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Posted: 3/11/2007 3:43:54 PM | It's not just about confidence, but self-esteem is also very important.
How much value do you place on yourself?
It's also important to remain positive and stop listening to all the negative stuff people say about you. From now on, if you hear a woman say "you're ugly." That simply means "I am in love with you and I am desperately trying to rationalize why we can't be together."
Next time a woman insults you, give her a snappy comeback and NEXT her. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2007 3:56:50 PM | of course you have to be passionate about something to interest someone
whether it be cars or working out, your dog ,rockclimbing
be interesting
have fun and you will attract someone in no time
dont be a no body likes me nigel that is a turn off | |
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Posted: 3/11/2007 11:59:53 PM | You need something drastic my man, you need to kick start things. Join the military.
You can not google confidence for goodness sakes. Just that statement alone tells me you are in the dark when it comes to the real world.
Online is not the real world, it is not a world at all. It is simply a communication device, don't get wrapped up in it. Turn off the computer, the tv, and all that other stuff and get outside and do some stuff.
Go to the gym, join a martial arts class, do something. But really reading your posts you need something more than just these things. I would seriously consider joining the military. I have seen humans I would consider barely above an ameba confidence wise come out of the military full of confidence and vigor.
Good luck.
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Posted: 3/12/2007 2:07:42 AM | are you very shy? sometimes that can be a hurdle.
If not just approach people. There are going to be people in this world that are attracted to us and those who are not.
As everyone here has already said, you have to have some confidence in yourself and that is projected to others and it draws people to you.
theres a difference between confident and**** , it can be a fine line sometimes. But judging from your posts etc , you won't have to worry about that!
just keep getting out there, having fun and you never know what can happen!
Cheers! | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 7:25:48 AM | | Yeah I'm shy. As for you saying there are going to be people in this world that are attracted to us and those that are not, I don't actually think there is anyone attracted to me in the real world (offline), I mean that's just how it feels and I've had no evidence of it anyway. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 8:37:12 AM | | well, you are lucky then, cause women that start chatting to me, seem to just stop talking to me, i wish they would be adults and say they ain't interested instead of taking the childish route and just ignore me. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 9:45:18 AM | Wow! I still find it really hard to believe that you seem so low on yourself. You ARE a good looking guy. Well, I guess good looks doesn't always mean you will be confident though does it? Has something happened in your life to make you feel that you are less than you are? It kinda makes me wonder if you were abused mentally or physically or something. If that is the case, the suggestions given here may not help but you might need to see a counsellor. (only if thats the case here, I have no idea)
I was thinking about this earlier, and thought you should think about (and write them down) of all the things that you think ARE admirable about you. List the things you like about yourself. If you think your a good listener, write it down, if you enjoy helping others, write it down, if you are an honest hard worker then write it down...once thats done FOCUS on that list daily, until you begin to see yourself as that kind good person that YOU are. That list will be there to remind you of who you are. You know what your good qualities about yourself would be. You need to start loving yourself for who you are. Accept yourself, begin to think that you ARE worthy of love and ARE special.
Also, that idea about joining the military does sound like a good one, however I know it is not for everyone. But I betcha it does create a lot of confidence in oneself. After their done being hard on you that is. LOL (I imagine it shapes you up pretty quickly) | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 10:17:31 AM | I do like myself Bella, and I think on some photo's I look very good looking.
There's just the fact that offline not one woman has ever acted like she was attracted to me, and all of the feedback that I've got from women on my looks has always been negative. There's also the fact that on some photo's I do look ugly.
Now even unattractive people get hit on at least once in their life, so it just feels like obviously for some reason, no women offline are attracted to me. Like I said, I've had not one single piece of evidence to suggest otherwise. I guess I've just been born different from everyone else or something. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 10:35:29 AM | Dude, it's your attitude that is turning women off. All you need to do is assume that people are attracted to you. By saying that no woman offline has/will ever be attracted to you, means you are already shuting them out. They pick up on that and move on.
If you act like they are in love with you already, then they will be more suseptable to having feelings about you.
I used to think exactly like you, but now that my attitude is changed and I assume most women are attracted to me, I am more successful and a happier human being. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 10:38:15 AM | | I'm very shy myself so I won't be much help! I do think I come across the wrong way though, when talking to someone in person, because of my shyness. So maybe that's what's happening with you as well. You're not ugly though, so whoever said that is just being a prat. Ignore them. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 10:38:21 AM | I never used to feel like this, logically I always used to think a lot of women should fancy me, I'm nice looking. But it never made any difference.
Then again I'm not sure if it was something I actually 'felt', maybe how I really felt deep inside was how I do now. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 10:40:04 AM | 'You're not ugly though, so whoever said that is just being a prat. Ignore them.'
You can't really know that for sure though because there are also photo's where I look really ugly on them. This is what makes things confusing for me on whether I actually am nice looking in real life or not. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 12:30:37 PM | | Confidence is not a mather of a walking, not a mather of speaking, it's a mather of thinking. Start thinking like a confident person, and you will become a confident person. I know where your coming from, i've suffered from lack of confidence myself. Your asking yourself the wrong questions. Your questioning yourself when you meet a woman, you should be questioning the girl itself. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 5:00:15 PM |
You can't really know that for sure though because there are also photo's where I look really ugly on them. This is what makes things confusing for me on whether I actually am nice looking in real life or not.
Most people who don't like themselves much think that too. I have very few photos of myself that I don't think I look ugly in. I've seen one picture of you and I can tell you there is nothing wrong with how you look. Being ugly is more than physical. I've met men who looked attractive then turned out to be horrible people, then suddenly they look ugly too. It really isn't all about looks. Like me, you need to work on your self-esteem. Learn to love yourself and how you look; that'll affect how other people see you.
Some people do seem to get a buzz from putting other people down, so if you can just shrug it off. These people don't matter. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 5:16:26 PM | [Like me, you need to work on your self-esteem. Learn to love yourself and how you look; that'll affect how other people see you.]
Amen to that!! Perfectly said. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 3:18:35 AM | Bro, look at me. I get TONS of numbers and interesting girls to talk to. AND I am not that attractive. It is all in how you carry yourself. CONFIDENCE is everything. But you have to be careful, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. All you really need to do is come to terms with who you are, accept yourself. It may sound corny.... But think Luke Skywalker......Yoda, the swamp? Get the picture?
You need to be comfortable in your own skin, then it all happens. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 3:59:37 AM |
Also I've only seemed to have got negative feedback from women offline, stuff like 'He's ugly', or they'd say they just weren't interested in me. So I'm pretty confused as to how things stand.
Dude... take a look at me... you think I got looks. Take a look around... you think
good looking guys aren't having the same problems. I hate to say this because but
looking people... they have worst problems than you. Think I'm sh*ting you. It's
true. We work harder. We try and figure sh*t out. They don't. We got it better.
LOL strange but true. You think I'm full of it. Look at how many average looking
guys who have great looking women and you wonder why.??
Look at how many really good looking guys have average looking women.
Why?
LOOKS ISN'T WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT!!!
Look inside yourself.... that's where the problem/solutions are. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 7:55:38 AM | | Your no different than any other guy. I think we all struggle with confidence at some times...at work, in relationships...life. What I would suggest is find a good book on the subject....and ultimately...its going to take practice. If you shy, make sure your making eye contact. No one wants to talk to someone looking at their shoes. The more you MAKE yourself meet people the easier it will get. | |
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