you are a couple, he has a right to have friends, no matter what gender they may be. I am sure he probably knows why you have the feelings you do, but refuses to give in to your selfish whims. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 4:52:41 PM | Ever watch a nature show...it is really against human nature for a male of any species to even stay around. Males are protectors....leaders.....and procreators (spell check). We mean what we say when we say we feel love....just lightning can strike more than once.
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Posted: 3/28/2007 5:18:50 PM | | Girl I would bail on that one and try to find someone that just wanted to be with me. There is nothing wrong with each of you having friends of the opposite sex as long as it is just friends. Saying all the things early though is a bit weird but sometimes you never know. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 5:34:16 PM | because he was most likely a pretty boy a$$hole. im really tired of all guys being judged because of what others have done. i realize that you have been hurt and i sympathize with you i really do. but this is why these things happen and why a lot of females are not having any luck on this site and also why im not having any luck on this site.
women on this site almost all the time on this site say " im looking for a real relationship with no games" ( this is not always what they are really looking for, what they are looking for ids tom cruises twin, honestly if most women werent so shallow about the way a guy looks then they would not keep hooking up with thes ***holes they keep complaining about.) a guy who is not a pretty boy will try harder in a relationship and do whatever he can to make you happy, this is me but i cant get no one to email me back . hmmm..... i wonder why, maybe its because i dont have the perfect washboard stomach etc etc. i know im not the worst looking guy in the world but im know also that im not perfect but i do know how to treat a lady right but the problem is these women who claim that they are just looking for a good honest guy are full of IT! all they care about is oh is he cute, oh my gosh hes so hot. well it is this attitude that finds all of you these ***holes you keep complaining about . if you disagree with me im am open minded and believe everyone is entitled their opinions. | |
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