| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 4/15/2007 5:48:28 PM | You may have vowed to love him til the day you died but he vowed to love and honour you too. There is no excuse for physical violence in a relationship .. if things reach that point the abuser should have enough self control to walk away from the situation before it reaches violence.
There are places you can go for help .. you don't need to stay. Do you want your children to learn that this type of behaviour is ok ?? If you have a son, do you want him to think this behaviour is acceptable and carry it over into his relationship ?? If you have a daughter, do you want her to think that it's ok for someone ot hit her ?? | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 5/5/2007 6:23:47 AM | First of all, NO WOMAN deserves to be abused either verbally or physically by anyone, this is not a man, it's a coward ! Bottom line here is, MEN that abuse women physically have no balls, they are cowards. I'd like to see them beat a man for a change.
Most women who are in abusive relationships live with the belief that things will change and that is just rediculous, things never change, he beats you, then he gets sorry and tells you how sorry he is and how much he loves you, and you go through that honeymoon stage where he says he'll never do it again. HORSESHIT, it will happen over and over again and YOU are just enabling him to be a bully and an abuser.
I'm not critisizing you, honestly, I'm just putting the facts out there, and the fact is, he beats you, end of story. The very next time he shows behavior that says, I'm in a rage and your going to "GET IT" tell him just before he lands that first slap,,, YOU WILL GO TO SLEEP, and see just what kind of responce or beating that will get you. I bet he thinks a little more about landing that first slap.! Stop allowing him to abuse you and get out... There is someone out there who will treat you like a lady. | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 5/8/2007 5:58:46 AM | Get out. If you for some crazy reason want to stay, that's your choice.
But the #1 thing a parent should do is: "Show your child the proper way to live life".
Showing that abuse is ok, is not the correct message to show. As people later on in life say this comment "it's all that I ever knew" | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 5/8/2007 12:41:24 PM | | I went through it for 6 yrs in two relationships. You need to get the courage to leave. THis last Valentines day he tried to kill me. I have 2 babies and a 3rd on the way. They wont stop. I am only 23. Its hard but do what you have to, to survive. Dont take that from any one. | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 5/8/2007 1:45:10 PM | | Cut his Jacobs off luv, he won't chase after you , but cut the entire fruit basket off.. No man should be graced with having a fruit basket if he beats women. | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/6/2008 12:39:42 AM | Leave. Fast as possible.
Get support both from friends or family that can help, and also mental and emotional support from group therapy.
And not to sound like a politician, but think of the children. Chances are it's already affected them for life. They will also probably need therapy. Children who grow up in homes where abuse happens, even if you think they don't know (which they always do), either become abusers or seek out abusers in later life. It's a wonderful cycle that keeps repeating like so many other childhood trauma's.
But leave, and never look back, never trust him again, ever. They don't change. | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/6/2008 12:51:42 AM | If your partner beats you, man or woman, you take the children and leave.
Especially if you are a woman, there is no excuse not to. There are lots of women's shelters. There are lots of social agencies to help you find accommodation and hook you into the welfare system.
Living on welfare is better than not living.
IF AND ONLY IF it there was a really really good reason for the beating (like you really had been cheating on him, his son really isn't his), and there were no broken bones, you *might* give your partner a second chance.
IF you did give him a really really good reason for beating you, you should only take him back if you do not plan on repeating your behaviour. You are not doing him or you a favour by taking him back and cheating on him again. You could end up dead, he could end up in prison for life, and your children would be no better off than orphans.
If your spouse/partner got drunk and beat you for no reason or some stupid reason, you take the children and leave, and you do not get back together. | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:46:23 AM | | Definitely leave and have him held accountable in a court of law. Abuse whether it's mental or physical is a crime and the perp deserves to be punished severely. No woman deserves to be abused and no woman is to blame. It's the abuser with the issues and who is responsible. | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:29:11 AM | I know someone who went back to a physically abusive guy.
(for the 3rd time!)
She's dead now.
Mysterious circumstances and no witnesses.
and no investigation.
LEAVE! | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/6/2008 6:41:52 AM | Rent that movie "ENOUGH" with Jennifer Lopez and than go take some self defense lessons.
It not only helps you defend yourself, but also gives you the needed self esteem and confidence you are obviously lacking, otherwise you wouldn't stay.
good luck! | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/6/2008 5:21:45 PM | | No woman should stay with a man who beats her or her kids. This is a fundamental betrayl of basic masculine reposibilities and such men should be flogged and held up for public criticism. | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/13/2008 6:54:49 PM | LEAVE AS QUICKLY AS YOU CAN, with your children with you.
I left over twenty years ago when I was threatened with abuse and I never, ever looked back.
Please get out now! | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/14/2008 12:01:58 AM |
Rent that movie "ENOUGH" with Jennifer Lopez and than go take some self defense lessons.
Just don't go breaking into your ex's house so that you can start a fight with him, like JL did in the movie  ("self defense... is not murder"....Well, breaking into someone's house and attacking them isn't self defense. )
As for the self-defense lessons, good idea, but you have to really look around for good ones. If the "attacker" just stands still while the "victim" is beating him up, that should tell you to look somewhere else. (gotta train as close to the real thing as possible so that you can deal with it as effectively as possible) | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/14/2008 2:12:13 AM | Beat the ****er back then get the **** outta there.... thats what I would do...wait...that's what I did.. But if you can't then definately leave and call police asap. Noone should ever have to go through that abuse. And for all of you out there who have it was never your fault. It was thiers. He/She was the one with the personal issues not you.  So dont  keep your head up. Once you leave you may miss the, but in the end it gets better | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/14/2008 3:45:28 AM | My ex wife was very physical with me, I never hit a woman raised not to do so. Shenever would do anything to the children, well nothing to do with the children. I held it in and said nothing I figured that I gave my word for better or this part.
She left with her boss 6 months later, she walked out on us. I learned how to cook fast wit the four children it was hard until I had told someone what had happened then it felt like a great reflief off me. It is an often thing that is done by both sex and it should not be. It is wrong to do and never let this be allowed to happen in your life again.
Again is it now with dating I do not know if it is often carried in the back mind as do I take a chance. I do not feel to rush into anything I rather take time and learn about the other person. In time if it is ment to happen it will just have the faith that let you take the pain which was given you to find the one who will have the love to rid it from your mind.. | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/14/2008 11:08:43 AM | Bab? I have heard some of my woman friends talk the same way u have......it's called "mind control". He makes u think u can't live without him.....He makes u think u r "worthless". Take ur self esteem back and get out! He will never learn a lesson by what u let him get away with. Whether it's emotional or physical abuse...either one is not acceptable! Think of what that is doing to ur children....its' teaching them that "its ok to behave that way".
All the best....... | |
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| IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE
Posted: 8/15/2008 10:46:28 PM | | A real man does not hit a woman-ever. It is not acceptable behavior and does not deserve forgiveness. I'm not sure what heaven will be like but I bet there is a special corner in hell for guys like that. Leave. | |
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