| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 6/24/2007 6:21:41 AM | Okay ladies, picture this. You're dressed to the nines and while you are walking to your side of the car and he is on his side and a purse snatcher runs up, grabs your purse, and takes off. Are you going to chase him or expect your date to chase him?
This situation can occur anywhere these days.
I would defintely prefer my date (and her purse) is safely in the car before I get in. This is not the only reason I open car doors but it is a very practical one. | |
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SISL
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Joined: 2/20/2007
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| Classic double-standard here!
Posted: 6/24/2007 7:28:48 AM | Your post reflects the impossiblle double-standard which we men face, as a consequence of "feminism". Men are expected to "respect" the ladies, by jumping through all of the equality-hoops set out for us, while at the same time, opening car doors and pouring wine is just fine.
I myself am a dedicated car-door-opener and wine-pourer, and see ALL of the ladies in this world as in need of, and deserving, my respect, courtesy, and attention.
Like it or not, men and women are different (that's a good thing)---Men are stronger, and their proper role is as protectors and "escorts" of the ladies. Ladies are weaker, and able to do many things men never dream of.
I will keep opening those doors, even if feminazi's occasionally object, while secretly enjoying it. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:21:37 AM | While I don't really EXPECT it, it's always nice when it happens... even nicer if he leans in for a kiss after I get in!!
And for SURE, my door should be the first one to be unlocked, especially if it's cold out!! That's just respect. Period! If I was holding the keys & driving, I'd unlock HIS first!
Opening doors.. I guess if he is behind me, I'd feel like an idiot if I stand there & WAIT for him to open the door, so I will open it & hold it for him. No big deal!
My ex husband of 18 years was always very good with this stuff. He'd run to grab doors for me, always make sure my door was unlocked & ALWAYS walked on the sidewalk on the roadside. He was very sweet that way.
I don't think chivalry is dead, we just place a little less importance on it.
Good topic though!!
Dee | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/9/2007 8:35:18 AM | I've experienced very few men opening a car door for me so I don't form any opinion based on that action (or lack thereof). If a man doesn't open a door for me that's a mark against him. If it's a double set of doors, I'll open the next set, pass thru and hold it for him. To me, that's just reciprocal appreciation. I don't stand and wait for him to open the second set of doors.
This reminds me... at the last POF meet I had the guy lit my cigarettes. I couldn't remember the last time a gentleman had done that for me. It was very nice. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/9/2007 9:21:21 AM | I think it comes down to personal standards. I once had a date with a guy who drove up to my home to take me on a date and sat in his car and sounded his horn. After he'd done this three times he got the message and got off his behind to knock on the door. He then got in the car and sat looking at me standing outside the passenger door. By the time we got to the nightclub he was actually opening doors for me. I said no thanks when he asked for a second date. I expect gentlemanly behaviour because I always behave in a ladylike manner in public (its only in the bedroom that I act like a slut  ) | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/9/2007 9:52:42 PM | For me it depends on the situation. If we're just dressed casual in jeans and t-shirts and out and about, it's a bit of a pain to bother with that kind of stuff and I'm not in a situation where I need help. Put me in a fancy dress and heels, and suddenly the likelihood of me landing flat on my face increases 100 times, and I already land on my head enough without wearing a dress and heels. At that point, if the guy doesn't want to be embarrassed by finding that his date isn't keeping up and is sprawled out face down on the cement, then I'm going to need help, which means an arm needs to be available. At those times, if he's the type that will open a car door, I'll wait for assistance, and yes, I appreciate it and make it up to him later when I'm less likely to break an ankle.
I don't know why it is that I have no problems with things like motorcycling and get compliments on my skills in the advanced courses, but stick a pair of heels on my feet and I'll swear I'm going to end up breaking my neck. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/12/2007 1:11:35 PM | | I absolutely LOVE when a man opens a door for me. I never really had it done, but when I was in my last relationship, I tried it. I told my ex how special it made me feel when he did it, and he started doing it more often. I feel as though it is respectable for a guy to open doors, and pour me a drink. I LOVE when a guy picks you up for a date, and he walks with you to your side of the car... it makes me smile, because I know he's going to open the door!!! Great feature to have!! | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/12/2007 9:24:44 PM | You know, I have to say it is necessary for a man to do this on a date sometimes. I don't care if he has automatic doors. He's not the one wearing a dress or skirt. In the winter it can be really cold for a woman, so it shows that he is looking after her by putting her in the car first. It is just the gentlemanly thing to do.
But I am a girly girl and I like to dress up and look nice for my dates when I know we are going out, so in turn I would expect my date to go the extra mile to ensure I am comfortable when I am with him. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/14/2007 3:15:17 PM | | That's exactly the kind of man I want. A man who just doesn't feel right not doing all those little things. Kudos to you Dan. There are still a few of you out there. To me it's not about respect though I need tons of that. It's about being a man. More of a traditional man, but to me a REAL man. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/15/2007 12:02:04 AM | On the mark with that one Dan.. I too do as well,hold hand leading to dance floor,walk on traffic side to protect her(in mexico if you don,t walk on street side your date is fair game for any body else to have),open doors, help with clothes(on-off) ,escort her back to which she came,be a gentleman. The respect you get from evereyone is worth the effort,all eyes are on you.  s...T .R | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/15/2007 8:09:43 AM | Hey TALLRIGGIN7,
Kudos to you for demonstrating that true gentlemen still do exist. While I am perfectly capable of opening doors for myself, and won't stand there waiting for it to be done, I definitely appreciate when it is done. My guy opens and closes my door for me, and I love it, always say thank you. And the quick peck getting in and out of the car is extra nice!
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 10/15/2007 7:16:11 PM | | There is something about "gentlemen manners" that makes me melt. From softly tipping his stetson when asking me to dance and taking my hand lightly and leading the way to the dance floor. More than anything, this shows me that he is a respectful man - trust me ... that will get you anywhere! Do not think that this would be all one sided - what goes around, comes around! | |
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emdgp9
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Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 93 | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:24:58 PM | Please do open the car door and wait to shut it too! I normally have long fingernails and it is hard to open doors and then to arrange your dress, skirt, coat, or whatever so it isn't hanging out when the door is shut is a bit difficult. I totally love a man to be a gentleman! Holding doors, pushing in chairs, helping me with my coat, oh I so love the old school rules for men | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:34:22 PM |
Am I considered old fashioned if I still help a lady put on her coat or open the door for her. Opening a car door is that a sign of respect or just being an old bugger. How about pouring her glass of wine first. To be honest it would not feel right not doing all these little things.
Thats not old fashioned that's good manners! | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:46:46 PM | YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, .... OPEN THE DOOR, HELP ME WITH MY COAT etc. ..... I WANT THESE THINGS FROM A MAN .... I EXPECT TO BE TREATED LIKE THE LADY THAT I AM .... .... AND YOU WILL BE TREATED LIKE THE GENTLEMAN THAT YOU ARE .....  | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:53:57 PM | It's sweet, it's thoughtful, it's considerate, but it's not necessary. So, when it's done, it's a treat, a sign of respect (often a surprise these days) and can be very warm and romantic. But if it starts to become an issue (you rush to get the door when she's already got her hand on the handle) and you make a big deal of it (she carries the bag out of the grocery store and you make comments about looking for your gonads because she's just emasculated you), well, then it's a chore and cumbersome.
Personally, I love someone to hold the door for me, but I also like to hold the door for others ... it's the little things we do for each other daily that makes us human. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door.
Posted: 11/28/2007 9:10:14 PM | | Opening the door to let her in is very cool brother. If you do not believe me, watch her body language the next few times you do it. You will see smiles and more relaxed movements. | |
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| Does she still want a man to open her car door?
Posted: 11/28/2007 10:31:03 PM | | I'm sorry to say that I hear many woman say they feel like they're being looked down upon if a man opens a door for them or offers or tries to help them with anything, but, personally, I love being treated that way. Help me on with my coat. Pull out the chair for me. Let me go first. Open the door for me. I feel respected for simply being a woman when a man does that, and it's a great feeling. I like being treated like I'm special. | |
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