| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/11/2008 1:15:59 AM | that is the key:
you are trying to get attraction, and that can come accross.
when you are around men of different age (younger, older) you are more the free yourself: natural.
I would like to attract men my own age
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/11/2008 10:18:48 AM | | I personally think some young men are looking for a mother figure. They seem to like older women. I to have been approached by younger men. I dated one once but we seemed to have been from different planets. My life experiences put us at different places. Age is just a number so judge people individually. Some of the young males I have found wanted to date me for sex. I told them I didn't want to be their stiflers mom........MILF.......lol. So just use your judgement. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/11/2008 3:15:33 PM | Here's an answer I guarantee you've never heard before....
I believe alot of men in their 40's want 25 yo because they are more receptive to men...women who are in their thirties like us sometimes aren't aware that they are too independent, too set in their ways, too unwilling to let a man be a man. For instance, have you ever turned down a man who wanted to do something for you (ie--fix something, carry a heavy box etc...) and say you could do it yourself? Typically a 25 yo won't be saying this because they want to be taken care of. So let the men in your life protect you and provide for you (emotionally not financially). If you look at men as partners rather than competitors, they will probably be as attracted to you as those 10 years your junior.
Just a thought... | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/11/2008 4:35:05 PM | | I feel the same way, my friends tell me Im lucky to be single, but I would trade my life for theirs in a second. I am not interested in dating younger men, playing the field so to speak but in someone who is mature and knows what they want. What is wrong with this picture? | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/12/2008 9:52:49 AM | | It seems like older women want to date me more than younger ones. I'm kinda disappointed though because I would like to meet a mate my age or younger so we can start a life and family. I mean, I think or at least my experience, most women around my age say they want that, but then down the line they come to discover how they don't know really what they want. It's sad how a lot of people waste thier life away not trying to get to know people. I for sure don't want to wait until 45 to marry and for me, that's too old to have kids. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/12/2008 10:28:20 AM | I am 41 and I once liked this really nice guy (or so I thought) who was 42. I look much younger than I actually am and he thought I was about 30. Anyway, when he found out I was 39 (as I was then) he was very dismissive. He said he would never date a woman of 40 as it was just too old, and he wanted children. For the record, women can and do have children at this age, but how rude and dismissive! This was a guy I idolised, until he said this, and it was a wake up call.
Like the guys, I prefer younger if poss as well, but I would never be so openly rude about it. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/15/2008 4:37:26 PM | nothing more sexier than women in their thirties and older.
since they seem to have more to offer, smarts, confidence and oppions.
so if some older men don't find you desirable, then I'm sure its cause they can't bring them selves to the table for a good banter... and more.
take care and keep away from them yungns... they have plenty of their own age to play with...
we need more matured women to keep our mind sharp and belly sucked in... | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/15/2008 8:20:04 PM | | I also tend to attract younger men but the difference is...I don't see it as an issue...just because they're younger doesn't make them "boys". There are a lot of good men out there regardless of age...maybe you should try getting to know them instead of judging them based solely on a number. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:57:24 PM | Thank God I'm not the only one.....
I would say 90% of the men who approach me are between 21-25.
I am in a small country town and I have to say that this does not make me popular with the other women in my community.
I think maybe....and this is a big maybe.....that men around the 30-40 mark KNOW that women over 30 pretty much have them and themselves figured out.
I spoke to one of my younger male friends and asked him why the attraction for older women.... and he said.... older women know what they want and don't play as many games.
If you can meet a CONFIDENT man over 30, he won't have a problem with an over 30's woman. It's only when you've got men (over 30) trying to behave like they are 21, that you have a problem. Because they know that we know  | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:13:50 PM | Awwwww really was something I could relate to I am 33 male who has been out of the relationship scene for a minute I would say I am attracted to older women and honestly because of a reason unbeknownst to me. I think its harder for a guy my age to find a 21-26 yr old so feel good and relax---Dont try so hard to put yourself out there for them youngbucks and be more reserved I'd say. But then I'm not a man whore who would know the perfect answer.... | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/17/2008 6:00:22 AM | Bravo beachbaby4summer. You said a mouthful and I have to tell you. All in all I'd prefer older women over younger women on every level if most of those women weren't trying to be men.
In my opinion... Well said!  | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:35:18 AM | In my experience, IMMATURE guy (eternal frat boys and the mid-life crisis crew) goes for "the model type", meaning naïve hottie airhead (or calculating golddigger) so long she doesn't know how to say "no" and is easily distracted by shiny things.
MATURE man (of any age) spends time getting to know his woman, has no qualms about her having something to say or showing her new things, value self-reliance and cherishes feeling special because such an awesome and hot independent chick digs him obviously for him.
Both are perfectly fine, because to each his own. 
You can recognize mature man by his friends, which will include women his own age.
You can recognize immature man in the social section of a newspaper, frequently captured jumping on furniture in latest nightlife hot-spot.
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 7/17/2008 2:37:02 PM | Thank Heavens I'm not the only one! My friends think it's sooo funny that I get hit on by such young guys. But I find it really hard to talk to guys in my age group because I apparently look young, and do a lot of things which throws people off.. apparently lol.
It is driving me nuts!!!!!!! | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 9/7/2008 1:02:45 PM | Personally at 36 I am specifically looking for a woman from about 28 or 29 right up to my age or maybe one or two yrs older max. Anywhere in that range would work and I give no priority to the youthfull end of the spectrum, any younger and while she may be a knock out and make me feel young LOL, garanteed shell be a flake.
I AM looking for a family, eventually, and I love kids. I don't mind if they are already a part of a woman's life as long as she has room to make me feel like I matter too. Of course I realize her kids must be a priority but if she's going to throw that in my face or otherwise make me feel like I am not also important or I'm replaceable. second fiddle ,whatever then that is a TOTAL deal breaker. You can have multiple priorities in your life and not make the lesser of the two FEEL like they are less, you know what I am saying? Any decent guy should always understand that your children matter to you and never put you in a position to choose or neglect them. But they have to be made to feel that they matter too. After all if you expect to build or rebuild a life with someone those kids will of course always be in both of your lives but they will be moving out in X years and it will mostly just be the two of you (plus dogs).
Another thing about the age thing and kids. I said I love them I don't mind adopting yours someday or just being step dad someday but I really do still harbor the hope that I will have at least one of my own biological offspring. The older you get the more likely it will be major drama to do that or that you have your two and don't want another etc. I already did 5 years of fertility treatments (female problems not mine) and it is heartbreaking and difficult and incredibly expensive and losing babies and hormone treatments (which are like the woman is on a 24/7 worst PMS you could ever imagine, think the exorcist) and all that is a huge thing to go through and if it fails in the end its like mourning a child and can really spell the end of a relationship if you or she or the two of you cant recover from it, or she doesn't want to move on an adopt. I just cannot go through that again. So if you are too close to the cutoff date with out probably needing "help" to have a child it is a scary proposition. Maybe if you have two adorable ones sand I fall for them as much as for you then we can talk... Just something for women to think about when you throw that "Hey women are having kids in their forties" statement... Yeah SOME of them are.
I think that for me there are a couple of factors going on with the meeting and approaching "older" or "my age" women. First if you are young looking and attractive maybe I think you're much younger and will blow me off for being too old! LOL, sounds funny but it could very well be true. I would LOVE to hook up (for the long term not just tonight!) with a 30 something who looks 24, are you kidding me? that would be incredible as long as we have the personality compatibility but its hard to know that before you even talk. But seriously I can't stand there in the grocery store and count your growth rings before I decide to act, LOL.
I am a relatively confident guy and I'm sociable and fun but I am still intimidated by walking up to a full table of your friends, guys and women, not actually knowing if you're single or not (Im not looking to get into a fight with your possible boyfriend who just maybe hasn't put a ring on your finger yet) and asking you if you want to step away from them and chat with me. Last night at a bar my friends took me to to watch a UFC fight there was this really cute girl sitting with her corporate softball team, maybe 8 or 9 mixed guy and girl table and nobody was talking to her, she looked miserable, I SOOO wanted to go up and say hi and would have if she was also walking around or something but she was sort of surrounded and "protectred" by all the guys at the table even though I'm 90% sure she wasn't WITH any of them, but that overwhelming group pretty much makes you all seem unapproachable. I think often when single women in their 30s are out in social settings they put up a wall around their group of friends or the friends do and it kind of makes us feel like it would be frowned upon for us to enter your space and interrupt your social thing. How I feel anyway.
Honestly just the fact that you are or aren't wearing a ring is not enough to let us know if you are available and open to approach by a guy. Sometimes its hard to see if you are wearing one too. And at our age if you are attractive and well dressed and not a freak, we are assuming you MUST be taken, how could it be that someone either hasn't scooped you up or was stupid enough to let you get away? Us 30 somethings who really want to meet a nice cool interesting 30 something are out there all over the place but the burden always falls on us and you don't make it easy on us. Just standing around is not telling us anything. I think you all need to print up some shirts that say "30 something and single" and wander around where we can find you. LOL, it sounds like a joke and Im not being literal but hey help us out. Most of my "second life" dating has taken place in China, partly because I'm there so much for work and partly because of the different behavior of the women there. They are very quick to catch your eye and smile at you if they like you and are single. Its a little bold compared to women here but its not like they come up and ask me out, ok some of them do, but seriously they do let me know somehow if they think I'm cute or they give a nonverbal signal that its ok for me to come over to them, I still have to go over and start up a conversation, in fact I have to get my flirt on IN CHINESE which I speak some of but that makes it even more awkward for me, but at least I know before I open my mouth that she at the very least thinks I'm cute or is open to being approached. Come on give us a sign.
LOL one more thing I want to say, LOL, quit telling us to go to kids sporting event to meet single soccer moms. Older single guy who don't have a kid on the team are gonna be considered really weird if they are hanging around the children's soccer field. Although I guess I could go to watch my neighbor kids play. They are my buds anyway they come over to play w my dog or borrow dvds and play video games on my big screen all the time, LOL, they probably know which of their friends don't have dads too and whos mom is hot! LMAO, I think my new wing man is gonna be 10. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 9/7/2008 2:15:51 PM | I dont know - I just got out of a long term relationship with a man 4 years older than me - Im 37 and I have a date with a 25 year old this weekend!! I cant wait! 
I like the younger ones. Men my age seem to be intimidated by me. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:31:01 PM | Nice to hear 'Two Wheels', because like many I have begun to feel that meeting a man around my own age (42) is near impossible.
The women around my age generally indicate they would like to meet someone around five years older/younger than themselves.
The men most often are seeking a woman 10-15 years younger than themselves.
I just don't understand why - is it that the men feel they must conform to the stereotype and have a much younger partner on their arm? Do the men feel they look and act 10-15 younger than women of their own age? And finally I can't quite believe men over 45, many already with older children from another relationship, truly are that interested in having more children, that they drag out the old 'body clock' issue.
Bring on the real guys, like yourself 'Two Wheels". | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:43:21 PM | Ok, so let's set things straight here:
I don't know 'WHAT' you're writing in your profile....but seriously? You really think OLDER men aren't attracted to YOUNGER women on this site?!!!
Here's the situation:
One - your profile needs a re-write.
Two - your Photo needs to be reconsidered..if it's attracting 'strictly' a younger set, and you're looking for older guys (not sure, but I think you're a female demographic of ONE)
Three - hey, you've got good-looking young guys pining for you....WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE - YOU'VE GOT IT MADE!!!!
I get your dilemna.....feel free to message me for a more detailed response...
Andrew | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 9/7/2008 8:54:24 PM | Happens with us guys too, you know!
Maybe even more often.
I guess we all complain about the other side of our age group not being available.
We are either looking for an ideal mate or whatnot.
In my area here, there's tons of women my age. I just have to be choosy because most of them have a very short two sentence profile (usually a rant about telling liars, cheats and players to stay away), have kids, and seem to still want the "clubbing" lifestyle which I am not into.
So whenever I encounter a thoughtfully written profile, I immediately e-mail away whether they are here in my area (which is rare) or as far as Canada (as long as they accept messages from other countries).
Well, at least be thankful you get e-mails at all! You at least have the luxury of turning down young guys right and left. 
Good Luck! | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 9/9/2008 11:02:24 AM | | Who says younger guys don"t have stimulating conversation - is that not a touch biased? Personally, I think young guys look way better than old ones - hey, they don"t have grey hair, wrinkles, alzheimer"s disease, paunch belly, and they can get an erection. Also, women on average live longer than men by approx 10 years....every reason to think younger is better! | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 9/9/2008 3:25:05 PM | The thing i find is "mature" seems to mean pretentious, arrogant, over-demanding and boring. Its always the same thing, take me for dinner drink wine impress me treat me right and maybe you can "win" me zzzzzzz. If immature means going out and having a few drinks and a laugh then im glad im immature thanks.
I just dont find women who expect to be treated like some kind of luxurious treat appealing. Reaching 30 and desperately seeking male attention to boost a flagging ego really doesn't do it for me. Photos that say "Ooh look at me arent i sexy"...umm no...youre fat and old | |
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