| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/3/2007 6:07:41 PM | | Well it def possible to say it in less than a month, I don't think that makes it forever though at least not in my case anyhow. When he said I felt the same way, maybe we were both wrong but hey I gave it a shot and well I took a chance. It hurt in the end but at least I know that I won't regret having not tried at least. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/3/2007 7:45:41 PM | I wasn't aware that the human race had a specific 'body clock' programmed into the DNA that set the appropriate age or time spent before saying "I Love You"....
I know plenty of people who said "I Love You" within days of knowing each other....and were married four months later.....and have lived HAPPILY ever after for over fifty years of marriage.....
Just out of curiosity...do you always let 'modern society' completely dictate what is right for either you or your friends? | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/6/2007 7:27:29 PM | | yeah, this is not possible, u are supposed to play the game for a year restrain your feelings, date 5 other people at the same time. theres your secret in finding true love. thats the impression im getting from some peoples views throughout this forum | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/7/2007 11:30:10 AM | LOVE "THIS IS A WORD US TOO OFTEN" some people never use the word unless it means something... How I feel is Love is used as a jester of affection. Real Love is proven but action. U can say the words but if that person the u say u love was about to be hit by a high speed auto would u push them out of the way and replace their life with urs??? Now that is true love..
Passion is what most people feel at the start Or Lust... The need to feel wanted is very strong by everyone. Yes hearing the words feels great but won't u like to know the words are the truth not just someone sayng it for the purpose of honor...
I want the whole package in my life!!! Desire, Passion, Lust, Commitment, Honesty and last TRUE UNconditional LOVE
Just my feelings.....  | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/7/2007 2:33:25 PM | I think its truly presumptuous for anyone outside the relationship to try to define what two people feel. Maybe better words would be "I'm FALLING in love with you."
Who KNOWS how much time, or the TYPE of time two people have spent. I hear people admit to believing in soul mates on one hand then saying that you can't truly love someone in a short time.
I say yes. If its there, its there...sometimes, the "click" is so loud you can hear it.  I can't presume to judge or gauge the feelings between two people. If you are lucky enough to find someone who is genuine and up front...who doesn't mind speaking their mind even when it doesn't make them look great, then absolutely, you can love that person in three weeks.
Been with my guy for a few months now and I'm more sure of it every day. I knew it in about that same amount of time. He is MORE of the man that I believed he was with each passing day. Not less.
So, ya. "I'm falling in love with you" is probably the most accurate, but if folks just say those three little words, then fine....they believe it, its true. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/7/2007 4:01:21 PM |
If you love someone tell them, because if you don't you may never get the chance to"
well said stitchaka626
I have been with someone for a little over 6 months now. I started to fall in love with him within the first month that we dated. It was about into the relationship that we both said it for the first time. We are still together and deeply in love with each other. So really there is not "time line" for saying I love you. It's all what is in your heart.
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/7/2007 4:56:54 PM | how is it not possible -
people have feelings - why not - who are you say they are
not in love - why - is there a time table on love - do you
need to know each other for a certain amount of time -
Listen -
just because there are people in this world who dont believe
you can fall in love sight unseen on here or
you dont know each other long enough does not mean it does
not happen - some people in this world lead with thier hearts not thier heads
anything is possible. Because society dictates it - does not mean
it is true-
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/7/2007 6:44:33 PM | | ^^^ Yep. If you don't know someone and you think you are in love, you are projecting. You want to believe that person is who you would like them to be. But, you don't really know that person's true character. It might be love, but only time will tell. That is after you really get to know that person and the initial effects of infatuation has worn off. The people that think they are in love when they first meet, then say I love you within weeks and within months get married, are the ones that end up in nightmarish relationships and end up getting divorced. Well, at least they are more likely to get divorced (BY FAR). Sorry, those are the stats. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/7/2007 7:07:30 PM | | it begins ....and you know......that what has developed is unique for both of you.....a wonderful feeling ....that both of you experience......emotionally and physically.....for some people it never establishes itself..........for others it may take years with all it's ups and downs ......some get lucky quick............love is all in YOUR mind .......no matter the length of time | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/7/2007 9:46:47 PM | I dont believe that anyone other than yourself should decide what you feel.
Its not right for someone to judge your feelings period, let alone based on their opinion of a timeline or "schedule". You can't schedule a relationship.
I am the type that knows early on, very early on, if it will work out down the road. I can tell based on how much that person cares, if I am willing to accept them for what they are including their imperfections and flaws. I also know if I would accept taking on challenges together with them. These bring me to the conclusion if I could imagine life without them. I dont really care that "things might come up" because they do and will, in all relationships. That does not mean that I should sit back and wait for my life to happen while someone else decides what I should do or how I should feel. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/8/2007 2:27:19 AM |
I wasn't aware that the human race had a specific 'body clock' programmed into the DNA that set the appropriate age or time spent before saying "I Love You"....
I know plenty of people who said "I Love You" within days of knowing each other....and were married four months later.....and have lived HAPPILY ever after for over fifty years of marriage.....
Just out of curiosity...do you always let 'modern society' completely dictate what is right for either you or your friends?
Kudos for this comment.
Two people can fall in love as soon as they stop being afraid, open their hearts, and try to connect with each other. Today's society however, dictates that having an open heart is BAD, because it means you are needy, weak, over-emotional, unrealistic, impractical, immature, foolish, unwise, etc, etc. Which is rubbish.
If people want to protect themselves by building up walls around their heart which necessarily take months to break down to the point where you can 'love' someone else, then by all means they are welcome to do so. However, it does not make the feelings and connection experienced by those who chose not to do so any less real or respectable. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/8/2007 2:57:12 AM | Love is largely understood by EXPERIENCING it.
Years of living and having "good" and "bad" experiences to refer back to will help you to figure out what's real and what's a bunch of crapola. So my guess is that these people you speak of are very young and have little experience in this area, they have little or nothing to compare their feelings to. So....they feel a little "tingle" and think "WOWEEE ITS LOVE BABY!!!"
Love is also somewhat defined individually...we each have our own perception of it and what it is. So it's possible their individual requirements for "love" are met in an instant, ready-mix, fast food, drive thru style. Hey......if THEY call it "love" between themselves, who am I to argue?
I might think its dumb as hell, superficial and immature...but I won't argue with them to do what feels right to THEM. But if a guy started dumping that load on me in a few weeks I would think he's a desperate, whacked out nutjob, and he'd be OUT. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/8/2007 5:23:56 AM | | Babydoll: I agree with you. I've been blasted before on here because I firmly believe in order to know someone it takes time. Everyone goes about it at a different pace. I like to take my time. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/8/2007 3:00:57 PM | Its very possible, provided there is a GOOD chemistry between the two and you really like another, but saying you love them within a month or less can be quite risky, you havent got the chance to fully know them yet, whether you spend every day or just a few it doesnt matter men dont show their true colors until theyre comfortable with you.. even then they dont open up so just be careful ways to know if theyre getting more comfortable is if they dotn shut their phone off when with you, or if they dont walk away when they recieve a call or even if they tell you about everyone he may run into with you.. then its getting better...
Do not mistake love for lust for it is VERY VERY easy to do.. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/9/2007 9:28:57 AM | | OP, once you've been 'in love' it's much easier to recognize the next time it hits you, IMO. They say everything's 20/20 in hindsight and it's true; it took me a long time to find out what really being in love was, but one time while in a new relationship, as I looked back on past relationships, I knew then that what I had felt before wasn't being 'in love' and that what I had now was. That's only happened twice in total, and though the relationships didn't last, I learned from them...and though it takes time to get to know someone, as one gets older, has past experience they've learned from, and knows what they want, it gets much easier to find out if what they have meets what they want. So, sometimes, it's not hard to know that you want to move to the next level with someone, or that you're in love with someone, sooner rather than later. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/9/2007 9:33:56 AM | | i take it that there are a lot of ppl here that do not believe in love at first sight. there are a few that do. i happen to be one who does believe in love at first sight. lets not mistake that for lust. you'll know the difference if it ever happens to you. there is just something there that is unexplainable. something that is stronger than physical attraction. i really can't explain but to say that you would have to experiance it first hand to know what it is like. | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/9/2007 1:13:15 PM |
but saying you love them within a month or less can be quite risky
true thats how i feel at times but then i realise quite often the the greatest risks can lead to the greatest rewards, so doing nothing can be a bigger risk, its just best to honest | |
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| How is possible to say I love you in less than a month?
Posted: 3/9/2007 4:55:09 PM | It's possible ~ and I've done it myself... OOOOHHHH! he was GRAND! Pretty outside and inside ~ or so I thought. We had fun together in all kinds of ways! We broke it off 2 days before we were to head off to Sanibel Island to make love and eat seafood for 8 days. (I took myself to Mexico instead!)
But honestly and in my perfect vision ~ hindsight ~ it was the thought of him more than it was actually him. I wanted to meet someone, I was a bit lonely, and he had all the traits that were on my inane list of "the perfect guy." Time passed and I got to know him better, and he turned out to not be someone I'd actually like to spend copious amounts of time with. And he felt the same way about me ~ from the beginning to the end. It really boiled down to my own unrealistic expectations of someone to "make me happy" ~ and that's one helluva load to throw on someone's shoulders ~ if they have a brain in their head they'll balk every time, no one can live up to it.
My girlfriend Margie always says, "Up like a rocket, down like a rocket." That's been my experience at least. | |
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