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Posted: 4/25/2007 2:09:36 PM | | long story... i'd rather not talk about it THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!! how'd the conversation change? aren't we supposed to be talking about younger men with older women and staying out of my nonexistant sex life? | |
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 5/17/2007 5:41:24 PM | hey marie this is one olderman who would like to played pool ,
or hangout and listen to a band , the down side is your in queens
and Im in the Bronx, sorry | |
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 5/27/2007 2:25:45 PM | To me , a man is a man. When a male or female hits the real age of maturity (which I think of around 30) it's the same and it can be combustible. Sexy is sexy. If he or she is sexy young/they'll be sexy old (til the ticker gives up the ghost.) But the issues can become considerably different. Even with men my own age (55), the issues can be different. Very often, men will forge a second marriage with a younger women. When he splits from that one, he is having to deal with yet another set of financial and family obligations, but much later in his life than mine.. That typically means he will not be in the position to be footloose and fancy free. He can't just take off. He's gotta juggle weekends and fix it into the budget, etc. Also, these guys often get into a 'bachelor' head. They know they can score for a month or two with a woman. So they might run with the pretense of a romance before getting tired and cozying up to the couch again for whatever sport is in season. When the hormones get popping again - there's usually another middle aged lady to pick up the slack, thinking she's hit paydirt LOL (Oooooooo he's got a good job - yeah, that's what his first two wives thought . How funny are we?? ) It really becomes a cycle of going to dinners and hoochie coochie and dudding out and starting all over again. (I sound so cynical LOL) It doesn't necessarily encourage me towards a young guy because a young guy is not looking to walk into my sunset years... and that's my fantasy - a man til the end.
I find if a young guy flags me down I'll be flattered, of course, but if he's real and sweet - I'll usually encourage him to go find a young woman (fresh faced and tight) and make her a wife and mother. There's magic in parenting; even if there's little magic in marriage - - parenting lasts for ever. | |
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wocali
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Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 81 | |
| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:18:44 PM | | someone on here did hit the nail on the head i forgot her nic but she said that most men her age just want to settle in , go to sleep early, etc..im 49 i no my pro says younger but thats bcoz im not ure typical 49 yr old .i workout and dance and love to party,,my son is grown now too and now is the time i can party...not when he was young..i was settled then staying in and cooking dinner etc..so the young guys do have more going on in that department...what really matters is the chemistry among two people ,not the age and for me there is no chemistry with men my age.... or even in their 40's.....barb | |
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wocali
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Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 82 | |
| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:23:20 PM | | i just had to add one more thing..the truth f the matter is this....this is how it usually goes and correct me if im wrong.couples meet and get into relationships in high school...sometimes they last sometimes they dont...then they go on to meet people in college...and if there is no luck there then at work...so if u meet in school then u have no choice then to meet amongst your own age group but at work ,,anything can happen..ok theres my 2 cents again and i hope we picked up some steam lol | |
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Posted: 5/31/2007 8:13:23 AM | | lol, that's true. most of the older women i ended up dating i met at work. and most of the younger women i ended up dating i met at school. never really thought about that before. | |
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Mia828
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 84 | |
| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 5/31/2007 2:14:42 PM | Hi Wocali
That would be me...It's sad but ture. Trust I could go on and on about why I just don't like to date older men. But then it would turn into a book
See I know that I feel more chemistry with a younger man, then someone older. But once again that's just me...And I'm for one that really has a zest for life. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2007 2:30:22 PM | OK, I'm confused. Your profile says you're 33. You wrote here 49. Any chance you could clear this up or should I take the average and call you 41. I feel what you're saying though. But age is just a number! I often forget I'm not 18! (esp. like yesterday when I get carded buying someone smokes..). You must hear a song.MUST. You'll love it. "Middle Age Blues Boogie" by Safire and the Upity Blues Women.
Oh, another question. Are you sure you're not trying to just feel younger by being w/ younger men? I know when I was younger I couldn't guarantee I'd satisfy a woman every time. Now, if it's fewer than 10 I'm off my game . And in fact, I've been with younger women who were just amazing! So again, the age thing. Don't let it get you twisted. Getting old is mandatory. Feeling old is optional!
Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter. ~Mark Twain
The years teach much which the days never knew. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
and the best....How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were? ~Satchel Paige | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 1:32:52 PM | I was in a relationship with a younger man. He was 9 years my junior. This kind of
difference truly did not make much of a difference. We also made a nice looking couple. I believe and have been told that I truly look and act younger than my age. It also depends on the maturity level of the younger man. It can and did work for a time.
Unfortunately, it did come to an end, but we remain friends today and he has gone on to marry a very nice lady. Age did not play in the relationship ending.
Now when it comes to younger men such as twenty to thirty years my junior, well we
just do not have anything really in common. How could you other than possibly the
physical attraction which eventually this wears away and there goes the so called relationship. | |
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wocali
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Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 87 | |
| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 6/12/2007 11:45:03 PM | | WELL I PREFER TO KEEP MY REAL AGE A SECRET ..its a woman thing...ok 49 was a typo ok?..just pick a number u feel comfortable with a go with it..lol..all i willl say is that im over 21..end of story... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2007 9:30:08 AM | Great points on this forum -- (well, a lot of great points and some ridiculous ones  ) ... the way I see it, finding someone you truly click with is a rare enough phenomenon that you'd be silly not to go with it, whether he is 5, 10, 15, or 20 years younger (or vice versa) ... it's a lonely planet out there!! Sometimes, depending on the person, I find I have more in common with someone whose age is 15 years younger or older than me, than I do with someone my age ... it's all about the two people, not about the two numbers that represent their ages!
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Posted: 6/14/2007 11:23:33 AM | | Exactly right Quantum. I really hate the whole age debate. I have met 18 year olds who are far more insightful and wise than other 50 year olds I know. It seems that in our society age becomes an ongoing benchmark by which we are all judged. Other than legal issues like driving and purchasing alcohol, I try to ignore numerical age and simply take the person for who they are, both men and women. Consider how much we limit ourselves by accepting certain age parameters from which we "should " try to find someone.Meeting 18-50 year olds triples my likelihood of finding someone over 25-35 year olds.And that's just for dating. Who can say they just have too many friends? Not to mention that the beauty inside a woman regularly trumps physical beauty. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2007 7:35:31 PM | Im all for the older / younger relationships , if 2 people can get along
find some common thread , whos to say it wrong , my farther was 20ty yrs
older then my mother , they were together for 30ty yrs and produced
9 children , so much for age difference, LOLLOLLOL | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 8:58:56 PM | you know im in this dilema right now.. I was with a man who was 17 years older then me.. talk about issues, now mind you i'm not saying all older men have issues but he was 53, never married, never had kids, and felt that I at 36 was "To Old" for him that with his convertable he could get someone younger.. we dated for almost a year.. but he was kind of boring didn't want to do anything with me at all.. we just sort of "Hung" out..
Now I have a 22 year old interested in me.. he's sweet, fairly mature for his age..but he's been through a lot in his young age.. and he's pretty much willing to jump hoops for me...
my problem is that I was ok with the 17 year difference between me and my ex.. but i'm having a big issue with the 14 year difference between me and this young man..
I'm having a major moral deliema..but i'm not sure if its because of the what will people say mentality or something else.. I dunno.. | |
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wocali
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Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 92 | |
| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 6/16/2007 1:52:07 PM | | dac listen if u really like this guy...i say go for it!!! im just now realizing that no one is perfect...and if are attracted to him then dont let him get away!! life is too short for that!!my two cents...thas all.....if i was in ure shoes id grab him but then again i love younger men..even that age..best of luck let me know what happens.....have to live vicariously now...lol | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 7:43:24 AM | Wocali.. I keep saying to myself.. go for it.. but he's Soooooooooooooooooo YOUNG..lol.. and I am looking for something that may lead to a permanent committment.. I keep saying to myself is it fair to rob a 22 year old of the prime of his life.. he should be enjoying himself.. having fun.. going out not trying to see if he can settle with a 36 yr old.. with 2 divorces under her belt and an 11 year old daughter..
so thats my issue.. I'm not into looking for the casual relationship.. I want something solid and I don't think its fair to expect something solid from someone so young..
ggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrr.. why do I have to be so responsible..LOLOL.. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2007 7:23:48 AM | | as a former 22 yo male who jumped into a marraige i thought i was ready for, be careful! i was ready for the adventure and thought i knew what i was doing... boy was i wrong! looking back i want to slap myself for not taking my time and fully realizing what i was getting into. of course you're talking about dating, so if he does get restless, it will be quick and that will be that. but if he wants to stay, wouldn't that be worth the risk? just remember how young he is and just because he says he's willing to try, doesn't mean he won't change his mind tomorrow. the younger we men are, the easier it is for us to just cut our losses and move on. the true meaning behind commitment is kinda hazy at that age, lol. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2007 8:04:23 AM | Well I decided that I just can't go through with it.. The age difference is just to great.. and everytime I think about kissing him.. I get sceeved at the thought that he is so young..
I guess I just can't get past seeing him as a little boy..
oh well.. such is life.. lol. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2007 1:22:52 PM | This is regaurding: Classyblondmale
I agree with braidsl! I believe that you are as young as you feel and I feel very young.
I am 43 years young and have three children. I might have baggage but that's MY baggage and I'm a package deal. I had three C-Sections and cannot have any more children. I have alot of Love to give. I am sincere, loving, kind and will always be there for my man. So the thrill is Me! Isn't that what a relationship is about! How you feel about eachother? You and Me!? There are children in my life to love too! So that's the thrill! Everyone has different likes and dislikes. I read your profile and you seem to be controlling and domineering, no wonder your still single with no children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck to You!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 5:31:32 PM | hey age is a number, onetime I had a girlfriend born the same day
month and year I was , scared me silly, she was me ! but female,
it lasted 3 months go figure, LOLLOLLOLLOL | |
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Posted: 7/6/2007 11:59:29 PM | I think if your single you should explore all options equally. I don't see a problem with older women or any other physical type, or class of women. I am attracted to intelligent, sexy, go getting, ride or die, honest, creative, down to earth types. That does not come with an age limit on it. You can't put that in a box, and point fingers at it. I went to a party when I was 24...met a woman that I thought was 32, later that night over wine at her place, I found out she was 50...I was even more turned on to say the least. I felt like I discovered a lost gem.
And WOWWY WOW!!! She did things in such ways that I never saw or felt before. Gotta love them hands down. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 1:55:04 PM | | I agree that it is hard to find 60 year old men who are attractive - they are rare - lucky me I have found one - but back to the issue of older women, younger men - If both people enjoy their time together than why not - you just both have to keep your heads on straight - My daughter who is 42 doesn't need to know that I am seeing someone 41 - some things just need to be private | |
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