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Posted: 3/10/2007 3:06:38 AM | | Realizing communication has to be the key in starting new relationships. Some people get nervous and scratching is a nervous tick and indicator of being around other people. Everyone reacts differently to the situation at hand. Keep in mind if there is something little which bothers you magnifiy that ten fold when getting into a relationship if that is something you can't handle then stop the relationship now and move forward. Don't settle which some often do in thinking that is something they can change. Also keep in mind our expectations are like magnifiying glasses and we expose more than what is often there. One could ask why they were doing the oddness of their behavior and if no clear response and still became an issue then move on. In conclusion, effective communication is the key to a relationship. Being gone for ten minutes to a restroom is a good indicator that person is not interested and any other behavior which we would feel out of the norm is a good indicator to cut ties respectfully and move on. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 5:09:37 AM | hah you come here and post all about her scracthing and poor table manners yet you're going to give it another whirl?
hope she didn't read your thread!
can't wait for the next installment though.... | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 5:46:41 AM | I find it kind of strange that you didn't ask her what was wrong. That's as wierd to me as the scratching itself is. I could see not mentioning it if you caught her picking her nose, or adjusting a boobie...but incessant scratching?
I actually went out with a guy from here who kept repeatedly digging at his crotch. It wasn't an occassional adjustment either. I finally asked him if he was OK when he was in mid dig. He yanked his hand back up like it'd been burned and said "sure" or something like that. But he was right back at it a minute later. I kept wondering what in the h*ll was going on down there..but I was positive I didn't want to find out. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 8:15:09 AM | arugula you so funny lol I remember my bf and I went last week to the cyber cafe to print my resume and the owner was talking to us and cashing and no joking he kept scratching his crotch lol I ask my bf yuck now I got to hold the resume from him so lucky thing I had a plastic bag in my handbag and thank god I had on my gloves. | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 57 | |
| we just started dinner and she is scratching herself.
Posted: 3/10/2007 8:47:35 AM | Of course i asked her if she was ok people, did i ask her why she was scratching like a cat with fleas ? no but i did ask if there was anything i could do as she was in obvious discomfort.
When i said i ran home and changed my profile to forums only. I DID NOT MEAN RIGHT AWAY. I meant after dinner , some of you forum posters take things people write way to literally.
Indianrose what exactly does my profile reveal ????????????
Can anyone really read my profile and take it seriously? | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 9:06:25 AM | Well now..... wasn't that an interesting date, LOL. I go with allergic reaction. Some people don't care what people think and just do whatever in public and that includes scratching, picking, belching etc.
Thing is...... maybe she took your profile seriously and figured you wouldn't mind. I read it and laughed my a$$ off, I also understood it to be a joke, you were joking right??? I guess she just took your profile to seriously. Sorry for your troubles.
Should you decide to go out with her again, (in place of flowers), you might bring her a nice bottle calamine lotion with a bow. Sorry I just couldn 't help myself.
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Posted: 3/10/2007 9:35:03 AM | geez....after reading all these... i think you should C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-E with her and give her a chance ...at the VERY Least ask her about 'her condition'...she was probably embarassed, and maybe trying to compose herself in the restroom and (it IS a bathroom after all) 10 mins. is not bad,...Have you talked to her since? maybe she got the chicken cuz it might have been one of the least expensive things to get on the Menu of "A Four-Star restaraunt"... (as opposed to salmon or lobster,etc...Granted the finger-licking was a bit much, but , tdh46, aside from THAT, and a possible nervous reaction, what does your heart & gut tell you?!?  | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 11:18:29 AM | what exactly does my profile reveal ????????????
Can anyone really read my profile and take it seriously?
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Your profile actually *does* reveal a few things, which I won't mention in the forum. Just answering at least a part of your question.
To each their own - but I personally didn't find it funny. I was really turned off by it, but again - just me. By the way, I'd likely be considered upper middle class & I browse Value Village sometimes. Got an amazing suede jacket there once that I'd have paid prob. $300 for, for $25!
Anyway - it's nice that you did some self reflection & are allowing for a 2nd opportunity for a date... I hope it goes better. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 12:20:53 PM | i will go ahead and say what your profile says....any woman in her right mind that goes on a date with a guy who calls women "heffa" on his profile must be a..... (i dont even know what to say) and im not surprised that she has no manners.
I'm wondering what is more couth in manners....scratching on the date and licking one's fingers....or actually coming to the forum to write about the person who is on POF as if they stand no chance of ever reading about themselves in a FORUM POST.......If she agreed to go on a second date, I doubt it would still happen if she knew what you were actually saying about her.....I mean, is it a sympathy second date to come back and talk about it again??
WTF....... WTF indeed. its totally tasteless to come on here and talk about your date's problems instead of asking her directly. | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 63 | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 12:31:59 PM | My dear Jewelescent If that was the case then these forums would never be used.....Have you read any of these threads, that's all 99 percent of the threads are about...TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE U DATED. read some of these titles.... " I caught my date pissing in the shower" " I dated a Girl who sleepwalks and pisses on my floor" "I caught the girl i was having sex with putting the used condom inside herself" and the list goes on and on and on......WTF indeed .....Most of the forums are about talking about the opposite sex and your experiences with them, good or bad if you don't want to read about that then you are in the wrong arena.
If everyone talked to the people they dated and discussed their issues with them instead of in the forums, there really would be no need for the forums. This might come as a real shock to you but what do you think the forums title "dating experiences" are about ? Think about that for awhile and then tell me how we can discuss that without talking about the people we date.
If talking about people you date is a crime, then everyone in the forums including you would be guilty as charged. Your soapbox can be moved someplace else because your preaching is falling on deaf ears here.
And get a sense of humour will you are you that brain dead that you would take my profile seriously and be offended by it? | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 1:33:35 PM | OP:
Just at note to ponder: If there are already 4 women in a single thread who have a neg. reaction to your profile, imagine how many others unseen you might be missing out of because of it. My sense is that your reaction would be to say that if they find it offensive they are not for you… Fine. There is an area of the site strictly for “profile reviews”. I’d be curious to see what you’d get over there.
To me you came across as intelligent & thoughtful in your way of asking the question (though I'd have been sure the date wouldn't have access to wherever I asked the question) & even considering a second date … The profile can throw some for a loop… I was really surprised, particularly for a man your age. To *me* it comes across as totally classless, crass, immature, judgmental & possibly offensive to potential dates. There are people who shop a Value Village, return cans for change, take the bus/don’t drive, live in trailer parks, don't have higher education… So what? It's funny?
I *know* you likely wrote that with no "harm" in mind... Just kindly pointing out that it is not funny to everyone (au contraire) & if you are on a site to meet women & put “your best foot forward” it might be an impedance to people seeing the best you.
Anyway – your profile – your humor - your path…
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Posted: 3/10/2007 1:49:52 PM | As for your comment on your date... maybe she is allergic to bullshit.
As for your profile.... makes me ashamed to be Canadian. Your attempt at humor is pathetic and juvenile and if that is the profile she responded to....there is no understanding the generosity of some women. | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 67 | |
| we just started dinner and she is scratching herself.
Posted: 3/10/2007 2:35:08 PM | Gee i am sorry i offended you, how can i make it up to you for having to suffer through reading my profile? but it's a free world right , there is such a thing a free speech i assume or am i wrong. Funny i have no urge to read your profile because having a sense of humour is big in my book and you are obviously lacking one.
You said in your profile that you were told by a man that you were boring,why do you think he said that? You might want to heed those words, I don't know you at all and i am thinking there might be some truth there.
I am not on pof to date if i was i would have a different profile up, i am here for the forums and since you have to fill out a profile before participating in the forums i thought i might have some fun with it. I was under the impression it was my profile to fill out as i see fit, was i wrong about this?. Am i violating some kind of pof protocol by filling it out the way i did?. Am i bound by the same old tired cliched way of doing a profile?.
For the record i get many e-mail everyday complimenting me on the originality and humour displayed in my profile. If you are ashamed to be a Canadian because of something i wrote in a profile you seriously need to go seek some kind of therapy lady. Life is too short to be taken as seriously as that.
COULD YOU PEOPLE THAT,S COMMENTING ON MY PROFILE AT LEAST PUT A PICTURE IN YOURS..... I WOULD LIKE TO PUT A FACE TO THE PEOPLE THAT, S RIPPING ME . Think of all the more replies you would get if you were not scared to put a picture in your profiles.. Just a note to ponder. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 3:05:56 PM | I am not on pof to date if i was i would have a different profile up, i am here for the forums.
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I don't mean to perhaps nitpick but I can't help but notice the entire reason for being of this thread was due to a *date* that you *recently* went on that you say you met from POF... You have "dating" listed as to what you are looking for as well.
Also, I'm not clear on why you personally would say that you would put up a different profile "if you were dating" - implying now, that you might understand that it might not be the best profile for first impressions (?)
Some things seem confusing - that's all... I'm sure there is more to it.
Enough said on this one for me anyway....
Best wishes...
p.s. Oh, as for myself, no qualms about sending a picture if you feel that would add to this all this in some way(???) Anyway - feel completely free to ask & tell what dif. it makes at the same time lol... | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 3:06:35 PM | | and he continues to prove my point ....I think I am now alllergic to bullshit as well. Contradiction seems to be his forte.....and I send a pic to anyone who asks to see it. As for not being inclined to read my profile.. .. are we to guess that he is psychic... he seemed to know what was or was not in my profile.....hmmmmm lol THE AMAZING KRESKIN... | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 3:33:37 PM |
op your profile says it all guys just take a look at his profile. lord behold.
LMAO. They have really got some comedians on this site. I don't care what anyone says the forums are the best part of POF. | |
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lorie1
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Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 73 | |
| we just started dinner and she is scratching herself.
Posted: 3/10/2007 3:46:31 PM | Maybe she read your profile,and her scratching issue came into the your date with her.
I am wondering,if you ask us "how can we take your profile seriously, well, maybe your question is of the same caliber.
Okay.My bestest lady friend is black,We have known each othe rofr 30 years.She is as I am, "knwon " to canada,a small, but distinct country.
You sound in your proflie like a stereotype of of, what my heritance,,sounds a bit like a yutz,or another actor.
QUit being a phoney,and testing humanity on the site. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 4:06:34 PM | OP I have to ask you a question ... was it you that actually wrote your profile? It just seems to me the way your profile was written and the style of writing in this post don't even begin to match. It seems like it's two totally different people.
To: Monia
I guess you had no response to my last reply to your out of line accusations of "us" city people. I guess from your neck of the woods admitting that you may have misinterpreted what I was getting at is asking for too much huh? Oh well no skin off my nose that's for sure!
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 75 | |
| we just started dinner and she is scratching herself.
Posted: 3/10/2007 4:23:40 PM | Yes sweet thing 1971 i did write my profile lol......OK OK OK i am done trying to debate the merits of me writing my profile as i see fit with you people, it's obvious it's alot easier to go write a normal cliched profile, so that's what i will do, god forbit i don't want to stray away from the norm an offend anymore of you. I will now go write a more conventional profile. The moral outrage at the reading of my profile can now stop. 
And maybe we can get back on topic. | |
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