| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 3/9/2007 7:37:23 PM | | most definitely not. There's enough drama in my life, that dealing with someone and their Ex, is not an option for me. To me, it says that the baggage is still clearly there. dont' care what the reasons are - in order for one to move forward, and get on with life, one has to at least not be living with the Ex. | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 4/10/2007 6:17:43 PM | I couldn't agree more, but my situation is a tad different, It's temporary, and she's working diligently on getting on her own place. I'd never turn my back on someone, especially the mother of my kids. To be honest I feel as if I owe her for moving out here. Whatever she needs I'll provide it as long as it's within reason.
Don't get me wrong..........this has been no walk in the park for either of us!!! But our kids always have and always will come first, and that's the common denominator here | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:27:21 PM | | I feel for you. I live with my ex and so far the guys I have talked to are cool with it. I think guys are a little bit more trusting in this scenario. I personally would have no problem dating someone who is living with their ex. I guess because if you are going to get into any sort of relationship it has to start with trust. Sorry but it is going to be hard to date while she is there, to bad women don't realize how amazing a person you really are. You have taken responsibility for the things in your life that are important. A truly rare quality. May you meet the women of your dreams and may she accept you no matter the situation. | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:30:33 PM | NO....someone living with their ex-wife would be a man.....or a lesbian....
and neither would want to date me any more than I'd want to date them.
 
I would say it's an admirable thing you're doing for the sake of your children.
AND....for your sake....I hope she finds a place fast. | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 7/6/2007 12:47:35 PM | Unfortunately, no. I have dated a guy that still lived with his ex-girlfriend and one that still lived with his ex-wife. It's not fair to the girl. Even if the girl is understanding, its usually the ex that is not. I dated this guy who had been broken up iwth this girl for a year but they were still "roomates" She seemed to like me at first, until we took our relationship to the next level, then all of a sudden she became pshyco...throwing things, saying she still loved him, crank calling me etc. He wouln't leave her because apparently he made a"deathbed promise" to her mother to always take care of her . That's when I said sorry, no can do.
The second guy is in the middle of his divorce and is waiting for the house to be sold to move out. What he told me is that him and his ex-wife have an "unspoken understanding" that if they were to see other peopl, they would keep it out of the Town they lived in, even though supposedly family and friends knew the situation. We went on dates and he had to be home early to take care of the kids and his ex would call 4-5 times in a couple of hours. She would go out but he wasn't able to. And he had tremendous "kid" guilt. I told him no can do as well. There are plenty of truly single guys out there to shoose from. Everyone has "baggage" but no girl wants to be embroiled in that kind of Drama.
Just being honest. | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 7/6/2007 1:14:15 PM | | NOt in my lifetime.. I wouldn't welcome the drama or headaches . Never feel that in dire need of a date. BUT Op in regards to seeing this: {damn a man has needs . I haven't slept with my ex in well over a year} Don't tell me you didn't take care of that "need" in the year's time once even , if that were true you don't have the need you say you do. Not saying how you handled it, if you have hands that work you know how to avoid involving anyone else for that "need" you speak of. You can take care of that all by yourself. | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 7/6/2007 1:41:44 PM | Capital NO...add that to my list of people I will not date:
- axe murderer
- lives with ex girlfriend
- can't find job...complains incessantly about how unfair (fill in the blank) is.
- believes in the money tree
- husband beater (ahem, yes, this does happen)
- 100% vegetarian (gets too complicated when grocery shopping/cooking)
- thinks sex more than once a week makes me a pervert; thinks all men want is sex
- assumes God has all the answers and will take care of you (no...I think it's good to pray and search for answers...but that doesn't mean they are presented to you on a platter...work towards your goals and you will achieve them)
I'm sure I can think of more...but now, back to work...
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 8/7/2007 4:02:50 AM | I actually understand your situation kinda cos im in similar.
I live with my ex Boyfriend. I have just started casually dating someone from here annd yes it is VERY weird when you tell someone. He cant come here to my home as my ex is here too. He is here whilst i find a job and when im able to support myself fully, then he is leaving when he finds another place. Il stay here.
It can be a BIG passion killer to have your ex in the next room, and unless he was away for the night i would never dream of asking a guy to stay over. Just respect really.
Does have a weird feeling of being back at my parents place though
Good luck and if someone is worth knowing, then they will respect your living arrangements and realise that very little in this life is cut and dried. | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 8/7/2007 5:17:39 AM | Personally I wouldnt.
No matter how reasonable and justified your motives, yes you have to think about the person you are thinking of dating. It is hard to get to know someone who has their ex in such close proximity. All your reasons about why they hold back are correct.
You are also probably correct re your social life may have to be on hold until you sort out your home life. Sometimes sacrifices have to be made.
Even if the girl is understanding, its usually the ex that is not.
And this is a very good point. You might find the most understanding woman in the world but the ex might not take it so well and interfere as you no doubt are a source of security to her (the ex) regardless of sleeping together or not. She might not want to lose that and/or want another woman around either | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 10/2/2007 1:46:11 AM | My ex who left 2 years ago "to see other girls "moved back last summer to rent a room in my house. He would NOT have any thing to do with me, his choice, NO sex, his choice, although there is no one I would rather have sex with. We weren't even friends, and didn't talk to each other , his choice, except during rent collecting time, then we argued. He paid me rent. All summer all he did was jerk off 4 to 5 times a week or more for $1.99 or $2.99 a minute to cam girls. I guess this is what he meant , by "seeing other girls". I told all the guys I met that he was just a tenant, because I don't think any one would beleive me, if I told them he was my ex who I couldn't get over, and that him and I were NOT having sex , his choice, and this is completely true. Who would beleive, my ex, a male would refuse sex with a hot sexy girl like me, but it is really true. My luck is that bad.
My advice to the thread starter, would be, just tell the girls you meet, that your ex wife is a tennant or that you share the house with her, and don't tell them she is your ex wife. And you better be telling the truth, that you do not have sex with her. I have live in houses before I got my own house with males that were renting in the same house as me, who I had nothing to do with. I beleive in total honesty, Policy of Truth, a depeche Mode song says it well.
From Policy of Tuth -Depeche Mode
Hide what you have to hide
and tell what you have to tell
and you'll see your problems multiplied
if you continually decide
to faithfully pursue
The policy of truth
the Policy of Truth | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 10/2/2007 1:51:30 AM | | Let me add my ex had no problem with me bringing guys home and having sex with them, while he was up in his room. This is my house, and he is the one who hurt me by leaving me and I am not over him, but he is over me. This being the case I would not allow him to bring girls home. He usually went away each weekend to see real girls who lived 80 miles away. | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 10/2/2007 2:43:20 AM | | the reason women arent wasting their time with you is that you are blatantly saying your wife comes first you havent emotionally distanced yourself and dont give me all the financial excuses thats a lot of **** fine you want to be a knight in shining armor fine do like my friends stepdad did he found himself a room and bath while he paid the bills for his family in their house when she finally remarried he walked her down the aisle and he remarried now for nearly 25 yrs ...but realistically get yourself single or go back married its not fair to drag someone else into your garbage | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 10/2/2007 5:36:49 AM | | Personaly I wouldn't entertain the guy. There's enough guys out there who aren't still living with their x's and if you did get together things would be messy and complicated, that's if you believed his story about not sleeping with her in the first place. Tell him to wait till his wife has found a place of her own, then get back to you. | |
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| Would u date someone that lived w/ their Ex-wife.
Posted: 10/2/2007 5:47:02 AM | | Hey Truedawg. If you want an honest opinion. Sounds to me like you wanna have your cake and eat it too. Sorry, it don't work that way. Any woman who would date a man in this situation is either crazy or very desperate or both. Thts my story and im sticking to it. | |
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