| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/7/2007 8:08:09 PM | I'll have to agree, guys can't take hints.
Or maybe he just isn't interested in you. Learning how to use the SHIFT key to capitalize words and learning where the apostrophe key on your keyboard is could help too. Its always better to at least appear intelligent when attempting to attract a guy. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/7/2007 8:11:30 PM |
I know from experience that this happen's usually when the guy is too blinded by his shyness (low-confidence), or he simply can't pick up on the cute little signs women provide.
I disagree. Just because I don't have an ego the size of a 747 does not mean I have low confidence.
But really... what is a subtle hint? I suspect you will find that it's different for everybody.
P.S. I really love this snowball dude!  | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/7/2007 10:10:51 PM | Talking to guys is easy. Keep it simple. Don't use too many words. Just ask us a simple direct question. This works for every relationship question I have come across.
Subtle isn't in our vernacular. It never will be. | |
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Joined: 1/24/2007
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/7/2007 11:05:05 PM | I'm seeing this guy now.We're FWB and I told him 2 years ago how I felt.He never gave me an answer ,but we continue to have sex.My point is,he didn't want to reject me in a sexual way but didn't want anything more.It took me a long time to accept this,but once I did,I became a happier person,realizing what is....is.You never know until you try.Go For It!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: 3/7/2007 11:21:11 PM | Is it the myth that men constantly think of sex 24/7; that gives women the notion, that all they have to do is give "subtle hints" and we'll pick up on it a mile away?
Open your mouth and just say it. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2007 11:36:50 PM | I agree with Ron9 and saucym here. Men simply have to be told directly. But there is the possibility he's gay too. I have trouble picking up on hints and I'll write or talk to a female friend that I trust and get her input as to why this lady did this. We don't pick up on hints though so keep this in mind when your checking him out. Maybe try grabbing, holding and rubbing his crouch more often would help him figure it out  (just a thought,but maybe it will work). Good luck and I wish you the best. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2007 11:53:23 PM | alright, listen up.....
it's NOT that we men are stupid, although sometimes that MAY be the case.
sometimes, we refuse to see it subconsciously, because we're just not used to, or find it doubtful, that a woman would find us interesting enough to come on to us. i mean, that's just not done, right??
i mean, sure, it's possible, but rare. so rare that, as i said, we just don't see it as a come-on.
a second reason we may ignore it, is that some women(and, i'm sure other guys will back me up on this) will come on to you just to see if you'll nip at the bait, and then walk away, laughing and feeling good that their ego has been stroked, knowing that they coulda had the poor guy IF they really wanted him. puh-leeeese!!
bottom line, hints don't work. be direct, but in a demure kinda way. hope this helped.
y'all be safe now,
brave  | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/8/2007 12:37:13 AM | You know just thinking about it some more. Women are notorious for saying that they give "hints" and that men don't listen. Not listening is the most often quoted reason why women will break with a man or cheat on him. Yet how often do you hear men complain about other men not listening? Pretty much... never.
Men already have to decipher so much of what you say compared to what you do. You'll tell us you're fine while bawling. "You don't have to get me a gift," god help us if we don't. How often will you hear men complain about women expecting them to be "mind readers?" Pretty much.....everyone of them has said it.
So considering that men never complain about other men receiving the message and do complain about being expect to read womens minds; do you think perhaps it's not that men don't get it, it's that women don't know how to deliver a message? | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/8/2007 1:55:37 AM | | Alot of guys have seen the smile and hello or equivilent, tried to make a move, and got shot down. Eventually most guys end up figuring that they're imagining the signs. A few women have started to realize this, but alot more come close but then run into a rare guy like eno75 and think "oh, they really do get it" and forget about the dozen previous guys who didn't that almost made them understand. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2007 1:56:39 AM | Despite all the speculation about what this particular guy is or is not feeling it's also very possible he is interested in you for more than a quick fumble under the sheets. If that's the case he might be holding back as a sign of respect towards you. Instead of pawing or attacking you like we here so often here he's just letting things develop until he's certain---in his own mind---that you're receptative to things getting physical.
Honestly OP with this attitude that "he SHOULD get it....." is a bit disturbing----you're the one who's not being clear and upfront with him but you you'll come here griping about his lack of action. I don't know your age but at some point you'll have to realize not every man you meet is a mind reader and sometimes you'll need to be straight forward in expressing yourself. Fairy tales don't usually include the princess having to tell the knight on the white horse he's got a green light but when you wake up it's a different thing!
Best of luck! | |
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Posted: 3/8/2007 2:29:41 AM | | Fear of rejection is a paralyzer, you can always justify non verbal non physical "hints" as just being friendly or something silly. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/8/2007 2:43:02 AM | I was going to leave a reply to this post.. but then I saw this...
I'll have to agree, guys can't take hints.
Or maybe he just isn't interested in you.
Ok.. I disagree, I think men and woman both sometimes miss subtle hints.
As others have said, if you get NO response to a hint, perhaps the hint was too subtle.
remember, some people are thicker than others...
OR..
As the second part goes, maybe he/she JUST ISN'T INTERESTED...
It happens, don't chase someone who doesn't want you the way you want them... it will never work out.
RuMoR | |
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Posted: 3/8/2007 9:14:36 AM | Do women drop hints...maybe or maybe not? I'm not looking for them though.
I can recognize a growing tension between us and that can either end well or fizzle.
So what if it fizzles...oh well, it's really not that bad. However, when that tension grows and grows and it ends with me and woman realizing that we like one another...then it's a very liberating feeling of not being able to get enough of one another. You fall hard and fast. It's a great sensation of being scared but in a fun way...like a roller coaster.
(I strongly encourage those with weak bladders to be direct and avoid the roller coaster method) | |
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Posted: 3/8/2007 9:30:23 AM | Obviously your hints are not as good as you think they are or he doesn't have any interest....either way if you want to make it obvious the next time you are together...be direct....after having a nice conversation...reach up and kiss him on the lips and then tell him that you were curious what that first kiss would feel like....pauseeeeeeeeeeee....wait for him to say something...like ...can I have another... If he doesn't right away...go back for another because you say you didn't get enough yourself to make your own opinion....now he is ready....and the second kiss will tell you any interest.
You can thank me later when it works!! | |
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Posted: 3/8/2007 9:32:24 AM | | My reasoning is that we live in a time where everyone has a different opinion on everything. There doesn't seem to be much of a generally accepted view on anything anymore --especially dating and sex. Why do men not read into these things? I think it is way too esay to misinterperet the so-called obvious hints. What one woman calls innocent flirting, the next one calls an invitation to bed. When men erroneously make the assumption that a woman wants to take him to bed, it is open season for male bashing by the feminists... if they don't respond to the advances, they are insensitive. To make a long story short, there are times when a little extra communication (with words) can go a long way, and take the guesswork out of it. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2007 2:12:49 PM | Hello Brave,
I added you on my Favorite List so I could write you
it did not work out cause of being long distance.
Will you please change that part or write me.
Thank you
Pat | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/8/2007 9:08:16 PM | | After having one too many times of THINKING a girl was looking at me and smiling and it turned out to be the guy standing right behind me......I pretty much assume now that somebody's always standing behind me........ | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/8/2007 11:43:00 PM | | possibly because he might think that after you have his ass you won't want to see him anymore, works both way sometime. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 1:41:00 AM | | how about you just go out and tell him. Some guys like the girls to be in control you know. Maybe he's just not interested in you. Also, try not dropping hints. Yea, it's a technique to limit rejection, but gues what.. move on.. there are plenty of fish out there. lol. I am the same way. Humans have wierd rituals. But hell, I tried the complete opposite and just went all out and started kissing this one girl, and we were dating for 3 years. She was probably in shock and thought she had to date me after that, though LOL. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 4:58:47 AM | | i found that with hints from women i can see they may be hinting but im not sure if they are and if a presue it and they werent actually hinting itd make me look like a****. so make good strong hints that cant be mistaken and youll get further | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/9/2007 5:19:19 AM | It's not that we don't get the hints......it's that most women love to flirt, even w/ guys they would NEVER date.
Many guys have had a refusal from a girl who SEEMED really into us, only to be given the 'I only like you as a friend' line when we ask them out, romantically.
A couple runs thru that ringer...& we need to be VERY sure you are actually willing to date us before sticking our necks on the chopping block again.
Here's a question...How does a guy tell the differrence between 'harmless' flirting & genuine interest? | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 5:55:50 AM | have liked this guy for months, dropped mega hints other than going up to him in my undies with "i want you,r ass" written on my bum.
what exactly do you want? do you want him to come over and drill your brains out? or do you want to 'start something'? If the former, tell him that. If the latter, why not take the initiative in a non threatening way - ask him to go for coffee.... or somehwere that meets his interests. It is the 21st century and, IMHO, we are past the time when a woman had to just hint/hint and hope the guy asks. Ask him. sure its scarey and he might reject your 'advance' - hey, welcome to the guys world... good luck | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 7:54:20 AM | Why are you focusing so much attention on this guy? Maybe he doesn't want you. Maybe he's a eunuch. It's been months. Maybe you should divert a little bit of the attention you're giving this guy to someone else. Probably, there are dozens, if not hundreds, of guys lusting after you right now, but you're too busy chasing Mr. Oblivious to notice them.
Anyway, if all else fails, try the undies thing. If he still doesn't get the hint, move on. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/9/2007 7:56:14 AM | Because "it" is:
ambiguous
Personally, I have trouble reading minds and get along better with people that talk. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 9:21:13 AM | I really don't think men miss the signals as much as popular myth says we do.... for me, I may not respond to a possible come-on for a couple of reasons: I think most guys have had a situation where a woman come's on, he responds, then blocks him with a "OH! I don't think of you THAT way. Let's just be friends".
Or, maybe you just aren't our cup or tea and we haven't had enough to drink yet to allow you to ravish us...... | |
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