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Posted: 12/16/2007 8:51:33 PM | well old womens are best am 34 yrs old guy though i look like 22-23 yr old guy i have always been attracted by older womens they have lot to offer i would say in short they best with there experience they know how to handle young guys
i wish to be in company of such women older womens from newyork can feel free to write me their openion's
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Posted: 12/17/2007 6:34:45 AM | I'm not from NYC.... Western NY... but thought I'd chime in on this one if you don't mind. :) I'm sure there will be quite a few angry men responding.
I date men in the 38-45 range. I get a lot of comments from older men that I must be looking for a young stud, etc. It's exactly that attitude that keeps me from dating men more my age. Actually, there are several reasons. Now, I'm just talking about my own experiences in the last 4 years, and I'm sure this doesn't apply to everyone, but here is what I've found....
The men over 45 that I've dated have been looking for women who can cook, will take care of them and don't mind sitting on the couch every night (or nearly every night) while he flips channels. But women my age have raised their families, are just finding themselves again, and after years of focusing on everyone else, we've come to a point where it's time for us... time to enjoy life and experience things we may not have experienced before. For me, I never traveled and I'm looking forward to that now. I love to dance, go to concerts, see a live band, enjoy a bike ride, camping, hiking, go out to dinner, etc. I can't do any of that from a couch.
Men over 45 have actually come right out and told me I was bigger than they wanted. A recent date told me he was "dumbfounded" when he met me because I seemed SO much bigger than my pictures. I'm considering putting a disclaimer on my pics now "things may appear smaller than they are." I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but geez, why not just say "you're not really my type."
The men over 45 that I've gone out with were easily angered and often showed their displeasure to waitresses, drivers on the road, were impatient, easily frustrated, etc. Sniping at everyone is not my idea of a good time.
I have never had any of those things with men younger than 45. In fact, I've had younger men cook for me... which I have to say is very nice. :) They've been more open and receptive to my lack of perfection, much more nurturing, far less angry, and treated me as if I mattered instead of just someone on their arm. There is more of a 50/50 balance in those relationships. At this point in my life, I would much rather spend my time with someone who makes it fun to be with them then always having to answer to or be with someone who is never at a lack for something negative to say.
I'd love to hear from the ladies about this one too. Not sure if this is going on everywhere, or it's just something happening in WNY, but if one more man tries to pull "it" out on the first date, he's going to end up pulling back a bloody stump. Men particularly over 45 in this area seem to think that if we see it, we can't resist it, so will take any opportunity to try and reveal "it." When I was getting divorced and my friends told me that was going to happen a lot, I thought they were kidding. They weren't. I've been on dates where it's happened at the movies theater, in restaurants, parks, the car, etc. I asked one guy if it actually worked for him and he said "Nine times out of ten, you bet it does." That is crude, rude and downright insensitive to women. I don't see that in younger men.... they tend to keep "it" where it belongs on the first date.
Again, I'm only speaking about my own experience, but it's been enough to completely turn me off to dating anyone closer to my age. All of my friends, and many women I work with... who range from 40-65 are saying exactly the same things.
It's been widely accepted that older men would date/marry younger women. Now that the tables have turned, there seems to be a stigma attached to it. If it bothers anyone that we're dating younger men, perhaps the type of men I've eluded to who are over 45 and treating women as if we're a possession should rethink their attitudes and treat us as equals instead of slaves.
Just my two cents.
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 12/17/2007 6:49:42 AM | MGKKAIN.....
Some of us are looking for longterm with a younger man. Can it work? You betcha. My mother married a man 12 years her junior and they have had a wonderful relationship.
I don't date younger men who haven't had kids or been married. I would never want to deprive anyone those things. He has to be serious about longterm because I'm not into the boy toy thing or quick fixes.
A couple years ago I lived with someone who was 34. I never in my wildest dreams ever imagined myself being with someone that young. But, he was mature, stable, serious about his preference for older women (his wife had been 14 years older than he was), and he already had his kids and didn't want more. Our relationship was equally nurturing and I could have seen myself with him until I died. Unfortunately circumstances kept that from happening.
Most of the women I know are looking for longterm. I have only known a couple of younger women who were just looking for something temporary.
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Posted: 12/17/2007 12:45:48 PM | Oops.... that last line should have read, "I have only known a couple of older women who were just looking for something temporary."
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Posted: 12/17/2007 3:38:15 PM | interesting subject i feel once your over 30 who cares about the age. older women be happy that us younger men are checking you out i feel that women that have a problem with a older women dating a younger man are the women that us younger men dont even take a second look at  | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 11:47:01 PM | | i love older women, because they are very sweet and they smell so good. some people think that older women are tired because of their old skins, but, me i say no to those people because it's in old calebass that we find the good sauce. my dream is to find one in nyc. so, take care | |
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Posted: 12/18/2007 4:31:02 PM | my last two gf have been in there early 30's and to be honest theres so much more to a relentionship with them than any younger women ive bin out with x | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 10:15:49 PM | i I am Richard im 6"4' 460 pound very nice looking guy and from Niagara Falls NY. I am looking for a older woman.
weight does not matter to me.You must like to go walking , country music , picnics ,dinner out ,I like playing pool ,watch wrestling and play assorted video games. I would like to have someone that has a good persontilty does not get upset easly. Likes to cuddle , white women....
I love to laugh and joke around .I would like a women who knows how to cook as it is a turn on to me. do you like giving an reciving massages whith lotions and oils .a working woman would be a plus but at least a type of income would help .I make it on my own with my dissabilty income but belive in sharing expences . I have a friend who is helping me an teaching me daily living things as cooking, cleaning,
Well if this sounds good an or want to know any more feel free to ask. Oh I am looking for someone who is honest ,not a game player,has comuncation,also all I can say is please don't judge the book by the cover till you read it from the inside or you will miss out on what is says from the heart.....
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Posted: 1/5/2008 12:08:55 PM | that is right
old women have many experiance that young girls lack
and also young girls are hesitated
they rarely make their decisions
I am personally preffer old woman they are more obligated to the relationship | |
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men /Re / to butthead
Posted: 1/19/2008 7:10:36 AM | | I'm 42 yr old. I look great, I was once extremely attractive now, due to nuthin, i look the same. I date older women , same age women and younger 23 and 24 yr olds, they have fun with and like second dates, So , women have told me the older ones that older men age terribly, don't take care of themselves, Women are in their prime when some men start the descension to a nursing home. And , as far as being a hillbilly, I'm 6'2" 246 lbs of muscle so, I've always been in good shape, i don't look my weight. but thinner lighter, it's the cleaner air up here and less stress.. Upstate peple have chosen an easier path, that man was created for, So, my conclusion to manofstyle, is maybe it's you and probably your personality that scaires women astray. Don't blame the younger men, places blame on them is a symptom of your denial in your personal inadequecies( I really am a humble person, but ingnorance fires me up) | |
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 2/3/2008 2:37:42 AM | Oh I have always loved the mature woman, strong and confident. They know how to walk
in high heels, how to dress sexy and yet still be modest. Their voice, filled with confidence
and passion. Someone that you can have a real conversation with on a platitude of levels. | |
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 2/19/2008 11:32:14 AM | Havingfunman:
I'm looking for an old woman but none are willing to give it a try. Its not that I'm over weight or in the need of a plastic surgeon. Hmmm makes me wounder if woman out there are to scared to take the first step and are looking for some thing safe. Cheers H.F.M. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 1:04:12 AM | Age is unimportant I think. I have dated women 10 and 15 years older than myself. I have dated women near my age. I haven't as of yet dated anyone far younger than myself. In the end it all boils down to who you are. It may be a cliché, but some of us men actually do like personalities. Sure curves pokey bits etc. all nice and dandy, but you know, there's more to life than sex and lust. Been there done that also, relationships based purely on lust and sex, yep great fun. They don't last though. Relationships that last are based on far more than bits that stick out of your partner's body.
I think it is far truer that younger men are more likely to be 50/50 in their relationship, but of course not always. One could imagine it is largely dependent upon their socialization (in the sociological usage). Of course it dependent upon the woman also. One of the older women I dated is quite old fashioned; it was quite attractive in some ways, but frustrating in others.
Some of us men aren't just looking for a quick 5 week fling, although fun...there's more, and that more really is much more fun; with older or younger women. | |
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 2/25/2008 1:54:45 PM | older woman have less drama
and more experience in everything they are great to be around
and u can learn a lot from them
i love the company of an older woman | |
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 2/27/2008 7:38:58 AM | I try so hard to understand this concept.......................................I'm a 53 year old male and I enjoy the company of an older woman, some older women maintain a healthy look about themselves, and take care of their bodies. I've met older women that look better than their daughters!
This is only my opinion................. I feel that younger men tend to be attracted to MUCH older women because they are looking for that MOTER image. Lets be real here, as we tend to get older, some parts of our bodies sage....................what in the world would a young guy at 21 be looking for in an older woman, when he can have a young tight butt, brested woman his own age?...............................is it because he can't cut the cord from mommy? | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 12:47:34 PM | in the looks department, yes older people are always at a disadvantage. (though i've met some CLEAR exceptions to that rule) but that aside, i think that younger men are attracted to the more carefree attitude that many older women adopt. no matter how good your girl looks, you WILL grow accustomed to it after a while and unless there is more to it, all the drama becomes more and more evident. wether yound or old, someone who is simply FUN to be around is like a breath of fresh air.
but age is a bit like money. it shouldn't matter but unless you are truly dedicated to the relationship it will, sooner or later. 20-40 no problem, 30-50 sure why not, maaaybe 40-60 but even higher and you are in two completely different places. my father is in his 50s and still loves to go white water canoeing, horse back riding, sailing, etc. i really have a hard time imagining a 70 something woman able to do that with him. i guess if you wait long enough is stops mattering again, lol. i remember a long time ago in the news a 105 yo man married a woman in her 80s. that's a 20 year difference but i don't think anybody said anything, lol. im not saying it's impossible, just a lot harder than a conventional relationship. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 6:31:57 AM | After being married to two younger women and dealing with a ton of drama, I'm more than open to dating a woman my age or older. I'll chat with the younger ones, but I seriously doubt if I'd date one at this point. I seem to just get along better with older women now.
I guess I'm FINALLY housebroken after the 2 X's!
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 2/29/2008 12:19:54 PM | I personally believe emotional maturity and compatibility matters much more than biological age, and that of course can work in either direction - up or down depending on our own personal growth and development.
Life circumstances may influence this as well - age of children, degree of "settled" and/or "established" in life, and so on.
Emotionally I tend to mesh well with women older than myself, though based on my son being three, one might suggest that's at odds with my life circumstances.
I tend value emotional maturity, common sense and emotional consistancy fairly high, so maybe this is why age gaps seem to work well for me. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 8:04:53 PM | I couldn't have said it better myself, Mr. Not so much Class, needs to spend some time with an older ,mature, educate & intelligent women ,
As you said The children are grown, we now have alot more time to enjoy life, with out baggage, and or drama, we have been trough all life has to give us to deal with, and we know how to, We know what we want and what we don't want. We can tell the diffrence between doing because we want to or simply because we don't want to resist, I will date men ten years younger than I am and see nothing wrong with it, and good for those other ladies that date younger or what ever age what diffrence does it make? If you click yyou click.
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Posted: 3/3/2008 6:01:20 AM | | I also have to add that having children makes a difference for a large number of people. The responsibilities of raising them leads to a more mature outlook on life regardless of sex. | |
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:27:53 PM | manofstyle wrote:
***** I would say that there is a stigma around younger men when it comes to dating because we are told that women are more mature year-for-year than men in general. *****
Have you ever been in a nursing home and taken a look around... the majority of women there are women. Women live longer. Though we may mature faster than men, we (for the most part) outlive them.
I feel 20, act 30, look 40, but I'm in my 50's. I don't want a man whose idea of a date is sitting on the couch every night watching tv and expecting me to cook, clean and pretty much do what his mother used to do.
I see a huge difference in how certain ages are. (keep in mind, this is from mine and my friend's experiences). Men in their 20's and early 30's are still finding themselves. Men in their late 30's and early 40's usually had both mom and dad working so they learned to fend for themselves... seem to be less judgemental about a woman's imperfections and are more prone to wanting a 50/50 relationship. I won't even date men over 46 anymore. I'm very sorry to say that every single one I have ever gone out with has been either judgemental, rude, condescending and/or didn't have the energy I do the things I enjoy doing or at the same frequency I do.
I lived with a 34 year old for a while and after that, dated a 38 year old, both of whom said they couldn't keep up with me. It's a much better match for me if I stick to the 38-46 range. If I could find a man around my age who was more willing to pursue a 50/50 relationship, had the same energy and drive I have, and didn't look like my father... I'd be happy as hell!
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| NY: Older Women, Younger Men
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:01:22 PM | | I recently dated a 27 year old guy who I absolutely adored. We dated for a couple months. There was nothing that he didn't offer, good looks, educated, professional, great lover, a good man. We are great friends now. I would date a younger man again and consider for long-term relationship. Can't go by age. | |
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