| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/3/2007 12:25:59 AM | | its all about the jewels I get... and I dont mean the 'family jewels' | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/3/2007 4:58:20 AM | | Love the responses, thanks. I agree that there are many little things that make a relationship extra special. The generalities such as honesty, trust, etc., we all know. It was the small things I was looking for, those things that remind you why your there. And yes jolie has quite a list of exactly such things. I knew most of them but appreciate learning a few more. Keep it up, these things are nice to know. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/5/2007 11:40:07 AM |
I think Jolie nailed it,
Actually before I met him I was still unclear on what I wanted as well...He has shown it to me...Sometimes you just need the right matching...
Side note : why is it so damn hard to find a girl that wants that?
Took me almost two years on and off of this site to find it.....
Everyone wants it you just have to find your own Peaceful Calm....
BTW I have added 6 new items to the list.....
Wishing everyone here their very own Peaceful Calm! | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/5/2007 4:51:35 PM | "AND I control the remote..."
Oh a good husband for me wouldn't be around the tv long enough to need the remote
 I'd be his entertainment system. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2007 6:10:41 PM | I saw a show one time and the man looked lovingly at his wife and told her .......
"I make the living and she makes the living worth while !"
They just looked at each other and smiled. Now that was true love!
Goes to show you if you take care of your woman the way she likes to be treated then you will get respect and loving feelings back to you. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/5/2007 6:17:11 PM | I haven't read any of the other replies, so I appoligize if I'm repeating anyone.
I am currently separated, so I've learned a little, through the last 4 years, about what I really truly want in a husband.
First and foremost, I want someone who puts the wellbeing of the family FIRST. In all aspects. Financially, while I'm not saying I want a rich man, I want a man who won't spend his money on dvd's and xbox games, when rent is already 2 weeks late. Trying to do the best you can, and being responsible with your money means SO much more than the amount of money in your pay check, every week.
I want a man who understands, that when I say, "I want you home," - that I actually mean that I really do want him home, and I'm not trying to keep him from having a life. I need a man who understands that I need a break, and who understands that being left home with 3 kids all day can be hard - so if I didn't get a chance to cook or clean, that I might want some help when he gets home - and that NO, I don't just save the work for him.
I want a man who wants me to do what I love, and who wants me to be happy. I do the same - I was supportive of my husbands goals and aspirations. I would hope I could find a man who would be just as supportive of mine.
Basically, I want a man who's not selfish. I don't have to have 3 things that I want. I can sum every nit-picky little thing into just one want. I want a man who puts the needs/wants of others before himself. I want a man who's not selfish.
You'd think that'd be something easy to find - but I find that it's the HARDEST attribute to find in a man. Go figure. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/5/2007 7:10:03 PM | -The ability to communicate clearly...and the open-ness to do so often
-A calming, patient, optimistic attitude towards life
-intelligence
but, come on.....it takes way more that ANY 3 traits to make a good husband...but you said "little things"-so how about surprise romance? supportive gestures? washing dishes? winking from across the room at a party? spontaneous sexual encounters? shoulder rubs without the expectation of sex? running the bath water for me after a hard day? holding me if I cry? letting me vent then making me laugh? the ability to find humor in arguments or WalMart lines? One really good recipe that I canNOT, no matter how hard I try, cook as well? a love for all things cooked by me?
Yeah, that would do it-know anyone like that? | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/5/2007 7:10:10 PM | -The ability to communicate clearly...and the open-ness to do so often
-A calming, patient, optimistic attitude towards life
-intelligence
but, come on.....it takes way more that ANY 3 traits to make a good husband...but you said "little things"-so how about surprise romance? supportive gestures? washing dishes? winking from across the room at a party? spontaneous sexual encounters? shoulder rubs without the expectation of sex? running the bath water for me after a hard day? holding me if I cry? letting me vent then making me laugh? the ability to find humor in arguments or WalMart lines? One really good recipe that I canNOT, no matter how hard I try, cook as well? a love for all things cooked by me?
Yeah, that would do it-know anyone like that? | |
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Posted: 3/5/2007 7:13:56 PM | I am 27 yrs old and I am in the age range, where I have dated A LOT OF MEN in the past. I have taken every single unique experience in my dating life as a learning lesson. So, I can say that at this age, I am pretty KNOWLEDGEABLE on what I WANT in a husband or long-term man :
1. Courage. One who can seriously face and fight challenges WITH you.
2. Great mind. No, for real....he needs to be able to keep you on your toes, keep the conversation exciting and new, and MAKE YOU SEE THINGS in a very interesting and shocking way.
3. Combustible chemistry. Great minds think alike...which eventually lead to a great sex life....but you should be able to sit next to each other, fully clothed, and STILL FEEL LIKE YOU CAN'T GET ENOUGH OF EACH OTHER. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/5/2007 7:16:23 PM | I would have to say 1st a strong christian man
Next Someone that can make me laugh and can carry a good conversation
And Third someone that has some of the same interests as me thats one
thing I love about my parents they spend alot of there free time on road trips
or just hanging out together. I guess someone just as happy on the couch with
me watching a movie or going out on the town. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/6/2007 12:16:27 AM | Top 3? I can try.
1. Someone I can trust, who wont hurt me even in the small ways.
2. Someone who is on time home from work.
3. Someone who volunteers around the house, both outside and inside, without complaining. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/8/2007 9:18:53 AM | -ability to listen not just hear
-good open/honest communication
-trust me | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 12:44:31 AM | You want the "small" things? LOL!
Put the toilet seat down and replace the roll!
Don't leave your shoes/clothes/towel in the middle of the floor where I will trip over them.
Push your chair back under the table when you get up.
Small things, I know, but damn annoying when they're not done!! | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/9/2007 7:33:23 AM | my man should have self-introspective
my man should be faithfull
my man should be patient | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/9/2007 7:54:01 AM | | Jolie! Thanks for taking the time to type all that out. Saved me 10 mins! You hit it on the head! | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/15/2007 7:25:05 PM | 1) FAITHFUL! ( meaning they dont get interested or even consider another girl that way..... just been through that)
2)Shows his love and affection
3)Willing to take his time with you and compromise.
Theres lots that make a good man in a relationship the same goes for girls...and ya everyone is different with what they want and dont want in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 8:46:30 PM | Hi Stacey
I like that word FAITHFUL.
What you say could be applicable to both Men and Women.
I figure that if everyone in the world were Faithful, Affectionate and Accomodating, we wouldn't be here Fishing. We'd all be at home cuddling the Catch of the Day. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:54:09 PM | I want someone who likes to touch and be touched. Back rubs, foot massages, strokes on the arm, playing with my hair, these are all things I just love. I also like to do these things to someone, so my perfect mate would like to get these things too 
Science fiction, comic book, super hero, Harry Potter fan...these are all things I like and am interested in. My perfect mate would be into this stuff.
Someone who will be involved with me and my daughter. We go to church every week and I sing on the praise team. My PM would be a part of that with us | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 6/8/2007 8:18:01 PM | For me:
1 He makes me a priority/cares
2 He respects me
3 He "gets me" (understands the may my mind works and accepts it) | |
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Posted: 6/8/2007 8:21:48 PM | | Hey guys, talista has shared her pic with me, and she's a babe. I wouldn't watch much tv if she was my gf. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 6/8/2007 11:36:19 PM | With the exceptions of Sweetiepi's understanding her mind (or any womans, can't happen, we aren't wired to be able to do it, men for women, or women for men) plus it would kill the forums. Fluffypinkcuffs jewels (might happen later in a relationship), and a number of references to great sex,
(kinda hard for one to judge ones self objectively). I know there is at least one guy, (not saying who) has already done, and would be happy to do the majority of things mentioned for an SO once a relationship was established.
But strangely enough, also can't seem to get anyone to answer the few E-mails sent out. Don't do mass mailing, usually pick one, wait, deleted, pick another, wait, deleted, etc. But don't anyone say there isn't one out there, because there is, just seems to be the best kept secret in history. And now you know part of the secret. | |
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