| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/18/2007 11:58:06 PM | I didn't read all the replies, just the initial post, so here's my response:
Many women are just plain flirty.
For me, it's like this: a little flirty is great. Too much and we're like "I think she's into me", then I spend time analyzing her behavior just to make sure I'm reading her right. That being said, women are different. This can make it really frustrating.
If it's with someone you've known for awhile, then there's this word women use. That word is "friend". And if they aren't into you, it's sprinkled on their sentences like salt on french fries.
Like Robin Williams said "God gave men a brain and a penis and only enough blood to run one at a time". | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/21/2007 10:32:42 AM | If I were you I wouldnt ask his friend, I would ask him if he is only dating you...
Found out through a life time of experiece that men dont seem to like it when you
are (spying on them) just ask him in a pleasant way if he is a one woman man, and
that should give you your answer...Good luck with your guy.
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/21/2007 10:44:19 AM | | The problem is, you've been dropping hints. Now you said "mega hints", now what I think are hints and what YOU think are hints are two different things. Also the dating world does not work on basic ground rules. There are so many variables to take into account one starts to lose track of them all. I know for me I just decided to stop trying to interpret subtle looks and stuff like that a long time ago. Instead I just try to pick someone out and if I think they are cute and I want to get to know them I go for it. Maybe what you should do is just ask the guy out. The real problem with dating is that women like to drop hints but forget that most men don't have a radar to pick up on them. In your mind you may think that your dropping clever hints, but to him you may just be being nice or something else. The easiest way to find out how he feels about you is to ask the man. This is one of those, "women never ask guys out" thread. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:56:16 AM | | I think the key here is "I"m not ugly, I"m not special" From what I've seen everyone seems to think they are good looking. Likely he is out of your league. Maybe you aren't ugly but since you are so infactuated with him I have to assume he's very attractive and probably thinks he can do better. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 12:34:54 PM |
I think the key here is "I"m not ugly, I"m not special" From what I've seen everyone seems to think they are good looking. Likely he is out of your league. Maybe you aren't ugly but since you are so infactuated with him I have to assume he's very attractive and probably thinks he can do better.
I agree..he's probably just not into you.
On a side note, with women you never know whats a hint or what isn't. So even if we DO notice the hints (which we proabably won't) it's safer for us to not respond.
But like i said, just because he knows you like him doesnt mean he likes you back. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 12:56:32 PM | A woman sees a man walking past. She smiles and says hello. She was really hoping that he would pick up on the hint.
The man walks past another woman and she does the same thing. She was just having a good day and being friendly. She wasn't trying to give off any hint of attraction.
He decides that maybe he should hit on the second woman. The second woman, tells him that he mis-interpreted her intentions and that she was just being friendly.
Thousands of threads on why men don't get hints and many years of women whining about it. So the question really is: when will women get the "HINT," that their hints are not obvious and men have had good and bad experiences from the same hint? When will they get the hint, that hints are a terrible form of communication?
Hint hint hint.  | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 5/21/2007 1:03:25 PM |
Thousands of threads on why men don't get hints and many years of women whining about it. So the question really is: when will women get the "HINT," that their hints are not obvious and men have had good and bad experiences from the same hint? When will they get the hint, that hints are a terrible form of communication?
You are absolutely correct, goomba. I can sure relate. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 10:55:48 PM | | Flirting is fun and gets attention, but no more than that. If you want the guy just go up and ask / tell / throw him on the floor and jump him. .... Just be obvious and direct. Men hate the beating around the bush and hints game and most just tune it out. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 7/15/2007 10:48:47 AM |
dropped mega hints other than going up to him in my undies with "i want you,r ass" written on my bum.
he still dosent seem to get it, whats with that?
Maybe like you OP, he fears being rejected. To insist that he be the one to come to you, suggests you may be selfish (i.e., let him take the risk, not me).
Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 12:40:02 PM | Men need a 2x4 on the head before we are SURE you like us.
Women keep shooting men down nowadays so often, we can no longer tell.
I just talked to a woman last night. Getting on fine. So I ask her out. She said she has a boyfriend. Fine, but she never mentioned him until then. So it was an excuse. But she talked to me anyway, and never gave any impression she wasn't into me.
If that is what dating is like, and so many women have put men in the "friend zone", can you really blame him for not asking you out?
Just tell him you like him and want to go out with him, and look him right in the eyes as you say it, and give a wide smile as you say it. That will leave no uncertainty about it. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 1:15:36 PM | There is a set series of steps to preform in order to show your attraction to a guy.
You could either...
Get a good stout club...
Run up to him...
Hit him on the head with it...
And then yell out...
"I LIKE YOU< YOU MORON!...
Or...
Show up nakked, with a case of beer.
Hopefully that will help.
(Read, BE BLUNT, and JUST DAMN WELL TELL HIM!)
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Posted: 7/15/2007 1:23:04 PM |
I just talked to a woman last night. Getting on fine. So I ask her out. She said she has a boyfriend. Fine, but she never mentioned him until then. So it was an excuse. But she talked to me anyway, and never gave any impression she wasn't into me.
And here's a perfect example of what women are always missing and are incredibly naive about.
If a guy approaches you, talks to you, jokes with you, is nice to you at the counter in whatever establishment, asks how your day is, wishes you a happy day, smiles at you.........
..... He wants to bang you. He doesn't care about your dog, your kids, your mother, father, what you did last weekend with your friends, what you do for a living... NOTHING. ....
He's only thinking about what you'd look like naked.
Great story. Perfect.   | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 7/15/2007 5:31:19 PM |
Ron9
Lol we are clueless.
I’ve even been winked at in WalMart - I figured she must have had something in her eye.
It either takes a large cast iron skillet or - the naked deal.
That pretty much sums it up......
Some of the female/male scenarios in the newspaper comic series "B.C"
come to mind.
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Posted: 7/15/2007 5:36:26 PM | -You've been flirting with him for months....so he may be thinking you're just a tease.
-You've heard through the grapvine that he likes you too? He could be shy in which case you're going to have to make a move.
Women love to give subtle hints but they don't want subtlety in return. You may be thinking you're not being subtle at all but some guys are kind of ignorant to signs. So invite him over for a movie or ask him out to dinner. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 5:45:19 PM | I'm wondering if peanut ever got some?
Hello peanut where are you... ello ello ello?
I'm guessing he shot her down or she never could find undies that said "spank me" on them... | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 9:19:09 AM | It depends on the "hints," but if all else fails, talking to him could be the surest way to make your feelings clear.
The problem with hints is that they are rarely as clear as they might seem. Women are generally prone to hugging, smiling too much, and being fairly flirtacious and friendly, so what might seem like a hint to you might actually be one of your normal mannerisms. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 9:44:23 AM | | Alright you know how hard it is to tell him how you feel so you drop hints...what makes you think he's not doing the same thing and you're missing his hints too? | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 10:37:00 AM | | that may be true in your case. when i am interested in a woman she will not be ignored. what constitutes a subtle hint that a woman is interested. i know how women want us to make the first move. but they have to show the interest. or you will be knocking when nobody's home so to speak. there is probably a book on it. so any women out there who read this tell us men how exactly do you express interest by making subtle hints ? how do we know when your dropping these hints? | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 12:01:31 PM | Are you in High School or somthing?
If a woman did that to me she'd would drop several echellons on my respect ladder.
That's childish behaviour big time.
And as far as you parading yourself in your undies with I want you written on your azz, that's not a hint, it's a current fashion trend, I see girls every weekend dressed in T-shirts which say " How do you like the twins" or some other sexually related inuendo, it doesn't mean they actually want my opinion regarding their breats.
Get a clue OP....just get straightforward with the guy.
And BTW, if it all works out and he moves in with you...don't leave the garbage by the door as a hint for him to take it out.
Contrary to what woman like you believe, we don't read minds, and most of us don't go through life thinking its a guessing game.
You might....we don't . | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 12:07:26 PM |
Found out through a life time of experiece that men dont seem to like it when you are (spying on them) At least you finally figured it out!
I can't believe some woman still think this is normal behavior, no one likes to be stalked BTW.
The only time it's OK for woman to go behind our backs to our friends or coworkers, is at X-mas or before our birthdays so she can find the proper gift.
just ask him in a pleasant way if he is a one woman man, and
that should give you your answer. No it won't...the guy might be the most trustworthy guy in the world, it still doesn't mean he has any interest in dating her. | |
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| why dont men get it?
Posted: 12/17/2007 12:10:56 PM |
I don't think all guys are stupid...just cautious.
And coming from a women in Vancouver, I dare say you know why as well !
I'll have to agree, guys can't take hints.
I disagree with that, it's more a case of knowing how the game is play and how it's going to be thrown in your face instantly with the "You just want me for sex" etc.
Open your mouth and just say it.
Yes that is the ideal, though to admit to wanting something doesn’t put you in a position of power, manipulating someone else into wanting it from you does.
guys aren't stupid, that's such a igorant and rude thing to label them as
Makes treating them such eaiser though if you belive that to start with, makes side stepping responsabilitie eaiser too.
men are capable of detecting the slightest whiff of a subtlety, it just depends on the context
Hilarious, as said by a women, visual detection being the same as being empathic and mind reading, wow good thinking Sherlock..... Shall I tell you what it's like to be female ? No I didn't think so ....
You assume he wants yours?
Another good point, there is a whiff of arrogance with the origional assumption.
OH MY GOD!!!! FOR THE MILLIONTH TIME...GUYS DO NOT GET HINTS - NOT SUBTLE ONES - NOT OBVIOUS ONES! NO HINTS! IF YOU WANT SOMETHING THEN TELL US!!!!
Speak for yourself.
<div class="quote">i have liked this guy for months, dropped mega hints other than going up to him in my undies with "i want you,r ass" written on my bum. he still dosent seem to get it, whats with that?
Because it's a typical ploy to entice guys into making sexual advances so the women can reject the guy for an ego boost or power play within the relationship and more and more men are getting wise to it. Getting someone to do all the hard work and risk the rejection for what most of the time is going to be a cruel power game opposed to anything honest isn't worth it the vast majority of the time, especially as your not willing to do it yourself, weak.
Try doing something radical ......... like, talking maybe ? | |
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