rwcul
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Joined: 12/4/2006
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 9:40:45 AM | | i am 47 now but when i was in my 20s i alwaya was attracted to women in their 30s and 40s. i dont know the reason why but i was. i think it was the level of maturity in those women compared to the younger 'girls'. now i seem to be attracted to those younger than me in their 30s and 40s. hey i am still attracted to the same age huh? usually between 35 and 42 is the range i like for some reason. just seems that way | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 10:45:32 AM | Hi,I'm Tom and I can think of several reasons for this:Younger guys are usually a lot more****,willing to risk rejection and also are often more sexually driven than a lot-but not all- older men,who have more than likely had some bad experiences with women(hence their availability)and are more reluctant to approach them in,say,a bar.Many men of all ages are shallower than a puddle and this shallowness equals not looking for a woman for the PERSON, for the companionship,fun,conversation or even the sex(and if they ARE looking for great sex they will likely be disappointed since,compared to women over 30,very young women,generally,are clumsy,unenthusiastic,unwilling to experiment and still unfamiliar enough with THEMSEVES to know what REALLY "rocks their boat")but so they can feel good about themselves and have a "trophy" to show off.So they go for young,often VERY young women so that they can feel like-and "show the world"-that they "still have it",that they're a stud.etc.
Young men are often influenced by mass media,pop culture and trends,and a popular trend in many "adult magazines" and videos for some years now has been promoting the younger man/older woman mystique.(Which is where the term "MILF" originated)
For YOU,personally,I could also see an intimidation factor and a certain amount of fear of rejection/reluctance to risk asking you out because you are quite beautiful and many men lose some confidence as they age because of bad experiences,the fact that as one ages they experience health/body problem ranging from thinning hair to early arthritis to not healing a quickly as they used to,etc and ,perhaps,their buying into the whole "YOUTH IS EVERYTHING" BS promoted by the mass media.(which many people,sadly,DO buy into even though if looked at objectively the old saying"youth is wasted on the young" is very,very true)
I think you should also know that in my 43 years I'm confident that I've never met a man who would be offended by you messaging them first(BUT they might very well think that you are "on the prowl" or looking for sex)-but if you don't want to take that step just yet,make sure you put the men you like in your favorites list which they probably check often(since women often DON'T make the first move )so they KNOW you like them and will hopefully then make the "first" move.Good luck,keep your eyes open and your wits about you-I wish I had some advice for how to find a man who is REALLY,truly honest,and isn't a selfish,unfeeling a--hole,but........javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 12:53:21 PM | | no i find that all men even the older ones hit on me all the time . i get the older ones old enough to be my father hit on me aswell as the younger ones in their 20 and sometimes the 19 years as well . i like the younger ones about twenty seven to 37 myself im 35 and i have a different livestyle than must 35 yearsolds and i have a teenage daughter had her young.so i have to say . most men hit on me and i find here on pof its hard to meet people to have a spark with or simple friendship here i dont know why but its happens. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 1:19:05 PM | It must be nice to be you then and have ALL men hit on you ALL the time.....
Many of us get hit on and is it not amazing how we view it so much differently when someone approaches us and that is the one we want?
When I see comments like the one you just made, it affirms my belief to not approach a woman until she comes to me or gives me the signals that she wants to know me better by walking by me and saying something, or asking me a question, or smiling at me specifically when sitting, standing or walking by.
Why annoy or bother another at all? Rejection is hard enough on all of us, and to be put in the same category as ALL men, is just another reason not to.
I smile politely when those like you and your age wonder why I am not hitting on you, and I sit enjoying another drink won by a bet on age.......smiles......
Just my opinion......  | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 3:14:50 PM | OP, have to agree with what many have said here, that you're not only very attractive, but look young for your age as well. And because you do look younger and are free to do so, you probably hang out in places where there are more younger guys, and that's why they are the ones you are attracting at this point.
I personally enjoy women in their 30s most of all. I too am looking to likely have a family someday, if I can meet the right right woman before it gets too late for me. For me, a woman in her 30s that is past her wild, carousing days, and is looking for a good, honest and dependable man to make a life with would be ideal. But all too often I'm out of their age range, or they live too far away. But I won't give up, and you shouldn't either. Good luck! | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 9:31:47 PM | Wen, I read your profile after reading your post and wanted to respond to you off the forum board. It is difficult to respond to a profile when the person you are responding to won't accept your e-mails. Perhaps it is not that you are young in appearance. Many of us guys over 30 require a foundation so when we go out we look to start conversation.
A few of the women who responded earlier suggested you get a little more "agressive" perhaps that should be stated as "assertive". Some of the best dates I have been out on have been with the women who actually call after we talk in line at the 7-11, or the grocery store as tacky as it sounds if you can chat in public you could probably (oops) have a great date. Have the courage to follow through when we (us older guys) "throw the ball in your court" so to speak. Most of us by this age are looking for an equal. That starts with inititave.
On to the next point ..... 30 is risky.... transitional age for both genders. 33 or better usually stable again or close to it..... | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/9/2007 12:04:31 AM | Wenlex,
If you aren't getting any nibbles from guys in your age range, then you need to up your age range. There are lots of guys in their 40's who would love to date you. Some of them still might want kids. Simple as that. I wish I could find a woman in her 30's who doesn't already have kids but still wants them. They're increasingly harder to find. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/9/2007 12:36:27 AM |
Also, some might wonder that even if you were interested in us, would we have to constantly beat off those young studs who are interested in you. You know, after 40, a guy can only break so many young necks, before they need a nap.
Haha you're funny. (hope I quoted that correctly.) | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/10/2007 8:12:10 PM | Move to Washington State I'll date ya LOL!! 35....er I think I remember 35 ;) Pretty Lady like you should have no problems finding or being found by men. Are you sure your expectations aren't too high on the men you are being approached by? As for myself, Subtlety flied right over my head, perhaps more direct approach to those you might find attractive. Yes I read your response about not taking the first step. I don't mean taking the first step as much as nudging "Him" to take the first step =D
But if you ever ARE ever in Spokane, erm uh um.....
Kevin | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/11/2007 10:15:35 AM | Im 66 and it seems to me that men my age are only interested in women 35 to 45. Now I dont know what they think they would do with a younger woman unless they are ready for a stroke. But Ive always heard, thats the way a guy wants to go.Have a good day and be glad you are only 34 . Pollio | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/11/2007 1:53:49 PM | | After years of plenty of observation, I never believe that line of 'the more beautiful they are, the more intimidated men are to talk or hit on them'. It is a COMPLETE fallacy. If anything, the line was created to actually induce MORE hitting on to the poor damsel.... | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/11/2007 4:23:51 PM | It certainly gets more difficult for ALL of us as we get older because (1) the entire pool of candidates is probably shrinking due to people getting married etc. (2) the bar scene does get quite old ... (3) people are more isolated in this day and time. You're an attractive girl ... so that's NOT the problem. I'd suggest you making the first move on occasion ... it seems to be "o.k." to do that these days. Attend POF functions to meet people ... let friends know you are "looking" ... join a fitness club ... go to church ... hang at the park ... go where people are gathering and it is safe to meet some more people. As a man in my forties ... I have no problem being attracted to a woman in her thirties.  | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/11/2007 5:58:21 PM | | I am 49 years old. I have my life the way I like it, and my girls are grown up. I don't mind younger women when it comes to sex, but for a real relationship, I prefer women no younger than 39. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 39 | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/12/2007 12:31:17 AM | | Every guy out there is different. I'm 34 and as for the dating scene, I have dated women from their mid 20's to mid 30's. Finding the right girl and this dating thing its harder than I thought. Beginning to not like going out with all my friends who are married or have girlfriends. Feels like I am the third wheel at times. Its so hard to find connection with a girl these days. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/12/2007 6:16:20 AM | Hi, to answer your question, I LOVE women in their 30's and younger, but I find the older I get, the more and more distant the 30's women are becoming. 
The other way round, I feel is more to the point, WHY do women in thier 30's shy away from us in our 40's.
I feel as an older man, I have STILL have a lot to offer the younger women out there. We have the ultimate tool on our side in the end and that is experience!!
You should also be thankful, like me, you have had a good paper-round and you look fantastic for your age 
Be safe and lucky all.......Steve x | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/12/2007 1:52:56 PM | You may be better off finding an older guy. Not grandpa, but maybe 40's.
To me it seems like men and women are usually about 5-7 years apart in maturity.
There are exceptions to every rule of course, but for the most part I think this is true. | |
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yumz
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Joined: 3/9/2007
Msg: 46 | |
| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/12/2007 6:08:15 PM | | I have been single now for 2 years and the only dates i get are younger guys and i mean younger lol. They seem to think older women dont have hangups like younger women. Yes i agree that older men are less likely to be attracted to women their own age or within the same decade because of the fact that she has a child or might be less energetic than a younger women, but beleive me older women have more to offer than someone younger. .......such as less likely to get jealous, dirty 30s and naughty 40s , more respect for themselves and the way they look, more likely to be honest and caring. Older men are trying to capture their youth again and its such a laugh to see them try. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/12/2007 6:09:48 PM | Ok I have some comments on your profile based on reading lots of profiles by Bay Area women (check out the recent NYtimes article on on-line dating). Your profile contains some very general things and it also leaves the impression that you like to have fun. I think this theme is very common among people in their twenties, but older men might like a sense of how you are grounded. I would include several things:
1. Try to list some creative things about yourself in an innovative way. You can include odd habits (I always look behind when crossing the street to see who is watching my rear"), funny things your dog does ("he is my baby and sometimes guy magnet"), and a catchy thing about your daily routine ("I drink my coffee first thing so I'm awake enough not confuse the shower with the sink").
2. Try to talk about the characteristics you would want in a partner and what your long-term goals would be. Younger men might be put off by committment (even if it is long-term).
3. Talk about how you have grown. This will give men a sense that you have evolved and a more attractive prospect with whom to settle. Or, more to the point, it will remind them that your interests are more than wandering into "said random pub" and quaffing beer until some doofus notices you. Talk about what you would like to do for fun as well as growth (from long walks to rock climbing [ everyone in the Bay Area must want to join the Green Berets]to exploring odd flea markets and cafes).
4. Listen to all these guys. You have nothing to worry about in the attraction department, just let more of you show in your profile.
Bonne chance! | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/13/2007 12:47:06 PM | | The only reason guys of this age want to date "older women" is to have a notch on their sexual CV. They don't want to have a relationship or marry you. Be realistic; they are youngsters, and will want their own family, life and will move on after a short period of time. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/13/2007 1:02:52 PM | one reason this happens is some men are worried that after the first date you will turn around and say
"IM NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER ,HOW SOON CAN WE MARRY AND HAVE CHILDREN"
this can be the difference between dating and the politics of relationship commitment,or what some call the biological clock | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:59:49 PM | I think a lot of people who commented misinterpreted what I was saying.
I never said, I couldn't get a "date" or that I prefer younger men, I said, "I would like to date someone my own age." | |
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