| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/11/2007 7:58:50 PM | | guys aren't stupid, that's such a igorant and rude thing to label them as | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/11/2007 8:12:37 PM | Too many guys have been burned by acting on "hints". There are many women who get sadistic pleasure out of leading on guys to just turn them down. These women are either sadists or have pathetic self-esteems that needs constant reinforcement. But because of these women, many guys do not trust "hints" at all. Not all guys, but many.
OP, ask him out. It is just that simple. Yes, you can get rejected. Yes, rejection sucks. Welcome to the world us guys live in. But the alternative for you is possibly the same for us guys. If you don't ask, you won't know and nothing will happen. Suck up the courage and take the first step. A simple step. "Hi, John. Like to have lunch with me today?" There it is. That's it. Light and easy. Good luck. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/11/2007 8:17:37 PM | | FACT! Some guys just dont like agressive women. The more you push the more he will play dumb. Back off, lose interest, and watch him come flying ass and elbows. God ladies, let a man move at his own pace not yours. Put it on ice or take a cold shower. He will come to u...... | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/11/2007 8:50:36 PM | | ask him to go out for a drink sometime with you just for fun. Then hit on him and see if it leads to anything, if not just say "I was just drunk and didnt know what I was doing" , if things happen between you 2 then you can start from there. The " I was drunk" excuse is used all the time. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:44:07 PM |
Then hit on him and see if it leads to anything, if not just say "I was just drunk and didnt know what I was doing" , if things happen between you 2 then you can start from there. The " I was drunk" excuse is used all the time.
I love that one!
It's used to excuse many women for just about anything they don't want to take any responsibility for... marriage, first night sex, cheating, pregnancy... | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/12/2007 7:27:05 AM | instead of playing games, why don't you just have the talk, say you love him and you want to take the relationship further.
maybe he doesn't feel the same about you? is that a crime? women dump men most of the time, yet we are always the bad guys, and yes we get upset just as much.
i've seen many of my male friends who had a break up and many (if not all) are never the same again, i always gringe at the comment about men being 'less sensitive' or players, because its a insult and a slap to the face to me and the many decent guys out there. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 82 | |
| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/12/2007 7:58:13 AM | Why don't you talk to your best friend in study hall, ask her to ask his best friend if he likes you, then, if the response is positive, walk by him and shake your bum at him and giggle lots. Be sure to flip your hair and bat your eyelashes. Then, when you're in math class, lean over and ask him if you can borrow his eraser, while giggling...oh wait, you're 32....never mind.
Seriously, you're kidding, right? ASK HIM. Or do this:
going up to him in my undies with "i want you,r ass" written on my bum. Why do you need him to take your hints and make the first move? Generalizing that men are dense is you trying to justify your lack of 'guts'. JUST DO IT! | |
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Sirris
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Joined: 7/21/2006
Msg: 83 | |
| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/13/2007 3:19:45 PM | Yeah, the backlash to "equality," (not that I'd ever say women aren't equal, indeed they are) is that oftentimes with equal power comes equal responsibility.
The dating rules are different now than 30 years ago when society had much more traditional roles. In short, you got the power, ask him out. Don't sit back and wait, life's too short for that. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/14/2007 4:57:43 AM | i love this topic.
men are capable of detecting the slightest whiff of a subtlety, it just depends on the context. while suffering through a football game i have had guys jump and scream "HE MOVED! HE MOVED!" and even watching the replay i couldn't see where the guy moved causing the penalty. BUT! when it comes to a relationship, no clue. what you have to do is tattoo it on your forehead, get a billboard, some rope, a chair and a 2x4. then place him in the chair, tie him up, in front of the billboard and whap him continually with the lumber until you detect the gleam of understanding beginning to dawn in his eyes. continue whapping until the gleam turns to an eyeroll and the statement "Ohhhhhhhhh, well why didn't you just tell me!", comes out. then slump to the ground in exhausted relief.
sometime the following week release him. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:56:36 AM | | writing " I want you" on your bum and showing it to him, is hardly a hint. If you rubbed his man parts right after showing him your bum, I'd say maybe he doesnt get it, maybe he gets it but is attached to someone else and you just don't know and of course maybe even tho your attractive ( so you say), he is just not atracted to you enough to have sex with you. It happens and you will find guys who will turn down getting laid because to be honest there are just too many women around to have sex with and if he can be choosy, he will be. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:56:41 AM | You assume he wants yours?
I've had lots of women drop those hints and can be real stupid when I need to be.
Some men will do any willing woman. Some of us won't
You think you're not too bad, but what does HE think? You could be a very nice friend, but that's all it will ever be. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/15/2007 6:44:16 AM | | ok..heres something women dont get...as a pushin 40 kinda guy iv been around a little...so i know..from the time we start first grade untill yesterday men are being taunted,teased and twisted by females(unless they dont like girls,then their your shopping buddies)you can never tell if they want you to chase them,love them or leave them alone..iv had girlfriends break up with me and then go crazy cause i didnt hound them to come back...girls...ask a guy you know if hes ever been used to make someone else jealous..if he says no then hes kidding himself..if you talk to another guy and we get mad were insecure..if we dont get mad were indifferent jerks...if we call too much were haunts..not enough we dont care...if we crawl all over you then we just want sex..if we dont then we dont love you and think your ugly...starting to get the picture?...the only way a gals gonna not make me wonder is by jumping on my lap,tossing her arms around my neck and say"take me home big guy!!"...and im one of the brighter ones! | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/15/2007 10:56:38 AM | girls can display non-verbals (eg body language, facial expressions) that reveal very obvious meanings - to other girls.
Guys are oblivious to these things. Guys are blunt. Guys are simple. Subtlety is wasted on us.
I get a giggle every time a girl says something like "Why doesn't he take the hint? Geez, I've done everything short of coming right out and saying it." | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/15/2007 11:51:04 AM | Could it be....just maybe...that he doesn't feel the same?...
Is it conceivable to even think that?...
Why is it that girls can never seem to grasp when a guy doesn't like them back.
It's like this dumbfounded look like, "What?...Standards?...MEN HAVE STANDARDS??!"
Yes we do...we are also capable of having platonic friends...I know, I know...shocking.
We have 2 brains...one upstairs, one downstairs and yes, we ARE in control of which one is working.
Sorry about your luck, princess. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 3/15/2007 11:56:54 AM | Op well for starters the way you worded your orignal post, you sound immature and teh way you said it just doesn't seem to be of someone who has class.
Why not just approach the person and try to have a conversation with them and see how things go and get to know them. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:11:08 AM | Someone told me a long time ago that when a woman goes out of her way to make physical contact with you then she's interested in you. This could be as simple as a touch on the arm or leg. It's a non-verbal way of saying that she feels comfortable with you.
Of course, you could always jus' lean forward n' kiss the guy...that's a pretty sure sign...n' you could bet the moon n' stars that he won't pull back, slap your face n' call you nasty names even if he didn't enjoy it.
Best of luck to you. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:39:50 AM |
men are capable of detecting the slightest whiff of a subtlety, it just depends on the context. while suffering through a football game i have had guys jump and scream "HE MOVED! HE MOVED!" and even watching the replay i couldn't see where the guy moved causing the penalty. BUT! when it comes to a relationship, no clue. what you have to do is tattoo it on your forehead, get a billboard, some rope, a chair and a 2x4. then place him in the chair, tie him up, in front of the billboard and whap him continually with the lumber until you detect the gleam of understanding beginning to dawn in his eyes. continue whapping until the gleam turns to an eyeroll and the statement "Ohhhhhhhhh, well why didn't you just tell me!", comes out. then slump to the ground in exhausted relief.
sometime the following week release him.
this is such a retarded exaggeration. you can release us after a few hours. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:47:51 AM | Men are like fine wine
its up to the women to keep them in the dark and stomp on them until
they turn into something you might like to take to dinner.
I saw that on a bumper sticker.
I don't think its true.
I just think its funny!
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 4/5/2007 12:08:54 PM | | Men and women communicate differently and maybe is is not ready to go that step. Your a woman, find a replacement for him. If he comes around great, if not then you have someone else. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 4/5/2007 3:21:35 PM | Know what makes a good relationship work? Communication... If you can't communicate your feelings now, how are you going to do so if you get a relationship with him?
you might teach him that lesson too. Seems if he likes you, he has that same fear of communcation problem. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/18/2007 8:28:28 AM | | OH MY GOD!!!! FOR THE MILLIONTH TIME...GUYS DO NOT GET HINTS - NOT SUBTLE ONES - NOT OBVIOUS ONES! NO HINTS! IF YOU WANT SOMETHING THEN TELL US!!!! | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/18/2007 9:58:15 AM | | I never get hints. I often think girls that are not interested are, lol. I wish girls would be more forward with that sort of thing. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/18/2007 3:58:12 PM | The problem is that men are smart, and DO get it. They get that, if your flirting turns out to be just something you've learned to do with every guy since you were a child, and you're not really interested, then any attempt to take things further with you could lead to you making things very awkward, with all sorts of accusations etc. These days, it's not really safe for a guy to make a move one someone they have to work with, live with, etc.
And yes, most of the other stuff said here is true, too: if you like the guy, then be honest and straightforward, and tell him. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 100 | |
| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/18/2007 11:39:53 PM | I will share my sad story with you, OP (who probably hasn't come back because we were all so mean... )
When I was 17, I had a huge crush on this guy. He was one of my best friends. He was attractive, funny, slightly immature (what 17 year old isn't?) but just a good guy to be around.
I never told him how I felt because I had myself convinced that he wouldn't return the sentiment. I didn't want to be rejected.
When I was 19, he moved (yes, I was still carrying the torch). After he was gone, a mutual friend of ours told me "that guy is so stupid", I asked why...he said "you know, he's been pretty much in love with you for the last two years but never had the guts to make a move because he thought you would reject him".
Apparently, it's a good thing we didn't breed, because imagine how dumb our kids would have been?
I'm not saying that this guy is going to be madly in love with you, but if you don't make your move, you'll never know. | |
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