| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/1/2008 2:47:19 PM | evad and kel you're both right but i wouldn't quote the percentage. all i can say is that there are too many people in here, both men and women that won't give the member of the opposite sex a chance to get to know them because of either their looks, their spelling, and lack of grammar.
i don't care if they spell cup...kup or dog...dawg when they send me an email...at least it's an email to reply to. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/2/2008 4:17:58 AM | I didn't read all the pages of this either but here goes.
Some women don't put anything for body type is because none really fit. I had another profile on here awhile back and when I put BBW on there, men told me I wasn't big enough to be considered a BBW. When I changed it to a few extra pounds, I was told I was dillusional! Now who is trying to fool who here. Let's just call it like it is...I'm a fat chick but I'm still cute. I still laugh, cry, work my ass off, and looking for "him". You tell me though, what do you do in that situation except prefer not to say?
I also choose not to post a pic because the last time I did someone recognized me and showed up at station looking for me, not an email, nothing but showed up and that is SCARY. If someone asks me for a pic - I'll usually send them one but gosh wouldn't it be nice to see if you really wanted to talk to someone before ever asking that. Why waste our time?
Ok, duty calls and it's time to hit the truck, I'll be checking back to see if anyone has any suggestions. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/2/2008 5:03:35 PM | | I guess it just is because it's the internet. I hate to think I'm not "cute enough" for someone to talk to. I know I'm not all that but definately not a dog and guys outside of here like me. I was just trying to broaden my scope here and see if I was possibly missing the Mr Can't Live Without. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:31:27 PM | I know I'm not cute enough but I'll talk to who ever wants to talk. I talk to a few of the nicest women in here all the time. To bad they live far away. I'd love to have drink with them and talk. But the same thing us guys do, you women do. Maybe I should have stayed away from this forum. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/2/2008 7:04:06 PM | Evad, that is pretty generalized and stereotyping. I have responded to every email I've got, some were ok let's talk and some were I'm sorry but I don't think we would be a good match. Either way, I'm not rude to anyone, even when they are not so nice to me. I guess it really is like fishing, never know who you are going to catch!   | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/2/2008 7:17:05 PM | | I do the same thing, respond to e-mails. I answer the same way. I think it's just hard to represent yourself on a profile. I'm a people person who gets along with everyone. But you need to chat with me to get to really know me. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/3/2008 3:46:47 PM | I can't speak for all guys so I won't, but I will answer for myself.....
Actually I find it sometimes hard to even think of the right words to say. I think it's a fault that I have that I really wish I didn't, but I am pretty shy. Like most say on these profiles, shy at first but warm up once I know. The sad thing is that once you know me you might never have wanted to characterise me as shy.
I can be browsing and see someone that seems to spark my interest and after I click contact I draw a blank. Then I over analise everything I type until all I am left with is: Hey there, I liked your profile and was wondering if you'd like to chat sometime?
The one thing I hope you get out of all of this is that someone could possibly be totally in to you and your personality you've put on screen but just not be able to express it in the initial contact.
I hope you have great luck in finding yours,
Tim | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/3/2008 5:27:22 PM |
Actually I find it sometimes hard to even think of the right words to say.
omg i think tim hit the nail right on the head. a lot of guys don't know what to say to a woman in email, that's pretty much why a vast majority of them are less than a paragraph (3-5 sentences) long. you have the shy ones that actually don't know what to say to a woman without themselves being let down and you have the guys that are blunt and straight to the point with what they're looking for....some even demand sex immediately. i had a problem 2 years ago when one guy contacted me demanding a blow job every day and he told me that he couldn't wait until he had my luscious lips around his c*ck (as he said) and another demanded anal sex no less than 10 times a week and wanted sex at least twice a day. i'm sure you all know what happened with those 2, right?
when talking to a woman in the initial email it's pretty easy. i know what i would like to hear aren't compliments on how beautiful or sexy i am (i don't think i'm sexy and they can't see my beauty since it's inner beauty), i'd like to hear how he's doing, what he feels as if we both share in common, what he likes to do as compared to what i like to do either as a couple (if be) or hanging out with the guys. i'd like to hear from his heart how he would treat me and how he would like to be treated. i can go on but i'm not......think about it! | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/3/2008 6:43:43 PM | | Country Girl, are you the norm or are you the exception? My whole dating life I have never made the first "move". And I dated alot and was married once. But they were always in person when I met them and they got to know me before asking me out. This POF thing is new to me and making first contact also is new. Being shy is definitly not a bad personality trait but it has its drawbacks. I know from experience. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/3/2008 6:47:04 PM | Evad - don't get discouraged. I've found out a lot of men are shy but I am not. I really can't believe you have not asked anyone out. That says you are REALLY shy!
Let's face it, we all have our faults but gosh, you have to love us anyways! | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/3/2008 7:03:09 PM | | I don't neccessarily like how you associated being shy with being a pervert but okie I guess some have different levels of intellect/ignorance | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/3/2008 7:04:40 PM | Since I cant find an edit button I'll quote you
"omg i think tim hit the nail right on the head. a lot of guys don't know what to say to a woman in email, that's pretty much why a vast majority of them are less than a paragraph (3-5 sentences) long. you have the shy ones that actually don't know what to say to a woman without themselves being let down and you have the guys that are blunt and straight to the point with what they're looking for....some even demand sex immediately. i had a problem 2 years ago when one guy contacted me demanding a blow job every day and he told me that he couldn't wait until he had my luscious lips around his c*ck (as he said) and another demanded anal sex no less than 10 times a week and wanted sex at least twice a day. i'm sure you all know what happened with those 2, right?" | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/3/2008 11:07:05 PM |
first of all most of these on here do nothing but look about 50 times then they still dont write to u
I can. Watch! u u u u u u u
I can also write v, and w, and x. So what is your point? | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/4/2008 8:54:39 AM | | Alot of times, women change their pictures or edit their profiles. Sometimes we do the same thing, at least I do it. I will admit to looking a few times at the same profile but it's not because I'm some perve. I love women and that's why I'm here. It comes down to being shy, a bad excuse, but true. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/4/2008 8:36:47 PM | ummm dave,. what did you mean by that? i wouldn't say that i'm the norm nor would i say that i'm the exception. i remember years ago i never had to ask a guy out, they always asked me. i never received any emails less than a paragrah long until i signed up for in here. sure when talking in yahoo i would get those never ending a/s/l instant messages but when talking in the chatroom i would be talked to as if we're having a conversation then the same in instant message when talking to the same person or people.
i'm not shy at all, hell, if someone didn't know what to say or type in email i would give them the option of either talking in here playing email tag or talking on the phone. i'd walk right up to someone and start talking to him without a 2nd thought. ummm, i did that friday nite while out walking around the developement looking for pop's cat. i seen this guy walking and just started talking to him....i even told him about this site, got his email addy in hotmail and sent him the link for pof.
xlr....i was using as an example as to some of the short emails that i received from some guys. actually i wouldn't call them guys, i'd call them and still call them azzholes. i didn't say anything about being shy is being a pervert. if you read the first part of what i said and i'll quote it here....
omg i think tim hit the nail right on the head. a lot of guys don't know what to say to a woman in email, that's pretty much why a vast majority of them are less than a paragraph (3-5 sentences) long. you have the shy ones that actually don't know what to say to a woman without themselves being let down
now, just by what i quoted with my own post you would see that the first thing was not speaking with regards to being a pervert but i did follow up with how some guys are as well.
hey micro, i'm a breath of fresh air? ummm, is that a good thing? 
with regards to pics, i keep mine pretty recent and might add a new one or 2 once in a while but that's giving a real recent pic. i don't have any pics where you have to guess which one i am since i have no one to take my pics so i tend to use my trusty ol' webcam. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/5/2008 3:54:37 PM | | It's kinda like this, you can either post or send pics that look like you or be prepared to buy me marguritas til they do! Shy guys, don't give up there is plenty of us not so shy girls out there! | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/5/2008 4:39:19 PM | | Lets be real, there has to be some attraction from the photo,before you get an Email.After that the ball is in the other persons court. | |
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| Whats up with men and the emails on POF
Posted: 10/5/2008 4:49:52 PM | EMT, I'm mixing the maga, muge, margi,,,,,,,.margaritas(f**k) right now. I'm testing them as I spell.:  | |
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