| Impotence
Posted: 12/9/2007 8:53:33 AM | At this time of life, (beyond 50 for me), there are over 1,000 things more important in life and in a relationship. Of course that is just my opinion.
WHAT? If I want to sit and talk I have best friend and she understands my love shoes and why I have over 100 pair better than any man. USE IT OR LOSE IT. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 9:04:24 AM |  It would be real 'safe' relationship. OR so you think. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 9:09:59 AM | | Hi , I'm new on the forums, but find ED to be a problem as well with men over fourty, which is why I generally date men under fourty. However, being a naturopath, I can say that one of the more promising treatments is an herbal treatment (actually it is a tuber) called Maca. It is an adaptogen, so that MEN or WOMEN can use it. It will adapt to your body's needs, and cause your body to produce what it needs whether it is testosterone, progesterone, estrogene, etc. I've seen it work for men, and I have used it myself because of going through menopause. It has reversed my symptoms, and started reversing the menopause as well. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 2:11:30 PM | | So that is it sex or Cuddling??? GAWD SAVE US. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 2:53:02 PM | Sweetpie41: I see you with a smile on your face next to a soldier at attention....  | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 7:43:44 PM | Oh wow!!!
That was BRUTAL!!!!
Shall we focus on the fact that impotence has a dual meaning, and it also means "not potent", as in the little polliwogs can't swim upstream and fertilize the eggs? Men who CAN sustain erections can be impotent. Men with ED can be potent. They can't do much with it, but they can be. Men with ED still have orgasms.
After all, "erectile" is right there in the name of the condition....... | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 8:08:02 PM |
when you fall in love with someone, they become beautiful to you.
My thoughts exactly
Like it or not, we age. And unless we learn to love each other in spite of our aging and learn to love ourselves and others even if they are aging, we won't be able to find love
Thank you, friendlyldy, for putting this into words for us. You said it beautifully! | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 8:15:24 PM | | Angel, trust me.............just because a woman is willing to love a man who is impotent doesn't mean that she is trying to avoid a closeness.............it was very hard to adjust to it but, on the other hand, he was a wonderful man and worth it! I would have preferred it to be different but part of love is loving someone even when things aren't perfect or we start aging or having problems like that........... And I think a big thing that helped me to adjust was that he wasn't in denial that it was his problem and he appreciated that I loved him in spite of that........... | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 12:19:48 PM |
This guy feels that the Creator had a rather twisted sense of humor, in that men's sexual peak and women's occur at quite different stages of life. Women seem to really want to roll when most of them are past being attractive. You think you are uninspired try imaging your prince charming 70 pounds over weight, with breast bigger then yours; plus they hang a lot lower. And a belly that makes Santa envious. Hair sprouting out of every place but his head including those man breast. And the first he wants to say is you getting old I should trade you in for two 20's. The really good thing is I am a MIF. And my son is 22 So I get a lot of rock hard little boys ready to poke me in the ear and their daddies too.  Damn it people there are sexy old men out there!!!! I am starting to believe not as many as I thought before. Well I am now on a mission to search the world for one SEXY SINGLE MAN OVER 40. May just start a web site.  | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 12:43:32 PM | Blame women for ED? An interesting notion I never thought of until now.
I always thought it was some combination of physiology and psychology.
I have dealt with both, and the condition is manageable. I am not going to set any records for endurance but I can no longer run a sub-five-minute mile either. If a particular lady would rather have a thirty-year-old than me, she is welcome to do so. I have no problem getting "tuned on" by a lady of my own years but that does not mean I am going to rise to the occasion unless I took my little blue pill two hours earlier. It used to bother me that I had to plan "spontaneous sex" two hours in advance, but so far I have not had a lady object to it.
To the ladies, it is his problem, period. Be understanding and helpful if you wish, that is up to you.
To the lads, it is not the end of the world, just one more item to be managed. See your doctor and do what you have to, to make it work. By all means, develop a sense of humour about it and be very greatful for any lady that will laugh with you. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 1:24:32 PM | Good advice WaywardSeeker. I don't know why some people have to ruin a good thread by blaming others, but I notice the mods have been doing their job in getting rid of them.  I suppose I am to blame as I do respond to some.. Oh well..
I would have no problem waiting 2 hours for a pill to work, think of all the fun you would have in anticipation | |
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Posted: 12/11/2007 3:54:15 AM | Hey:
We all need a bit'o help.
Two ladies I know agree:if a couple's into pleasin'eachother,impotence would diminish,eh? | |
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Posted: 12/11/2007 6:41:12 PM | artyred52,
If you had known more on the subject of impotence you could have kept a great relationship going even with his problem. Going on the internet and reading up on recent treatments, going to the doctors with him, discussing this with a counseler, using certain devices to promote erections, and being more patient with his condition. Yes, Diabetes has a tremendous effect ,but proper adjustment to foods and medicine can help greatly. More than he was not into you, I guess you were just not that into him either.
Carolanne 60  | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 3:47:07 AM | Whatever it takes to make it work, just do it!!!
It takes two to tango! He takes the little blue pill, you hand him the water glass.
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Posted: 12/23/2007 4:59:43 PM | I thought I would put my "two cents" worth here LOL..........
Yes.........sex isn't everything in a relationship, if it's all based on that, it isn't going to last!!! Love and intimacy covers a broad spectrum of things.......not just intercourse!
I think all of us middle aged studs (and I say that while laughing) have experienced ole peewee not working hard enough, whether it be from being tired, drinking too much, being nervous or god forbid it, performance anxiety. Maybe they should have focused on "not" having intercourse and more on kissing, hugging, petting and foreplay and getting to know each other sexually and let it happen naturally. The preliminaries are often much better and more satisfying than just intercourse (not to say that intercourse isn't great) and can in my opinion, be alot more intimate and bring on a sense of closeness between two people.
Divorce can play havoc on getting back into the saddle too! Having been there, I suggest any fella go to both kinds of DR's and get everything out in the open and aired out!  | |
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Posted: 12/23/2007 8:48:35 PM | TO: Chocolatebrowne
My sincere sympathy and empathy goes out to you...I was hit with impotent men three times in a row! These men will at first attempt to make you believe it is your fault or that you aren't doing something to excite them enough. They will even go as far in their sick games to entice you to orally stimulate them. Chocolatebrowne, if Freddie is dead, Freddie is dead and no amount of CPR is going to resuscitate "it".
This is a very cruel of men to play these head games with women. They would fair better in the beginning in revealing their impotency early in the game. An impotent man cannot sustain nor complete a sexual encounter. Impotency can occur in a male in his teens and twenties especially if they use drugs and or alchohol. The end part of the cruel joke is that they will continue to try with different women hoping the next woman might, just might be the one to make it come back to life!
To My Sisters, I say this: If sexual penetration is important to you, then test your man out first. If cuddling and companionship is all you need, then it doesn't matter if he was hit with an explosive device.
Finally, for My Sisters who think that all they need to do is love this man, be kind to this man, think again because he will always be a ticking time bomb! He is so - and will be insanely jealous, and insecure of any male around you! They will even melt your dildo buddy. Just like the old song goes, "Oh, Judy, don't take Your Love to Town! They will drive you to
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Posted: 12/23/2007 9:10:50 PM | | Funny how some women are such lousy lovers that you can't get it up no matter how much you try. Then their are those gals that just LOOK at you and Willy jumps right up. Its called the power of the penis. And there for a reason. God what a bunch of BS. | |
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| Many women need help with their Impotence
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:34:38 PM | I have dated many women who were impotent. The female form of impotence is their vaginas do not get sufficiently wet to facilitate penetration.
Many women need help with their impotence, my former fiance was impotent every time. She needed to use lubricant to help her to achieve penetration.
I know there are a lot of women who post here who have impotent vaginas . | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 10:00:15 PM | | Lane-splitter: OH, that is toooooo funneeee. Must be a Republican. LOL. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 10:15:48 PM | | I think men have more impotence issues than women after age 50. Maybe that is why they are so afraid to enter into a relationship, and they think a 25 or 30 year old woman will solve the problem. NOT, flabby is flabby. For most women sex gets better as we get older. | |
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| Many women need help with their Impotence
Posted: 12/29/2007 7:23:27 AM | jmaxx, keep in mind that many and I say MANY medications, psychological, and physical reasons contribute to the lubrication factor and they are not an indication that the woman is impotent.
The female form of impotence is their vaginas do not get sufficiently wet to facilitate penetration. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 9:13:18 AM |
Maybe they should have focused on "not" having intercourse and more on kissing, hugging, petting and foreplay and getting to know each other sexually and let it happen naturally
This is so true. I went with one guy and when we finally went to make love, he couldn't. Was he impotent? No! There was too much pressure! A few months later, this same guy at 50 was able to do it five times in one night! And it had nothing to do with whether I was turning him on or not.......... In spite of men saying that they want sex right away, they perform better when they feel secure and loved, too.
There are situations though where nothing can help ....... It's not the end of the world. Love is about a lot more then just sex........... | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 7:56:03 PM | | lane splitter, "it would helpful to BONE UP on your sexual knowlege"? You are a riot! | |
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