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Posted: 3/12/2007 6:49:54 PM | Artsy very well put. I take care of people with special needs 40+ hours a week and I don't know that I'd have it in me to date someone with special needs either. As a single mom of three doing what I do for a living the last thing I want to do when I come home is to continue taking care of someone. If I had already developed a relationship with the right person and something happened to them I definately wouldn't end the relationship on that basis though.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone has a different idea of what is beautiful to them. The obvious response here is to leave your mind open to possibilities instead of sticking to what you know and maybe you will find beauty in a spot you thought you never would. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 6:56:37 PM | | I've never dated or met someone just because they looked nice to me. What good would that be? I look for someone that catches my interest by the person they are on the inside. We all have a list of criteria when we are looking for someone and I would doubt it is based only on physical appearance. I may have certain preferences when it comes to physical appearance for specific reasons though and I will not get into that on this forum. For example, if I get the feeling from what I've read or by chatting that someone focusses on impressing people, their status in life, by what they own or on external stuff that does not impress me at all. As a matter of fact it can be a turn off for me. I look at what is important to them to mention as way of who they are and their interest. Maybe I am naive, but I would find that more the norm than someone just looking for the physical appearance if they are looking for long term that is. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 3:01:22 AM | I think this is what many are focusing on. The minute you say something needs to attract someone and it is a visual aspect, then they are assuming that it is based on looks (a person wishing to have the "Ken's" and "Barbie's"when that may not be the case at all.). And the only part they focus on.
Take my comment about hands. One can be an artist working with his hands, I can find beauty in that and be very attracted to that, again, though it is visual, it is not about looks . But it will be something deeper that will need to develop to maintain itself after that intial attraction.
Art for example, Van Goh to many was a brilliant painter and love his work, I agree he is brilliant but his paintings do not appeal to me and I would not even consider owning a reprint! Brilliant is not the only thing I seek. But Claude Monet? Now I adore many of his paintings and would, without a doubt, get it in a heartbeat. But some of my friends do not think Monet is the artist they would choose, it does not "appeal" to them. It is all about perception.
I will go back to the "bar scene" or any other public venue, when you enter your eyes go to what appeals to you first. It is only human nature, and what I find appeals to me may not appeal to you. I may think someone has a wonderful smile that can draw me, yet you might think it is more of a leer (it is all about perception). In this case you feel a "spark first" then proceed to the more deeper workings of a person. Spark can be lost there as well, physical is not the only criteria.
I think there is some truth to that, for if there wasn't, then why are many of us still single here? We meet nice people every day. Why do we exclude them? Why do they become a "friend" only if they fit every bill you have? I have heard many say what a very nice person, considerate, well mannered, but no "spark". So what was that spark that you need? I say it too. I have heard many, friends in real life who are on singles sites also, say that they do not meet someone without getting to know them first, picture not needed. So, the person you meet, after all that time of talks, email, phone calls you meet. If they were witty, clever, bright enough to the point where they captured your attention prior to meeting, what changed at the meeting? Especially when one says they were still clever, witty, and bright? Because there was no "spark", that intial attrraction was not there. Regardless of how many times we say it is not about looks, then why are we disappointed over the meet? Because in the end, there still has to be an attraction, and heaven forbid we are honest and admit that, because then we are assumed to automatically be shallow. It is not about one's perception of the "perfect" person, but about what appeals to a person to make them want to take the next step. To make that spark!
I see beauty on a daily basis with a special needs son I have 24/7, it comes in the most unsual places and times. Granted days I wanted to ebay him, but out of it constantly comes something of joy. But as a caregiver 24/7 I don't know I could do that as well. So I agree with the one poster a bit in reference to one disabled, but then again there are many disabilities (not all) are of the phsyical nature, one we can visually see. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 5:35:24 AM | Put a decent profile up with no picture and it will get few looks and no messages. Put the same profile up with the picture of a male or female model and you will have them on 250 favorites in a few days...
People are afraid to say they are attracted to good looking people...both men AND women. They do not want to appear shallow....but the fact is everyone finds certain types more attractive than others....just a plain fact.
Good relationships are built on two people that find one another attractive...and then on top of that have all the other pieces fall into place too.... | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 10:43:32 AM | | People that live and have worth while lives. People who make the best of it no matter what. That impresses me. I can't think of anything else to say. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 4:42:05 PM | OK...to answer this without a wise crack....Lol
I am not easily impressionable because it takes me quite awhile to trust people...however if I do trust you then I can be impressed. I would be lying if I said that physical beauty didn't hold weight but what I think is beautiful may not be beautiful to the someone else. The next thing that impresses me would be the way the person carries themself ( secure, confident, compassionate, kind, humble, giving, optimistic and goal oriented). A person's intelligence doesn't necessarily impress me but their wisdom does. Integrity also goes far as well as someone that can just shoot from the hip with what they are thinking not worrying about impressing someone yet being wise in their words not to purposefully hurt someone with their words.
My pet peeves are negativism, gossip, brown nosers, arrogance, neediness and show boating. What I mean by show boating is that person that seems to always have one better than the next person.
Also, in life, I have found that physical appearance has no bearing on what is inside the heart. The most beautiful people can still have the most beautiful hearts and so can the Ogre's of the world.
As far as POF and profiles....
I would say 3 quality pictures....One head shot, one full body shot and one candid action shot
A catchy headline.
A profile paragraph that describes you, your hobbies and a glimpse of your life. Something with humor but also sincerity. Something that paints the picture of that you are intriguing, optimistic, talented and creative.
I frown at the cliche phrases and those profiles that spell out everything they hate as though they live in a box. It reads like the guy they are looking for has to fill out an application, submit a resume and then go to a job interview with Donald Trump just to see if he meets her criteria for a date. Lol...thats crazy....It spells that she is high maintenance, needy, controlling, insecure, unhappy, has no contentment, lacks forgiveness and someone that will never trust anyone. And if you think that saying the line at the end that you are picky gets you off the hook think again. It is ok to be picky to some degree as far as the basics but some go way overboard. If I am wrong with those women that do this then ask yourself how successful you have been in your search and with dating men.
Lastly, I love reading the forums and get impressed with the wisdom, creativity and humor of others. Also we all write stupid sh*t from time to time....What impresses me is how some people can redeem themselves from that stupidity verses feeding into it deeper and deeper just making themselves sound even more foolish. It takes alot of character for someone to admit publicly they said something stupid. But it is the beginning of being wise | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 5:09:26 PM | | LOL the negative profile sounds like me but instead of listing what I dont like I listed what I don't want. Kind of harsh maybe but to the point and it weeds out a lot of the losers right away. I have still managed to find some really nice people to talk to, just not the "ONE" I'm looking for yet. Question though - in our own way don't we all live in our own little box? | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 5:56:14 PM | lol Jena...I got lambasted for having a negative profile and a negative attitude. Though I am hardly what anyone would call negative, my profile did only list the don'ts, as well, and it is very effective.The people I am interested in are not thwarted by my approach in my profile. They understand it's simplicity and effectiveness. I wasted a LOT of time with people I wouldn't be interested in when I used a similar criteria for my profile like black knight just described. Unfortunately, all I got were the "hollywood" types. You know the kind that key in on fashion, and elegance, and flashy show, and quite honestly...my profile looked like everyone elses by using a "guideline". I hated that. I am unique and I am different, and I won't "sell" myself using a profile guideline. My approach is different, and people don't have to like it. We all have our way of doing things. Some people are followers, others are leaders.
People are going to decide if they wanna get to know me, first on what I look like, then if thats good enough they might hear what I have to say. I don't want to get to know people like that, so I have a picture of my face. thats it. it will have to do.
I am not impressed with "cookie cutter" profiles, or anyone that follows a guideline "to a better profile". That may work for a salesman, but ya know, I am a lousy salesman. I think no matter how good or how bad a profile is, it should be original and it should be the way THEY want it to be, not the way anyone else thinks it should be.
I am impressed with originality, and speaking from the heart. I am impressed with honesty and I despise "buttering it up" or "flowering it up to save my feelings". That's all BS to me. I don't need anyone to embellish for me, and I won't embellish for anyone else. It's not very attractive, and it's not very tasty, and it doesn't have a lot of color, but I prefer a dead aim and a straight shot, to any other approach.
Most people respect the fact they don't have to wear hipboots around me, or save their expensive jewelry because "it's getting deep" around me and a lot of people get a kick out of my "matter of fact" statements and candor that get them laughing. I'm just me and I like me the way I am....
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Posted: 3/13/2007 6:15:13 PM | | HAHAHA hipboots don't really suit my style either. Cookie cutter I am not and hope never to be. Seems to turn some people off but I like me even with all my imperfections and quirks and I really have no desire to be anyone else. I will not make excuses for the way I am nor do I think I should have to apologize for being myself. The person I am looking for will understand that and respect me for it. Everyone else can take a long walk off of a short pier with my blessings. Harsh but true. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 6:26:58 PM | Good topic iRocket!
Since being on-line I have lowered my expectations.
I am NOT impressed with the percentage of profiles that I read that are full of misspellings, poor grammar, and the same ole yadda yadda. How can someone just put down 2 or 3 interests? And why is at least one of them always fishing or motorcycles?
I AM impressed with the profiles that give me an idea of their personality. I find humor especially charming.
Honesty and integrity - wow - I think that it is very hard to tell from a one page profile if someone possesses these qualities. So I look for someone that at least made a good effort and appears sincere.
Pictures don't mean a thing to me.
I WILL read a profile with or without a picture.
Sounds pretty shallow to me that some people don't.
But I guess it depends on what they are looking for.
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Posted: 3/13/2007 8:26:42 PM | A picture is worth a thousand words! It wasn't some IDIOT who wrote that! Has anyone here had art appreciation? We can just as well critique a photo as we can a painting by any famous artist. Perhaps its just beyond the intelligence of some to do that. Noone has to look at a picture and just say..."Hey, I like her", however I am quite sure from the responses I have received that many do just that. WHY do you like that picture? What do her eyes tell you? The wrinkles or lack of...whats that say? Theres a lot more in a picture than just a glimpse, however, I agree, we shouldn't base our decisions on JUST a picture. Some people take time to write their profiles and portray in words, who they really are....and just an FYI, you don't have to "paint" a pretty picture if its already pretty! But that brings us again to the subjectivity of ones view on "pretty". We humans are visual creatures. Any intelligence at all would tell us that we ALL have issues (downfalls), whether we say we do or not....come on folks, thats a given. I think the question to be answered in a relationship is: can you as the partner live with those issues?
Back to the original question.....what impresses ME in a profile. I look at the picture and critique it. If the guy has long greasy hair....I'm not even going to take the time to read the profile. He may have a terrific profile...perfect grammar, perfect spelling, exhibit intelligence, but I can't STAND long greasy hair.......just a personal pet peeve, but yet something I can't live with.....shallow.....YES, but it is my preference. You don't have to be incredibly handsome for me to look at your profile.....most of the men I have dated are of average looks. I am very much into a man who is well groomed and takes personal hygiene seriously. I desire intelligence and this too, as iRocket mentioned, is subjective. I DO want a profile and email that jumps out at me. What jumps out at me is the way a man describes himself and the partner he is looking for. Intelligence stands out above all others....a sense of humor similar to my own is an added bonus. Unfortunately, we cannot tell for sure either by critiquing a picture or reading a profile whether one is being honest or not, but I would think it would be desirable to all to have a mate who is honest at any cost. If a man says he opens doors and pulls out the chair.........this catches my eye. I looked for the WHOLE PACKAGE.....not just little pieces of it. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 3:31:58 AM | Exactly Nowiamme, that is what it all comes down to, personal preference, what we find appealing to even take that next step. Be it the picture, the words or combination of both. It makes no one right in how they do this just as much as it does not make a person wrong in how they do this.
Certainly we cannot tell if in a profile those are things we seek, however it gives a "snapshot" to go the next step is deciding to contact (this applies to pictures and the written word)
And there is no guarantee claim at the bottom of any profile that what they write is honest, sincere or any of those things. It is perception and we go from there.
Then again, how many of us are divorced and were married for years only to find out that our spouses were not what we thought they were to begin with? After all, we divorced them (or they divorced us) for some reason :) That they were not honest, did not have integrity, etc. Whatever the case may be, we all have a idea of what we seek, and know what it is that appeals to each of us individually to go to the next level.
So, happy fishing all, we all use various baits on our hooks to catch the type of fish we want! | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 7:03:12 AM | I have to agree with sweetgirl. Her first line:I am not here to either impress or be impressed. I am what I am and it is what it is.
Seriously, this whole online thing is about physical attraction, so you could scribe an ingenious bit of prose professing your longing to a woman you desire, but if you look like a muppet she could care less. Furthermore your profile could reveal something cool, but she won't care if you're not or Brad or George or Johnny. Am I right? If I'm not who gives a damn! hahaha | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 11:54:46 AM | Nowiamme....on some occasions you are right a pic can be worth a thousand words. But you women have an advantage. You have scads and scads of make up to use. You can dye your hair, have stuff to erase wrinkles, cover age spots, make over blemishes, etc.
Meanwhile us men have to rely on what you see is what you get.
Getting to the thread at hand, what impresses me the most about a women is her mind. Yes her mind. Aside from the long hair, nice legs, perky little nose, etc. If a woman can talk intelligently , and can talk about a variety of subjects, and in general communicate. A woman that not only can talk but listen. Everyone can hear, but listen.
The pic I have on here is definately not the best, it was taken after a long ride. And nowimme, there is nothing wrong with having your own personal standards, at least my hair is not long and greasy,  | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 11:57:21 AM | Lynng_61.....
This may have nothing to do with the thread, but just wanted to complement you. If that is your true age, you carry it well. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 4:18:56 PM | @ nowiamme
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"We humans are visual creatures"
Humans are thinking and feeling beings.
We have brains, emotions, and extraordinary powers of thought and reasoning.
I have seen the phrase you used so often in others' posts here that it is just a cliche that some are accepting as fact. Some, perhaps, are "visual creatures", but I know that the people that I find attractive are much more than this.
I stand by my opinion that anyone who makes their decision on just a photo is shallow.
People are complex - attractiveness is the WHOLE package.
At Christmas - do you just peek at your present and decide whether or not to keep it?
Or do you open the whole package and take a good look at the whole present, maybe you even try it out before you decide whether or not it's a keeper. Seems to me that a person deserves at least as much consideration.
But - that's just me!
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Posted: 3/16/2007 4:52:38 PM | I couldn't have said it better myself, star. You see all the time people are trying to justify "seeing" the person, be it a picture or in person and the honest truth is, people are using the physical attractiveness as the "deciding factor" before they take the chance of finding out what someone is like.
It takes one hell of a person to step above physical appearances, and I accept the fact that the majority of the world's population is visual, however, nature is not a democracy, and just because the majority of people are visual, doesnt mean that is the limit of our capabilities. WE have the ability to evolve to rise above, to step up to the plate and take the challenge of growth beyond the sum of all our parts.
I am not saying people are "completely" shallow because they can't understand that love has nothing to do with looks/physical attraction (otherwise blind people would be sh!t out of luck in this world), I'm just saying that people who use the physical attraction as their deciding factor to even get to know a person, is.
I have a number of married friends and some of the females I have learned a great deal from, including the ones that have told me "I didn't think he was a good looking or attractive guy at all before I marred him, and then one day, after getting to know who he is and what he was about, he suddenly WAS attractive physically". This was a concept I admit I had a HARD time coming to grips with as it was more than 15 years ago and I was still young and naive and had out of control hormones. It eventually made sense to me, however.
I am a happy person and I like who I am and enjoyed my life experiences thus far. I also know I will probably be single the rest of my life ever since the "day of the revelation" and looks stopped being important to me. That was the day my dating "potentials" was reduced to less than 5% of the general population.
I'm not holding my breath for someone from POF to like my picture or be impressed with my profile, but one day, someone will come into my life and discover they dont have to fall in love with me, all the y need do is accept the love I offer as a gift. To me it is a gift, not "at first sight". Love is something you have for someone that is even more than a friend. How can anyone be more than a friend at first sight?
Ok...I have enjoyed my travels way way off topic, and I enjoyed the scenery along the way...(I wish there was an E-ticket for this ride) :D | |
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Posted: 3/16/2007 5:10:33 PM | What impresses me are the profiles,the way men and women
share on what they are looking for in a relationship.
Some truly believe in love at first sight,only because they were the
lucky ones who met them at the right time.
As for me,it has not happened,only because I have not felt that
special feeling that two people feel when they first meet.
I prefer to take it slow,one day at a time,getting to know
him as we spend time together, exploring what we like to
do,sharing our hopes and dreams for the future.
Life is an adventure I look forward to sharing
when the right man comes along. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2007 7:21:30 PM | I will tell what does NOT impress me and that is NEGATIVITY !!!!
Men that are BITTER also does NOT impress me.
If you are that fed up with all the people on here then go somewhere else. Women are very perceptive and we can pick up on it real quick.
If you got burned a few times and this dating thing is getting you down then just take time away for a while and hang out with your dog.....( man's best friend )  | |
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Posted: 3/16/2007 7:58:48 PM | | It's not just men that get fed up, women do too. I felt that way in January. It seemd like all at once I was getting bombarded with come-on emails that were all saying the same thing with practically the same wording. Sheeesh! It's calmed down a lot now. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 3:57:09 AM | iRocket, 2 questions for you:
1 - You wrote:
I also know I will probably be single the rest of my life ever since the "day of the revelation" and looks stopped being important to me. That was the day my dating "potentials" was reduced to less than 5% of the general population. I am assuming that your "day of the revelation" was the day you finally UNDERSTOOD what your friends' wives meant when they explained "I didn't think he was a good looking or attractive guy at all before I marred him, and then one day, after getting to know who he is and what he was about, he suddenly WAS attractive physically". What I don't understand is why that revelation would reduce your "dating potentials" to less than 5% of the population. Seems to me it would increase your dating potentials since you would no longer be limited to women whom you find visually attractive. What am I missing here?
Is it possible that the 5% to which you refer is the 5% of women whom you perceive as not trying to "sell" themselves to you? What if the 95% don't perceive themselves as trying to "sell" anything? What if the 95% wrote profiles in ways that they thought exhibited their own "uniqueness"?
Or, is the 5% the group of women you'd expect to hold your same value of disregarding looks in their search? Do you require the same value in your potential mate?
2 - Your profile says something about age not being a limiting factor for you. (I forget how you have it worded.) I only ask you about this this since I was going to email you a while back but your mail preferences for age limits wouldn't allow me. (I'm 52.) ???
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I have reworked my own profile text here a few times. I took my ad off the site for a while and came back with a new one, but used a similar name and some same pics since I wanted forum friends to recognize me. I've used other dating sites in the past. I think no text that I've ever composed has ever been completely successful in communicating "me". I think we do the best we can, depending on the mindset we're in while composing, depending on things we may be trying to correct over a previous attempt, and myriad of other factors. Some of us are better writers than others. Some of us enjoy writing more than others. Is any of us really all that unique? Here we all are, right? And I daresay we ALL are trying to "impress" somebody in some way, or at least make an impression upon someone to encourage a correspondence. Otherwise, why would we make a profile at all? Even if we are only trying to "impress" others of our own "uniqueness," I believe that's what we are ALL about here. When I get tired of being ignored, or attracting the wrong kinds of messages, or when I get some new fun idea and want to play, I'll probably be changing my text and pictures in the future again. It will still be the same old me, for better or worse, and others will perceive what they will from my presentation, be it what I intended or not.
CMJAnew (msg 10) says it most succinctly:
These ARE ads after all
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Posted: 3/17/2007 11:06:30 AM | What did I miss? is someone being bitter and fed up? or was that just a generalization?
Martha ~
I am assuming that your "day of the revelation" was the day you finally UNDERSTOOD what your friends' wives meant... That would be correct :)
Or, is the 5% the group of women you'd expect to hold your same value of disregarding looks in their search? Do you require the same value in your potential mate? That would also be correct:)
And just to explain a bit deeper on that, I am less interested in what' we have in common" than I am in what values, morals and philosophies we have in common. When we were young we used to see how many things we had in common before we considered a potential partner, and we compared favorite music, favorite books, favorite movies, favorite sports, etc. These are things that I don't need to have in common with anyone. I have a widely vast number of interests and very few favorites. I am happy to explore my partner's interests and maybe even discover some new ones between us as well.
I guess to describe my whole approach to the profile, I am not into selling myself with all kinds of cool things I think others would like to see or flashy "catch phrases" or "attention getters". My idea was just a couple things I am interested or involved in, and a whole bunch of deterrents because honestly, I don't want to spend all my time sifting through messages from people I'm not going to be interested in.
People say my profile is negative, but that just tells me they are missing what is being said.
1. Not a player, and I don't need one ~ not really negative, just matter of fact and a great deterrent.
2. I dont do first impressions ~ basically I suck at them and most people do and I have some really great friends that made bad first impressions with me. so that is more matter of fact also.
3. I don't kiss ass. ~ Depending on who you are, that could be a positive or a negative lol
4. Don't walk in front of me, or behind me. ~ this is not a negative, it's simply saying, I believe we are all equal and I want a woman that is willing to walk side by side in the relationship.
5. I don't do bars, or night clubs ~ this one...well...says it all lol, if that is negative to anyone, they can go away.
6. If you can't be honest with yourself first, don't try convincing me of anything. ~ ya, some people may find this negative, and if they do, they can go away too, because they will just be wasting their time and mine. It goes along with not BSing me.
This is getting rather long, but the people I am interested in will see there is a positive that goes with just about everything that some might find negative (in my profile), and people tend to focus on the negative and skip the rest. Again, those type of people I am certainly glad keep looking elsewhere. They are missing the whole point of my profile. As for the age range I posted, it was because didn't want to come across as desperate and they dont have an option for "age not important". I suppose if people think that is needy or desperate, there is nothing I can do about that and they can move on as well  However, Martha, you can most certainly message me on my blog and I would be more than happy. Lets see if I can avoid the spam filters and avoid people collecting addresses for spamming me. I use Windows Live Messenger which requires a hotmail account. I have one son who at the time was 20. I bet you can put it all together.
And anyone else that puts it all together and would like to message me, I would certainly be glad to chat with you :D (yes male or female) | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 8:22:17 PM | ^^^iRocket:
What did I miss? is someone being bitter and fed up? or was that just a generalization? Generalization. If I was bitter and fed up I wouldn't be here.
I guess to describe my whole approach to the profile, I am not into selling myself with all kinds of cool things I think others would like to see or flashy "catch phrases" or "attention getters". My idea was just a couple things I am interested or involved in,... Have you considered that others might see the interests that they list--I, for one--not as cool sales-pitch tools, but, rather, as a positive way of inviting others with similar interests to respond? Some profiles I've visited use language in such a clever way that I send a message to simply compliment the writer's creativity. I see this as a talent being demonstrated, not a come-on. I often send friendly messages to those in whom I have no aspiration of ever meeting. I like to give credit where credit is due for the sheer pleasure of giving a fellow human being a compliment.
...and a whole bunch of deterrents because honestly, I don't want to spend all my time sifting through messages from people I'm not going to be interested in. I don't know why one would need to specify, for example, "I don't kiss ass." Seems like that would be the default attitude for most of us. To state the obvious in this way is where your profile comes across as unnecessarily negative. Sorry, but this particular item comes across as you having a big chip on your shoulder. Yeah, I know you have the rationale that you don't want to bother with those who don't understand what you're trying to say anyway...
As for the age range I posted, it was because didn't want to come across as desperate and they dont have an option for "age not important". I suppose if people think that is needy or desperate, there is nothing I can do about that and they can move on as well. Desperate? How so? I don't specify an age range but I don't feel like that indicates "desperation" on my part. It just allows anybody of any age to communicate with me. You should note that the mail settings edit feature does indeed allow you to omit age specification. Click the "edit" at the bottom of your profile in that section and you'll see that it can be changed there. I'm not saying you want to do this, and certainly not for me in particular, but your text does make a reference... I know you like things your own way, iRocket. That's abundantly clear - perhaps the most abundantly clear feature in your profile! As for IM's - I am not a multitasker. I am slow and distractible. IM's rattle my focus and get on my d*mned nerves when I'm reading or writing something else. Guess that disability in me may cost me a quick greeting from Prince Charming himself. Better that than me having to tell him to go away, don't bother me, I'm busy, huh? Happy St. Paddy's Day!   | |
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