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 Jemue

Joined: 1/26/2005
Msg: 125
why dont men get it?
Posted: 12/17/2007 12:10:56 PM

I don't think all guys are stupid...just cautious.


And coming from a women in Vancouver, I dare say you know why as well !


I'll have to agree, guys can't take hints.


I disagree with that, it's more a case of knowing how the game is play and how it's going to be thrown in your face instantly with the "You just want me for sex" etc.


Open your mouth and just say it.


Yes that is the ideal, though to admit to wanting something doesn’t put you in a position of power, manipulating someone else into wanting it from you does.


guys aren't stupid, that's such a igorant and rude thing to label them as


Makes treating them such eaiser though if you belive that to start with, makes side stepping responsabilitie eaiser too.


men are capable of detecting the slightest whiff of a subtlety, it just depends on the context


Hilarious, as said by a women, visual detection being the same as being empathic and mind reading, wow good thinking Sherlock..... Shall I tell you what it's like to be female ? No I didn't think so ....


You assume he wants yours?


Another good point, there is a whiff of arrogance with the origional assumption.


OH MY GOD!!!! FOR THE MILLIONTH TIME...GUYS DO NOT GET HINTS - NOT SUBTLE ONES - NOT OBVIOUS ONES! NO HINTS! IF YOU WANT SOMETHING THEN TELL US!!!!


Speak for yourself.

<div class="quote">i have liked this guy for months, dropped mega hints other than going up to him in my undies with "i want you,r ass" written on my bum. he still dosent seem to get it, whats with that?

Because it's a typical ploy to entice guys into making sexual advances so the women can reject the guy for an ego boost or power play within the relationship and more and more men are getting wise to it. Getting someone to do all the hard work and risk the rejection for what most of the time is going to be a cruel power game opposed to anything honest isn't worth it the vast majority of the time, especially as your not willing to do it yourself, weak.

Try doing something radical ......... like, talking maybe ?
 formanden

Joined: 11/29/2007
Msg: 126
why dont men get it?
Posted: 12/18/2007 10:51:50 AM
Here is a revelation for you all!

MEN DON'T GET HINTS!

I know it completely goes against all female logic, and a lot of women continually frustrate themselves (and their men) trying to refute that... But men just don't get hints. We can't read minds, hints or clues... So hit him on the head with a hammer if you want to be sure he understands you!
 textodd11

Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 127
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why dont men get it?
Posted: 12/18/2007 2:51:53 PM
Couple of points:

First, men aren't good at subtle hints, we all know that.

Second, and someone mentioned this before, we CAN'T AFFORD TO BE WRONG! If a man is wrong and misinteprets some little "Hint", he loses his job, reputation, and possibly GOES TO JAIL!

I've been there. I went through hell for 3 months while in the military because a woman I had never met or even SEEN, simply accused me of sexual impropriety. Why? Because I was her boyfriend's boss and had reprimanded him for being a screw-up on his job. Yet, it was ME who spent 3 months of hell facing completely baseless charges. She got court martialed but I still ended up having to move to another duty station even though it was all total BS. It's crap like that that makes men RUN from "hints". If you're interested, you better just come out and say so.

So either way ladies, STOP with the hints and flirting. You've earned your equality; now accept it.
 h3llrazr

Joined: 12/15/2007
Msg: 128
why dont men get it?
Posted: 12/18/2007 4:56:14 PM
Only way we get it........... is if your giving it.
 Seavoyage

Joined: 1/18/2007
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why dont men get it?
Posted: 12/18/2007 5:06:38 PM
I don't like to be a mind reader. Also, some men might have a feeling that you like them, but unless they heard it from you then some can feel a little nervous about saying they like you and they find out that you don't. A guy who is completely confident and assertive and knows himself extremely well might be a bit better at picking up clues. I can pick up very strong clues, but hints are not so clear.
I mean everyone can flirt... That's easy to do...
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