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Posted: 7/16/2007 3:46:33 PM | | Age is a state of mind. Although usually I date women younger than me, it's only because that's the way it has worked out. I'm open to dating ladies of all ages. What is more important to me is the chemistry, the loyalty, who they are inside. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 4:55:02 PM | Anjori..LOL.. I can't move to the Bronx.. but I was at Fordham Road this weekend.. reminding myself WHY I can't move to the Bronx.. LOLOL.. way to many people..I'm definately a country girl at heart..  | |
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Posted: 7/22/2007 9:06:38 AM | | Wow classyblondemale, your response wasnt so "classy". Sorry, I think if people were more open-minded and made choices according to who they liked and who they are as a couple, they might be happier. Of course, making choices accordingly is ultimately the most important reason. Having children is a very good point but not all couples want children, then again, nothing is written in stone. It is those of such shallow thinking that remain single wishing for someone to come along, they dream, they write love poems & they have great visions. Those visions inhibited by the sequacity of there own thinking. Usually when they do find someone it isnt usually "for real". Its there own thinking that attracts the wrong person to them. Now, seriously, this is serious stuff here for if the only "thrill" you get out of a relationship is in having kids, than you probably need to do some serious sole searching. Btw, Im trying real hard to maintain some diplomacy but its just not working. So, I have to say, looking at your profile I fail to see a "classyblondemale". What I do see is a clown's act & guess what, you couldnt get an Im or email response from me! I believe your maybe confused but this is "plentyoffish" a dating site not "Ringling Brothers". I think your just caught up in a mindset that may not be very healthy, I do wish you well in your search. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 12:20:35 PM | One moment: there's an incongruency here.
1. Younger women seem to have more baggage of insecurities, while older women have already shed it.
2. Younger men seem to have less baggage of insecurities, whereas older men have gathered a lot of it.
Do you mean that women behave like snakes, shedding their old skin, and men like dung beetles? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 9:49:40 PM | | i would like to date an older woman... it would be something new dating a more mature woman...its something id like to experience | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 6:59:03 AM | | Oh no Buddy, I am with A older woman in wich I love for real. But she has a 34yr old duaghter with two kids living with us and it is hell! More different men have came through than grayhound bues running south.. Disrepsect from all the three homeless and it is her mistake that keep bringing her back. No matter where you are from,just say I like you and the move is on for 30 to 90 days. Then back here! Older women bring older problem. But I am still here because I really do love my girl. If you get a older woman, make sure they do not have mentally ill grown kids that are in denial. If they just can not help it is a differant story. But the free rider at 34 no way!.... | |
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Posted: 8/23/2007 9:08:18 PM | i have dated several younger men and when i say younger i mean younger not just 2-3 years like i am now...i mean 10-15 years younger...okay so i ruined them for anyone else they may encounter and yes i was called mrs robinson a few times.....but well it was what it was...ANd truth be told on the social scene they taught me a few things. I was married for 19 years at the age of 19....s basically on the dating scene im only about 25, after all i stopped dating at 18.
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Posted: 8/30/2007 2:42:26 PM | | Unlike some of the other comments I have read, this one was well written by a man who has some intelligence. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2007 2:43:45 PM | | To classyblonde male.......I'll agree with you on the fact that the men are looking for an easy ride both sexually and financially. Shame on you for the comment what do older women have to offer. They are more grounded, know their limitations, are sexually experienced to perfection, pay their own bills, have had the patience to raise children so now they can have patience for men when they are sick...just to name a few. Where's the thrill....you obviously haven't dated an older woman. A mature woman is NOT into drama or trama. They know what they want and what they don't want. Younger men, within reason, are more appealing to woman like me because they haven't developed a beer belly, they still like to enjoy life and are not couch potatoes, and yes, they are still capable of having sex without a penis pump or viagra. The next time you encounter an older woman, perhaps you should give her some of your time. You might be pleasently surprised. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 9:07:32 PM | we are told that women are more mature year-for-year than men in general.
SOOOO TRUE. A women is mature after 26 years old. From what I have experianced and seen. Amoung seen and heard from others, this is a fact. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2007 3:56:55 PM | LOL attitudes like the OPs are the reason I tend to like 'em old and saggy like me.
That said, I just got done with a 28 year old. We had very little in common. Plus he's only been in this country 6 years which made the what could we possibly have in common besides a little better than OK sex thing a HUGE issue.
I have the same "cultural" thing with men too much older than me. We usually have little in common. I briefly dated someone 11 years older. Friday night, 9:30 he's sleeping, I wanted to be out seeing a band. That one didn't last much longer than the boy toy.
I remember my freshman year in college the first time - back around when the OP was born lol, I couldn't believe how immature the guys were. I went there thinking I was going to meet a "man". They were worse than the high school kids. It's like guys turn 20 and regress 'till about 33ish or so. Depending. And no, I don't think all men are like this. I know some who aren't.
I don't see anything wrong with it though - provided we're talking to adults capable of making grownup choices. How old you or your partner are is like uhm none of my business. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2007 11:33:41 AM | I am a seemingly older woman....Im 41 the magic age where i turn from a chick into a croan....what do i have to offer to a man of any age??
The positives for the right man of any age. Let's see:
Im financially secure.
I have my own home.
I have gone through college and have a degree that at any time i can get a new career going without too much effort.
I have my ducks in a row.
Im able to deal with my own drama without assitance.
I already have my kids and don't plan on having anymore.
I already have grandchildren.
Im a free spirited woman
I am understanding and empathetic
I am experienced in a lot of areas of life.
I am open minded.
I pay my own way for the most part if you invite me you pay...if i invite you i pay.
about the only things that i see as a problem being 41 and on my way to croanhood are
I am no longer willing to have children....
I am experienced and unwilling to tolerate BULLS**T.
I am not naive anymore
i still have children that depend upon me...but i also have adult children
i am intimdating to any man that isnt as equipped for life as I am.
I have dated men from 26-60....I intimdated the older men more than the younger ones. financially I'm right on par with most men my age. I do not shower my date with financial things at all. I feel that unless i have a ring on my finger my finances are not anyones business but my own and resent the statement that men make more than women...check yourself....for the most part i have been equal to or slightly more than than my date in that arena.
I found the relationships with the older men and the younger ones to be quite similar actually The men my own age are more
I don't share my drama...I take care of my own stuff
perhpas you need to find a a real woman
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Posted: 9/10/2007 5:07:01 PM | Maturity is something I define by moral and intellectual development, rather than hobbies or sense of humor. Since I'm a studious, geeky, workaholic, personal development has a lot of appeal to me. The experience of an older woman is a positive thing where values are concerned.
I don't exactly care about age. It would be nice to find someone who isn't obsessed with partying though. Women who have accumulated some wisdom and knowledge are fascinating - whether it's through education, experience, or age.
I think a lot of older women have reached a point where they are sick of being treated like second-class citizens. Age gives them a much needed boost in the power dynamic, and that can be both comforting and liberating. All of that seems pretty understanding, so why is society at large so judgemental? | |
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Posted: 9/13/2007 8:45:56 PM | | Realy I am curious how an older woman can be considered an easy lay, They have heard every line, and are more inclined to read into bs so realy if your looking for an easy lay younger women would be much easier. As far as I can tell most Women don't seem to be intrested in younger men for the long term but there are a couple that do, and as far as NSA goes it's all about timeing cause unlike men they don't seem to be as desperate to get it. I do agree with one of the earlier posts about fufilling a fantasy, it's one thing I am trying to figure out is if it's something I just want as an experiance or if there is actualy potential as far as having a long term relationship with someone older. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2007 8:34:32 AM | this is just an observation about the women I'VE met and a generalized one at that. I don't pretend to have met every woman in the world so please don't yell at me if you don't agree. most of the younger women i met when i was younger seemed aimed at school and starting their lives. they wanted to have fun but no committments. Most of the older women i've met already have the kids and feel like they did their dues and are ready to have fun with their lives as well. Most of the women MY age are finished with school, established in their jobs, and are now turning their sights on the family. ei husband 2.3 children. i've literally had blind dates where i was told that she has plenty of friends and is looking for a husband so don't waste her time if i'm not looking for the same. talk about pressure. my problem is i joined the military, got married young and had the children and already got divorced. not ready to jump back into that right away. ALSO i just started school up again and turned my sights towards graduating.
with as much as i have on my plate right now, an older woman is usually the best choice. they're usually already secure, both financially and emotionally so the drama level is way down and we can just have fun. i don't have time anymore to help your sister move because your father kicked her out after her babies' daddy came over drunk and got in a fight with him.(sad but this actually happened. took me all night and i was late to work the next day) | |
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Posted: 9/19/2007 6:09:50 AM | ??? older woman, younger men, / older guys younger girl s
guy s girl s or woman men ???? | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 4:03:47 AM | That's something that appeals to me. I was recently away on vacation in Europe and that seems to be the norm, here in this country we are to caught up in numbers over
there anything goes, and I can tell you I had a great time and we still keep in touch. Try it, you might like it. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 6:14:23 PM | | i feel we keep us single.it has nothing to do with older women or younger men you just havent found the right one yet....... sharon | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:29:32 PM | | If you find yourself bored and want to laugh at something REALLY frightening...read msg 2. and PLEASE tell me this guy is serious. Oh, and he is badly in need of spellcheck. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2007 6:49:01 AM | I'm a firm believer that younger men and older women relationship is now more tolerated by society and it depends where u live also. Hollywood has made it the norm and more and more people feel comfortable enough with themselves to step out the norm and follow their hearts, and u should. I've been hit on by 20 year olds and I personally don't feel comfortable with it, because I have a 26 year old daughter, and I know she would be the first person to call me, to tell me that she does not approve, but then u never know....I feel if u live in a small town of course u know that there always will be a small town mentality, and they will judge you in whatever u do if they feel it is out of the norm. We can't go through our lives worrying what other people think about us just because we dare to be different. Takes alot of courage sometimes to go with what others perceive as unacceptable.
I've dated younger since my divorce, and at first I felt weird about it, now 7 years later I am still dating men that quite younger than myself, and I am ok with it. It is truly an individual choice, and if people judge then I feel that it is their problem not mine.
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Posted: 10/26/2007 2:54:13 PM |
if people judge then I feel that it is their problem not mine.
Exactly - We should be happy with whom we feel makes us that way. When you turn out the light at night, it's not anyone's business whom you do it with, what age they are, what sex they are, what color they are or whether they wear bunny slippers or not.
Be happy! | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 7:42:42 AM | Excuse me ...like u need to learn how to spell..before speaking your opinion..on older women...and u sure don't look like no young buck yourself... | |
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