| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 10/27/2007 12:44:20 AM | My reasons for wanting to find a woman in her 30's, she's advanced enough to take me seriously, she's grown up. They might not have had her kids yet, they had one or a few and want more, your biological clocks are ticking and might want t settle down, they are motivated to might avtually need a man, and have a sense of urgency? Gen X women and I hit it off and share many interests like in music. When they are past 36 they see older guys as more relationship ready, have experience in pleasing women. When women hit their 30's they are better suited for intimacy, they grow more so too. My case is a little unusualy , my x was much younger then me, she had an abusive dysfunctional family who hated me, my kids were manipulated to help my x alienated them from me. My x's family used their money to legally kidnap my family. U was very close with my kids, my x and her family resented it. Women in their 30s can sadlt have kids and might be attracted to a seasoned lover and and an exception gentle dad.
wenlex, i hvae many other good reasons for preferring a woman ib her 30's , at 53 I might not see like a good match for many women who share you justifiable reasons for dating within their age group. I will comment more (maybe) , there are advantages in age different age brackets One problem are statistics, women live longer and you dont want your future kids to have an old dad> Women who have older parents are better suited to find romances with up to 20 year age differences.
To get to the point I seek women in their 30's, ideally at least.I find women of all ages attractive. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 10/27/2007 5:05:15 PM | Men dont stay away from women in their thirtys, But if you are dating guys in the mid twenties what do you expect, Any man 30 to 35 isnt going to hang in bars where 20 to 25 year olds hang ( unless he is a idiot who cant pick up someone his own age). If you want someone your own age group, Hang out with older groups or bars etc where older people hang out. and quit shagging the kids
You cant expect to Pickup a 30 to 35 year old who is hanging in a dance club because..like you..he is there for someone younger for a piece. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:57:37 AM | absolutely ( or at least THIS one does )....for a myriad of reasons, but most importantly that any "30's" woman who finds me attractive, is most likely so blind that she cant find the keyboard to reply to my message....
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 10/30/2007 12:25:58 PM | | ok, I did see everything. Very attractive. Maybe with you being a nice attractive person, most strangers assume that you are taken. Maybe you are involved and are just taking a night out or whatever. That has to be the thought on their minds. Once I was in a restaurant that I visited once or twice a week (working out of town for several months) and one evening the seater asked why I didn't bring my wife. I told her I was alone, single, solo, nobody but me. Next, I could not hardly enjoy my meal because of all of the young women at my table. Then, the manager came and ran them off, I guess so she could sit for a while and have her try. But, after many involvements in the past, it is hard to take that step with someone unfamiliar. A woman has the capability to make a mans' life wonderful. She can also mess it up. So, maybe some of the men your age err on the side of caution. If a man is your age or older, he has started accumulating things, has his life kinda ironed out, and has a lot to invest, but at the same time has a lot to lose. Just trying to explain. | |
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Icene
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 10/30/2007 4:17:19 PM |
30something isn't GenX. Gen X is someone around Billy Idol's age - they came of age in the mid to late 70s, not the late 80s.
The definition of Gen X differs from country to country, but in the US Gen Xers were born between 1964 and 1981. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 10/30/2007 5:42:21 PM |
From hospital studies its also clear that the highest frequency of healthy children come from women in their mid to late twenties with male partners about ten years older.
Of course not every man wants a kid nad some may have some already - perfect partenrs for the woman who is in the same boat - but of course I bet they arent interested..............in most cases....
What??? Can you show me these "hospital studies," or is this yet another made up statistic? I hate to break the news to you, but the quality of men's sperm declines as he ages, and an increase in a male's age leads to an INCREASE in birth defects. Seriously, I would love to look at these mysterious "hospital studies" that you cite, especially since I was an OB nurse for years, and saw many healthy babies born to women in their 30's and 40's. The highest incidence of birth problems I saw were in women who had lousy or no prenatal care.
While I realize that many women happen to meet and fall in love with men who are a decade older, specifically looking for one seems a bit foolish. I personally wouldn't want to be a widow at the age of 62, which is what the odds would be. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/21/2007 7:49:38 PM | | Personally I don't see what age really has to do with it if there is a connection between 2 people that is what is important. If they get along then go for it. I am going to be 35 right away and I give everyone a chance. Well I shouldn't say that I do have limits, I don't want to be dating someone anywhere near my dads age but i always hope that men do not take my age as a reason to stay away from me. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/22/2007 7:49:53 PM | | WTF are you nuts??? The standard for remarrying for men with women is take their age divide by two, add seven, maybe guys who don't want to remarry and have kids avoid women in their 30's , to the rest of us it's a standard when our first wives divorce us or they die and we have no kids. I know the age difference schtick, if my next wife dies...she dies. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/25/2007 11:48:42 AM | I've experienced the same thing and very puzzled by it. I'm 38 and I have had a slew of very young men and even a couple young women hit on me. Even a 19 year old co-worker has been pursuing me to the point of being almost a stalker.
Here I was feeling bad about myself having discovered several gray hairs and wrinkles, so maybe I should take it as a compliment that someone younger is pursuing. I've always been attracted to those older for dating and friendship. I am very attracted to a 63 yr old friend who recently divorced and doesn't take me seriously for wanting to go out. So I am in sorta the same boat as those young guys because I am getting rejected by someone older. Then again sometimes guys aren't good at judging age as the 24 yr old waiter that had been flirty with me for months asked to sit at my table and talk. His jaw dropped when he asked my age and I responded 38. He hasn't talked to me since! | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/25/2007 12:16:34 PM | Two reasons:
For men, you are in that 'awkward' age. If someone is interested in starting a family, he's generally going to be younger and looking for younger women who have no children yet. If he's older and has no children, again, he'd be looking for women who are not tied down with children, so that you can devote yourself entirely to his children, if you should happen to find a man who is past 40 and has no children but wants to have them. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/25/2007 10:27:56 PM | I'm about to turn 32 in a little over a month. I suppose technically that makes me an "older man", but I don't really think about ages (30's included) unless it's extreme (someone that looks like a lolita or someone that is old enough to be my mom/gma). Personally, I seem to look at the lives people have lived, not necessarily their number. I suppose another factor would be the environment? Patrons at a local bar where bands play might have a younger crowd, whereas patrons at a cigar lounge might be slightly older.
Just my few thoughts :-) | |
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Joined: 11/2/2007
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 12:30:17 AM | If I'm not mistaken, the OP is in her mid 30's, attractive, intelligent, has a good career, and has no children. I cannot imagine a more perfect scenario. The only sticking point that I can imagine would be if our Religions weren't in line.
I wish that there were a few thousand more like her in the Puget Sound area!!! | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 12:37:16 AM | Wenlex....
i feel you on this one...i mean, what is so bad bout being in your mid thirties and fabulous, that men in the same age group 26-35 does not find attractive? I simply do not get it.... | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 1:55:03 AM |
your biological clocks are ticking
I've taken out batteries from my biological clock and put them in my ... never mind where... the point is why is there always an assumption that a woman has a biological clock and must wish to bear children?
In response to the question of the thread, do they really stay away? Not all of them, in my experience... luckily:) | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 2:05:36 AM | Wenlex.
Go and read a few of the posts on battered husbands.
Older men have had more TIME in relatinships. Mor time to become battered husbands. Thats why they arent dating you. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 8:55:19 AM | I don't........that happens to be part of the age group I'm looking in for 
As far as you attracking mostly young men, it MIGHT have something to do with what you look.
About 10 yrs ago I worked with 2 woman in their early 30's who had the same problem as you, they were petite, looked young & dressed young. Heck one of them got ID'd while buying smokes when she was 31.
All the both of them said they attracted were 18 to 25yr old guys.
Then again you may also not be fishing in the right hole.
If you'r still into the club scene, you won't meet as many 30+ men as you would in a billiards league, or a mixed volleyball league or sofball, perhaps bowling, or a gym....etc | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 12:30:53 PM | I am 33 and I also have lots of younger guys hitting on me, recently i have found that older guys are definetly interested, one even said that the reason he did'nt make a move was because he thought i was younger etc.. I find now that its all in the way you come across no matter where you are the way you walk and ofcourse use the eyes as eye contact its a sure way to invite older or younger guys to you. Confidence will attract any age of a guy, trust me on that, i have tried, tested and succeeded and i am with a 37yr old guy at the momemt but not sure if it will last but thats a different story.
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 12:38:10 PM | I have to agree with pfm1011, get away from where the kids are and find somewhere, where you can meet guys of your own age and older its much better and they are more interesting to talk to and unless they are complete wankers they wont want in2 ur knickers 'at least not right away' ;-)
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 4:48:47 PM | Older than what? Im 43 and women in there thirties seem to be non existant for relationships. Not that age matters that much. I dont know about others but meeting and or dating a person does not usually begin with ....How old are you? Its an attraction either physically, emotionally, or having something in common. The rest of the stuff that comes with the "package" just either has to be acceptable to be apart of the relationship or dont waist each others time.
If they are worth it....to you, the "baggage" just doesnt seem like baggage any more but, just a part of their lives you want to know more about....and are willing to fight for even if it did not look like (at first) what you had planned. I think thats why they call it falling in Love......
AWAYS FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS AND TRUST YOUR HEART, THEY WILL NEVER DISAPPOINT YOU....
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 11/26/2007 9:22:13 PM | | 30 is too young, She is straggling behind her generation, still hoping for The One. 39 is about right, but why would she be looking for someone my age? I look for women who are exactly 47 and 3 months old, give or take 1 week. They know the songs I like and have just resigned themselves to the inevitability of eternal bliss. | |
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