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Posted: 3/31/2007 11:25:47 AM | I have made a few changes to my profile. People are really getting the wrong idea about me on here. Maybe now when people read it they won't assume I'm a "PIG".
Tyger...I'm trying to come across gently here, not judgmentally. Since tone of voice doesn't come through on a message board, just try to imagine very soft words. Please understand this.
It isn't your profile that's putting people off. There is nothing wrong with it, and there hasn't been. I haven't seen a response here yet that judges you by your profile. What bugs me, and a few others, is your forum posts. They say more about any person than his or her profile does. I know. I can get whiny and pessimistic too.
Edited to add this, since a thought occurred to me right after I hit submit.
I have a propensity for quoting the lyrics of country songs when they pertain to the situation. For you I recommend "She's More" by Andy Griggs, which goes in part:
I like blue eyes, hers are green
Not like the woman of my dreams
And her hair's not quite as long as I had planned
Five foot three isn't tall
She's not the girl I pictured at all
In those paint by number fantasies I've had
So it took me by complete surprise
When my heart got lost in those deep green eyes
She's not at all what I was looking for
She's more. | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 3/31/2007 11:50:43 AM | Okay thanks for the kinder message but people misunderstand me. My profile is the real me I'm just frustrated and it shows on the forums. I assume people are being negative instead of helpful because that's what I'm used to from this site.
Yep I've heard that song and can hear the lyrics in my head as I read that excerpt from it. It's been a long time since i heard it but i'm not much of a country fan anyways. Thanks for being thoughful though. Hope you appreciated the e-mail I sent you. | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 3/31/2007 12:54:31 PM | Ah, well good, we're starting to civilize up a little. All of us, I mean, not just the OP. I know, speaking for myself, I'm starting to get a little less negative and bitter now than I've been coming across as lately.
As I replied to Tyger's e-mail, I made some statements that I thought would be pertinent here. Maybe others who feel the same way that Tyger does might be interested.
I think it needs to be pointed out that we all have different ideas of physical beauty. We're attracted by different things. For me, I don't like those thoroughly ripped, hypermasculine, muscle men. In my opinion they are NOT hot. Give me a big old soft, plush teddy bear I can cuddle up next to. I like being snuggled so much that someone who looks snuggly is what I'm going to find attractive, where some other woman might consider him a fat slob. As for the geeky-looking guy with the glasses, they definitely have their admirers too. I had the biggest A-number-one crush on Billy, from the Mighty Morphin Power Rangers. You know, the original Blue Ranger....the geeky one with the glasses? Forget Tommy and Jason, who for some reason I couldn't figure out always seemed to get the girls. My heart was with Billy. And I still think David Yost, the actor who played him, is hotter than any Brad Pitt around.
So...since I like the big cuddly teddy bears, I'm not going to even try for the bodybuilding muscle types. Burst of insight--I guess that means I'm judging on looks too. Does this make me Shallow Harriet?  | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 3/31/2007 3:22:18 PM | | Good Heavens Tyger, you need more photos of you in different shirts. As it looks, it appears that you only have one shirt *LoL* Models would pick that up quickly and go ..uh oh..that shirt is a no no. | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 3/31/2007 7:06:42 PM | "So...since I like the big cuddly teddy bears, I'm not going to even try for the bodybuilding muscle types. Burst of insight--I guess that means I'm judging on looks too. Does this make me Shallow Harriet? "
Okie dokie as Crust. said above calling herself Shallow Harriet no I don't think so. We're attracted to what is appealing to us. Some guys might like heavier women while others would rather date a stick thin supermodel (too thin for me). We all have our preferences and for you or me to be truly Shallow Hal or Harriet we would look for a woman or a man ONLY for looks.
For me to be like that I would dismiss her rude behavior toward others and myself. No I'm looking for a woman with a great personality who's fun to be with as much as I am looks. I've been physically attarcted to women until I discover how rude or stupid they act. Big turn off! So no I'm not quite as shallow as some may think.
To answer That Sam I Am about the one shirt being used in my photos: all of thsoe pics were taken in one day. I didn't worry about wearing three different shirts I just wanted the pictures to look good. It's natural for you to think about fashion more than me though because you're a photographer. If women ignore me because they think i have only one shirt than I think they would be A lot more shallow than I am! | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 3/31/2007 7:46:25 PM | | Dude. Stop worrying about what other people think of you. What YOU think of you a lot more important. Work on that first. You will see a huge difference. | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:32:45 PM | Dude. Stop worrying about what other people think of you. What YOU think of you a lot more important. I totally agree. What life taught me: Its important not to get emotional when others judge you, but at the same, its also very important not to do those things that you yourself consider wrong/or the things that will hurt others.
E.g. If you dress badly, who cares!. People can label me as the devil, as long as they remain objective. Ive had many people denounce and abuse me for maybe politically/racially motivated reasons. I ignored these people, and at the end of the day, history will make it clear to these people that they wronged me... :) (I'm so perfect though) heheh | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:22:24 PM | A little adage I like to go by is,
"Don't frequent the people and places your accepted in, go to where your celebrated!"
If you can appy this 100% you may find true happiness.  | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 3/31/2007 11:31:11 PM | | Tyger at your age you should be dating and not "settling" anyway. As you grow older you'll come to realize that there's more depth to a woman than just her "physical attractiveness". Not saying you should date someone you're not attracted to. Just that you should consider seeing if you become attracted to a woman that doesn't immediately WOW you. Too many people look for that instant WOW in the first few minutes of meeting someone. The reality is that often times it doesn't happen that way. Sometimes it takes getting to know someone more than a few minutes before you begin to become attracted to them. | |
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| Tired of this stereotype...
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:44:16 AM | Hey, Tyger, one suggestion...and this has been said to me too. About the pictures on your profile, you might consider adding at least one with a big smile. You seem to look a bit sad and expressionless in your pictures...as do I in some of mine.
Both of us need to show our happy sides a little more.
I'm really glad for the peaceful tone this thread is starting to take. We all need to be supportive of each other, not critical. | |
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