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Posted: 3/2/2008 3:47:53 PM |
Okay, you win Chucky B - I can't take much more of this thread. Let me be the first to say I PREFER taller men. I'm 5' 4" and if I am dating someone even a few inches taller it's all good. When I am checking out a mans profile, I notice the height, but it would not be a dealbreaker one way or another, just a preference. I also PREFER to date a man that has been married, and has had children. I also PREFER to date a man a few years older than me. Again, these are not dealbreakers, I just find that it's a better fit for me. If you find that superficial, well so be it.
As I have said a number of times on here before...There is nothing wrong with a preference. I prefer taller athletic women...but I have dated every shape and size. My problem is with women who say that they prefer a taller man, but then would never date who is short statured. This is a requirement, not a preference. I would have the same problem with a guy who says that he prefers large breasted women, but then never gives a smaller breasted woman a chance.
When height alone is a deal breaker, that's when I have a problem. I think we would all find our perfect match if we were all a little more open minded. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 3:49:39 PM | | Funny! Back in my AOL chatting days - my screen name was BarbequeT if I recall. Apparently nothing has changed! | |
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| Is Height an issue to Men?
Posted: 3/2/2008 9:27:46 PM | LOL Bobby, you make me smile trying to explain to breeders of doorknob
Huh?
There is nothing wrong with a preference. My problem is with women who say that they prefer a taller man, but then would never date who is short statured. This is a requirement, not a preference. I would have the same problem with a guy who says that he prefers large breasted women, but then never gives a smaller breasted woman a chance.
When height alone is a deal breaker, that's when I have a problem. I think we would all find our perfect match if we were all a little more open minded.
True, but I don't think a requirement is bad. It's limiting, but whether or not someone has a preference or a requirement, it's within their right to do. It's frustrating I know to have a trait that's so universally disliked. I'm over-weight and gay, that limits my options to almost zero here on POF. I don't like it but I have to accept it because people have the right to make the choices they want to make. Now I am not dating (open about it though), I'm merely looking for friends, even for just friendship I get rejected. It's true that online people will have physical requirements and racial requirements for even friendship, even friendship by email. It sucks, but still, if that's how people want to live their lives, then that's how people want to live their lives. Even if it's shallow, people have the right to be shallow if that's their choice. I just think it's a good idea though for us to self question our preferences and requirements to see if we truly need them and if maybe we'd be happier dropping them. I would guess for most the answer would be yes, but if it's not, well thank God we decide for ourselves how we want to be and no amount of hand wringing and screaming at the gods will change that. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 10:26:34 PM | Hey, I have requirements. Many of them denote a level of emotional health.
I require them to be sane.
I require them to be honest.
I require them to have some common sense.
I require them not to be raging alcoholics, sexaholics, or addicts.
Love me, love my kids. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 12:45:28 AM |
Love me, love my kids.
By kids you mean your biological children or the shoes you've adopted? | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 7:19:27 AM |
Love me, love my kids.
I thought that was a chest reference at first. Women, put on your heels and don't worry about his height, weight - look to the heart/soul of a man & how he tenders his woman. As a goood friend of mine said of a very long marriage, "Once the bells and whistles are over, you better have respect for one another or it won't last." That equates to a foundation in friendship & no, they don't both believe in the same politics or religion for that matter, they honor each other's right to believe as they wish but love and adore each other in work and play, redefining their relationship every ten years as they grow as people.
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Posted: 3/4/2008 8:33:41 AM |
"Love me, love my kids."
I thought that was a chest reference at first.
No, that would be "Love me, love my puppies". | |
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| Is Height an issue to Men?
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:43:52 PM |
LOL Bobby, you make me smile trying to explain to breeders of doorknob
Bobby,
Sorry for the left out word. Meant you made me smile trying to explain to breeders (heteros) with the intellect of a doorknob. All these people going on about size that matters in height but they sure shy away from the sausage, don't they? haha If a man knows what he's doing, trust me, he doesn't need to worry about his size in either direction. Men, think with the head on your shoulders on that one..lol
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Posted: 3/7/2008 1:59:00 PM | [ My problem is with women who say that they prefer a taller man, but then would never date who is short statured. This is a requirement, not a preference. I would have the same problem with a guy who says that he prefers large breasted women, but then never gives a smaller breasted woman a chance. ]
ok, i'm playing devils' advocate here.
i have a requirement that women i date be all woman. is that ok? or should i give the herm a shot? 
back to the topic-
i like women tall or short. i grew up watching and listening to sonny and cher. i luuuuuuved them as a couple. 
but then there is something to be said for 'le petit cheri'. it's a scalar thing, if ya get my drift.  | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 9:39:42 PM | | That would depend of course on what kind of position you choose. I would like to believe that certainly other short women besides myself would be aware of "short peoples" positions!! (smile) | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 8:26:18 PM | | What gets me is when I see a tall man (6ft and above) that prefers short women. Why is that? Does it make the man feel more "manly"? As for me, I'm 5'10 barefooted and have gone out with shorter men but worry the whole time if they feel awkward. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 9:36:27 PM |
I'm 5'10 barefooted and have gone out with shorter men but worry the whole time if they feel awkward.
I've written about this subject before. In my experience, the shorter the man, the less he's concerned about a woman's height because he's already spent his entire life measuring his masculinity by a different yardstick than mere size. I also find that generally it's not short men that are concerned with , or even conscious of their height - until someone else raises the issue. My advice is to not worry about the guy feeling awkward, wear the heels you love, and just enjoy his company. If he's uncomfortable with your height; well, that's really his problem. As adorable as you are, there are loads of guys waiting in the wings for a chance to spend time with you.
See you on the edge of the bell curve. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 9:48:59 PM |
I require them to be sane.
I require them to be honest.
I think everything else is open for discussion.... | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 10:23:25 PM |
What gets me is when I see a tall man (6ft and above) that prefers short women. Why is that? Does it make the man feel more "manly"? As for me, I'm 5'10 barefooted and have gone out with shorter men but worry the whole time if they feel awkward.
I could care less if she is taller than me. I love myself (in a good way) and I'm confident in everything that I do and in myself. My ex was taller than me and in heels was even taller. We both loved each other for who we are on the inside and how much we loved spending time with each other. | |
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notard
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Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 268 | |
| Is Height an issue to Men?
Posted: 3/12/2008 7:57:36 PM | | I am well over six feet and have dated women from 4'10' to over six feet tall. A woman of any height can look good! | |
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jurupa
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Joined: 2/12/2008
Msg: 269 | |
| Is Height an issue to Men?
Posted: 3/12/2008 11:34:03 PM |
What gets me is when I see a tall man (6ft and above) that prefers short women. Why is that? Does it make the man feel more "manly"? As for me, I'm 5'10 barefooted and have gone out with shorter men but worry the whole time if they feel awkward. I think it primary has to do with them being insecure with their height. It took me years to get secure with my height, which was not easy with people always giving me looks because I am tall. But now I rather have an average girl that is 5'10 than a smoking hot girl that is 5'5", because I am more attracted to taller girls. Now I just have to find one that is between 20 and 28 with no kids and I be set.
And notard how much younger do you date? I am just curious because it does say you date younger guys in your profile. I would go out with you, but you got kids and that is a deal breaker for me, unless you went cougar then it won't be  . The distance between us may be an issue as well. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 12:15:23 AM | And notard how much younger do you date? I am just curious because it does say you date younger guys in your profile. I would go out with you, but you got kids and that is a deal breaker for me, unless you went cougar then it won't be . The distance between us may be an issue as well.
Wouldn't the fact that Notard is a guy be a deal breaker for you? If not, then you're really, really, into height. | |
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jurupa
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Joined: 2/12/2008
Msg: 271 | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 1:48:17 PM | | i do. it isn a big deal, but if i had to choose 2 women that were all identical except one was shorter and the otehr one taller, i'd pick the shorter one. i dont like women with big body frames and even big tits as opposed to most guys. those are what i consider eyecatchers, not turn-ons. | |
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jurupa
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Joined: 2/12/2008
Msg: 273 | |
| Is Height an issue to Men?
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:25:00 PM | | FYI bobafett, not all tall girls have big body frames with big boobs. Where I live the tall girls I have seen tend to be normal for the most part. I don't really see many tall girls that are big in any sense. I actually see a lot of skinnish tall girls than anything. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 9:03:36 PM | Hey Jurupa.........youngest I've dated was 25. Too bad your so far away from me, your height is unreal!!  | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 9:21:22 PM |
Hey Jurupa.........youngest I've dated was 25. Too bad your so far away from me, your height is unreal!!
I think he's lying about his height, he doesn't look 6' 6" but 6' 5.9" | |
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