| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 2/10/2008 12:05:43 PM | The MOST I hoped for on my previous first dates is that the gentleman was 'OK' looking and easy on the eyes.....I gave several 'I dunno....'s' at least a chance....
Some people photograph better than others....I have been pleasantly and UNpleasantly surprised......
Men AND women need to give each other a break.....one may feel that the other is 'so-so' on looks by their pic, but when you get to meet and start talking......WOW! They can start looking better REAL quick!  | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 2/12/2008 8:38:49 AM | | It's called the whole package......thats what so many need to realize! Whats wrong with looking for someone who rocks your world physically, intellectually and emotionally? | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 2/12/2008 10:32:38 PM | ok here goes
krad242003,first of all id love to contact ya but your mail setting says i cant because im not close to you omg,hows a guy suppose to meet ya if cant even talk to ya,and maybe plan a trip or something to meet ya ,anyways thats all i had to say see ya don
also lol im type that looks with in first as you seek,anmd the outer parts are mearely a rose awaiting its pettals to blossam following the connection of two! | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 2/13/2008 9:33:40 PM |
It's called the whole package......thats what so many need to realize! Whats wrong with looking for someone who rocks your world physically, intellectually and emotionally?
I second this...
I don't only look for looks but the whole package... I seem to find bits and pieces here and there but the whole package seems to be outside my reach... Can't even try taking more then one woman at the same time for the same effect... Doesn't work... Ive tried and I am a one woman man so it just didn't work out.. (Some of that of course I am kidding with.. Except the one woman man... Just have to find that one woman yet...)
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/1/2008 7:34:02 AM | | sunflower, thank you for saying that. I couldn't agree with anyone more. After several failed relationship, some being my fault for trying to "make" it work, I have become very picky. Now, I do look for this "whole package" some have spoken about. To me, someone that is very attractive but talks like reading a Dr. Seuss book, will not interest me. Everything HAS to be there. I want my next real relationship to be my last. This is really a worn-out topic that I feel men have been accused of for what......decades? I have several views on my profile. They certainly are not all my type, and I am not saying that I am theirs either. But, THEY are being picky too. I posted a picture, they see the picture and they look. Now, who is more guilty of what? | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/1/2008 7:53:41 AM | the funny part about it is...men look at the pics...half of which don't even resemble the woman...he gets interested in the woman the pic represents, and maybe overlooks a few not quite up to his standards...lol...so he meets the false one, the others move on...did it ever occur to anyone that some people are not very photogenic?...the moral of the story, make sure the cover is on the correct book before you decide to read it | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/1/2008 8:13:43 AM |
someone that is very attractive but talks like reading a Dr. Seuss book, will not interest me
That ^^^^ is pretty funny!!! 
Kat,,,,,my dear,,,,couldnt agree with you more especially with some people not being very photogenic. Yanno,,the very first POF party i went to in Flint i had people come up to me and say , 'Hey you must be ripley! I recognize the glasses!'. LOL
Remember that dressy event i went to last fall (i wrote about it in here somewhere). I thought i looked pretty ok,,till i seen the pictures!! YUCK!! hahaha
Yup,,,,,pictures i think are just a resemblance of what we look like, i think. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:10:25 AM | | I look at it this way. Would you go out of your way to walk up to someone in a bar or store or anywhere for that matter and start a conversation if you didn't at first find them attractive. Most people wouldn't regardless if they lie here or not. physical attraction is important and thats almost always the first step. Everything else matters but you have to realize that if their not attracted there prob not interested and thats not an insult or demeaning in anyway its reality and maybe its unfortunate that alot of nice people go un-noticed because their looks but until our society shows another first step thats the way it is. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:51:36 PM | | I must say I do go for looks first. Because if I am not happy with their apearance no matter how mutch of every thing else they bring to the table. I would still be looking for something more. If I'm not attracted to your looks than it's not fair to you or me to try to have a relationship. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:16:07 PM | | or they want money...borrow it or better yet send them your own personal information...credit card number and of couse they promise to send it back even take some out for you to help[and by the way that is my credit card and my money my own money]and they get mad b'cuz you won't help them since they are out of the city and the big payoff...THEY TELL YOU THEY ARE A DOCTOR AND MAKE A LOT OF MONEY...go figure | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/19/2008 7:41:10 AM | | OP: perhaps the problem lies not with men in general, but with the men you attract. Maybe you should really pay more attention to what it is that draws these men that you don't like to you, and endevor to change yourself, rather than complain about the aspects of your situation that you have no control over | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/19/2008 3:46:26 PM | I believe looks are important, as part of the whole package, but I believe the mistake some people make is that they expect to judge looks by a glance. If the person isn't drop dead gorgeous, they don't get a second glance.
What I have learned is that all facets are subjective. When someone is a little 'less' in one area, often it is more than made up for in another.
When in my 30s, I dated a fellow that, if you saw him on the street, you'd think he was a little old man. He was kinda short, stooped, graying, thinning hair, thick glasses. Normally I wouldn't have given this man a second look. But once I started talking to him, I realized he was brilliant and had a great sense of humor. As we spoke, I realized he also had the most amazing liquidy-brown eyes and deep, sonorous voice. We dated over a year and I still consider him to be one of the most sexy men I have ever dated. Maybe not the most physically attractive, but oh yes, sexy!
Face it, if someone glances at you and in that split second decides that you don't measure up, thank god cause you just dodged a bullet! While I love the idea of 'love at first sight', the reality is that deep, meaningful, lasting relationships develop over time. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/19/2008 8:46:24 PM | | men and women are both guilty of this..would i walk up to a unattractive women...yup!!i would watch how she carries herself and body movements..i just think judging someone on only their looks is very very superficial..you dont fall in love with someone beacuse they look good...you fall in love with how they are as a person | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 4/12/2008 7:56:37 AM | On the flip side of the coin, there are the women who are looking for the wealth of Bill Gates, the looks of Tom Cruise, the sexual powers of a porn star, and the heart of Mother Theressa.
Yet, what most of them bring to the table is snobbery (is that a word?), a bagage of emotional turmoil (cause men suck in general), possibly a secret F**k buddy, and to spice things up a bit a few kids who can tell you that "you should shut the hell up, because you are not my father."
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This post hit the nail right on top of the head. Most men only require the basics of life. Being sex, food,sex,sleep,sex. The sooner women realize and accept this "FACT" about men, the more successful in a relationship they will be. Also, don't expect more from a man than you can give yourself. None of us are perfect, we only think we are better. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 4/12/2008 4:19:23 PM | ????????????? Careful there with that word "MOST" because I don't know any women like the ones you are describing personally! I don't require wealth, however I do require someone who isnt going to make heads turn...the other way. I don't need a man with sex powers of a porn star but it'd be nice to have someone who can raise the flag so to speak and as for the heart of Mother Teresa...hell, I'd settle for a man with a heart period. Do you know how insulting it is for me to hear my boys referred to as excess baggage by men, because nine out of ten times that will happen, even though it is there in black and white on my profile.
BTW...Colt...I want a man who has more desires in life than sex, food and sleep. That would make for a successful relationship for me.
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 4/12/2008 10:38:44 PM | Wow thats too bad Robin, I would never see kids as baggage. A stalking ex who stops by all the time might be or the people in your head, or the fact you are a wanted felon... Those sorts of things might be considered baggage but never the fact you have a kid or kids...
Now if you used the fact of having kids as an excuse why you couldn't do things then it might be different. There is a difference between having kids and being a parent and having kids and using them as excuses to get out of things. Of course I would hope my kids wouldn't be seen as baggage either. Their mom tends to cause some grief from time but there are numerous reasons why I never married her and eventually broke off with her.
Don't want a porn star because it would be hard to keep someone like that satisfied I am guessing...
Personally, I want to find that special one that turns my head, I know will be true to me and someone that lights up my face every time I see her. Someone that makes me glad I am alive.
Hmm, there is more to life then food sex and sleep? Oh yea, you forgot football... ;)
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 4/13/2008 9:16:47 AM | LOL Rodney....football? No way, but if you'd have said baseball I might of agreed with you
Colt forgot to add communication, honesty, and willing to have fun. To me that is the total pkg I am looking for.
And no, my sons have never been an issue in dating or going out, I have a life beyond them, I can fit motherhood, working lady and single lady looking for the right guy all into my life. I think some (note that word Colt...lol) guys see the idea of a woman with younger kids as just a burden. I've talked to men only to hear how they are retired or almost retired and don't want to have to worry about raising someone else's kids, or able to take off for Florida in a day's notice. NEWS FLASH...it's on my profile, read it, see it? Don't contact me if kids are going to be a problem in the first place. I also have a job, I am glad you are going to retire or are retired but even without kids I cant up and leave my job to go on a trip spur of the moment...it's called supporting myself. I was in the early stages of a great relationship....so I thought, only to have him finally say he was having a problem thinking about those things I just mentioned above...well why in the world did he take it so far then? Grrrr, men...and for you guys...Grrrr, women!
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 4/13/2008 4:15:08 PM | | You can say the same for both sexes. Honestly. We're programmed to look at the body first, then the mind. Its in our commercials, entertainment, etc. Its a culture thing to look at the physical, but damn yourself afterwards because you've sinned. Lets be realistic. Will Rosie O'donnel model for victoria secret ? Will Danny Davito be the next fruit of the loom model instead of Mr. Micheal Jordan ? I think not..... | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:01:42 AM | | Honestly yes men and women are both guilty of this. For the most part I do think women are more forgiving when it comes to looks. We can look past ok he's a bit overweight but he treats me well. It is usually men who want the Barbie doll, type and when they get it they figure for the most part she's a little empty upstairs. Not all but MOST are. If you are that much into your looks when can you possibly have time to put some in your brain worth talking about? | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 4/29/2008 11:13:37 AM | People just out for looks seem to be looking more for a trophy than someone to be satisfied and happy with.
I've dated some hot and some not, I rather have my emotional and mental equal for a relationship of substance. If only we could look outside like we live inside, heart and soul. Posturing with something pretty or hunky on your arm to make yourself look good was high school stuff, haven't we at a certain age grown past that? We're all brilliant in our own way, sometimes you have to look past the wrapping to find a true gift. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:14:52 PM | i never go for their looks. sure, a hot man is nice to look at, but so is everyone else looking!!! plus, i want to look better than them! i want to be the purdy one!!!!
"you're so vain, you probably think this post is about you..."
SING IT!!!
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