| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 5/18/2007 7:46:00 AM | | I am one of those women who doesnt like it. I dont know why, I just dont. I have however actually had a conversation about this with a man and was very straightforward and just explained my feelings on it. He was OK with it and we still had a nice time. Its not about being rude or ungrateful, it makes me uncomfortable so I am careful to explain my thoughts on it. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 5/18/2007 8:26:24 PM | I'm one of those people that feels like when a man does it, he's borderline being phony. You just know in your heart one day he will stop opening the door for you, and pouring you a glass first, so why bother starting?? There's a song lyric that says something to the effect of....I treat you bad at the beginning of the relationship so that way you can never say "why you don't treat me like you used to"
Kind of twisted...but maybe it's better then being let down later... | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 5/31/2007 12:08:28 PM | Does she still want a man to open her car door. Yes
And I'll reach over and unlock your door
How about pouring her glass of wine first. Yes
I notice and appreciate acts of kindness... especially if they aren't just for me (e.g. you'll hold the door open for the person behind me too). It speaks to your upbringing and character | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 5/31/2007 12:17:10 PM | I personally like it when a guy opens the door for me - it's kind of classy. It isn't a must, though. It's sort of a bonus because it's not something I expect, but when it happens all I can think it "aaaaawwwwww, he really likes me."
But I HATE it when he orders for me in a restaurant. And I can pour my own wine. Really, I can do everything for myself but there's something about the car door that gets me every time. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/13/2007 2:52:06 PM | | Yes, without a doubt, I love being treated like a lady. It is a special man in my eyes who takes the time to actually show me that he values me this way. I can certainly do all of these things for myself, but, when he does take care of me this way, I am more endeared to him. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/13/2007 2:57:33 PM | Awe, chivalry.
When I talk to my grandmother she tells about the way it used to be, and one thing that I wish would have carried with the times are those chivalrous actions. I will tell you my top 3, ones that she has told me but I never see.
1. walk on the side walk closest to the road (so when the horses go by, mud doesn't get on the girls clothing)
2. put down your coat over a puddle (so that the woman doesn't dirty her shoes)
3. bring a present/gift for a first date (a small box of chocolates or flowers are great) | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/13/2007 5:01:26 PM | | Chivalry isn't dead. The other day I was at Micky D's for a quick lunch. There were two women, both of them had toddlers, one was very pregnant and the other had a very little baby in a baby carrier. They obviously would have had difficulty carrying their trays to the table. Two men dressed in business suits left their place in line to help the ladies carry their trays back to their table and got them ketchup and napkins and straws and all that. When they came back in line and went to the back I told them they could go ahead of me, but they refused, saying they left and it's only right for them to go to the back of the line. Both ladies thanked them and so did their kids (although the mums had to give them a little reminder, but they looked like they were maybe 2 or 3). | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/14/2007 6:39:11 PM | OP,....Yes I do,....and hope to one day find a man who values his chivalrous ways,.....as much as I do. Chivalry is obviously second nature to you,...so just be yourself and never try to change for anyone!.
Just wondering if you were offering beginner courses as I know a few men that I would love to send you way....lol......
All joking aside it really is a wonderful quality and I hope you will never try to change it,...as that is a quality that I myself look for in a man | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/14/2007 9:32:02 PM | | It's rare that a guy will do these things anymore, personally, I would love! It's part of the whole dating/relationship experience.... All these little things add up, in a big way:) | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/15/2007 4:47:02 AM | I actually get irritated with this.
It takes you twice as long to get going,
because then he has to walk back to his door and get in.
It seems assanine,
as I am capable of opening my door.
But I will say,
if you don't have a button that unlocks the car,
My door better be first unlocked when it's 10 below out
and im frikkin freezin my a$$ off. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:35:29 AM | I'd probably faint if someone did that. But I'd be fainting right into their arms out of surprise and just plain gratitude. Wonderful thing to do, find me a guy who does that and I'd probably marry him.  | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:20:34 AM | I do like that, but not every time. I do like it when I am dressed up for an outing in aprticular when I don't want to get up near the car and get a mark on my outfit, or to be helped on with my coat in similar situation. It is a courtesy I notice the absence of, and it does matter.
In general, I always take care of any guest first, be it male or female, so I consider it common courtesy to serve someone before serving myself, and to not start eating until everyone has their food placed as well.
These are the niceties that do not go unappreciated. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:29:16 AM | | Doesn't matter to me, but he's gonna have better luck opening it for me to get in than he is for me to get out. I'm not just gonna sit there waiting for him to make it around to open it. Makes no sense. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:29:36 AM | I appreciate a man showing me common courtesy, and I like to reciprocate it wherever possible.
I recently gave my seat to an elderly passenger on a train and the first thing he said to me was, "You must be from the country love". That may well be true, but when did manners stop being foremost in our minds? | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:44:10 AM | | There is a difference between manners and out dated practices. I dont want to have to stand there why the man in my life is running around like an idiot trying to open every door I come to, sprint ahead of me to open the car door like a freaking chauffer, and the very best one is where I get to walk in front of him and he can "push" me to where we are going as he has his hand on my back. Wait I take it back the best part is when he holds my chair out and then tried to jam me into the table edge because he is trying to be "gentlemanly" as I am grabbing the glassware to stop it from hitting the floor. Thats why I dont like it. It actually tends to make things more complicated and slow things down. You want to show me respect? Listen to what I say, dont stare at my breast like you are waiting for them to do a trick, dont assume that I am like every other woman you have been with. That will get you farther than opening a door! Perhaps its because I am one of those people that doesnt need to have a constant "parade" of actions to know that I am a "lady". | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:56:55 AM | You should never be standing waiting for doors to be opened. It is more like a dance. When done well no one would know that you slowed your pace a fraction so that he could reach the door. No one would think anything of the man opening the car door for the woman he just walked to it arm in arm or holding hands. No one thinks anything of the man that unobtrusively places himself on the street side of the sidewalk.
Personally, I love it. When they stop doing it, I guess we're "serious". :( | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/15/2007 11:01:36 AM | | I am noticing more and more these days a very big reason that men don't seem to know how to treat women and I don't think it has anything to do with their own lack of manners. It has become a very damned it you do and damned if you don't society in a lot of areas. | |
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