e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/25/2007 4:16:42 AM |
I think it's possible he would get an ego boost out of it...
The only dudes who think there's an ego boost are the very dudes who
would get one.....99% of the guys here who posted can't see that as
possible.
*Get him to take your son somewhere after school on different days...like the library or somewhere.
There's always Denny's...I hear there's a 2 for 1 coffee deal at Denny's, no
harm in getting the kiddies started on coffee this soon is there?
Third lock, with lock on bedroom door. Get a spy cam if your into it.
You serious? You want the child to believe that their father is
a piece of shit? Ummmmm...dude, don't have kids!
Good for you, OP for giving the key to your son....GOOD JOB! Really! | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/25/2007 10:39:43 AM | | The whole point that I made too is that , me as A father I have things at my house set up for my child , I bought it and it stays at my place for when he is there . My thought is this Why dose he need to have your key , to do his sons homework at your house . He should have these things at his place if he is so caring . Sorry , I do that myself , I go that extra distance , and If its an inconvenience to him , tough , live with it . He made the decision to move so far away , now live with it . Bounderies are good and that is a big one . | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/25/2007 10:43:25 AM | | By the way , this is asking guys , so remember that when you make a smart comment . It seems funny how women ask what we think and other women put there two cents in , and the person asking the question gets mad . Your right ewok we have egos and we mispell okay . Get on with it , move on and you'll recover from it . | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/25/2007 10:54:42 AM | | not an ego boost at all in my opinion--just practical! do you realize how much gas he's wasting going back and forth, and how much possible homework time your son is missing out on? that's 3ish hours of driving for your kid's dad. seems to me like he's just trying to save money. gas is expensive as hell nowadays | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/25/2007 1:07:09 PM | The only dudes who think there's an ego boost are the very dudes who
would get one.....99% of the guys here who posted can't see that as
possible.
What is this? A referendum?
e-wok- You sound exactly like the kind of turd that would get an ego boost out of it. I'd also say your the kind of retrobate that would go through your ex's stuff while she wasn't there...You yourself are admitting it's possible that a certain element of the male population would, of course those only being the ones that posted in this thread and believe it's possible... I didn't say it was highly probable and I didn't say he wasn't an arsehole either. But you would know more about that. | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/25/2007 1:54:38 PM | | Couldn't have said it any better myself e-wok. As far as my opinion on the 'key thing' goes, she said she was concerned, then made a joke about it. It's as though she wanted to plant something in his mind, that he wasn't even thinking about. Besides, even the idea of loaning him the key is ridiculous. Did you ever hear of people having keys made sweetheart? He could have done that in 5 minutes time. You may be crafty, but your surely not complex. kenny | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/25/2007 7:01:45 PM | Yes, if I lend him the keys he could have some made... Uh, Not only did I think of it, but it was mentioned SEVERAL times in this thread. That is actually one of the senerios... READ!
I don't understand all of the negetivity... Lol. If some men think that it "WOULDN'T" BE AN EGO BOOST...O.K. For the men who think that it "WOULD", OK as well....
I think that part of the problem out here is that people expect others to completly agree with their opinions and if they don't, they are suddenly called a name. How childish... People have a right to an opinion. I may disagree with people, but calling them stupid, weirdos, etc... is really uncalled for!
I think that the very people out here who are treating this as a casual thing, would be the very ones who would probably refuse to give an ex a key. regardless of the situation.
Yes, he is a good father. Yes, he would be doing me and my son a favor. Yes, gas is expensive. But does that mean I should completly give up my rights to privacy because of it? Am I entitled at least that?
I have taken the advice of some people out here and have given my son the key and have put a lock on my bedroom and guest room doors. | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/26/2007 12:21:51 AM | Poetical. You know that i honestly dont mean any harm whatsoever with my comments so try to just understand what i have to say about this comment...
Yes, he is a good father. Yes, he would be doing me and my son a favor. Yes, gas is expensive. But does that mean I should completly give up my rights to privacy because of it? Am I entitled at least that?
I guess that we come across as "spiteful" in the matter of when you refuse to help because where i am in the UK, the female gets automatic rights of a child. The father keeps having to hear from his parents, people that care for him and his ex saying to him constantly... "your part of this childs life, it took 2 to tango and create the child and it's your responsability to help your child live a forfilling life and you are part of the key to that, so make the effort"
So i suppose that when a male hears that a female refuses to help... It just seems like as if she's not willing to go with what people keep telling us to do.
So please dont read this the wrong way but just try to understand why some of the guys might seem a bit frustrated about why you refuse to help with the driving etc.
I guess it just comes across to us that you want him to do one thing but you wont do it yourself to help and make it a "equal" matter.  | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/26/2007 1:00:40 PM | For: Poeticalbeauty
Do you actually think I read every post. To do so would be declaring myself a nerd!
I didn't think it was an ego boost one way or another. The only time I took notice was the issue of the key.
I don't remember calling you a name. READ!
Take your anger out on someone else's post. | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 3/30/2007 12:44:27 PM | I think you should be looking out for your child & not care about your EX (reguardless if he's single or not).
If your kid doesn't have a key. And say your delayed for an hour. Should your ex & kid wait outside your house for an hour? | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 4/4/2007 5:48:47 PM | Anything which makes you uncomfortable you should not do. Period. Full Stop.
Something about this seems to not sit right with you. You can try to meet him half way like a neighbour has key or son if that is appropriate but again do NOT do something you obviously are not comfortable with. Your relationship ended for reasons....which you two alone only know. Been on this planet long enough to know never do what your gut says not to. Just my opinion tho. Good luck! | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 5/18/2007 12:29:55 AM | | Good call , the guys in this room are all telling you things that guys think about just becuase we have differant oppinions don't be offended okay . Oppinions are like a holes , we all have one . I didn't mean any harm by any comment I made . I just know that we men do have control issues and the guys on here who disagree with that and feel that its not an ego trip , have a right to there own oppinion . At least your getting a mans outlook . I also know that you should be cuatious too , the men who talk about it not being an ego trip may have issues of there own too . We also tend to side with the same ginder . If your ex has a problem with the gas expences , he should have worn a condom , that is selfishness , plain and simple . The boy wants to be with his father , and gas shouldn't be an issue . You made a good decision , stick with you gutt and don't second guess yourself . | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 5/18/2007 12:33:53 AM | | If you don't know enough about him that you can trust him or not trust him based on that, it makes sense that you'd entrust a decision about the security of your home to a bunch of people on a forum. :P | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 5/18/2007 12:48:16 AM | The only dudes who think there's an ego boost are the very dudes who
would get one.....99% of the guys here who posted can't see that as
possible.
SORRY ! I see it , that is why I am saying what I am saying . Denials a b@#$%!! Open your eyes brother ! | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 5/18/2007 1:17:06 AM | | I don't think he's trying to boost his ego. I think he's looking to make his life simpler. I still wouldn't give him the key though. Only members of the household should have keys in my opinion, so giving one to your son is the way to go. I think you've done that already, so good work! | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:59:45 AM | Hey Darlin',
First off, let's get the easy stuff out of the way, no it's not an 'ego boost'....just a key, not your commitment to him.
Secondly, in time you may feel differently about handing over a key, initially you go through so much mistrust and bitterness. In time that will pass....trust is still something to be earned and if you don't trust where he is coming from, just yet, then wait.
You are right, he chose to move! And if he 'was thinking about his child and all the back and forth in the car', he should have thought about that when he chose to move an hour away!!! Whether he moved for the beauty of the area or for a girlfriend, the bottom line is, he chose to move further away from his son, making commuting and seeing him, harder. That was his choice and now he must live with the consequences.
If later on you trust his intentions, then you can put the key around your childs neck and it can be your boy's special key, NOT Dad's, the key comes home back to you every time!!
Hope all goes well!! | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:15:16 PM | I can see both sides of this story...however, the Father also takes some blame here. He was the one to decided to pick up and move a fair distance from his son and now he is complaining because of the drive....and he wants the key to his ex-wife's home.
He should have thought this through BEFORE he made the move. Once a spouse moves out, the home becomes the person who remains. And if that were me, I would not want anyone to have access to my home when I am not there. Perhaps the Father should move closer to the area where his son lives so that he can see him more often without the hassle he has put on himself as well as the demands for his ex-wife to give up the privacy of her home. His open access to the home was lost as part of the divorce. It IS her house and she should not have have to put locks on her bedroom door to ensure privacy of her personal life. It is the Father that is putting all the pressure on his child and the long drive, not the Mother by his decision to move away.
The Father could move closer if he chose to. | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:41:07 PM | | I think installing an extra lock and giving your ex a key to it is an excellent idea. That would give you control of when he can and cannot enter your home and would also avoid causing conflict in your current relationship. It would also make life easier for your son, and after all, he's the most important part of this equation, is he not? | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:00:23 PM | | First of all you seem to be more selfish; its about the kid; not if your stroking his ego. if you are not going to have sex with him and his SO says its cool, then stop being a drama queen and do it. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:06:33 PM | | When my ex and I split he thought he was entitled to a key because his kids still lived in the house. This is not my policy. However, he has at times kept the girls at my house when i've had a late class so that they can get homework done and get ready for bed . I guess it just depends on your relationship and level of trust w/ him. | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:36:25 PM | Far from it. We are simply practical. The key....you see a love struck man when
all the dude wants is to save gasoline and hours of boring drives.
Stop thinking like a girl...not everything has hidden messages and meanings.
I like that!! Very honest and to the point, a point that many women forget or are scared of believing.
As for my "opinion", I have to side with a previous poster. Unless the child's father is on a "best friend" and intimate (not sexually intimate) level, as I am with many friends; then no one should have a key. If said father was on said level, then there wouldn't be this question to ponder in the first place.
Depending on the age of said child, I would put the key on a necklace for them, or, as I do...My best friend Daniel, and several others know exactly where to find a spare here on the premises. NO ONE ELSE!! Certainly not someone from a failed relationship.
(Respectfully)
God Bless,
Scott.
P.S. Considering your age, and Scorpius status (Analytical etc) I believe the answer will come to you easily. Protection and safety is our nature. Especially for our young. | |
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| Guys, would this boost your ego?
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:26:46 PM | OP: I figured the reason your EX didn't have a key is because he doesn't live there. Give him a key, suddenly he's cleaning out your fridge, taking 3-hour showers, "borrowing" tools, CDs, cookware, etc.....!!!! "Oh, I'm tired today, I'll sleep on the sofa and leave in the morning..." Suddenly SHE is blowing up your phone wondering why HE isn't home and accusing YOU of keeping him there.
Yeah, if he wants convenience, maybe he can move closer to the school, or rent an apartment nearby just for after-school.
Why is it that YOU have to go out of YOUR way? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 11:25:15 AM | | IF YOU "loan" A KEY TO SOMEO0NE... I GUARANTEE THEY HAVE A KEY TO YOUR PLACE. IT'S ONLY A DOLLAR FOR A COPY AT ANY STORE. DUH!!!!!! | |
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