| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/20/2008 9:42:08 AM | Stay on a positive note. Dont let someone elses fragile ego put you in the dumps. If you do reality is that you really should be questioning your own ego issues.
Some guys get their egos stroked through cheating. They feel they are getting away with it and it gives them a rush. They are the typical scumb bags that never got along with their sisters or they are mamma's boys and they got their way. They really cant be rewired becuase they have a perverse sense of love and they dont know how the goodness in love can be created. They are self absorbed individuals that need a brain transplant to change their ways. I spent too much time wasted on a lost soul. I will never go back their.
The only + thing that comes out of it is that you learn something about yourself. Sometime the physical is good and your willing to put all the other stuff on hold. Sometimes you dont have a plan b & c becuase your living in a city of easy woman. Its just the way it is.
Suggestions: DO a spiritual clease. Find a bedtime mantra prayer to change your obsession on an evil fixation.
Once a cheater always a cheater. SOme people have fragile egos and choose to be scumb bags. What else can I say. Some guys get off on humiliating their women. Some get their egos stroked when they see their woman smiling.
Seek the right kind of guy. Pay attention to your intuition and be true to yourself.
Stay strong sister.
 | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/20/2008 10:15:05 AM | Its probably the whole trust issue,you trusted this guy he cheated on you...now you despise and look at him with disgust along with still sitting in the how could he stage.
Let it go,be glad your rid of him and move on | |
|
| |
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/20/2008 10:54:52 AM |  You don't have a problem. It stems from your hope to fofill that large void everyone has in life,  . Healing is not rushed, it takes time. Give yourself that time,  ,  ,  ,  ,  . Go thru many emothions, live and heal. Give this time up to God, knowing your right where you need to be to prepare you for the right guy. Or maybe delaying you while the other guy is being prepared for you? Sometimes time takes time,  , 
Your truly, Garysfriends | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/20/2008 10:59:56 AM | | yeah you are beating yourself up. i went throught the exact same i was with the guy for 7 yrs and we had a child and he cheated on me for ages before i found out and even though i had my suspicions and used to ask him he somehow turned it on to me and said i was imagining it all and that he couldnt live without me and that i was "the One"!! yeah yeah i fell for that one.. But like yourself i walked away thinking he will be sorry and regret ever losing me as i thought that was the mature thing to do and i knew i was too good for his crap. Next thing hes moved on and quite happy ..But to be honest it took me a few years to get rid of the anger and hate as i now know i shouldve knocked him out for what he did not only to me but my son and my daughter from another relationship.. ok i wouldve made a fool of myself at the time but really who cares?? in hindsight i wouldve got a lot of pleasure from seeing him flat out on his arse and mabye the resentment and anger wouldnt have stayed with me for so long. hopefully we will know better next time eh . x | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/20/2008 11:02:40 AM | You don't have a problem. It stems from your hope to fofill that large void everyone has in life, . Healing is not rushed, it takes time. Give yourself that time, , , , , . Going thru many emothions, live and heal. Give this time up to God. Knowing that your right where you need to be to prepare you for the right guy. Or maybe your being delaying you while the other guy is being prepared for you? Sometimes time takes time, ,
Your truly, Garysfriends | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/20/2008 11:32:09 AM | Bonita, I don't think the grass is greener. Walk away vs revenge?
I went the revenge route, which certainly felt empowering and kept me from feeling like such a fool... but only for a moment. When the dust settled I still felt like an idiot for trusting him and I was still embarrassed by what he did. But on top of trying to sort thru those feeling I also had to deal with disappointment in myself for stooping to that level.
If there's a next time (obviously with a different man) - I'll just walk away.... or go Lorena Bobbitt. 
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!!!!!  | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/20/2008 6:44:30 PM | | I commend you for not blaming anyone but him! He lied and cheated and was not worthy of YOU!!! And you are doing better by realizing that. Me and the "other woman" confronted my cheater together. He will be talked about on the radio this week..... touche!!! BUT you have to believe you are so much better off without a loser like that! Rise above what he did to you and know he really didn't deserve you. The fact he cheated instead of just being honest and telling you he was a piece of junk is something that you need to remember. At least you weren't played for a fool and he lost you, just don't EVER TAKE HIM BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/21/2008 11:52:25 AM | | Hell hath no fury like a man scorned too, After my last girlfriend told me she was cheating over the phone, I told her I was on my way to the house to get my stuff, from work, an hour and a half from home. When I get there I see her car and a glassy eyed redneck waiting for me, her new beau, I gather, who proceeded to tell me in so many nice ways that he was going to kick my @$$. I need to mention that I am still recovering from a bone graft in my right wrist. So, highly enraged and with a wrench in my good hand I made my way past him, none violently, and in to the house to recover my stuff. Words were exchanged inside but never violence with her or any woman, altho I wished I had a good enough reason to take care of the problem outside, but my father and the army gave me enough discipline to protect myself and not attack. Dispite this discipline was I wrong to go in the first place, how could I have recovered my gear any other way, call the police? The worst part is I still love her dearly and I am painfully torn apart by all of this, even though I know I will never return to her after being so untrue. | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/21/2008 8:15:21 PM | This is a man that does not FEEL, does not care about anyone's heart, will crush and destroy anything that gets in his way... does not know what LOVE is, he writes all the lies down that he does, and he is honest, but he is kidding himself... but DUE TO HIS HEART BEING DESTROYED, he plays people emotions due to he cannot except what happened to him, he was destroyed and cannot let anyone in...
He REALLY IS NOT SICK DUE TO HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT HE DOES IN BUSINESS, he never fail...IS HE JEKYLL AND HYDE IN BUSINESS...NEVER EVER...no one hurt him there....HE IS VERY NORMAL...he always gets the winning result...
He was hurt as a child growing up...and the chemical released to the brain the JEKYLL & HYDE is in him, until he really wants to come clean with his feelings about LOVE THIS PERSON CAN NEVER LOVE, ONLY THINKS HE CAN...
This person does have a chance...since it does not effect his business...THERE IS YOUR PROOF, IT IS ALL IN THE HEAD, PAIN...COVERED BY SICKNESS...
Yes, you will get over your anger towards a cheater, if you come to understand who they really are...
M. | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/21/2008 8:50:01 PM | DO NOT FALL IN LOVE WITH A MAN LIKE THIS, HE WILL TAKE YOU DOWN, know what you are getting into...they pretend tell you only what you want to hear...they will take down the family, and make your family apart forever, but that is life...win some, you lose some...the family knew what they were doing too...two wrongs never make a right...
BUT ONE RIGHT CAN MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE TO SEE THE LIGHT AND BECOME A BEAUTIFUL PERSON...2 WRONGS ARE DEADLY...
M. | |
|
| |
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:36:24 PM | Hey there,
I can totally relate!!! i was married for 11 years, when my soon to be ex wife told me she wasn't sure she wanted to be married anymore. last year at the same time she did this to me also. I told her she was not taking our son this time. It was not long until i found out that she had an affair on me 3 years ago. Then what do you know, I discovered that she was in the middle of not one but two more affairs!!! No kidding two men while she was still married to me. I was so blind sided!!!! I emailed one of the guys wives and told her of there affair...That ended that one The other one was her lawyer that she was using in our divorce. Isn't that messed up!!!! I just as you want her to hurt as much as i do and there is nothing i can do to hurt her as much as she has hurt me. I still can't get over not being able to talk to my best friend of 11 years. Is that totally stupid or what? I know some where i am better off with out her cheating butt around me or my kids. I still long for my partner, I think that time doesn't heal all wounds it just gives you time to in some way forget what happened. Personally i am still waiting for some degree of peace for my self. I pray that you and i will both will find something to get over the anger and frustration.
Good luck and God bless. | |
|
| How do I get over my anger towards a cheater?
Posted: 9/26/2008 3:54:55 PM | Am curious as to how the meeting with the OW went--I too spoke to the OW that my ex is now with--guess he managed to play both of us to the point he actually did the identical things with us both ie: same song-'our star' engraved wineglasses etc... I allowed her to read my texts to prove I was indeed not gone as he claimed. He now claims I harassed him ! LOL!! I was recently told by his sister that I am obsessed--yeah I guess trying to contact him( 4 texts in 4 weeks) about many of my things at his house as well as being royally screwed over is a sign of obsessive. Karma is kicking though-he 's due to move in with her & her 3 children-her husband is known to be nasty -xbf has no children & has NO clue what that is like. Karma kicked when she just happened to pop in at his house & find aUPS package with my return info on it & call me. Hey-she wants a lier-cheat-go for it. She feels she won-what? The booby prize? She met with me & read months of texts as well as saw my call log on my cell-that does not lie. If she believes messages that say "many many xs & os for a great day" or" Sweet dreams baby xxx oooo " are 'just friends' messages she desreves him. I wish them ALL the best. I am now the ' hated one ' which astounds me to no end. I daily ask for God to keep his hand over my mouth as to not lower myself to revenge-it will happen. We all "reap what we sow'.  | |
|
Home
login 
