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Posted: 10/17/2011 7:46:18 PM | I am so sick and tired of this question and the fact that it can go on for 20 some odd pages. The real truth here is that you could line up 10 women all who weigh 150 pounds and they would all look so different it would surprise people to know they weighed the same. Weight means squat, dress size means squat. The Body mass chart is such a load of BS and I'm equally annoyed by women feeling like they need to fit some chart / index / categories . To hell with labels like curvy , full figured , thin , average , a few extra pounds because it all means NOTHING. A few extra pounds looks very different on different people and when you add in a persons perception ( either side ) Men like women they see and LIKE. Women LIKE men that they see and like.
This obsession with body size determining your desirability fueled by pop culture and social media spoon feeding us ideas of how we should look has become a destructive force , not just with adult women but for adolescent and often younger girls. The fact that this thread was started and can go on over the kind of time period it has , garnering 25 pages is a little sad.
Girls / women - get the F*%ck over it and embrace who you are , body size and all and don't let some guy who was weaned onto Maxim before his brain was fully developed tell you otherwise ..
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Posted: 10/18/2011 7:29:16 AM |
I dont know how this is a question. clearly the best looking girl is; not overweight
body mass index of normal http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Body_mass_index_chart.svg
bingo, we have a winner, and I couldn't agree more. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2011 5:12:07 AM | Don't think I have a lot to add to this discussion, with over 20 pages already, but to me, everyone is an individual. I have preferences in terms of shape and size, but I like plenty of people who don't fit those preferences, and am not attracted to plenty of people who do (well, women, transwomen and intersex anyway--I'm extremely picky when it comes to men and transmen). Curvy can be sexy. So can skinny. Generally I prefer the former over the latter, but some women I like a lot are quite slender. And some are fairly large. And some are professional athletes in prime physical condition.
I think islandRaven said it pretty well. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2011 12:33:17 PM | IslandRaven is spot on, pound for pound the truth.
Funny but true: I have put on 30lbs when ill and most never even notice...hence the curves.
My sister put on 30lbs and it showed up like she was pregnant...everyone noticed.
Time to look at each other as humans not weight problems. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2011 7:09:56 PM | Yea. I'm not brainwashed; please don't infer that I am.
I just don't think that because I'm overweight (and not because I want to be) that I therefore have the right to demand a guy LIKE me -BECAUSE- of it. Nor do I have the right to be appalled when they aren't attracted to me.
I don't like redheaded men. You don't see them getting all upset that I'm not attracted to them.
Ladies - deal with it. Honest to God. If a guy isn't attracted to you because of your weight you have one of two choices:
1 - Move on to someone else.
2 - Lose weight for him.
No one, and I mean NO ONE has the right to say that because you aren't attracted to someone means you're brainwashed, or closed minded, or stuck up, or chauvinistic.
I am sure each and every single one of you gals on here getting your panties in a knot has SOMETHING they find unattractive physically on a man. None of us are 100% completely nonjudgmental. So seriously, get off your high horses. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2011 11:18:42 PM |
reeducate?
people like what they like, and me?, I prefer a woman not prone to gluttony, thank you.
I am sure each and every single one of you gals on here getting your panties in a knot has SOMETHING they find unattractive physically on a man. None of us are 100% completely nonjudgmental. So seriously, get off your high horses.
^^^^^ I don't think either of you based on the reply you have posted have read in depth the points made here .....also go back further than one or 2 posts to get a sense of the tone... .....I did not read nor did I post any high on their horse posts made by women in this thread. I don't think you meant to disempower anyone but your reply was not really on base pertaining to the way women have been made to feel and how weight is really much more of a non issue. Read the thread a bit further back and I think you might realize that. To the guy I quoted * sigh* where to begin....I think you need to go back to page one ...  | |
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Posted: 10/25/2011 1:35:15 AM | IslandRaven, if you can't be bothered to look through the thread yourself and see that I have posted several times and that my opinion has remained more or less static, then I see no real point in responding to you as fully as I had planned. Although, I've no idea where you get that I was actually speaking to you in reference to the high horses comment.
You go ahead and continue to insinuate that men who infer or come right out and say they aren't attracted to a woman because of her size/shape were weaned on Maxim before their brains developed. You fit in nicely with the woman who suggested those of us who think differently (i.e. realistically) are "brain-washed" - both of you do nothing to improve the situation.
Weight is an issue; if it weren't, there wouldn't be a need for such threads.
And just in case you missed my thoughts earlier while you were jumping to conclusions about me and patronizing me in return, I'll repeat them:
If a man is not attracted to a woman based on her weight, so what? The woman should move on to the next guy. The fact of the matter is men are attracted to various types of women; some men like the fat girls, others like the thin girls. Some like the in-between girls. Vilifying them for not liking a particular group and suggesting their brains are superficially developed really does nothing to help any cause. Furthermore, if a woman allows herself to feel bad about the fact that some men don't find her attractive, that's not a man's fault: that's hers. No one can make you feel inferior without your express permission. Blaming the man for "making" her feel bad is putting way too much responsibility on his shoulders.
I've had lots and lots of men tell me they weren't attracted to me because I am fat. You know what my answer has always been? "Ok, thanks so much! All the best!" Not "how dare you! Don't you know weight doesn't mean anything? Why can't you just like me for who I am?" I don't see any redheaded men lining up to tell me that (in case you missed it: I'm not attracted to redheaded men). Shame on me! Having a hardwired nonresponse to a group of people I'm not attracted to!
So, I'll leave you to your viewpoints and your suggestions that physical attributes are a nonissue.
Don't bother responding; I've said all I care to.
Cheers and best of luck! | |
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Posted: 10/26/2011 3:24:27 PM | Halo Kitty
Honestly your reply made me laugh - wow you have some pent up anger. I think you need to get laid and maybe watch some Chelsea Handler .
That said , I took a quick look at your profile and I can see that we are number 1/ not in the same age group and number 2/ not in the same body size category. Your age will somewhat set us apart in how we see the world based on our experiences with men. I have 20 years on you with several relationships , a marriage, a teenage daughter and 3 adult sons. I come from a very different place than you do and that's to be expected. We all have different ideas and opinions.
Secondly , the body size. I have never been a bigger girl or had a weight issue. I am curvy because I am half Spanish and we tend to have fuller curvy figures. I am busty but I'm smaller in the waist and butt. I had made references to the thread bc I have a daughter and I am also a teacher and I spend time with girls at ages that body image and such can be a trying time. I see that weight is something you may have experienced issues with and subsequently your experiences with men ( esp at that age ,who are more body focused ) would affect how you see and respond to this thread. I feel that expending emotional energy to blast away at me is neither productive or good for your psyche. I am simply pro female empowerment.
As you are coming from a different place in both of those area's and I think its best we agree to disagree but I do hope you will be easier on your self and hold men a bit more accountable.
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Posted: 10/26/2011 8:45:33 PM | Ah, the age card and then the weight card. You went for a double whammy didn't you? 
The worst thing anyone can do is underestimate me, my life experiences, my viewpoints, and whether or not I have "pent up anger" or "need to get laid" (that was really classy of you).
Since you choose not to acknowledge my comments about the topic at hand and instead choose to make unfounded, erroneous generalizations about me, I'm going to leave you with one concise rewording of my thoughts. I'm sorry they don't jive with your "lets blame men" mentality; c'est la vie, eh?
Stop putting the blame and responsibility on men. Both genders have contributed to the weight issue (and whether or not you wish to see it as an issue is irrelevant); men for setting the unattainable as a set desired body type, and women for struggling to attain the unattainable, falling short, and becoming miserable and bitter over it. Neither gender is blameless. Neither gender is wholly at fault. Stop vilifying the one with a penis (I could comment that perhaps your insistance that I "hold men a bit more accountable" tells perhaps some unintended insight into your "pro female empowerment" mindset and your own experiences with men). For what it's worth, I'm pro human empowerment. I believe in taking personal responsibility rather than passing the blame to someone else (which is what a lot of overweight women do: "he's missing out if he doesn't like fat chicks!", "he's such a chauvinistic pig, doesn't he know women come in all shapes?" etc.).
Now, really IslandRaven, this is my last word on the subject, at least with any reference to you. Feel free to respond all you want - but don't hold your breath waiting for my reply.
I don't agree to disagree. I simply choose not to participate anymore; I have energy that is better served with more fruitful pursuits.
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Posted: 10/27/2011 12:53:09 AM | Halo Kitty
First of all I was joking about the getting laid , not so much about the anger. I have some understanding of you now reading the posts you have made throughout the forums ...However ,you seem to have lost your sense of humor , perspective and and sense of self completely in this thread. I'm sorry this has touched off such a nerve for you. Choosing to be so combative and defensive will not serve you well though and it only makes you internalize often leading to isolating. It is not good for your health , emotional or physical.
I understand the lashing out at me and I am not taking it personally. I just wish / hope you can release some of this angst. . I am certain that is what's going on for you. I suspect that it is the tip of the iceberg and maybe there are issues to resolve. I think we all express a bit through the forums and blow off steam. It seems though that is is doing you more harm than good.
I won't be holding my breath waiting for a reply nor is one needed. I am sure you have had some negative experiences that have brought you to this place and I'm sorry that you have all this going on inside you. I hope you can find some peace. I wish you the best.
Take Care
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Posted: 11/1/2011 10:10:53 AM | The trick is establishing the difference between curvy and overweight.
I mean no offense by saying this, but I think the two are often confused, but are actually very different things.
Big boobs and bum, with a slimmer waist is what I would consider to be curvy. You don't have to have a SLIM waist, just one which is slimmer than your boobs & bum/hips.
Personally, I prefer a girl with a bit more 'meat' on her, rather than someone who is dead thin. However, I would choose a thinner girl over someone who was overweight. But that's just my opinion/taste. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2011 2:35:16 PM | in answer to the original topic, yes....some men like curvy women & some like the skinny ones....as others have mentioned - personal taste & choice. It is sad when others have to put down one or the other, we are all adults and should be respectful of one another. However, this being online, seems anything goes really. Different strokes for different folks. Being healthy & happy should be what is important....at any size. And it is possible. I feel sad for the rude & crude people that feel it is easier to cut someone else down, than look in their own mirror. Believe the saying, hurting people hurt people....if people are truly happy, they would be more respectful & kind to others. I think there are a lot of hurting people out there, in real life & online. Generally easier to hide online . I think it has also allowed for a whole lot more bullying. But, another topic.Jmho.
Speaking from both perspectives, as I was what some would consider a barbie doll in my early 20s, to a bbw now in my mid 40s...am more confident & happy with who I am currently. Healthy is key, and can be at any size.And having injured myself while I was much thinner, hasnt helped now .That being said, I also believe we are all a work in progress....and for myself , having fallen on the ice & injured myself pretty good last winter, and having always been an active person. The inactivity has been very frustrating. Lots of misconceptions about people based on appearances....which is unfortunate. Cant change others though, only yourself. And the whole saying about stick & stones, well...words can hurt people, deeply.
I now am going to physio & the gym 3 times a week, and swimming twice a week...and trying to do more every day. I have always loved walking & dancing as well...and know I am going to get back to being even more active once I am feeling better. I would like to be in a very different place in another year than I have been....and hopefully healthier than I have in a while. Do I expect every guy will like me....not a chance! Some will, some wont....but that is life. I like myself, but I know God isnt finished with me yet. As do those that know me. I know, one day, someone will be equally interested in me as I will of them, for all that we are. Body, mind, spirit...the whole person. We are more than simply the sum of our parts.  | |
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Posted: 11/2/2011 11:21:21 PM | I am attracted to similiar body type as myself... but what body type am I; and isn't it totally a matter of perspective??
Unsure if this is the correct place to ask this question - but it has been on my mind... Went on a date last week and was told that I look skinnier than I am in my pics and feel like it's not the first time someone thought this... I am just under 6'2" and now weigh 195 lbs. Very top of "normal BMI". As most of us know "Normal" is only properly defined on a washing machine.... Here's the thing; I dropped 30 lbs and 4" off my waste by not eating my own cooking in first nine months after separating. Have gained back 20 of those pounds in past the nine months - but my waist size is still 32" (haven't been there since 18 years old) physical aspects of my new career + staying active sees in best physical shape in years (more muscle than fat). So - up to date new wardrobe still works; but I have to admit I look like I've lost a lot more than 10 lbs and, as evidenced by a full fleet of non-fitting "fat" clothes. am I slim or athletic?
And - what do women like; beef cakes or skinny pencils or a good fitting pair of jeans that now how to dance or "move it move it"....
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Posted: 11/22/2011 8:37:56 PM | | I much prefer curvy or full figure. Something kicks into a higher gear with curvy. I think it might be built into our DNA. Back in the cave man days curvy must have meant healthy, which translated to survival of offspring,therefore try to get a curvy one in order to ensure the continuation of your species. | |
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