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| single versus not single and why are you still on a dating site
Posted: 3/16/2007 4:25:15 PM | I haven't seen any site with forums I like as much as this one. I was here for the forums from the first day and hid my profile as soon as I found out how, so I don't come up on searches. I never was looking. Quite newly broken up, I felt bemused by the construct that seemed to be considered a relationship and the associated expectations and felt unable to be in one. I stayed because I liked that here there is the opportunity to talk about the things that really matter in life (also things that don't) and I found myself learning a lot about how other people see things, which fascinates me. People in real life rarely talk about love and relationships and the problems and philosophies connected with those.
I did meet someone special through the forums, noticing that he wrote what I might write and contacting him to continue increasingly long discussions by email... leading to... a magical relationship *smiles*. Now we both stay because we're separated by distance for now and both enjoy participating in the forums, playing in the poetry threads and generally hanging out here. We've found it valuable to participate here too, as we end up discussing things that would probably not have come up naturally in conversation, but which allow us to know each other more completely. *hugs someone special* | |
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| single versus not single and why are you still on a dating site
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:54:10 PM | rune3 I've been on other sites with forums...they're few and far between. Usually, a very narrowly defined special interest.
Your experience is so much like mine and so many others..just found something here that we likely didn't really expect...and as much as I treasure and appreciate my own special someone, I would still say it's been so worth it for all the wondeful friends I've made. I did win the "man lottery" something I told one of my dear friends, and I'll be eternally grateful/thankful for that.
I really don't know what other people feel or think about the bonds they make with other people, male/female, when you have that connection and you just "click". It's happened to me a lot I have very special and treasure long term friends here who are a treausre to me. I've talked to many of them, met quite a few, and will meet more.
My in person experience meeting them...my dear friends...well it's almost overwhelming!! In a good way... I love being able to see them and give them a HUGE hug!! And all of them are exactly the same wonderful, precious, loving, caring people there are here. I could say so much, I'll just say, they're all genuine, sincere, so much the people that many of you would know. In person, even better!!
I understand, there are many people here who are looking for the "love connection" thing to happen and are disappointed when it doesn't. I just didn't think of it that way, I loved the friends I made and met, and when it happened that amazing man walked into my life..well we started out as great friends and it grew to something much more.
Nothing detracts from that, I'd still be here and enjoying my friends and making more.
I so get what you're saying rune...so much so  | |
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| single versus not single and why are you still on a dating site
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:58:35 PM | Just women? Aren't they any men on here who are in relationship? 
Well yes it's a dating site, but oh it's so much more than that. People are here for all sorts of reasons.
Some of those that are attached, may be here for...
The forums.
Friends they have already made.
Some to see if a better fish comes along.
Because they are addicted to POF and can't let go yet lol. | |
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| single versus not single and why are you still on a dating site
Posted: 3/16/2007 6:07:24 PM | "If you knew how many suggestive emails I've received from people who were Married or Not Single/Not Looking, you'd understand my frustration. They're blocked now, though." I know you don't know me, but I DO understand, I still get them. Even though I've been happily involved and my profile's been clear about that for over a year and a half. I DO understand...and I've had not single/not looking and still get the stray...you're hot...wanna chat, can we meet. Sometime, too often, from someone that's my son's age!! Even if they know I'm involved, if they read my posts, they may know it's an LDR....they want to meet up in between our visits . : 
Personally...well I find that borderline hysterical/nutso and they're nice looking men. ME? I'm an old bat/coot...I'm not young and gorgeous like you. And my pics and age are accurate.
I have daughters your age....I do get it, I do understand. So just relax, have fun and enjoy it..no old bat like me is no threat.
I'm having fun and enjoying myself, best I can tell you, I suggest you do the same...and forget the rest. Any female here gets the perv emails..I can guarantee you that. Don't let it spoil your fun! | |
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