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Posted: 7/18/2005 3:41:27 PM | | Lets face it, woman get emotionally attached. The key is to be able to seperate the emotions from the real thing. Some woman are very insecure with in there self. and cant see true love, they have blinders on. Oh and that doesnt make them a bad woman either because they are like this.. But then, you men wouldnt want an unemotional woman, thats what makes us woman. Pick a woman who is confident in herself and her life and happy with herself. If she doesnt like herself and not happy with herself then she wont make you happy. Lisen to your heart, if the flags go up right away Run. By the way, we are not all like that. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 11:17:29 PM | Key word there was "they started serving us drinks." She probably really liked you and was thinking out loud. Drinking loosens people up so be careful about that. The truth shall set you free,....literally. I understand what you mean when you feel that you need to bring honesty to the situation. Man or woman in that situation, I feel, he/she should have a moral obligation to respond honestly. It's not something we can answer just because we're women. Believe it or not, a man's thought process can be somewhat confusing or questionable as well. Just try spending a little more time talking to them online before you meet, so you can get a better idea of what they are really like, or what they are really looking for. In that ladies case, tell her you're not interested in moving that fast.  | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 9:12:45 PM | Beats me, I'd be happy if they just showed up...Getting tired of excuses, it is just one date, try it and then make a decision. I can't tell if there's chemistry unless I meet someone in person...Men do play games too, if you really are shy, take a friend or chaperone....I'm a late bloomer and I'm still learning.... | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 5:54:27 PM | | No Batteries, I do not think your issue is gender specific. I have met men from out of town who start talking about selling their homes, finding a new job and moving to Orlando. That simply scares me. I have a male friend who falls in love after he gets a second date. He of course has them running for the hills in no time. When I am on a date I am dealing with the here and now, and simply enjoying their company and getting to know the person. I never have expectations. What will be will be. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 7:41:41 PM | Sounds to me like she was honest, she told you right off the bat, SHE WANTED YOU.
YOU SHOULD HAVE TAKEN IT AS A COMPLIMENT And if you were not interested, just have said so.
We can take it, and appreciate REAL HONESTY.
Live and learn! | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 10:04:01 PM | nobatteries
not all women are the same , i have the same question except regarding men...
why do they want to know everything about you down to your address and phone number from the first e mail and why so many men who i hardy know already think, i am ready for a date with them and want to meet me as soon as possible, and slso met that i just met for some reason think i am so desperate i cannot live with out them, so they want to meet me before even knowing me
qs for woman and men, all tend to be pretty much the same then it comes to a dating site
just a few excceptions i met, who just want to get to know each other, and talk for sometime, to better know each other, maybe at one time saying...and only one time,"maybe we will meet in real life sometime, if that is a possibility, ever"
now that line i could understand...makes perfect sense to me
so dont just judge the women, men do the same to women
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Posted: 7/7/2006 10:11:11 PM | Nobatteries, Take it as a genuine compliment and then RUN! LOL. It has been my observation that anyone who gets attached that quickly will smother you. No one should have pre-concieved notions about a future with someone they just met for the first time. I always look at a first date as a chance to talk and feel out the territory a little, just to see if we have enough in common to have a second date. I never assume or expect anything further than the next date until I truly get to know a person.
Hang in there. Someone will come along who wants to progress at the same speed as you.
I met one man who told me on the first date that he had custody of his one-year old daughter and thought I'd make an excellent mother for her. In the first 10-minutes of our first meet. Hmmmm .... Bub-bye. He obviously wasn't looking for a partner for himself. I love kids but I'd have to love the man too. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 10:18:17 PM | and one more thing some people fall in love on a first date...and the relationship last forever...sometimes falls gradual apart with years
some fall in love on the second time they seee that person, the result are the same as above
some fall in love at first sigh....with the same above result
some fall in love with a few people at once and are just confussed in who they really want and that is because they are either, lonely, codependent, dont know what the realy want or just some head cases...people like these tend to have been married more then three times by their early thirties, with not very long lasting elationships
some decide to get married on the first date
some decide to get married on the first date, and before that first date started they were afraid to even get rejected for a date by what person...this is from true stories i know
some to get to go out to just hang, fall in love, are afraud of seeing this person again, but then the do sometime later, they decide to get together, even if they are in relationships, and then shortly after get married, with resuls of the 1-3 example
some are on a rebound, and get together with someone, and if there is a mutual atraction, they get married pretty quick with above results
some are just on a rebound and by thinking if they get married the sooner and quicker especially if they like the person, they wont no longer feel the pain of lost love....this usually dosent work that way, but in rare cases it does..........
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Posted: 7/8/2006 5:33:17 AM | Sorry, that you went through all that -- it seems that woman was desperate to find anyone to be the 'man' in her house. I hope you find what you are looking for and do not give up. There are some really nice women out there who want the same things you want. I understand all too well what you have written about people not responding to an email. Emails are sent by those who think you might be a good condidate to get to know and they took the time to write that email and if you do not respond then you are being discourteous and disrespectful. I tried to email you, no batteries, to tell you this -- so I hope you come back here to read some of the responses to your question. Take care and have a great day! Darlene | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 8:29:52 AM | First of all I would like to tell you that woman that can not be open minded and honest with themselves..Often can not be honest with their profiles.
You have to really read a persons profile and see what their needs and wants are.
Love doesn't have a timeframe however you can't express feelings of connection unless that true connection is there.
You can listen to someone with your mind but you need to follow actions and expressions.
Communication is a High priority in any relationship....friendship intimacy...or long term.....
Anyone who talks like that so fast in a relationship is not honest....
You will find your solemate..Be patient........and most of all SMILE | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 8:40:54 AM | To enlighten You,
First of all she was much too anxious on the first date. She really should not have stated "how great it was that she had found someone who was her soulmate" She just met you.....how can a person think you are her soulmate when she doesn't even know you very well yet. When she said that she liked short engagements........any man would have run for the hills. That was a little too much and over the top for a first date. So sorry for you.
You are right.....Both men and women should be honest all the time. Not ONLY on the first date.
It really sounded like she was excited, but she should not have tried to read too much into the date and come with such EXPECTATIONS. I never do that. Dating should be relaxed and casual at first until you really get to know the other person and then share hopes and dreams. This is a great example of What Not To Do On The First Date.
Take care of yourself and you continue to always be honest and expect the same from Women! We are ALL Not The Same. Some of us are what you are looking for. Some are what you are deffinately not ! The same goes for men out there too.
Phyllis in Crestview FL | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 9:03:18 AM | I find the same with men, they appear to want something casual then all of a sudden after one date, they want to get together the next day & do something. I mean I guess if it was a mutual attraction then fine but don't you think people can read those signals? I do not give off signals to someone that leads them on if I don't feel that chemistry. Maybe it's the people we are & we attract that type of person, I don't know. I never stated in my profile that I was looking for a future anything because frankly, I'm not so why would a man looking for something serious even bother to contact me to begin with. I don't like brazen people & to me that woman sounds pushy, just as much as the guys that decide it's ok to start calling you all these gooshy names when they don't even know you, it totally turns my stomache.
So there you have it, from the female perspective. I for one have already done the married with children routine for many years so I don't feel the need to repeat that, it's time to just go have some fun, why some people feel a need to always have a long term person or spouse in their life is beyond me. But some do. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 7:05:28 PM | Well.... I am not sure what they are thinking ... Security? I know courtship for me takes awhile. I dont just say hey lets get a house and marry..I dont care how cute you are.. If I cannot get into a conversation with you about anything.. there is no point in marrying a person. Some women fall inlove with the idea of being in love. To me it is a little out there. But I have to be frank some dates I have gone on with men recently...Are just as crazy ...One wanted me to meet his kids after me talking to him for an hour... Another asked when we could get married. after a date... Another asked how I felt about dating just eachother again first date. I am thinkng it is in the water and not only women.. So maybe it is just the fact they dont enjoy being on their own. Shez the only thing I miss about a stable relationship is the cuddling a person. I miss that. But other then that.. Marriage is serious commitment some may feel they need that to move on in their lives. Some may settle for they feel mr right is not out there. Then there are some that believe taking it slow means just that to get to know someone fully.. inside and out.. As for me personally dating is just that to see what the other is like and to get to know someone. I am all about falling in love but I would need a serious faith boost to make such a leap. So if they are already planning it on the first date run .. Run like no other they are either insecure or seriously mental. Good luck on finding ms right..  | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 7:16:56 PM | Who are these women u are meeting???? maybe they're getting all the dates because i'm getting no dates...
i have no desire to get married....i'd have to meet someone pretty damn special to even have it cross my mind...and in four years of online dating...it's crossed it once and he was the one rushing things...not me...plus it was more of a living together, not marriage thoughts...and that didn't work out in the end...
i haven't met anyone marriage worthy really...well maybe some of the younger men i've dated...they'll make someone a nice husband someday...but not me...
ok...so i guess the whacky girls get all the dates...us normal women are apparently boring | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 9:39:08 PM | | My take on all this is different,I give the woman credit for being upforth and honest ,about what she was looking for,I mean why should she waste her time with you,if all you are looking for is a few casual dates,this woman probably had a profile that said she was looking for long term,I dont believe she should be talkin china with you,but at least she let you know what her true desire for dating was all about,and maybe she will find a man who thinks and feels the same way as she does,doesnt make you bad or her,just on different levels as far as what you want out of life!! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2006 1:51:58 AM | Run like you are in a marathon.......dont look back!
someone who shares such intimate things on a first date is not stable!
red flags- stalker or desperate, and im guessing you need neither!
first dates should be simple, I dont even think I would go to dinner on a first date.. coffee is perfect....if the date seems to go well, move on to lunch or dinner, and if its not going well, nice quick easy way to bolt without hurting feelings! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2006 4:44:20 AM | biological clocks???? maybe if they've never been married....or have no kids...I think the majority of us older women on here have been there and done that...and it's actually hard for me to find men who don't want more kids...I think it is more early 30's that if a woman has not been married and has no kids that her clock is ticking loudly...late 30's early 40's we've already been through it or realize...maybe it wasn't meant to be...my friend who is 42 now, used to freak out back when she was 34 that she'd never have another baby...it took her a long time to accept that it was most likely not going to happen...and when her ex husband had a baby with another woman, she was really devastated...
because many men want women without baggage (exes and children) they may get involved with women who want the whole marriage/kids thing as soon as possible...whereas someone who has gone through divorce may just be a bit more careful about going through the whole marriage thing again | |
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