| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 12/25/2007 3:38:53 PM | I did not start having my kids until I was 28. I needed time to get my career established and get some other things out of my system and I just wasn't ready until that point to be a parent. I now have two wonderful children (ages 16 and 14) who mean more to me than anything! Unfortunantly, as they say, the factory is closed. I had a hysterectomy four years ago. I think I was ready to call it a day with reproduction after my son was born 14 years ago anyways. That pregnancy was pretty rough and he was several weeks premature.
Our lives are in a different place and I am thoroughly enjoying my teenagers! They are constantly evolving into tremendous young people and I am really proud of them! Even if I could, I don't think I would want to start over with babies at age 44! | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 12/27/2007 1:09:06 PM | | I had my last one at 24. Precocious breeder I guess. I have watched friends who delayed having children until their late 30's and I can't imagine chasing little ones around now. Mine are pretty much gone and I am now learning how to do things for myself and by myself. | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 12/27/2007 11:05:50 PM | | I started young. I was 17 and i'm glad because I wont be old when I have grandkids. All of my family has kids when they are young. If you have a good support system its going to work out. | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 12/28/2007 8:29:46 PM | Sheesh, I was done prior to being 22. I was "fixed" by 24. I figured out real quick that being a single mom at a young age was tough and the responsible thing to do was to be the responsible party and make certain there was only one. And today ~ dear me, it's heavenly. He's been on his own 4 years ~ my life is mine. It's wonderful.  | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 12/29/2007 6:48:21 AM | | I'm 39, my daughter's a Jr in high school and my son's in early elementary. I love kids and would welcome being with someone who has kids. But, I don't want any more of my own at this point. | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 12/31/2007 6:33:44 PM | | 35 was my cutoff too. Now that I'm 32, to actually find someone, establish a solid relationship, and have another child is going to take me past 35. So as far as I'm concerned, I'm done. I might change my mind, but I doubt it. | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 1/1/2008 5:17:10 AM | "My mom had me when she was 36, my sister had her last kid in her 30's - nothing wrong with it - but both are in stable committed loving relationships...
maybe a lot of us older women are single, because we cannot find mature enough men?
Our eggs might be sitting on the shelf too long, but we are going to be a lot more picky on who is going to have a crack at the last ones... "
Here Here Queenrhiannon! | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 1/1/2008 6:21:31 AM | I am 37, and have a 15 yr old son. I am done!!!!
I took matters into my own hands and had my tubes tied last month. I know I do not want anymore, so why take any chances?
Re entering the dating world, and reading all about contraceptives...I did not like the odds. Even a 1% chance is too mcuh of a risk if you do not want children.
When my son is legally an adult, I will be 40...still young enough to enjoy my life as a healthy, active woman. Yippeee!!!
These hollywood types, having kids so late...yeah, big sacrifice when they pay nannies all day to do the dirty work while they are on a set being made up to look gorgeous all day.. I cant afford nannies and would be the one diapering, chasing, teaching...no thanks! Been there, done with that. (much as I loved it at the time) | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:40:17 PM | My cutoff age was 33. If I didn't have any kids by then, I said I was never gonna have any. Wasn't a big deal. 33 came and went and I still wasn't ready. Guess I never saw myself as a parent or felt like it was something I had to do. With that said, even at this advanced age, I could still see myself having kids after 40. Guess I'm a late bloomer  | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 1/3/2008 2:57:04 AM | Hello, everyone.
I'm not that familiar with this particular cyber "family" but I (being thus) felt the need to contribute.
My mother had me when she was 44 years old.
I still hold out hope that I might get to have a kid.
So,...I don't see a problem or a conflict. Children of older parents often benefit from the wisdom they provide, even if they can't run around and tackle you or throw a ball as hard as a younger parent. Older parents know things, have been through traumas, and have a solid foundation that younger parents just can't know.
Granted, there is often more grief involved, in these later years, and lots of mixed feelings with the experiences involving the non-happy aging of a vital human.
Before the days of decent medicine, these things were faced by young'uns at an earlier age. It's nothing out-of-bounds in the normal course of the human (and unfortunately sentient) condition. In our spoiled, self-centered, industrialized, indeed, service-oriented, youth-oriented society, it's a wonder that anyone even speaks to anyone over the age of 40...after all, weren't we all told, "Never trust anyone over 30"?
Hugs to all, | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 1/14/2008 9:34:28 PM | | i'm closing in on 40 and no kids yet either...plus i live in a little town with almost no chance of meetin anyone new....no kids yet...starting to think it just won't happen...must be me | |
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| finishing your family before 35??
Posted: 1/15/2008 6:53:20 AM | | Would've never wanted kids in my 20's. I believed that was about discovering myself and having fun with no one else to answer to! I will never regret that. Had kids at 33 and 36 and consider that almost perfect. It is so wonderful being in my 40's with young children; my life is so excitingly full! I wouldn't want adult children or grandchildren yet though. Was willing to have kids up to early 40's but I am now past wanting babies. I would like to adopt a younger child though. Will hang on to that dream for a little while longer. Anything that takes another person to accomplish is a toughie... may just not be in the cards the way you plan it. | |
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