| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/13/2007 3:00:09 PM | | not always but i does happen do does it for younger women dating older guys. they lose interest inthe older guy too or just a sexual thing for the younger woman . so realy that depends on the person. i like the younger ones because they fit my lifestlye and the older guys dont. look demi more aston kucther their married and i saw people with a 7 years different in marragies so . its not always about that. its just that people scared of change and i say go with what you want and i would date a guys lees than 7year younger and 2 years older cuz i get along better with that age group. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/14/2007 9:18:32 AM | I have always been attracted to younger men, but I did, for a while when I was much younger ( in my twenties) enjoyed the company of older men. I've noted, more so now, that a lot of younger men are more into me than I would expect. Course, I'm not body beautiful...so that kinda makes me wonder what the intent is...but when I've had 2o somethings asking me to go out on a date the chubby chaser thoughts are no longer founded.
To the young lady whose wondering why older men don't seem to be into women in their 3o's...sometimes it's not an interest thing....it's a personality thing. Attraction does begin with the physical, but if a person has no real personality it can end things before they even get started. As other's have suggested, perhaps finding more appropriate venues geered to what you are looking for would help.
I've been single and on my own for the past five yrs and I must say I rather like my freedom. I did the married thing...and though I'm still a mom...I certainly make time for me. I am more interested in people who can carry on a decent conversation, make me laugh, and have a good sense of humor. Dating and relationships, now, is far different for me than when I was younger.
Rules of engagement are different, as are, the expectations of both men and women in the dating arena. I think you should de-emphasize 'age' and focus more on a person's goals, interests, ideals, that compliment yours. I have found, when I stopped looking for MR RIGHT *cough cough* than I discovered there were a lot of MR YOU ARE PRETTY COOL out there.
Good luck with your search and just be yourself....when you are comfortable in your own skin...other's take notice. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/18/2007 9:45:32 AM | well...i think most opinions have been covered here..but i couldnt help but put in my two cents..(maybe ill go for the whole nickle!)..wenlex,im sure youve gathered from the postings that the guys here think your very pretty(me included)and maybe even smart and fun too...a catch for someone twenty to fifty all day...that being said..think about where these younger guys might be comming from...a lot of girls undr thirty are still playing the field,going to clubs and acting like babys and princesses...here you come..young and pretty but smart and independent...you must be driving these little fellas wild!!...as far as the older guys go(and im rapidly becoming one)...tend to married,jaded from some bitter divorce,think their losing thier edge,or just plain having a midlife meltdown...this is tough for us to face(i would never admit this out loud) so keep that in mind...you might even have to stick your neck out a bit at this point...isnt it worth it to get what you want and be happy?..trust me..any guy..any age..would love a message from you in their mailbox...oh...um...did i mention that im only a few miles south? | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/18/2007 10:09:22 AM | | Well, I prefer someone my own age, so yea i'll be looking for someone in their thirties.... What am I gonna do with a 22 year old.. LOL... I probably can't keep up with her and she will buy me a wheel chair.. LOL And I definately don't want that.. ROFL | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/19/2007 2:56:04 PM | ok being a male whos turning 35 next week... I still dont feel it....
Being 34, I have seen the same thing with younger women. Younger means not really mature. I have a 2.5 yr old son, and know how to be responsible.
In searching for someone to date, I have to look for not only me, but for my son. Someone that I want to be around me, and someone to be around him.... and someone I can trust to be around him.
Being alone for the first time in over 9 yrs, I will agree its weird, lonely and not something someone wants to do all the time. But.... dont make those the reasons to go find someone that you are not really interested in. Make sure that they are the one you want to invest time into. People our age need this. People younger go thru dates like toilet paper. As we get older, I find I am respecting myself more. Im not going to go looking to have that bedmate. I never even did when I was younger.
Think of your future.
Oh and younger? most still havent even figured out what they want to do in life.....
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/19/2007 7:21:27 PM | unfortunately for you there are other women in their 30's who were immature and screwed things up for you.
yes there are alot of women who have alot of games they want to play, and men who want to have a real relationship wont even think of alot of women in their 30's simply because theyve been burned.
I have , but I dont date anymore either, if i was asked id just forget dating , it just aint worth the trouble. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/19/2007 8:42:48 PM | | Well I would not 'stay away' from you , but I'm still in my 30's.... not sure why these men you speak of are not intrested..mayhaps theylove the Y---M---ccccc-A (dunh dunh dunh dunh dunh.) | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/19/2007 9:10:16 PM | You have written sensitively from the heart...I appreciate that...
Of course older men will date women in their 30s...intelligence...ability to articulate who they are and for u to genuinely interested in who we are......to wake up on the weekend turning over and having no one there to smile at...writes volumes....of someone who knows what she wants....
It is the greatest quality that women of class lack today...especially in North America....
Burning Orange... | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/12/2007 4:11:27 PM | | Looking at your voting history...........It seems you are only attracted to young boys, and women as well.....lol. Maybe you have to look outside the box, if you TRULY mean what you say. To date someone your own age that is !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/12/2007 5:23:03 PM | | Might be that it's because your criteria for age range goes down to 27, eight years younger than you, but max you put is 40. Since you are 35, I believe that is sending a certain message to people your age or early '40s about who you are really looking for. And they are blocked from mailing you. Why not reset your preferences as a temporary test? | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/13/2007 12:00:50 AM | | i don't find that older men shy away from me...i'd say 60% of the men on my 'viewed me' list and 85% of the men in my rate my picture 'fans' section are over 40. unfortunately my preference is usually younger, and occasionally in my age range...so while they approach, my interest is usually platonic (there have been some exceptions of course). | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/13/2007 3:54:50 AM |
Some older guys, or perhaps guys in your age group as well, may find you an unrealistic proposition
Us old farts hate to get turned down, our egos are too fragile.
OP, I have the same pridicament! lots of attention from younger guys from late teens up to late 20's - then less from men in my age group.
However, I often get propositioned by older men too. Maybe there's an age when old farts' ego's become less fragile?? | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:12:12 AM | Well Darling,
Except for the fact that I am 1 year out of your age range and that there are more than just a few hundred miles between us, I would contact you in a minute. As for why those that meet your criteria won't pursue you, is beyond me! I've always said that Texas has the prettiest women in the world, but I'm seeing some very interesting profiles here.
I would get a good belly laugh listening to you sing while your dog is dragging you along. Just the thought is putting a smile on my face. 
If things don't improve, maybe you could consider a trip down south.
I think you are very attractive, it seems mentally and physically and someone your age should be honored to even communicate with you.
Just my 2 cents worth.
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:29:53 AM | Well, I don't see a reason why I would women from 35.. You seem pretty OK to me, judging from the photo's..  But some older men do like a young bunny so they go for the younger girls out there.. Me well I don't mind dating older women at all.. As long as I like them.... | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:16:43 AM | Wenlex,
I have to agree with a lot of what geneseo is saying here. Your very attractive and that alone is intimiating to most men. Especially those, like us old farts (yes, I said it) who get rejected multiple times on a daily basis. I cannot imangine you getting rejected at all, but I am sure it happens occasionally. If you make the first move, I guarantee that you will have plenty of men to choose from and your problem will be finding a guy who actually wants to explore having a relationship. But, like us old farts (OK, stop it already???) your going to have to make that move.
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/13/2007 3:59:17 PM | I dont know why you dont seem to attract men your age, you are attractive enough and seem to want a long term relationship , as you stated you want children. You look younger than your age on your picture, im not sure whether that plays a part in your situation?
I mainly get messages from women older than myself , but ideally would like to meet someone slightly younger than me , or at least not older. When i was younger i always dated older women, why im not sure?
I am your age and i would date you , a problem for me would be you wanting children and i have children already, and im very unsure of having more children. Not to say i would interest you though.
Dont know if any of the above has helped , its just my experience really.
I wish you all the best , you will find your man.
JJ. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/13/2007 4:46:53 PM | OP Based on your statement that you do want to date guys your own age.
It is not that hard if you try & put yourself in situations with an older crowd.
Try & do that based on interests & hobbies that you have.
Looking at your pic. You look young, so younger guys will approach( believe me enjoy it, there will be a day when you miss it-lol)
I am suprised older guys are not approaching you. With age usually comes a bit of self assurance & confidence.
Are you looking at the young guys & giving them the smile signal & not to the older guys?
Is this mostlyhappening just here online?
I am not going to lie to you Mid 30's is a sucky age for women.
I can tell you based on what women friends tell me.To long to list reasons why & I am sure most everyone does not want to hear it. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/13/2007 5:52:09 PM | Wenlex - not all men in their 30's stay away from women that are in their 30's . I am 36 and I would really like to find someone closer to my age than say someone that is quite a few years younger than me. Quite a few years younger is different for everyone so I will allow whomever reads this to figure out what that happens to be for him or her.
Some times you need to look at it like this, when dating these younger men you are finding out things you want in a relationship and in that guy you will meet in the future. Communication, trust, respect, helping out with day to day items and putting that person first is learned over time for some men. Remember when dealing with guys some of us learn very, very slowly. Well at least I do.
We learn something from every relationship we have in our lives. Some good and yes some bad things. Hang in there Wenlex, not all guys in their 30's are spooked by a woman that is close to the same age as they are. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 4/14/2007 6:06:40 AM |
I would like to attract men my own age; but honestly need some advice.
I have been accused of only liking younger women, but that is false. I would love to meet a lady around my age who either isn't being controlled by her biological clock to settle down and get married, have an average build or doesn't have a bunch of children. It seems to be very hard to find that in a woman close to my age (I'm 38).
I am very open to something more long term, but I think the dating part has to come before the couple part. The weight and kids thing is just a personal preference, and I am more flexible on the children issue if she only have one or two and/if they are older. | |
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